Some of you have spouses or significant others and these people sometimes are not very helpful to us, other times they save our hides so it's incredibly difficult to discuss the many pains of trying to get healthy when both husband and wife or two companions are not in great shape and one is trying to make a change. I'm going to go thru a few scenarios that likely happen in some of y'alls homes.
-She likes to eat as soon as her feet touch the ground rolling out of bed, in fact if she can get me to make it and bring it to her, she really would prefer to not vacate the area until she's had her first meal. On the other hand I don't like to eat until early afternoon outside of coffee and water, occasionally I might have some fruit if I feel like I need it. Now I ask you, before the day even starts we are on completely different tracks, yes/no? We don't make good workout partners or health buddies because we don't eat alike, look alike, let's face it I'm a man she's a woman, we aren't built the same so I encourage you married folks to break off from your partner(health wise) and take control of what and when you eat.
-2nd thing is even more important than the 1st part I mentioned. I was walking relatively on a regular basis going back to March/April 2020 when the pandemic broke out and we were all forced to stay home or we took it upon ourselves to stay out of harms way and that's when I started hitting the trails more. It definitely created a weight gap if you want to call it that, between my wife and I. I think we look great together but she's curvy and I've been more on the slimmer side the last year or two. So I allowed her to get me to stay inside more and more(you see what i did there) the last couple months and it started when she would ask if she could come with me...now there's a lot involved with this but I'm going to simply say that I don't feel she always truly wants to go for the walk or bike ride with me, so I have a rule I put in place and it stops the nonsense.
MoP Rule: You can come along but DON'T ASK if you can exercise. "Can I come?" DON'T ASK! Just put on the shoes or your clothes and come, I'm not waiting at the door for 20 minutes so you can get ready or need me to encourage or push you to go. When I want to exercise or stretch or get outside I go, I don't need to ask permission. What this is about, the other person is wanting you to cheer them on or encourage them and take a real stake in their health and future, that's not good. Because they are going to start wanting you to push them and I can barely push myself, in fact I fail quite a bit and have of late because we are watching 2-3-4 hours of TV or old movies the last month or two.
This has nothing to do with how much you love or don't love your S/O, it's about how much you love yourself and are willing to do to help yourself which ultimately will help both of you in the long run.
I'm not mean, she was bellyaching about her bike and the tires so I took it into the shop and got all new tires for her Cannondale so she can ride with me. She's got an inflatable paddle board, Rollerblades, tennis rackets and a pretty good player she's married to I might add, beach access, water access, a pool, yoga, a free gym at the hospital, it's all there.
. my one 4 year old has me running circles around the house, can't even fathom. 
. And if I really do want it that much then I go get it. 
I know I have more muscle, but it's such a huge disappointment. 
