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Marital Advice - Friendly camping trip too friendly? (2 Viewers)
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Chaka
Footballguy
I guess it'll be a'ight if I just admit it. [/Chris Rock]People....people.....First he has to minimize the "event", tell her that things done while drunk should not be cause for an act of congress and she should feel empowered to share her feelings and actions with him. He should tell her that he loves her for eternity, and some silly event happens in a campground bathroom cannot change eternal love. Put her at ease, obtain her confidence and hold her, repeating your love and desire to understand her and what transpired....Then, when she confesses.....punch her in the throat and park her on the front doorstep..... not forgetting to sharpie her forehead with -->I think my work here is done....
flyingsushi
Footballguy
This obviously bothers you. In my opinion, the only way you can have resolution is to confront them both. Steve obviously doesn't respect or fear you would have the balls to do anything. The excuse of amnesia is one dumb excuse and they are both laughing at you. Big deal if you get charged with assult. This is your dignity we are talking about. If your a alpha male then there is no question you don't let another dog in your territory. On the flip side, you don't let your wife stray either. I don't mean you have to go beat him up or anything, but you need to be prepared to take it to the next level.
The best way to do this is to get them together and confront them both. If you don't, then this is just going to eat at you over time and will come up again in some fight or arguement you will have with your wife. Even if you have resolution and believe them that nothing happened, which I doubt, then they both get the picture that situation is not appropriate to be in.
If you have not already figured it out, your wife can't be trusted. I find people who joke around sexually about another's spouse are usually trying to test the water and see how far they can go with it. You laughed and joked with them and never had drawn the line as far as what is appropriate and what is not. So Steve doesn't think twice about crossing the line especially when your wife is inviting to his flirting and actions.
The fact you had this time period of them both testing the water to see how far the flirting could go before you nip it in the butt and didn't, then you add alcohol is a bad recipe for you. This may not have happened if there was no alcohol, but it opens the door for them both to maintain a lame excuse.
The Amnesia excuse is disprectful. I would even go as far as to say they both planned on that excuse because it is the easiest.
So, you can do a couple of things here. Nothing, and let it eat you up over time, and by the way, like I said, you will hold a grudge and you will use this against her in some other fight another time and then there will be even more animosity. Or you can call Steve over and confront them both. Because both parties are guilty. Remember, you can't tip toe around with Steve and say please this and please that, you need to be the aggressor so he knows he can't cross that line even if your wife makes first move. You need to be the alpha male here. You can't let another alpha male come into your home and dominate you. If your wife is going to put herself in bad situations and do things that not appropriate, at least Steve or any other guy will think twice because in the back of his mind, he doesn't want any of you.
Remember, this is your dignity here. Even if something didn't happen (ya right), at least you know inside you didn't just stand there while your wife lets your friend fondle her or whatever and you have what it takes to say something and be prepared to back it up.
Good luck with this one.
The best way to do this is to get them together and confront them both. If you don't, then this is just going to eat at you over time and will come up again in some fight or arguement you will have with your wife. Even if you have resolution and believe them that nothing happened, which I doubt, then they both get the picture that situation is not appropriate to be in.
If you have not already figured it out, your wife can't be trusted. I find people who joke around sexually about another's spouse are usually trying to test the water and see how far they can go with it. You laughed and joked with them and never had drawn the line as far as what is appropriate and what is not. So Steve doesn't think twice about crossing the line especially when your wife is inviting to his flirting and actions.
The fact you had this time period of them both testing the water to see how far the flirting could go before you nip it in the butt and didn't, then you add alcohol is a bad recipe for you. This may not have happened if there was no alcohol, but it opens the door for them both to maintain a lame excuse.
The Amnesia excuse is disprectful. I would even go as far as to say they both planned on that excuse because it is the easiest.
So, you can do a couple of things here. Nothing, and let it eat you up over time, and by the way, like I said, you will hold a grudge and you will use this against her in some other fight another time and then there will be even more animosity. Or you can call Steve over and confront them both. Because both parties are guilty. Remember, you can't tip toe around with Steve and say please this and please that, you need to be the aggressor so he knows he can't cross that line even if your wife makes first move. You need to be the alpha male here. You can't let another alpha male come into your home and dominate you. If your wife is going to put herself in bad situations and do things that not appropriate, at least Steve or any other guy will think twice because in the back of his mind, he doesn't want any of you.
Remember, this is your dignity here. Even if something didn't happen (ya right), at least you know inside you didn't just stand there while your wife lets your friend fondle her or whatever and you have what it takes to say something and be prepared to back it up.
Good luck with this one.
SuperJohn96
RPS World Champion
Today is the 3rd. And I was off yesterday for Canada Day Weekend.Oh and I absolutely had to check this thing again before I went home from work, I couldn't stay away...
Yes, I though maybe I was the only one!!! I am not even doing a null vote...just deliberately NOT voting...
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flufhed
Footballguy
Finally, after viewing number 20 or so, went with "Call Steve to figure out eents." That was as close as possible to what I thought he should do, albeit a very watered down, passive-aggressive version of what I think he should do.
Third
Footballguy
I don't know about the rest of this post, but this is a pretty solid observation.
Mr. Know-It-All
Footballguy
Make sure you lock the front door first so Steve doesn't sneak in during the process of her getting drunk.
