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So thanks to a topic I made in another thread I wanted to thank @Corporation, @STEADYMOBBIN 22, and @El Floppofor coming up with this idea. They figured this would be a good time for people to learn more about me or understand me better as well as others maybe dealing with the same thing or knowing someone similar. I apologize for the long post and I tried to clean this up as best as I could while still providing some info
A Quick History: I'm a 32 Yrs Old White Male living in the Southwest Suburbs of Philadelphia. My time in school overall was really difficult. I had issues making friends, was bullied at times (Middle School was the absolute worse), and had learning issues. I love sports and analysis of them and weird facts like players birthdays and such. I'm big into History as well as Wrestling. My music Genre's very from Classical Music, to old school rap, to 80s Metal to Death metal. For the longest time we thought I had tourette syndrome. I still think I have it to a degree do to the ticks involved. However I went to a new therapists (Needed an adult one now) in 2010 and my mom had just read book running with Scissors. The Book was turned into a TV movie and the author describes his Brother John Elder Robinson who has Aspergers (He invented Ace's Light up Guitar for KISS) and my mom was curious as I showed some of those signs. Within an hour of seeing my new Therapist he said this is what I have. He said even if we knew back then what I had much wouldn't have changed, However I disagree.
For a brief definition of Aspergers:
A developmental disorder affecting ability to effectively socialize and communicate.
Asperger syndrome is a condition on the autism spectrum, with generally higher functioning.
People with this condition may be socially awkward and have an all-absorbing interest in specific topics.
Communication training and behavioral therapy can help people with the syndrome learn to socialize more successfully.
Shortly after learning about my diagnosis (Same day Kevin Kolbys signed an Extension with the Eagles) my Pop-Pop who was a huge part of my life and why I love the Eagles died that OCT. He never got his SB but my Grandma would always tell me at the very least he found out what the problem was for his grandson (me) before he past. He always wanted what was best for me and knew once I figured out what the issues were I would succeed. My mom and brothers and most of my family have been very good about it. My dad has been very hard to get involved with this. Some of this isn't intentional it was just how he grew up but to say it has fractured our relationship is an understatement.
Since learning about this I've gone and researched and learned a lot about what I have. It's been incredible helpful and given me my understand of why I lacked friends and my learning disability I was told by numerous HS Teachers (my mom was) I wouldn't go and graduate college because of my lack of how I fell behind in English and Math). I got my associates degree at Community College despite it being difficult but proved everyone wrong. I've learned the way I think sometimes isn't how others do and it's not always black and white to me. Sometimes this actually helps me though where others think different on a subject matter and when I give my opinion they say it makes way more sense when thinking of it that way. I can come across at times as ignorant or selfish despite that not being my intention when trying to think I'm doing the right thing. I like my space as well and can come off as not friendly or professional when that's not my intention.
At work over the years I've had a core of people who have helped me and as people leave bringing in new trust forms. Most of the time people are understanding of me. I work in a grocery store in an essential field and thankfully being there so long a lot of Customers know about me or understand me. One of the worst things for me is understand if people are making a joke or being serious. I need to recognize facial expressions so to say this past year has been difficult is an understatement. If you think it's hard knowing people with a mask on it's twice if not harder for me to do at times. For everything going on I've surprised myself on how well I've handled all of this. My mom last March/April around this time was diagnosed with Covid 19. This had me very worried do to her having had breast cancer surgery twice in a 2 yrs span a few yrs back it was pretty devastating. I was quarantined from work and the world for 2 weeks (You'd think I was In heaven but really I was worried for my mom plus I could barely get out of the house other then go out back for a bit). I learned I had a lot of people watching my back. I knew my oldest cousin would always be there for me and my middle brother who's sort of a mama's boy to begin with would be.
