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Counterpoint: my wife left work to raise kids, and the kids still ended up having issues.Take it with a grain of salt though as my wife never stopped working and my son has issues lol
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Counterpoint: my wife left work to raise kids, and the kids still ended up having issues.Take it with a grain of salt though as my wife never stopped working and my son has issues lol
My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
Jesus. Two ounces goes a long way.
Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
Jesus. Two ounces goes a long way.
My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
Jesus. Two ounces goes a long way.
Though, your notebook isn't so stellar (all four are adopted).
Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
The lesson to be learned here is that, by way of a certain reproductive fluid, quantity does not always equal quality!My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
Jesus. Two ounces goes a long way.
Though, your notebook isn't so stellar (all four are adopted).
Yeah, I couldn’t resist.
The lesson to be learned here is that, by way of a certain reproductive fluid, quantity does not always equal quality!My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).I easily work >65 hours on a regular week. These hours are filled with stressful, very adult things that require lengthy focus. I'm incredibly drained at the end of each day.What does the wife do all day at home? I know there's some work trying to get a HS sophomore into Harvard and an 11 year old into the Ford Modeling agency, but that can't be a full time occupation at home, can it?
I would go out of my ever loving mind if I stayed at home all day every day. I kindly told my boss to STFU when he offered me a WFH option during Covid. I get that everybody is different, but I'd go insane being housebound.
The corollary to that is if she's not sitting at home all day every day while the kids are in school and Flop is designing million dollar foyers, what DOES she do? If she's not earning, is she spending? Gym membership? Tanning? Coffee? Just asking, not accusing. Again, I would go crazy being home all day but I suffer from acute cabin fever. I'd have to do something and usually that something involves spending at least a little money (disc golf is free, but gas to get there ain't).
I have so many questions about this.
My wife, a stay at home mom, works way harder and more hours than I do.
Yeah, but your kids are still little, right? And I think the only person with more kids than you is the person typing, no?
Jesus. Two ounces goes a long way.
Though, your notebook isn't so stellar (all four are adopted).
Yeah, I couldn’t resist.
Have only read the first and last 2 pages, but have you considered offering the landlord some of your professional services in exchange for keeping the rent down (or cheaper even, depending on if he has more work)? Surely he's interested in updating some of his properties (like what you've done to yours) to increase their value. Maybe he'd be willing to work out some sort of deal.
Good luck GB EF.
I dumped all my kids legos on a buddy. Who like you, had a whole nother round of kids. He hates me a little now.Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
We have some very friendly neighbors who offered to give us all their old Legos FREE since their kids were grown and I'm still 898 years from retirement with my kids.....I politely declined by saying I'd rather they just give me some poisonous snakes or Ebola instead.
I dumped all my kids legos on a buddy. Who like you, had a whole nother round of kids. He hates me a little now.Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
We have some very friendly neighbors who offered to give us all their old Legos FREE since their kids were grown and I'm still 898 years from retirement with my kids.....I politely declined by saying I'd rather they just give me some poisonous snakes or Ebola instead.
I can't speak to the post-Covid dynamics, but I think the basic arithmetic of NYC (and Manhattan in particular) will likely remain unchanged no matter what else happens: It's an island with a fixed amount of square footage, and there will always be people looking to move there. Hence prices will continue going up.NYC real estate is just insane, and I'm sure Covid has made it even more insane. Good luck!
So what is going on there? I would have thought a bunch of people moved out during the pandemic when they were working remotely and chosen to never move back. I guess that is not the case?
I don't normally reply to you and i didn't really read all your words, but i wanted to be clear that i was asking a genuine question here. I thought the same thing, that she should find some job that is off the books, but i really have no idea on where to search for such a thing. I was trying to gain some insight into an area where i have no experience.You are being intentionally pedantic. It's beneath you.
Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
We have some very friendly neighbors who offered to give us all their old Legos FREE since their kids were grown and I'm still 898 years from retirement with my kids.....I politely declined by saying I'd rather they just give me some poisonous snakes or Ebola instead.
Shark move in December: place the stupid "Elf on a Shelf" on your kids' most annoying toys.I dumped all my kids legos on a buddy. Who like you, had a whole nother round of kids. He hates me a little now.Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
We have some very friendly neighbors who offered to give us all their old Legos FREE since their kids were grown and I'm still 898 years from retirement with my kids.....I politely declined by saying I'd rather they just give me some poisonous snakes or Ebola instead.
I have to put on reading glasses to pick them up now. Whatever my eyes don't find my fat feet will.
I started picking them up with a broom and a dust bin and dumping them in the trash when the twins weren't looking.
