ChiefD
Footballguy
So, I have a 16 year old teenager who is a really good kid. Respectful, plays on the high school soccer team - just a good kid overall. Has made good grades all the way through his freshman year. He is now a sophomore. If you look at his report card he's making two A's, three B's, and a C.
He just finished up his first semester finals. From all accounts he studied for his finals. Told us he was studying. Was bunkered in his room studying.
Got an F on his math final, a C on a history final, and a B on his gym final. B in Gym? What the hell. Other finals were fine.
So in our house, an F at any time is unacceptable. Math is certainly not his best subject, and he is making a C in that class. I'm ok with the C in the class so I would expect his final to be in the C range if he's trying his best.
For the history class, it's an AP class and he is making a B in that class, so I would expect his final to be in the B range. Getting a C is certainly not terrible, but to me still not acceptable.
For the gym class, a B on a final is unacceptable. He has an easy A in this class and clearly blew off the final.
So yesterday we have this discussion. My wife is more of a gentle type and my style is more direct. Not dickish, but more of a "let's figure out what's going on so it doesn't repeat itself because classes are going to get harder as you move forward and into college."
But his response is basically: "well, I'm still getting a good overall grade in the class. what's the big deal?"
And this is when I start to get pissed. I explain that NO FINAL should be getting blown off and the final is where you have to shine because when you get into college your final could end up being a huge portion of your grade.
And this is where we clash. And where I need your help. I don't know how to get him to understand the importance of tests. And finals.
He's a pretty laid back kid in general, and this is what worries me. He's the type of kid that will do the bare minimum of what's asked of him. And he thinks he's cool because his overall grade card looks fine. But bubbling under the surface is this character trait that I can see could be a problem down the road.
We've already told him he's getting a math tutor for the second semester, which he as agreed to. We've explained that math is one of those subjects that builds upon itself, so we need to nip this in the bud right now.
But how do I communicate the importance of all of this to him? Leave it to my wife, who is more gentle about it? Have someone else do it? At no time am I degrading or disrepectful to him during any of our communications.
I also know he's a teenager, so there is going to be that natural butting of heads. But I'm at a loss of what to do.
Thanks for any help.
He just finished up his first semester finals. From all accounts he studied for his finals. Told us he was studying. Was bunkered in his room studying.
Got an F on his math final, a C on a history final, and a B on his gym final. B in Gym? What the hell. Other finals were fine.
So in our house, an F at any time is unacceptable. Math is certainly not his best subject, and he is making a C in that class. I'm ok with the C in the class so I would expect his final to be in the C range if he's trying his best.
For the history class, it's an AP class and he is making a B in that class, so I would expect his final to be in the B range. Getting a C is certainly not terrible, but to me still not acceptable.
For the gym class, a B on a final is unacceptable. He has an easy A in this class and clearly blew off the final.
So yesterday we have this discussion. My wife is more of a gentle type and my style is more direct. Not dickish, but more of a "let's figure out what's going on so it doesn't repeat itself because classes are going to get harder as you move forward and into college."
But his response is basically: "well, I'm still getting a good overall grade in the class. what's the big deal?"
And this is when I start to get pissed. I explain that NO FINAL should be getting blown off and the final is where you have to shine because when you get into college your final could end up being a huge portion of your grade.
And this is where we clash. And where I need your help. I don't know how to get him to understand the importance of tests. And finals.
He's a pretty laid back kid in general, and this is what worries me. He's the type of kid that will do the bare minimum of what's asked of him. And he thinks he's cool because his overall grade card looks fine. But bubbling under the surface is this character trait that I can see could be a problem down the road.
We've already told him he's getting a math tutor for the second semester, which he as agreed to. We've explained that math is one of those subjects that builds upon itself, so we need to nip this in the bud right now.
But how do I communicate the importance of all of this to him? Leave it to my wife, who is more gentle about it? Have someone else do it? At no time am I degrading or disrepectful to him during any of our communications.
I also know he's a teenager, so there is going to be that natural butting of heads. But I'm at a loss of what to do.
Thanks for any help.