My dad prior to this was not a believer in the virus being bad but after my mom got sick he made a 180 on his beliefs. It was really great though and being able to talk to others was great for me. At the same time my favorite Manager who had been helping me with a lot at work and becoming a very trusted person I could talk not just work with but life with had to quarantine. I thought it was do to my mom but she had been in contact with someone else who did. So during that time it was cool to be able to talk to her daily for those 2 weeks take my mind off everything. We even came up with a game plan to make work easier for me over the next few months. During this time though in August she left (She wants to work at corporate) and I was devastated. The same day I found out a very good friend of mine died from an OD. This was one of the kids who use to bully me in Middle school and during his recovery we became great friends. he even apologized during this period for bulling me and it was huge as he was one of the first to have apologized to me. Shortly after that a work incident happened. I was going through a pretty bad phase. After 2 months of wasting away just doing the same old job I was put in produce and still do it along with Beer and wine. I got a ton of hrs and loved it. I have a friend who works there who has been great helping me learn produce. My Manager over there his Mom and sister live near me and to this day my middle brother says is still his favorite boss. My ASD who took over for my favorite manager has also given me a ton of HRs and has had me run the store a couple of hrs during the night when he's left early. Things are slowly getting better.
The reason I share this story of the past year is I know a lot of people and many of you on here have gone through difficulties. Add in having something like Aspergers for me makes a year like the past year with a pandemic that much harder. However I think I've dealt with this a lot better then I expected I would.
I will now open this up to questioning as well as providing a few links on foundations to donate if you want to, some famous people who have it, some more info on this as well as helpful books for those who want to learn more or know someone this could help
To donate: I'd advise not using Autism Speaks. Very bad things about them and know a tons of people in the spectrum who have had issues with them. They are also not as fourth coming as other organizations
My favorite place to donate is The Eagles Autism Foundation. This is an organization very dear to me as it's my favorite team sponsoring it. Owner Jeffrey Lurie has a brother who is on the spectrum who he is very close to and they do a fantastic job. The benefits go to helping do research and learn more about Autism sending money to even local organization like Children's Hospital of Philadelphia where my mom Works (CHOP).
Eagles Autism foundation
Famous people rumored or have Aspergers
Former American Idol and Quit Riot Lead Singer James Durbin talks about dealing with Tourettes and Aspergers
Cliff Notes version on Aspergers Wiki and it numerous links to involved to websites
Links to John Elder Robinson and his books that first helped me when I was first diagnosed
For employers with Employees with autism how to manage them professionally
Micheal John's book on dealing with Aspergers and his foundation to help people find good jobs
A Quick History: I'm a 32 Yrs Old White Male living in the Southwest Suburbs of Philadelphia. My time in school overall was really difficult. I had issues making friends, was bullied at times (Middle School was the absolute worse), and had learning issues. I love sports and analysis of them and weird facts like players birthdays and such. I'm big into History as well as Wrestling. My music Genre's very from Classical Music, to old school rap, to 80s Metal to Death metal. For the longest time we thought I had tourette syndrome. I still think I have it to a degree do to the ticks involved. However I went to a new therapists (Needed an adult one now) in 2010 and my mom had just read book running with Scissors. The Book was turned into a TV movie and the author describes his Brother John Elder Robinson who has Aspergers (He invented Ace's Light up Guitar for KISS) and my mom was curious as I showed some of those signs. Within an hour of seeing my new Therapist he said this is what I have. He said even if we knew back then what I had much wouldn't have changed, However I disagree.
For a brief definition of Aspergers:
A developmental disorder affecting ability to effectively socialize and communicate.
Asperger syndrome is a condition on the autism spectrum, with generally higher functioning.
People with this condition may be socially awkward and have an all-absorbing interest in specific topics.
Communication training and behavioral therapy can help people with the syndrome learn to socialize more successfully.
Shortly after learning about my diagnosis (Same day Kevin Kolbys signed an Extension with the Eagles) my Pop-Pop who was a huge part of my life and why I love the Eagles died that OCT. He never got his SB but my Grandma would always tell me at the very least he found out what the problem was for his grandson (me) before he past. He always wanted what was best for me and knew once I figured out what the issues were I would succeed. My mom and brothers and most of my family have been very good about it. My dad has been very hard to get involved with this. Some of this isn't intentional it was just how he grew up but to say it has fractured our relationship is an understatement.
