Charlie Steiner
Footballguy
My wife's oldest sister passed away last week and they had the memorial service yesterday. She was only 58, but had health issues, and given their family history, was actually one of the longer-lived women in the history of their family. Their own mother had died at 46, when my wife was just 13, so this sister became the surrogate mother for my wife and their other sister. She also had her own kids at a young age, so she really was their family's matriarch way before her time. I won't go into the other details, other than to say she didn't have an easy time, as even though her husband never divorced/left her, theirs was pretty much a loveless marriage for a looooong time. It's been almost 20 years now from when I met her, so a lot of the growing pains and drama had already happened, but one thing I did have to do was ask her for their mother's engagement ring to give my wife when I proposed. That in itself went pretty smoothly, which looking at now was a more significant occurence than I understood at the time.
The main reason I decided to put this out here is because it took her passing for me to recognize more clearly the importance of having someone in the family that keeps the it close. There's no one like that on my side of the family, and to be honest, it seems like that ship has sailed for us, so if you or one of your siblings/family members is the glue that holds the family together, please please please let them know you appreciate them. If they're anything like my sister-in-law was, that will mean more to them than they'll ever let on.
The main reason I decided to put this out here is because it took her passing for me to recognize more clearly the importance of having someone in the family that keeps the it close. There's no one like that on my side of the family, and to be honest, it seems like that ship has sailed for us, so if you or one of your siblings/family members is the glue that holds the family together, please please please let them know you appreciate them. If they're anything like my sister-in-law was, that will mean more to them than they'll ever let on.