So is being bisexual a lifestyle preference or something that a bisexual person was born with?Is somebody that turns out to be attracted to pubescent guys or girls who may be half their age, are that way as a choice of lifestyle or born that way?it seems you may be implying the bold here for polygamists but I assume you feel differently about homosexuality, bisexuality,
hebephilia, &
ephebophilia?
I think it's pretty clear that people don't (and can't) choose whom they're sexually attracted to. (Think about how much easier your life would be if you could choose to be attracted to ugly people instead of pretty people. But you can't.)Whether you're bisexual, or heterosexual, or homosexual, or a pedophile, or a hebephile, or whatever, you likely didn't choose to be. You also can't choose to stop being attracted to other women just because you're married. We're pretty much all bigamists in spirit, at least in that respect.For me, the question of whether someone should act on his sexual urges has nothing to do with whether those urges are freely chosen. Instead, it depends on whether acting on those urges will harm someone else, or violate someone else's rights.That's why practicing homosexuals are perfectly fine in my book, but practicing pedophiles are not. (To pick two easy examples.)