Since learning about this I've gone and researched and learned a lot about what I have. It's been incredible helpful and given me my understand of why I lacked friends and my learning disability I was told by numerous HS Teachers (my mom was) I wouldn't go and graduate college because of my lack of how I fell behind in English and Math). I got my associates degree at Community College despite it being difficult but proved everyone wrong. I've learned the way I think sometimes isn't how others do and it's not always black and white to me. Sometimes this actually helps me though where others think different on a subject matter and when I give my opinion they say it makes way more sense when thinking of it that way. I can come across at times as ignorant or selfish despite that not being my intention when trying to think I'm doing the right thing. I like my space as well and can come off as not friendly or professional when that's not my intention.
At work over the years I've had a core of people who have helped me and as people leave bringing in new trust forms. Most of the time people are understanding of me. I work in a grocery store in an essential field and thankfully being there so long a lot of Customers know about me or understand me. One of the worst things for me is understand if people are making a joke or being serious. I need to recognize facial expressions so to say this past year has been difficult is an understatement. If you think it's hard knowing people with a mask on it's twice if not harder for me to do at times. For everything going on I've surprised myself on how well I've handled all of this. My mom last March/April around this time was diagnosed with Covid 19. This had me very worried do to her having had breast cancer surgery twice in a 2 yrs span a few yrs back it was pretty devastating. I was quarantined from work and the world for 2 weeks (You'd think I was In heaven but really I was worried for my mom plus I could barely get out of the house other then go out back for a bit). I learned I had a lot of people watching my back. I knew my oldest cousin would always be there for me and my middle brother who's sort of a mama's boy to begin with would be.
My dad prior to this was not a believer in the virus being bad but after my mom got sick he made a 180 on his beliefs. It was really great though and being able to talk to others was great for me. At the same time my favorite Manager who had been helping me with a lot at work and becoming a very trusted person I could talk not just work with but life with had to quarantine. I thought it was do to my mom but she had been in contact with someone else who did. So during that time it was cool to be able to talk to her daily for those 2 weeks take my mind off everything. We even came up with a game plan to make work easier for me over the next few months. During this time though in August she left (She wants to work at corporate) and I was devastated. The same day I found out a very good friend of mine died from an OD. This was one of the kids who use to bully me in Middle school and during his recovery we became great friends. he even apologized during this period for bulling me and it was huge as he was one of the first to have apologized to me. Shortly after that a work incident happened. I was going through a pretty bad phase. After 2 months of wasting away just doing the same old job I was put in produce and still do it along with Beer and wine. I got a ton of hrs and loved it. I have a friend who works there who has been great helping me learn produce. My Manager over there his Mom and sister live near me and to this day my middle brother says is still his favorite boss. My ASD who took over for my favorite manager has also given me a ton of HRs and has had me run the store a couple of hrs during the night when he's left early. Things are slowly getting better.
The reason I share this story of the past year is I know a lot of people and many of you on here have gone through difficulties. Add in having something like Aspergers for me makes a year like the past year with a pandemic that much harder. However I think I've dealt with this a lot better then I expected I would.
I will now open this up to questioning as well as providing a few links on foundations to donate if you want to, some famous people who have it, some more info on this as well as helpful books for those who want to learn more or know someone this could help
To donate: I'd advise not using Autism Speaks. Very bad things about them and know a tons of people in the spectrum who have had issues with them. They are also not as fourth coming as other organizations
My favorite place to donate is The Eagles Autism Foundation. This is an organization very dear to me as it's my favorite team sponsoring it. Owner Jeffrey Lurie has a brother who is on the spectrum who he is very close to and they do a fantastic job. The benefits go to helping do research and learn more about Autism sending money to even local organization like Children's Hospital of Philadelphia where my mom Works (CHOP).
Eagles Autism foundation
Famous people rumored or have Aspergers
Former American Idol and Quit Riot Lead Singer James Durbin talks about dealing with Tourettes and Aspergers
Cliff Notes version on Aspergers Wiki and it numerous links to involved to websites
Links to John Elder Robinson and his books that first helped me when I was first diagnosed
For employers with Employees with autism how to manage them professionally
Micheal John's book on dealing with Aspergers and his foundation to help people find good jobs
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