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Your dermatologist removes a suspicious mole. The biopsy will take 2-3 weeks. To her, it looks cance

  • "It's probably nothing but I have to get it checked out. I wouldn't worry about it."

    Votes: 26 44.1%

  • "It has all the telltale signs of cancer. Best case, it's merely precancerous."

    Votes: 33 55.9%
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    59
If she thinks it's cancerous I want to know. I always prefer more info than less. Well, except for my daughters' sex lives.

 
Definitely going with less information. Had a doctor run a white blood cell count on me recently that she subtly lied about. Thanks, doc!

 
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There is something about being honest.  Word it well, but don't tell someone it's probably nothing when you can see it's most likely not. I would have fired my doc if she went that route when giving me the bad news.

 
I'd prefer the 3rd option of simply "I need to get this checked out".  I don't want to be led to believe its nothing, but I also don't  want to know that its most likely cancerous until its definitive.  

 
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NutterButter said:
I'd prefer the 3rd option of simply "I need to get this checked out".  I don't want to be led to believe its nothing, but I also don't  want to know that its most likely cancerous until its definitive.  
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Maybe it's a guy thing but I can't imagine walking out from the biopsy without asking what the doc thinks, esp one with 35 years of doing nothing but like the guy I had. When he drew blood from the mass, he knew it wasn't looking good.

 
If a doctor is suspicious I would prefer they tell me of their suspicion but do so in a manner that left room for hope.  Obviously I couldn't start a plan for treatment until it was confirmed, but it would remove the torment of being oblivious to a potential outcome.  Unless it is a new doctor, they have seen enough things to have a pretty good guess what is going on even before the biopsy is completed.

 
BowieMercs said:
If you can find a doc with the stones to tell you bad news, you are ahead of the game.
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I agree with this but if the damn thing is gonna take 2-3 weeks that is an eternity.  Probably best if the Doctor just says I'm taking a biopsy, just to rule out cancer.  Telling him it looks like cancer to her is :bs: IMO, I mean I'm assuming she is neither an oncologist or a pathologist.  Stay in your lane, take the culture and tell the dude she'll let him know if anything comes up. 

 
Doctor Detroit said:
I agree with this but if the damn thing is gonna take 2-3 weeks that is an eternity.  Probably best if the Doctor just says I'm taking a biopsy, just to rule out cancer.  Telling him it looks like cancer to her is :bs: IMO, I mean I'm assuming she is neither an oncologist or a pathologist.  Stay in your lane, take the culture and tell the dude she'll let him know if anything comes up. 
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So I was told one Monday morning by my doc that I had acute bronchitis, "it's going around, but I want you to go to Irvine Center and have some blood tests run."     Two hours later the results came in and I had two clots in my lung and about a hundred in my right leg.  A few weeks later, we talked about this and he said they were very worried I'd make it when  he sent me off.

 
Getzlaf15 said:
Doctor Detroit said:
I agree with this but if the damn thing is gonna take 2-3 weeks that is an eternity.  Probably best if the Doctor just says I'm taking a biopsy, just to rule out cancer.  Telling him it looks like cancer to her is :bs: IMO, I mean I'm assuming she is neither an oncologist or a pathologist.  Stay in your lane, take the culture and tell the dude she'll let him know if anything comes up. 
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So I was told one Monday morning by my doc that I had acute bronchitis, "it's going around, but I want you to go to Irvine Center and have some blood tests run."     Two hours later the results came in and I had two clots in my lung and about a hundred in my right leg.  A few weeks later, we talked about this and he said they were very worried I'd make it when  he sent me off.
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Holy #### man.  :shock:

 
Ignoramus said:
Why?  What are you going to do differently while waiting those 2-3 weeks (other than stress out more)?
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My sister died from inoperable lung cancer. After several rounds of chemo, she complained about shoulder pain. I was in his office with her when he told her "its probably just bursitis, you need to focus on getting well". False hope is not helpful. Needless to say that was the last visit to THAT moron.

A friend was diagnosed with a brain tumor & the doctor told him he had less than a month to live. He died 3 weeks later but at least he & his family had time to say goodbye & get things in order.  Sure glad the doc had cajones.

I have more stories like this that I wont go into.

 
Doctor Detroit said:
I agree with this but if the damn thing is gonna take 2-3 weeks that is an eternity.  Probably best if the Doctor just says I'm taking a biopsy, just to rule out cancer.  Telling him it looks like cancer to her is :bs: IMO, I mean I'm assuming she is neither an oncologist or a pathologist.  Stay in your lane, take the culture and tell the dude she'll let him know if anything comes up. 
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This is where I am. It's either cancer or it's not, so nothing she tells me changes the outcome. Not unethical at all to let me have some peace of mind while I wait. They say "not knowing is the worst" -- actually this is most true when you're told essentially you probably have cancer. 

 
BowieMercs said:
My sister died from inoperable lung cancer. After several rounds of chemo, she complained about shoulder pain. I was in his office with her when he told her "its probably just bursitis, you need to focus on getting well". False hope is not helpful. Needless to say that was the last visit to THAT moron.

A friend was diagnosed with a brain tumor & the doctor told him he had less than a month to live. He died 3 weeks later but at least he & his family had time to say goodbye & get things in order.  Sure glad the doc had cajones.

I have more stories like this that I wont go into.
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Yeah, hiding actual information from a patient to save their feelings is malpractice imo. 

 
Right, but a suspicious mole isn't typically critically terminal.  Those scenarios are very different from the one presented.

 
McGarnicle said:
You underestimate my wife's Googling prowess. It's already metastasized to the lymph nodes and it's untreatable.
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We must be married to the same woman.  Our one-year-old has been cupping his ear recently (he's had several ear infections) so she diagnosed him with Autism.

I told her to stay away from www.stupidmoms.com

 
When my wife's nieces and nephews come to visit, she checks them in the middle of the night to make sure they're still breathing. A possible cancerous mole = go on Legal Zoom, prepare your will, tell your family how much you love them.

 
I'm going to do my best to forget about it until I know for sure so I'd rather be told it's probably nothing.

 
Doctor Detroit said:
Holy #### man.  :shock:
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Also on this topic, my son had three open heart surgeries when he was one. The first one,  they said 95%, second one,,95%, and third one 50%.  About three years later on a check up,  he was doing very well,  and they felt safe to tell us that when they tell you 50%, they really mean 10%.  He turns 20 in a few months.  

 
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Ignoramus said:
Why?  What are you going to do differently while waiting those 2-3 weeks (other than stress out more)?
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I would be better prepared mentally when the "real" news came. I'm at the point where I understand one day I'm going to get some bad doctor news. I'm OK with that. Just tell me what's going on and let me get my mind straight about it.

 
Ignoramus said:
Why?  What are you going to do differently while waiting those 2-3 weeks (other than stress out more)?
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Start researching. I learned much more from breastcancer.org than I did from any doc. Your ahead of the game at the very least if you are told it looks suspicious.  If I'm in the clear then I just come out informed. Like I said, if my doc tells me she doesn't think it's anything when indeed she really thinks it is, what else may she be downplaying down the line. Stakes are too high to deal with such a doc. Trust and honesty, esp with something like cancer.

 
kutta said:
I would be better prepared mentally when the "real" news came. I'm at the point where I understand one day I'm going to get some bad doctor news. I'm OK with that. Just tell me what's going on and let me get my mind straight about it.
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