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Yeah, but he wants to stay in New York City.Staten Island rents seem reasonable by my local Miami standards. How's the neighborhood?
I think Staten Island is next to Buffalo.
Yeah, but he wants to stay in New York City.Staten Island rents seem reasonable by my local Miami standards. How's the neighborhood?
Since reading this, I considered just letting this go. I say this because it may not be inaccurate based on old laws, and for what it's worth it may not be inaccurate as to NY law. I am not a licensed NY attorney and therefore don't know the current NY laws when it comes to such things as custodial issues (parenting time, legal decision-making, child support), alimony (spousal maintenance), and division of property and debt - though I suspect GG isn't, either. I also tend to agree with some of the comments in GG's posts, and I do very much commend him for what appears to be a genuine offer to help in this scenario. Finally, I'm well aware of GG's negative opinions regarding lawyers, as he hammers home that nail home very chance he gets.From a purely financial standpoint, it actually probably won't pay off. How many hours will she spend on this when it's all said and done, and what does that work out to be per hour? Seems very likely that you'd be much better off with her actually earning income vs. hypothetical savings (which can still be realized with far fewer hours).
Like everyone else I feel for you, but a red flag for me is how you said the topic of her working hasn't even been discussed yet. I'm not quite sure how that's even possible tbh. She can still kick *** while working, and IMO she would be kicking even more *** if she were. Even if it's part time, or consulting (like you said she's done), that should be enough to bridge the gap.
If she consults a family law attorney, as of today, her best outcome as an individual would be to file for divorce right now. That's what she will be told. She will also be told not to work nor seek employment.
If he consults a family law attorney, as of today, his best outcome as the head of household would be to move to a much lower cost of living area and set roots before a potential divorce. That's what he will be told.
Okay, so that confirms that one client isn't a full time job. And please, don't lump me in with him, I didn't say anything about her being a helicopter mom.The one I used takes on 6 clients a year. Mrs. Floppo's got 2 kids and is also dealing with their school and extracurricular schedules. I'd hardly characterize that as a helicopter mom as jobarules did. That doesn't have anything to do with whether it would benefit the household to take on a full or part time job. This is a pretty critical time for teenagers bound for upper-tier schools. It's hard for an outsider to judge how to balance the value of what she's contributing versus the benefit of more money, especially for those talking about a low wage part time gig versus a career-type position.So do lots of people, but those admission consultants aren't working full time for any one client. Mrs. Floppo can still fill that role for their kid in addition to working part or even full time, it doesn't have to be either/or.Top tier schools are incredibly competitive. I hired an admissions consultant for Roverkid. Sounds like Mrs. Floppo is filling that role. I wouldn't expect a teenager, even a very talented one, to be able to navigate admissions and aid relating to these types of schools.Its a bit arrogant. She does sound like a bit of a helicopter mom. Why is she doing tons of legwork for your children's college? I guess that doesnt make sense. Theres plenty of dual parent working homes where the parents put in tons of legwork for their kids too.Fwiw, the legwork she's doing now (kid is a HS sophomore) looking at colleges, tuitions and aid... I already know will pay off when the time comes.I get that but they are all old enough now that she no longer needs to be that.
I get that it's easy to judge that she's not working, but This woman genuinely kicks *** at everything she does. Of course I would love for her to add some income while she's doing that other work- I'm sure once she went back in shed tear it up like she's does everything else she does.
Yeah, I just feel like the more I read about Flopp's life the less I understand. It's like a completely different reality than the one I live in. But I've never even been to NYC so what do I know?
I do have two kids in college, one of them got a full ride. I had next to nothing to do with that, neither did his mom or step mom. But again, we're just simple folks living in Oregon, going to the state U. There was never any talk of an Ivy or Stanford. And I've never lost a second's sleep because of it.
This stuff is stressful, and I don't envy our friend El Floppo one bit. I just took a fairly large financial hit while paying my kid's tuition and housing in NYC. That was bad enough, without having to worry about relocating or trying not to strain a marriage.
Isn't this Zales' new campain slogan?
