Cutting off a family member that's struggling with mental illness (1 Viewer)

[bosoxs45]

It's the hardest thing to do with a sibling. But he's not seeking out therapy, meds or support groups for severe anxiety. :(  He hasn't held down a job in five years and graduated from college eleven years ago.

I feel drained around him trying to sit with his pain and he gets defensive to getting help. 

 

[Joe Summer]

What is he doing that makes you want to cut him off?

Are you explaining to him why you are cutting him off? That might help push him towards seeking the help he needs.

 

[bosoxs45]

What is he doing that makes you want to cut him off?

Are you explaining to him why you are cutting him off? That might help push him towards seeking the help he needs.

I finally realized that interacting with him caused an emotional hangover, making me feel drained, annoyed and bad about myself. I haven't explain yet because he doesn't have a plan or place to stay elsewhere.

 

[stlrams]

It's the hardest thing to do with a sibling. But he's not seeking out therapy, meds or support groups for severe anxiety. :(  He hasn't held down a job in five years and graduated from college eleven years ago.

I feel drained around him trying to sit with his pain and he gets defensive to getting help. 

Know your pain as I have been baby sitting my 57 year old brother who hasnt worked in about 30 years.   He has his masters in education and struggles with depression and drugs.  He also wants no professional help and intentionally sabotages all attempts.  Called me yesterday looking for $50 for car tax and emission testing.  Also needs me to replace his toilet handle.  I feel like it’s a Chinese water drill sometimes that wares me down.