Ministry of Pain
Footballguy
I understand this thread could go the wrong way quickly but I wanted to share our story of something that likely is impacting many of you
We cannot and will not discuss politics in here, this is not the blame game or pointing fingers, that will not be tolerated as requested by @Joe Bryant
-My son married into a family that had/has very little money or resources to experience many of the things most of us take for granted
My daughter-n-law's older sister has 3 beautiful children (9-5-3yrs old) and one on the way.
She and her husband own a small mobile car cleaning business and she stays home with the kids, cooks and cleans, all that
After all the business expenses and overhead, the amount of money they actually make puts them on food stamps which they happily accept and use to help feed these beautiful children
-Again, I want to reiterate there is no judgement here, I'm not debating whether they should actually receive this or not...but the fact is they now are down a critical resource
What do we do about it inside of the family because my son, his wife and my new granddaughter are way ahead of the rest. They own a home, they both have good jobs for being in their mid-20s
My daughter in law gets to work at home and is avoiding day care, gets to be with my 4 month old granddaughter during the day until my son gets home
Not everyone gets to enjoy that but it's hard work trying to look after a 4 month old and take calls all day at home
I'm setting this up because we don't loan or give money to most folks, especially family because it never comes back to us.
We will feed you however, we will put clothes on you, we will not let you sleep on the street, we will not let you put any of the children in any harmful situations
With that in mind, we have never been turned down when we invite the in laws with the kids over for a meal, not once have they ever said "We're good!"
So we already are preparing to cook larger meals and have these folks over more often to try and ease the burden
I'm mostly speaking about my son and daughter in law when they invite her sister and all the kids over for a meal
-I know some will think I have some type of motive for writing this but honestly I know some of you do a lot more for those in need and I just wanted a thread where we could sound off
In this thread, we are not trying to push for the government to open or stay closed, we are simply dealing with the reality of certain family members that are less fortunate
Truth be told, if there weren't 3-4 children already, we/ME might not have quite the open hearts or the open kitchen.
When I became a grandfather a few months ago I accepted that I would be a pseudo-Granddad to the others
There's not any other grandfathers around in this family, I'm the only one that put in an application
The oldest is 9 years old and she just kicked her 1st soccer goal this past weekend. The 9 yr old was at my daughter-in-laws baby shower and we're coloring together at the kids table and I whisper out to her and the others that I'm getting nervous about the birth of my grandchild and the 9 year old says "What are you nervous about?" and I said "I'm afraid I won't be a good grandfather" and she hugged me and told me I was going to do great.
Charity starts at home, I've heard this before but didn't understand the meaning like I do right now
You can shake your fists, you can engage in dialogue that likely won't solve anything or you can jump in and you can help rather than make things worse
I'm asking you to join me and I bet many of you don't need to look far. If it makes you feel better, go volunteer at a soup kitchen, I'm sure many will be overloaded
There are so many ways you can get involved and help by giving the gift of yourself or your time.
Cheers!
We cannot and will not discuss politics in here, this is not the blame game or pointing fingers, that will not be tolerated as requested by @Joe Bryant
-My son married into a family that had/has very little money or resources to experience many of the things most of us take for granted
My daughter-n-law's older sister has 3 beautiful children (9-5-3yrs old) and one on the way.
She and her husband own a small mobile car cleaning business and she stays home with the kids, cooks and cleans, all that
After all the business expenses and overhead, the amount of money they actually make puts them on food stamps which they happily accept and use to help feed these beautiful children
-Again, I want to reiterate there is no judgement here, I'm not debating whether they should actually receive this or not...but the fact is they now are down a critical resource
What do we do about it inside of the family because my son, his wife and my new granddaughter are way ahead of the rest. They own a home, they both have good jobs for being in their mid-20s
My daughter in law gets to work at home and is avoiding day care, gets to be with my 4 month old granddaughter during the day until my son gets home
Not everyone gets to enjoy that but it's hard work trying to look after a 4 month old and take calls all day at home
I'm setting this up because we don't loan or give money to most folks, especially family because it never comes back to us.
We will feed you however, we will put clothes on you, we will not let you sleep on the street, we will not let you put any of the children in any harmful situations
With that in mind, we have never been turned down when we invite the in laws with the kids over for a meal, not once have they ever said "We're good!"
So we already are preparing to cook larger meals and have these folks over more often to try and ease the burden
I'm mostly speaking about my son and daughter in law when they invite her sister and all the kids over for a meal
-I know some will think I have some type of motive for writing this but honestly I know some of you do a lot more for those in need and I just wanted a thread where we could sound off
In this thread, we are not trying to push for the government to open or stay closed, we are simply dealing with the reality of certain family members that are less fortunate
Truth be told, if there weren't 3-4 children already, we/ME might not have quite the open hearts or the open kitchen.
When I became a grandfather a few months ago I accepted that I would be a pseudo-Granddad to the others
There's not any other grandfathers around in this family, I'm the only one that put in an application
The oldest is 9 years old and she just kicked her 1st soccer goal this past weekend. The 9 yr old was at my daughter-in-laws baby shower and we're coloring together at the kids table and I whisper out to her and the others that I'm getting nervous about the birth of my grandchild and the 9 year old says "What are you nervous about?" and I said "I'm afraid I won't be a good grandfather" and she hugged me and told me I was going to do great.
Charity starts at home, I've heard this before but didn't understand the meaning like I do right now
You can shake your fists, you can engage in dialogue that likely won't solve anything or you can jump in and you can help rather than make things worse
I'm asking you to join me and I bet many of you don't need to look far. If it makes you feel better, go volunteer at a soup kitchen, I'm sure many will be overloaded
There are so many ways you can get involved and help by giving the gift of yourself or your time.
Cheers!
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