When you ask someone to marry you, and you give them a ring, and they say "Yes", they are agreeing to be a "team player"
For life.
It really does have a little bit of everything, except for bowling and camping.This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
The commute isnt the best but if the wife doesnt wanna work then what other options does he have other than moving out of NYC and commuting? My wife commutes into NYC 3 days a week for work.Yeah, but he wants to stay in New York City.Staten Island rents seem reasonable by my local Miami standards. How's the neighborhood?
I think Staten Island is next to Buffalo.
So this scenario reminds me of this one time with my ex-girlfriend...It really does have a little bit of everything, except for bowling and camping.This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
floppo might be homeless, but at least his marriage is fixedwhat did I miss?
We could use Otis to join and complain about the mansions he wants to buy in cheaper states.This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
We could use Otis to join and complain about the mansions he wants to buy in cheaper states.This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Are your kids teenagers?I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
and slinging some rock on the cornerThis thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
You left out not paying the rent at all, forcing an eviction, and sleeping with the Frenchman's wife (probably).
I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Sleeping with the Frenchman's Wife is the name of an IEG movie starring me and Salma HayekThis thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
You left out not paying the rent at all, forcing an eviction, and sleeping with the Frenchman's wife (probably).
I'm still waiting to find out what New York's hottest club isThis thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
Are your kids teenagers?I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
I barely do anything for my teenage son now. I help him with HW when he needs it. Drive him to baseball practice. And cook him dinner. Other than that I barely see him.
I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Has to be posted.
My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
If we could get a Studs and Duds post in here it would be an instant classic.
Oof I will not be showing this to my wifeI easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Has to be posted.
We were snowed in for 3 days last week. That 4th day I was soooo happy to go to the office...My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
I see why you work 65 hours.....Jesus, I'd go take a job at an offshore oil rig.
What are you, like, from Michigan or something?We were snowed in for 3 days last week. That 4th day I was soooo happy to go to the office...My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
I see why you work 65 hours.....Jesus, I'd go take a job at an offshore oil rig.
So much this. Unreal. Leave the dudes marriage alone.Hey, bad news fellas, my rent just skyrocketed
Lemme explain what's wrong with your marriage
Amazingly... Ari - ****ing - zona.What are you, like, from Michigan or something?We were snowed in for 3 days last week. That 4th day I was soooo happy to go to the office...My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
I see why you work 65 hours.....Jesus, I'd go take a job at an offshore oil rig.
I offered to buy my neighbor's house so I could cut down two firs and a cedar, then I was going to re-sell it. They didn't bite.We could use Otis to join and complain about the mansions he wants to buy in cheaper states.This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.
"Anybody else spend $45,999 to cut down a row of arborvitae? What's the going rate in your gated community?"
I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Has to be posted.
NYC real estate is just insane, and I'm sure Covid has made it even more insane. Good luck!
The real scary thing, based on some of GG’s other posts in the past on women the views expressed here have been tame.I'm guessing a GG flame-out.what did I miss?
What's gonna hurt her pride more? Taking a job that's "beneath" her or living in Hoboken or Queens?
I kid, mostly. Lots of great advice in here, GBEF, and I know you guys will be OK, but this whole "not working" thing for her unreasonably irritates me.
Prices actually rose during the height of the pandemic. They have fallen slightly since July 2022, but that's a small decrease from an all-time high. Inventory is also low right now because sellers are hoping that interest rates drop so they can maximize their sales price. Average rent rose by about 20% in 2022.NYC real estate is just insane, and I'm sure Covid has made it even more insane. Good luck!
So what is going on there? I would have thought a bunch of people moved out during the pandemic when they were working remotely and chosen to never move back. I guess that is not the case?
maybe la floppa can do this. isn't it a couple months on/couple off? sounds promisingMy kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
I see why you work 65 hours.....Jesus, I'd go take a job at an offshore oil rig.
My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
This thread has had it all, except actual good advice. Florida, Michigan, the Olive Garden, only fans, people suggesting he leave his wife, tax fraud, people suggesting he leave his wife while committing tax fraud — truly a throw back to the good days.