snellman
Footballguy
I am not good at telling stories so bear with me.
My wife is adopted, she has always known this because her parents have been very open with her. She has always wanted to find her birth mother, but did not take the final steps until recently. Her employer was very gracious to her and gave her the money she needed in order to get the case opened and search going. Her mother has been found and contacted. The case worker with the adoption agency has communicated with her mother and her mother was very nice and sent an e-mail through the agency with a lot of information. Of course with this being the age of the internet my wife and I have been able to get a lot of info on her now that we have a name and location along with a few pictures. Wife looks almost identical to her. She would like to find more pictures, but there are not a lot out there.
Now the hard part. At this time, she does not want to have any more contact with the wife. My wife is having a very hard time accepting this because she would really like to meet her mother. The lady has not said the she never wants to talk to her or meet her, just not right now. No one in the lady's family knows about the wife.(she has never told her husband or children and does not live where the wife was born. Was also very young when the wife was born.
Has anyone ever been through something similar? How do I help my wife in coping with this? She is very frustrated which is understandable, but I am not sure how to help her through this.
My wife is adopted, she has always known this because her parents have been very open with her. She has always wanted to find her birth mother, but did not take the final steps until recently. Her employer was very gracious to her and gave her the money she needed in order to get the case opened and search going. Her mother has been found and contacted. The case worker with the adoption agency has communicated with her mother and her mother was very nice and sent an e-mail through the agency with a lot of information. Of course with this being the age of the internet my wife and I have been able to get a lot of info on her now that we have a name and location along with a few pictures. Wife looks almost identical to her. She would like to find more pictures, but there are not a lot out there.
Now the hard part. At this time, she does not want to have any more contact with the wife. My wife is having a very hard time accepting this because she would really like to meet her mother. The lady has not said the she never wants to talk to her or meet her, just not right now. No one in the lady's family knows about the wife.(she has never told her husband or children and does not live where the wife was born. Was also very young when the wife was born.
Has anyone ever been through something similar? How do I help my wife in coping with this? She is very frustrated which is understandable, but I am not sure how to help her through this.