Hamburglar
Footballguy
RudiStein said:Oh boy! A woman's perspective. That's going to clear everything up!Girl A said:I have a woman's perspective on this, but I do not have a lot of time right now. I will be back after I get out of work. All I have to say is this... She knows. I will explain why I believe this later. GL
Mr. Know-It-All
Footballguy
A lot of truth here. I really do think this is a case of MitYH needing to be the alpha male for a change. The way it is going now it sounds as if he is apologetic for their (perceived) actions. He doesn't need to go over and pound the guy (unless he wants a starring role on Cops), but he does need to take charge and call a spade a spade.
Sweet J
Footballguy
Actually, I disagree. If they've been screwing around, they would have the luxery to not screw in the bathroom when everybody is around. This comes across much more as "I've been dying to take a swing at you for years, and now I have this window of opportunity, I'm gonna snatch it."shadyridr said:
ElvisMonster
Footballguy
You pork my wife, I'm punching your face. If that sounds a little white trash, so be it. Nobody rides for free.
Mr. Chumley
Footballguy
Had to log off and get some work done. Any thing happen since page 12?
Peak
Footballguy
Rand al Thor
Footballguy
I can't go back and read all 15 pages, but has anyone suggested he check her cell phone and see if she's been in contact with Steve since they've gotten back? My vote is on physical and emotional betrayal, I'd lay low, start snooping through her phone records and emails. A drunken ####### is one thing, if she's been talking to this guy and they're connected emotionally (or at least she thinks they are), you're done. This is coming from the voice of experience.
Bob Sacamano
Footballguy
Congratulations! And remember, some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me.
Bob Sacamano
Footballguy
Carnies do.
code
Footballguy
FYIWhat do I do next?Nothing, let it go. [ 26 ] ** [13.54%]Ask friends what they remember. [ 58 ] ** [30.21%]Have my wife call this guy to figure out the events. [ 24 ] ** [12.50%]I call this guy to figure out events. [ 84 ] ** [43.75%]
General Malaise
Footballguy
wow, i went camping this weekend and it was nothing like this. i did eat a package of uncooked hotdogs and a box of donuts that I didn't remember eating until my friends told me about it the next day. said i was like a rabid wolverine tearing into them and just snarling back at them when they poked their heads out of the tent. so it's sorta like this story I guess.
larry_boy_44
Footballguy
Steve obviuosly has one, you should call him up...
perry147
Footballguy
I think the white trash part was already covered - messing around in a camp ground outhouse. I normally open everything with my feet in a normal public bathroom - I can't imagine being intimate in the place like that.
ElvisMonster
Footballguy
STUPID LUCKY CARNIES!!!
General Malaise
Footballguy
Third
Footballguy
Capn Crunch
Footballguy
He should check her underwear - if there are about 7 smushed daddy long legs spiders and a cricket in there, it's game over.
Horses Mouth
Footballguy
I've been gone all day. What's the latest?
Rand al Thor
Footballguy
flyingsushi
Footballguy
I kind of agree here. Yes, something happened. Even if it was kissing and fondling to make her boobs fall out of her bra is something. If all we are talking about is 15 min I am thinking that is not enough time for sex, unless Steve is still 17. Because first Steve would have had to had a few minutes to make sure taking this to the next level is well received. Ok, now maybe 10 minutes left? With lots of acohol in a bathroom? I doubt he would have been able to finish. I don't know about anyone else, but I sure would not want to get all worked up like that without finishing. I am thinking worst case is she performed oral sex or gave a hanjob, but more than likely there was just alot of touching and kissing. Remember the combination of the husband very close, others know they are in there together and telling you I think makes sex, including oral unlikely. I agree, the window of opportunity opened and he snatched it. If they did have sex, with you close, knowing others saw them together, then he has clearly dominated you. Might as well give him a ### kickin because it's not like you need to worry what she thinks.
Capella
Footballguy
tommyboy
Footballguy
actually this is excellent advice. You walk up to Steve, sucker punch him right in the mouth and as he sits stunned on the ground (hopefully you know how to punch), you say "that's for humping my wife". If he's innocent he'll deny it immediately and angrily, if not he'll hesitate and make some bs up.
Ditkaless Wonders
Footballguy
So you ate weiners and o-rings.
Saints-Man
Footballguy
flufhed
Footballguy
Mr. Chumley
Footballguy
PsychoMan
Footballguy
Mrs DaVinci
Footballguy
WTH, I can't get past your friend telling you THREE times to go check on your SO and you ignored him.
I'd go the MMA route....Put him in some sort of submission hold and don't let him out until he comes clean
Bob Sacamano
Footballguy
Status unchanged. Rolling blackouts have caused the Secretary of Defense and the Secretary of Energy to disagree as to whether the loss of power was preceded by full breach, partial breach, or bad data. Further research is being conducted, and the offending parties may get off with a slap on the wrist. It's possible a faulty restraint system allowed some carnal matter to spill free, further clouding the issue. Stay tuned for additional details.
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Bob Sacamano
Footballguy
This might be how they got here in the first place.
flufhed
Footballguy
PsychoMan
Footballguy
flufhed
Footballguy
As always, king of the update.
