Am I Making Too Much Of This? (1 Viewer)

[chet]

I am attending the KY Derby again this year with many of the same people I have attended with in the past. Accomodations are always challenging as this is the busiest time of the year in Louisville and the hotels raise their rates accordingly. This year, my friend offered to get us a room on points. I don't have Sheraton points so he booked two rooms on his account--each room was 30k points for the weekend.

This week, he texted me asking if I could bring $900 cash for the room. Obviously, I don't mind paying as they are his points etc but $900 seems like gouging to me. His point is that the hotel has raised their rates 50% since the last time we booked there.

Normally, I'd just pay and try to find an alternative for next year but there is more to the story. Earlier this year, he asked if he could stay at our house in Park City during Sun Dance. Our house has rented during that week for $3-4k/night but I let him stay gratis with the caveat that he cover the cleaning charge. The cleaning bill was only $75 since he and his friend left the house in great shape but we had to pay the crew to go to the house and give it a once over. I mentioned the $75 after he left a couple of times and he made comments to the effect of, "There was no cleaning to do." He never paid and I've seen him a couple of times since, and while $75 isn't a lot of money, I don't feel good about being out of pocket when I did him a favor.

I do favors for friends and receive favors all the time but it doesn't seem like a two way street here. Am I way offtrack or should I be peeved?

 

[Epic Problem]

Joe Pesci have an opinion on this?

 

[KCitons]

Enjoy your weekend, don't dwell on things you can't change. Moving forward, you'll know not to give him any favors.

First chance you get, sleep with his wife.

 

[fantasycurse42]

If someone let me stay at their house in Park City, I'm not asking them for anything, and I'm not using my points to profit off of my friends.

I'd pay him, not say anything, and never do him any type of financial favor ever again.

 

[Brony]

Pretty dooshy of your friend. He didn't pay $900 for those points.

 

[Pipes]

Yeah tell him you'll credit the $900 to the $3000 he owes you.

 

[=Smackdown=]

Enjoy your weekend, don't dwell on things you can't change. Moving forward, you'll know not to give him any favors.

First chance you get, sleep with his wife.

 

[Foosball God]

Enjoy your weekend, don't dwell on things you can't change. Moving forward, you'll know not to give him any favors.

First chance you get, sleep with his wife.

This.

 

[tri-man 47]

You should be peeved. It makes sense to pay for your room, but the rate should be a general market rate (since he's using up points he otherwise would use ..somewhere). He shouldn't be looking to get the marked up rate.

 

[DocHolliday]

Great advice so far. Nothing to add. Hope his wife is hot.

 

[B Maverick]

$75 plus interest for not paying on it should equal about $900 right?

 

[Treynwreck3]

Dooshbaggery of the highest order. Take your $900 and find your own accommodations. There are several options still available via hotels.com.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

He's gouging you badly

 

[ChiefD]

I'd tell him to pound sand. Friends do each other favors. You gave him a huge break at your place, and now he should return the favor. If any one of my friends tried to pull this I would shame them as much as possible through every channel I could.

 

[Jack White]

Exercise your power of freedom of association and stop associating with this person.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Your friend is an idiot. He should have been looking for an opportunity to, in some measure, have repaid your generosity. he missed a prime opportunity, and instead has made you call into question, in some measure, your relationship.

 

[chet]

He's not married so there's no wife to sleep with.

 

[fantasycurse42]

He's not married so there's no wife to sleep with.

So he should have a #### ton of disposable income... This guy is a ####!

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

He's not married so there's no wife to sleep with.

Well on the bright side you can watch him go through girlfriends until he has one that tickles your fancy, and then you can strike.

 

[Dentist]

Bring him $825 (he owes you $75 for the cleaning) and then never do the guy a favor ever again.

And then move on with your life

 

[Thorn]

I'd be cranky.

 

[fred_1_15301]

Terrible "friend". Agree with everyone else. When you get there, punch him in the face for me please.

 

[Dentist]

Is this friend WAY WAY WAYYYY below your net worth range?

I wonder if he feels like things just should be unequal due to the wealth gap.

I mean admittedly I treat my dental friends differently then my buddies who work entry level jobs when it comes to picking up tabs or requiring payment for various things, etc.