Hey, hey...this is a family friendly board, guy.but have you considered offering the landlord some of your professional services in exchange for keeping the rent down
Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
We have some very friendly neighbors who offered to give us all their old Legos FREE since their kids were grown and I'm still 898 years from retirement with my kids.....I politely declined by saying I'd rather they just give me some poisonous snakes or Ebola instead.
Shark move in December: place the stupid "Elf on a Shelf" on your kids' most annoying toys.I dumped all my kids legos on a buddy. Who like you, had a whole nother round of kids. He hates me a little now.Pretty much. And they just recently got into legos, so soon I'll be posting from my podiatrist's office.Are you posting from underneath a pile of plastic toys?My kids are 5, 7, 7, 8 (currently).
We have some very friendly neighbors who offered to give us all their old Legos FREE since their kids were grown and I'm still 898 years from retirement with my kids.....I politely declined by saying I'd rather they just give me some poisonous snakes or Ebola instead.
I have to put on reading glasses to pick them up now. Whatever my eyes don't find my fat feet will.
I started picking them up with a broom and a dust bin and dumping them in the trash when the twins weren't looking.
It's the little victories that keep me going.
I would absolutely recommend against this route. Let’s be objective here. For 20 years—the landlord has very generously charged the OP a huge discount for rent versus market value. Let’s not act like or treat them as if they are some sort of evil people. The odds are that the OP will never find another landlord in his lifetime that has been more generous than the current landlords have been to him and his family over a very long period of time. Threatening to make their lives miserable through the threat of eviction is not cool morally or karmically. You don’t threaten to hurt people that have been more than generous with your family over the course of many years just because they might not be in a position to volunteer the level of generosity that they were once able to. This is a problem that needs to be discussed with the landlord in a loving/appreciative and honest manner imo. My guess is that the landlord will make any concessions that they can if they are approached in a manner that is one of honesty and thankfulness. It’s not their obligation to offer up their property to a tenant for 50% of market value until the end of time. He’s at their mercy and I think his best bet is to honestly tell the landlord that, to thank them for their generosity throughout the years—and then to tell them the very hard position that he’s in—and to see if he can ask or negotiate for some flexibility. The moment you threaten somebody—their reaction is to be defensive. That is counterproductive to the best interest of the OP.You could even hint how difficult it will be to evict you (and that you don't plan on leaving during the school year or at all) - how backed up New York courts are and the fees and costs associated with that.Some good comments above about some of the difficulties they'll face getting and keeping new tenants
After the two (three, really) months pass, you could buy more time by just paying your "normal" rent. They could still move to evict based on the missing 50% increase monies - but once the suit was started all you would owe to cure your default would be that 50% increase money.
This doesn't solve the problem - but buys you more time. Not sure how comfortable you'd be fighting a little "dirty" - but it's an option.
Get a load of this guy and his sane advice…I would absolutely recommend against this route. Let’s be objective here. For 20 years—the landlord has very generously charged the OP a huge discount for rent versus market value. Let’s not act like or treat them as if they are some sort of evil people. The odds are that the OP will never find another landlord in his lifetime that has been more generous than the current landlords have been to him and his family over a very long period of time. Threatening to make their lives miserable through the threat of eviction is not cool morally or karmically. You don’t threaten to hurt people that have been more than generous with your family over the course of many years just because they might not be in a position to volunteer the level of generosity that they were once able to. This is a problem that needs to be discussed with the landlord in a loving/appreciative and honest manner imo. My guess is that the landlord will make any concessions that they can if they are approached in a manner that is one of honesty and thankfulness. It’s not their obligation to offer up their property to a tenant for 50% of market value until the end of time. He’s at their mercy and I think his best bet is to honestly tell the landlord that, to thank them for their generosity throughout the years—and then to tell them the very hard position that he’s in—and to see if he can ask or negotiate for some flexibility. The moment you threaten somebody—their reaction is to be defensive. That is counterproductive to the best interest of the OP.You could even hint how difficult it will be to evict you (and that you don't plan on leaving during the school year or at all) - how backed up New York courts are and the fees and costs associated with that.Some good comments above about some of the difficulties they'll face getting and keeping new tenants
After the two (three, really) months pass, you could buy more time by just paying your "normal" rent. They could still move to evict based on the missing 50% increase monies - but once the suit was started all you would owe to cure your default would be that 50% increase money.
This doesn't solve the problem - but buys you more time. Not sure how comfortable you'd be fighting a little "dirty" - but it's an option.
