As someone who's lived in a fairly nice suburb for over 15 years and previously in a NY metro area 'burb on Long Island for eight, here are my insights:
Let's get this fired up. I'll be landing in this alien world in under two months. What do I need to know here?
Some topics I'd like to get through in the coming months:
- BBQ -- need a hot-shot grill. What do I get? (Also -- have no idea how to BBQ, but I'll count on my GBs for that) -
Big Green Egg. I'm a dyed in the wool Weber fan but these things rock. Guys in the suburbs can spot an inferior Wal-Mart Special grill at 30 paces and your grilling skills will be immediately called into question. BGE = instant cred. If you go gas, go Weber.
- I need a patio set. Where/what to get?
Telescope Patio Furniture - built in Granville NY, lasts forever, and the fabrics can be switched out on most models. This will be important in two years when either you or the wife decide that moss green is out and a floral pattern is in. Also, it's the most comfortable patio furniture out there. Nothing sucks worse than having to sit in an uncomfortable cheap-### about-to-collapse chair when you're chilling. Especially one that has that sharp metal burr right there by the support that'll reef your khakis.
- Do we stop by the neighbors to introduce ourselves? Bring a pie? Bottle of wine?
Yes, although it's likely the neighbors will greet you first, especially if you have a good BBQ. Go with small loaves of home baked banana bread, ideally tied with a festive ribbon. It's apparently a requirement in my neighborhood. Bring local wine/beer to a dinner party - it will show that you're putting down roots whether you are or not.
- I need to redo the patio. It looks like crap. So do the concrete front steps. Stone or brick? Can I do myself?
Depends on the house - slate or pavers are both good depending on what the house style is. Standard suburban McMansions or Mini-Mcmansions? Pavers. 1970s house? Slate. You can do it yourself - the local home center may have a designer and prepping the base is everything - but why bust your hump? I recommend the guy who worked on your apartment. Leave out a gaming system for old time's sake, he'll appreciate it and is likely ready for an upgrade by now anyway.
- Lawnmowers. Whatcha got? -
How big is your lawn? Honda movers last forever. Bigger the lawn, bigger the mower. Anything under a half acre, get a self propelled push mower. Nothing says tool more than a guy riding a 22 HP 42" cut lawn tractor around his 30x40 foot lawn.
- This pachysandra looks like crap. Pull it out and plant grass? (Beer party at Oat's place for helpers) -
Keep it as you don't have to mow it. If its in the sun. plant some shade. It takes a couple of years to take off.
Etc.
- Get a feel for the neighborhood before firing up the gas powered weed whacker at 8 AM on a Sunday.- If you see a neighbor working on a project, offer to help. They may or may not take (or want) the help, but it's good form to offer.
- Develop one party recipe (wings, guacamole, whatever) and master it so that you can make it without thinking. Necessary for impromptu "We're grilling out, come on over! Oh, thanks, you don't have to, but if you want to bring something, bring _________" weekend parties.
- Note what your neighbors drink. Figure out the locally brewed beer (e.g. Blue Point on Long Island) and keep it on hand.
- Stogies at a deck party must be reserved for after the dinner is finished and the scotch comes out unless otherwise directed by the party thrower. Nothing will get you uninvited to a party faster than sparking up a Garcia y Vega while people are still on their after dinner coffee.
- Get to know the local pork store and buy your sausage there. word gets around if you rely on cheapass Pathmark sausages.
- Ask around about the best pizza place. People will expect the good stuff when pizza is present.
- Find the guy who "has a guy." Every neighborhood has one. Something needs to be done, go talk to that neighbor. If he says "I got a guy..." you're good to go.
- Heinz. Cheap ketchup = cheap homeowner. Even if you don't touch the ####, have Heinz ketchup on hand.
- Clean your damn half bath toilet daily. Someone stops by and needs to use the can, they'll look. Don't be like my bud who built a 4400 square foot hose, moved in two months ago, and has a powder room toilet that looks like Vesuvius just finished erupting in there.