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See, that is where I would differ with you.
I played baseball from t-ball age and made the freshman team in high school. When I was a junior our school won state. I didn't win though because I quit after my freshman year. I quit because I was good enough to make the team, but not good enough to start. Having to do all the work the starters do but sit on the bench sucked and wasn't fun. I quit. I quit because it wasn't fun. Parents had no problem with it. Nor should they. So no I don't believe everyone should get a trophy and yes I speak from experience too. If kids aren't having fun playing a sport, they shouldn't be forced to play it. They shouldn't be forced to compete just for the sake of competing. Let them be kids while they still have a chance. It's adulthood that sucks.
I don't see where shady forced his kid into anything, so I don't know why you would use what he did to support your argument.
Yup. T-ball all-stars, for 6 year olds. Absolutely think that's a waste of time but I digress. My son was standing on third and they were yelling at him from the stands. I see him standing at third crying. Broke my heart, but I walked over there and they stopped. Not a lot class out of adults in youth sports, but that is a whole,other thread.
First of all, it isn't an argument. We are sharing our perspectives.
If a kid starts playing for a team they should finish out that season. Period. Once the season is over then reevaluate.
Shady said his kid was willing to give it another shot. I have no problem with that. They kid made his own decision. It wasn't the parent that made it for him.
I think if you let kids quit something because it gets tough, then you're starting a fire, and sending the wrong message. What happened to suck it up?
I agree with this if the team can't play without him. Such as they wouldn't have enough players to field a legal team. That's a #### move as it really screws the rest of the team. But if that's not the circumstances, then no I don't have problem if a kid wants to quit midseason. In many circumstance it probably makes things easier for the coach when the kid quits.
There are no absolutes in parenting.
One thing to quit karate, another thing to quit a team sport. Basketball is a team sport. Usually short rosters.
He's legally required to go to school, so a parent doesn't have a choice there. Beyond that, don't force kids to go to church or learn piano if they don't want to. Especially church. This country suffers from indoctrination as it is.
And you remind me that we have an entire generation who received participation trophies.
So what happens when 3 other kids also quit the basketball team mid-season? Or is OK for just yours to quit? Just forfeit?
As I said before, if the team can't field a legal team if they quit, then they need to stick it out. It's **** move to leave a team unable to play without you.
cant be serious my boys are 5 and 6 and I coach them in both baseball and soccer. No parent is booing at this age
I mean, yeah, if you want to raise a winner this is what you do.
Come on, you can't seriously think the same criteria applies to all of these. Each is a different scenario.
Be patient we will, unless of course we have a war, then there's no way we will win. No safe places on the battle field and not everyone gets a trophy. I think you need to invest in starting a business for all of the people who will need "safe places". There has to be a market for that.
I don't get the participation trophy outrage. And I agree that Gen X are the ones that gave all of us Millennials trophies. I coach a tee ball team and at the end of last year, the league provided trophies to all the teams. Those kids were so excited to get trophies (the 1st they've ever received for most of them). I don't think any of them are going to go on and be failures in life because they received a participation trophy in tee ball.
I already take care of my mother (boomers) and grandparents (greatest gen) because...ya know, boomers.
I'm guessing if he is terrified of catching the ball being passed to him, he's not a natural born rebounder.
This is a great place to start, teaches that you can contribute without handling the ball a ton. Rebounding and defense are very important, someone has to do the dirty work.
Then start with playing Defense
seen kids blossom on my sons team that had no clue to start with. They started by playing great defense, confidence grows, they get a rebound here and there and start to enjoy it more and more.
I've coached a long time. I've seen a lot, but definitely not everything. If you've seen that, cool. I have seen kids start out hopeless, and turn into decent players. I have not yet seen (but am not claiming it doesn't exist) kids playing only because they were forced to by their parents, turn into good player who love the game. I have seen them turn into adequate players who are indifferent towards the game.Then start with playing Defense
Did you tell your mom you can't wait until all the boomer's die, because you know, Generation Xer's?
I think this is where there is a big difference in my views to yours. Not every person part of the TEAM can be starters or play the majority of minutes. People on the bench are just as important as the starters and have a particular job to do for the team. These sports we are discussing are team sports and the fact that you didn't like sitting the bench and quit after the season tells me a lot about your view of team sports and why you think it is ok to quit mid season.
Of course they won't be failures in life because of that.
