What would you do? (1 Viewer)

[Cjw_55106]

We have a small team here at work. Just four of us, plus the boss. We are actually down to three, due to a lady that retired in March. Well, she invited two of us, plus the boss out to lunch next week (as well as a former boss who retired in January). She didnt invite the third lady. Truth be told, the third lady is a ##### and has zero tact when dealing with people. By all accounts, she has no friends and for many years, she rarely even talked to her own kids, who I would say are in their late 30s. That being said, this lunch situation doesnt sit well with me. The retiree and the third lady werent friends, but they did interact daily and were cordial enough, sometimes talking about life outside of work. I'm kind of feeling weird about this as the three of us will get up and leave next week and it will be obvious we are going to lunch together, without inviting her.

Im not going to invite her myself as I dont feel that its my place to do so. What would you do? I think my options come down to the following:

Do nothing. I didnt set up the lunch and Im under no obligation to smooth anything over.

Tell the third lady about it ahead of time and indicate I dont know why the retired lady chose not to invite her.

Ask the retiree to invite her. Its 50/50 on whether would accept anyways.

I know the FBG machoism/internet response is to say #### her, she acts like a #####, she can deal with the consequences. Still, this is an actual person we are dealing with.

 

[Insein]

Read the first and last paragraph. You made the right decision to #### her.

 

[coyote5]

Jesus, this poor lady retires and she still can't get away from that tactless shrew? She can invite and not invite whoever the #### she wants to her lunch. If you're not comfortable with it, don't attend yourself in protest. Maybe put a call in to Gary Pinkel for backup.

 

[Ignoramus]

Don't be a ninny. She didn't invite the people she doesn't like. Somehow you made the cut.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

#### her

 

[Jayrod]

I once was the only person not invited to a co-workers birthday lunch in a staff of like 8.

I was cool with it, because that chick was a grade A beyotch who had a problem with me because I reminded her of her ex-boyfriend.

It was kind of funny and awkward, but I was totally fine with it. It was her day and she didn't want me there. No problem.

 

[Cjw_55106]

Don't be a ninny. She didn't invite the people she doesn't like. Somehow you made the cut.

Everyone likes me.

 

[Arizona Ron]

Jesus, this poor lady retires and she still can't get away from that tactless shrew? She can invite and not invite whoever the #### she wants to her lunch. If you're not comfortable with it, don't attend yourself in protest. Maybe put a call in to Gary Pinkel for backup.

 

[Bucky86]

The FFA is getting soft.

 

[dozer]

Invite the third lady yourself, then force them to make up. They will find that they are not so different after all, and probably become friends for life.

 

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Jesus, this poor lady retires and she still can't get away from that tactless shrew? She can invite and not invite whoever the #### she wants to her lunch. If you're not comfortable with it, don't attend yourself in protest. Maybe put a call in to Gary Pinkel for backup.

 

[fantasycurse42]

You should retire too, then you won't feel awkward around this lady.

 

[Cjw_55106]

You should retire too, then you won't feel awkward around this lady.

I'll consider that in about 20 years.

She'll probably be dead by then.