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My 15 year old has been going (virtual) about once a week for 45 minutes. She starter end of October/begin November ( i forget exactly) ~15 sessions so far.
Interested to hear what “completed” would mean in your case, I suppose it’s different for everyone. My daughter doesn’t want to go to school and will barely talk to her good friends
Forgot to add- was it hard to get her started? My daughter is so quiet and anxious to talk to most anyone that I wonder what a therapist may get out of her. Also wonder if medication may be a discussion point eventually.
Not really - my daughter was is always quiet - once she gets to know some one she is completely fine. She was having issues of "everyone is looking at me, judging me, doesnt like me". She has ffriends but isnt overly social. (I too apparently have some form of anxiety growing up that I didnt realize) - anyway - she would be deathly afraid to say go into a convenience store by herself. We found out she had a couple "bully" issues in like 5th grade that we never knew about. I've always been a f'it you dont like me I dont care but my wife is like my daughter (OMG HOW CAN YOU NOT LIKE ME
) that is just a couple examples.
The screen addiction is real and nothing we can do about it. Hes become addicted to Fortnite too (because what else is an only child who barely gets to interact with other kids for a year supposed to do)? Hes been doing his baseball activities since January which helps but everytime we make plans he does the calculus in his head "how does this effect my screen time?" We've set some limitations along the way but this all started because of the pandemic.
I feel the same about one of my kids. We took extreme precautions And our kids have been basically indoors for a year. Without turning it into a covid regret tangent, at least one of my kids would probably have been better off us all getting sick. Anyway, prayers to anyone else struggling with a kid who is rattled by all this. You aren’t alone.
My brother is a HS teacher and says there is a noticable change in many of the kids now from the pandemic. All you can do is be there for them and try to keep as many things "normal" as possible. Really hate to lose a generation.
I'm so sorry to hear this and hope it all works out for you and your son.
This is exactly my daughter. Including the graduating this Spring part. Walking back and forth across campus a few miles a day just for the exercise and fresh air is underrated.
Long term consequences of this thing may be huge down the road.
This describes my son almost exact though substitute baseball for lacrosse. That was a big factor in this losing his senior lacrosse season. They were one of the top teams in the state and he was so looking forward to it. He was crushed last year between that and no graduation. He started coming around last summer and was very excited to head off to college. I really thought once he got there he would be fine. He made some friends there but that wasn't enough.
You only called your son once a month? I am not trying to judge at all. I'm asking because I have an 11 year old. Is that infrequency normal? I don't know if I'm ready for him to be an adult.
Neither myself nor son are big talkers. We exchanged texts every couple of days so it wasn't like we weren't communicating at all. But yeah when he goes off again, hopefully this fall, I'll make a point to call him more often. At the time didn't seem weird to me as I don't recall ever talking to my parents when I went away to college except when I was at home over a break.
You’re not alone in this. I admittedly need to step up my game big time in the communication department.
Haha I'm a mommas boy so talked to my mom almost every day
When I went to college I probably talked to my parents once a week for the first couple months but after that it was about once a month. I could be remembering differently though.
That's because it's not a simple "open/close" situation.
Same here and as I’ve gotten older I kind of feel guilty about how little time I gave them. Maybe its just how it was back then though.
Yeah, I feel like I have noticed a trend in stuff kids are exposed to- more mention of suicide, cutting and other self-harming behaviors. Almost like it's a badge. That worries me a lot. I don't think kids are stupid enough to think life is like a video game, where you respawn. But, I fear pre-teens and teenagers lack the needed frontal lobe development to really grokk the finality of suicide.
I was thinking the same thing. I had a great relationship with both parents, but once I left home we would frequently go long periods without speaking. Of course that was before there were mobile phones or internet. I spent a couple years in Europe and would maybe write a letter every few months. My son is 16 and we sometimes go days without much interaction, even living in the same house. It takes effort.