 

[TheIronSheik]

Is this his normal M.O.? I ask because I have friends who are like this, but I know going in I'll have to deal with it. And while it bugs me, I've known them long enough that I just push past it. If this is something new, I might bring it up in a joking, but slightly serious kind of way.

 

[E-Z Glider]

Do a sick bunny-hop on his Lambo.

 

[Angry Beavers]

With friends like that, you don't need enemies.

 

[Cjw_55106]

To answer the question, no, you arent making too much of it. As others have suggested, I would pay the money and not deal with this person again. You can decide if he is a good enough friend to deal with at all, but certainly financial deals would be out. I would pay him $825 as Dentist suggested.

 

[Cjw_55106]

Is this friend WAY WAY WAYYYY below your net worth range?

I wonder if he feels like things just should be unequal due to the wealth gap.

I mean admittedly I treat my dental friends differently then my buddies who work entry level jobs when it comes to picking up tabs or requiring payment for various things, etc.

I'm guessing if the guy routinely goes to the Derby and has that many Sheraton points (on top of being single), he's doing just fine for himself.

 

[Johnny Bing]

Could you just tell him to cancel the room he has booked, and find another for less than $900? Or is $900 the going rate or are all the rooms booked I assume?

 

[Joe Summer]

So, he was able to use $300 in points to rent a room that would normally cost $300 but has been temporarily increased to $900, is that the jist of it? I'd tell the guy to give me 60,000 points and I'll give him the $900.

 

[humpback]

People suck.

 

[IC FBGCav]

I would find another room and pay more if I had too. I wouldn't want this guy to do me any favors and trust me, he is looking at this like he is doing something for you even with you paying 900.00. The reason I would do this is because I would not want to hang out with the ##### bag and would want to distance myself as far as possible from him.

 

[LarryAllen'sJockstrap]

How many nights is this for?

How many people in the party? Is everyone paying $900?

If that's close to going rate for similar accommodations for said size of party, I'd pay it, have fun and move. Even if I was getting gouged, $900 doesn't seem like the end of the world for you, so I'd probably still suck it up, have a good time, and then deal with any issue you might have with it after the fact.

 

[Harry Manback]

Bring him $825 (he owes you $75 for the cleaning) and then never do the guy a favor ever again.

And then move on with your life

This

 

[VA703]

pay the 900

then put exlax in his coffee so he misses the derby

 

[Dan Lambskin]

Tell him you'll give him 35K Starwood points

 

[eoMMan]

Yeah tell him you'll credit the $900 to the $3000 he owes you.

Do this. Prepare an invoice and give it to him showing the $2100 owed to you.

 

[jon_mx]

It is a $200 per night hotel for the club level on a typical weekend, so $300 per night on derby weekend. You staying 2 or 3 nights?

 

[jon_mx]

If he is buying dinner, order the 'thirty-seven fifty" bottle of wine and call it even.

 

[TheIronSheik]

If he is buying dinner, order the 'thirty-seven fifty" bottle of wine and call it even.

 

[chet]

It is a $200 per night hotel for the club level on a typical weekend, so $300 per night on derby weekend. You staying 2 or 3 nights?

3-night minimum. Normally, the hotel goes for $189/night.

I called yesterday and they told me their rate on Derby weekend is $800/night 3-night minimum. I called them again, and this time they told me the rate for Derby weekend is $2200-3000/night.

 

[urbanhack]

good thing we needed two threads to spotlight your 1%er issues.

hang in there chet.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

Pro-tip: book next years hotel in s few weeks

You can usually find some for standard price

I had 3 nights at Candlewood at $110 a night

 

[yellowdog]

Friend?

 

[Rick James]

you can buy a house in kentucky for $900

 

[Leroy Hoard]

First chance you get, sleep with his wife.

and then charge him a $75 cleaning fee.

 

[TLEF316]

Repay him in railroad bonds

 

[chet]

First chance you get, sleep with his wife.

and then charge him a $75 cleaning fee.

Actually, in that case, I'd owe him the cleaning fee.

 

[5-ish Finkle]

Yeah tell him you'll credit the $900 to the $3000 he owes you.

This is exactly what I would do.

This guy isn't a "friend." He's a user.

 

[chet]

Pro-tip: book next years hotel in s few weeks

You can usually find some for standard price

I had 3 nights at Candlewood at $110 a night

We booked right after last year's Derby.