If the Chargers win twice (@ Bengals, @ Broncos), and the Jets lose to the Bills, the Jets miss.

I can't personally say that you're wrong, since I haven't looked at the standings/tiebreakers, but FWIW they've been saying on TV all day that the Jets would (and just did) clinch a playoff spot with a Jacksonville loss.
Well I trusted the Yahoo playoff scenario generator. In the event that the Chargers and Jets tie for the wild card at 10-6, we go to tiebreakers.
head2head: n/a
AFC record: both with 4 losses
common games - minimum of four:
Jets 1-0 (beat the Broncos)
Chargers 0-1 (lost to the Patriots)
Not enough common games.
Strength of victory:
Jets: 12+7+4+5+3+4+5+5+3+11=59 wins
Chargers: 8+5+6+5+3+8+9+5+3+3=55 wins
I'm not sure why the NFL would call this in favor of the Jets. Only a difference of 4 wins in strength of victory. I feel certain they could make that up in one week plus the games currently going on. But I will say Yahoo isn't quite correct. I think its still up in the air how strength of victory would play out.
http://www.nfl.com/standings/tiebreakingprocedures