My son has a crazy gf. what to do? (1 Viewer)

[msudaisy26]

i hope that you have a nice lilfe as well and that it involves villages and tracks ahead take that to the bank

SWC, killing trolls with kindness since 2005 and you can always take that to the bank. 

 

[NeverEnough]

You have to tell the school counselor at the very least.

 

[SWC]

i hope that you have a nice lilfe as well and that it involves villages and tracks ahead take that to the bank

SWC, killing trolls with kindness since 2005 and you can always take that to the bank. 

i just really hope that brohan takes up model railroading he is very angry in a lot of threads and with the name calling and whatnot but i do not think that it is anything that a little n scale and a sweet river scene could not fix take that to the bank brochacharino

 

[Jayrod]

How does someone get into an iFight with SWC?  That doesn't even make sense.

 

[Keerock]

How does someone get into an iFight with SWC?  That doesn't even make sense.

Only while he blocks both drive-in lanes when he's taking it to the bank...

(actually, that'd be the right way to do it, but I couldn't think of another bank reference  )

 

[msudaisy26]

How does someone get into an iFight with SWC?  That doesn't even make sense.

You have to be the angriest of the angry to get mad and fight with SWC.

 

[Prince Myshkin]

did people miss the part in this scenario where CPS WAS NOT CALLED?  the police did a wellness check or whatever its called.  she probably has already talked to a counselor today.  It isn't like I posted this info on FB for everyone to know.

It varies state to state, so I can't say this for sure, but CPS was almost certainly called - either by the school or by the police.  They should have at least made a reference in their system noting the police check just in case another event happens in the future with the same kid. 

Sounds like you handled this well and it worked out as good as it possibly could have all the way around.

 

[Kraft...]

We called one of the councilors in the Guidance department this morning because of some self harm type things a girl has been saying to my son on snap chat. He was very distraught about not being able to help her, we told him he's only a 6th grader and not capable of giving her the help she needs. The Girl told him not to tell anyone but fortunately he felt comfortable enough to tell us. Wife spoke to the councilor and got the impression that they were familiar with this girl, hopefully she gets the help she needs. We've never met the girl or her parents BTW. It's tough because this is really messing with my son. We don't think this is a good relationship for him to continue with and want him to stop comunication but he feels like it's his fault that he can't help her. Breaks my heart to see him struggle with this at 12 years old  He should be out playing basketball and goofing of with his friends instead of having to deal with this heavy stuff. 

 

[Joe Summer]

We called one of the councilors in the Guidance department this morning because of some self harm type things a girl has been saying to my son on snap chat. He was very distraught about not being able to help her, we told him he's only a 6th grader and not capable of giving her the help she needs. The Girl told him not to tell anyone but fortunately he felt comfortable enough to tell us. Wife spoke to the councilor and got the impression that they were familiar with this girl, hopefully she gets the help she needs. We've never met the girl or her parents BTW. It's tough because this is really messing with my son. We don't think this is a good relationship for him to continue with and want him to stop comunication but he feels like it's his fault that he can't help her. Breaks my heart to see him struggle with this at 12 years old He should be out playing basketball and goofing of with his friends instead of having to deal with this heavy stuff.

Your son should not be communicating with this girl. Block her Snapchat, take away his phone, whatever you have to do. It's not fair to him to have to carry this burden.

 

[Kraft...]

Your son should not be communicating with this girl. Block her Snapchat, take away his phone, whatever you have to do. It's not fair to him to have to carry this burden.

 She has been blocked and we took his phone last night after our talk. She keeps saying he is the only person she can talk to so thats messing with him. We keep telling him he can't give her the help she needs, she needs professional adults to help her. 

 

[ChiefD]

We called one of the councilors in the Guidance department this morning because of some self harm type things a girl has been saying to my son on snap chat. He was very distraught about not being able to help her, we told him he's only a 6th grader and not capable of giving her the help she needs. The Girl told him not to tell anyone but fortunately he felt comfortable enough to tell us. Wife spoke to the councilor and got the impression that they were familiar with this girl, hopefully she gets the help she needs. We've never met the girl or her parents BTW. It's tough because this is really messing with my son. We don't think this is a good relationship for him to continue with and want him to stop comunication but he feels like it's his fault that he can't help her. Breaks my heart to see him struggle with this at 12 years old  He should be out playing basketball and goofing of with his friends instead of having to deal with this heavy stuff. 

Jeez, that sucks. 

My wife and I have been struggling with the whole phone thing, because we know this opens up a whole new world. I think every kid in his 6th grade class has one except him. And our plan is not to give him one for another year or two.

Hearing stories like this makes me never want to give him one. Not saying that is the cause - I know kids will talk about things whether they have phones or not. Just sucks your boy has to deal with this. 

 

[Joe Summer]

She has been blocked and we took his phone last night after our talk. She keeps saying he is the only person she can talk to so thats messing with him. We keep telling him he can't give her the help she needs, she needs professional adults to help her.

Your son is being manipulated. Not that I blame the girl, because she probably doesn't understand how her behavior is affecting your son. But your son is far too young to recognize the signs of manipulative behavior, nor is he capable of properly processing and dealing with it. That's why it's so unfair to him. Someone is putting a burden on his shoulders, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. But the truth is that it's not his burden to bear, and he shouldn't have to deal with it at all.

 

[Kraft...]

Your son is being manipulated. Not that I blame the girl, because she probably doesn't understand how her behavior is affecting your son. But your son is far too young to recognize the signs of manipulative behavior, nor is he capable of properly processing and dealing with it. That's why it's so unfair to him. Someone is putting a burden on his shoulders, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. But the truth is that it's not his burden to bear, and he shouldn't have to deal with it at all.

Totally agree, we have tried to explain that to him but as you said he just can't process it. He's a very sweet, loyal, caring kid so he's a target for this type of stuff. We talk a lot about being a good friend and what makes a good friend. What we are telling him here seems counteractive to that, he just doesn't understand the manipulation aspect. She's not being a good friend by backing him into a corner like this. I'm thankful that he was able to talk to us about it at least. 

 

[DallasDMac]

Totally agree, we have tried to explain that to him but as you said he just can't process it. He's a very sweet, loyal, caring kid so he's a target for this type of stuff. We talk a lot about being a good friend and what makes a good friend. What we are telling him here seems counteractive to that, he just doesn't understand the manipulation aspect. She's not being a good friend by backing him into a corner like this. I'm thankful that he was able to talk to us about it at least. 

Yep, it's great you've built that relationship with him. He trusted you enough to bring the issue to you. That's they way it should be.