Yeah, I do agree. I was just trying to give him options if desperate- but admittedly it’s not the way to live.I would absolutely recommend against this route. Let’s be objective here. For 20 years—the landlord has very generously charged the OP a huge discount for rent versus market value. Let’s not act like or treat them as if they are some sort of evil people. The odds are that the OP will never find another landlord in his lifetime that has been more generous than the current landlords have been to him and his family over a very long period of time. Threatening to make their lives miserable through the threat of eviction is not cool morally or karmically. You don’t threaten to hurt people that have been more than generous with your family over the course of many years just because they might not be in a position to volunteer the level of generosity that they were once able to. This is a problem that needs to be discussed with the landlord in a loving/appreciative and honest manner imo. My guess is that the landlord will make any concessions that they can if they are approached in a manner that is one of honesty and thankfulness. It’s not their obligation to offer up their property to a tenant for 50% of market value until the end of time. He’s at their mercy and I think his best bet is to honestly tell the landlord that, to thank them for their generosity throughout the years—and then to tell them the very hard position that he’s in—and to see if he can ask or negotiate for some flexibility. The moment you threaten somebody—their reaction is to be defensive. That is counterproductive to the best interest of the OP.You could even hint how difficult it will be to evict you (and that you don't plan on leaving during the school year or at all) - how backed up New York courts are and the fees and costs associated with that.Some good comments above about some of the difficulties they'll face getting and keeping new tenants
After the two (three, really) months pass, you could buy more time by just paying your "normal" rent. They could still move to evict based on the missing 50% increase monies - but once the suit was started all you would owe to cure your default would be that 50% increase money.
This doesn't solve the problem - but buys you more time. Not sure how comfortable you'd be fighting a little "dirty" - but it's an option.
Shocked by this too. Cali has a 9% cap.Im sure you have looked into it but kind of surprised that NYC doesnt have better rent control laws. Perhaps that's the case but still surprising.
10% where I am, in Oakland. Feel like most cities do a lot with tenants rights so weird NYC does notShocked by this too. Cali has a 9% cap.Im sure you have looked into it but kind of surprised that NYC doesnt have better rent control laws. Perhaps that's the case but still surprising.
Why are you trashing his marriage?!?!i know one architect here in Baltimore and he's getting into design + build and owner/investor advising. It's there another field that's adjacent to the one where you're an expert and can offer advising services?
Could your wife start a side hustle of advising other parents about how to get their kids into elite NYC schools?
this is gonna really get you...some of the legos i gave him were mine as a kid. :boatloads: :mansion:All you guys getting rid of legos and not taking peoples legos and throwing away legos:
These things are GOLD people. Hang onto them and sell them. Trust me on this one. If anyone ever offers me free legos I’m all over them.
There’s certain buildings or sections that are rent controlled.Im sure you have looked into it but kind of surprised that NYC doesnt have better rent control laws. Perhaps that's the case but still surprising.
Sorry to hear this dude. Relocating is never fun.Fml.
NYC. Just got the email for the landlord. Been in this spot 20+ years, through a fire and hurricane Sandy. Kids born and raised in this apt and immersed in their lives here. I can barely afford it as it is, and now won't be able to afford anything anywhere remotely near, for them or for me.
We're ****ed.
My work situation already is a hellhole rife with daily stress, long hours, not enough pay, and not doing what I'm best at and have 25 years experience with.
I'm about to implode.
Hope your Wednesday is going better than mine.
Good suggestion but be careful. That 90 Day Fiancé woman who made a lot of money selling those ended up in the hospital.Anyone recommending OF is horrible. Everyone knows the real money is in selling jarred farts.
Good suggestion but be careful. That 90 Day Fiancé woman who made a lot of money selling those ended up in the hospital.Anyone recommending OF is horrible. Everyone knows the real money is in selling jarred farts.
Our entire community is suffering through what you are experiencing right now God bless.
Uh, I'm also having landlord issues......TIA.Let me know if you need anything (including if you want someone to buy you a beer or two and watch a soccer game with).
What's stopping Floppo right now from constantly and relentlessly working on his interview skills to be the best interview anyone has ever seen? What's stopping him from maximizing his current aesthetics and overall health to improve his chances? What's stopping him from putting in extra grind to cover all his bases and more to start creating more opportunities? Now his first response would be "You don't know how hard I've worked!" My response to that is you can always work harder, and when you are not outworking everyone else, someone you have to compete with is grinding away to take the opportunities that you want for yourself.
I hear you. But it’s totally valid to question why she won’t step up to to help mitigate the situation.So much this. Unreal. Leave the dudes marriage alone.Hey, bad news fellas, my rent just skyrocketed
Lemme explain what's wrong with your marriage
I hear you. But it’s totally valid to question why she won’t step up to to help mitigate the situation.So much this. Unreal. Leave the dudes marriage alone.Hey, bad news fellas, my rent just skyrocketed
Lemme explain what's wrong with your marriage