I will add a few things, some that has been alluded to a couple times even though it isn't about the original point or the double standard stuff.
Not my board, not my rules, and it can be run however seen fit to run it, but when it comes to the moderation, I would make 3 points
1). Everyone has bad days. Everyone makes bad decisions at times. None of us are perfect. I've seen "good" posters get lengthy timeouts or bans for singular incidents. Now, I know you can't know everyone here, but there's been examples of known good characters here acting out of character, especially when baited by others, having consequences that are harsh. These punishments don't take into account the full situation or history, especially when it's emotionally charged, a nerve is struck, etc. And, the times I've seen it happen, other posters have mentioned things on their behalf yet that gets ignored. I think there's times it's been gotten really wrong.
2. I think the main reason things have been better with the closing of the PSF is that the bad actors that were constantly stirring things up packed up and left. I think they were given way too big a leash when it was clear to almost everyone who was doing what, especially when it spilled over here. We still get it occasionally but not nearly as often. And for some reason, those bad actors would skate the line and not get the consequences they should have.
3. Finally, when posts or threads have gone a certain way requiring moderation, time outs, and bans, I think the manner and tone from those moderating has been less than ideal. Yeah, grown adults should behave better, but talking down to those who don't, especially considering the notion behind point #1 above has almost always rubbed me the wrong way. I think a great rule to follow when posting here (and really anywhere) is to speak and write the way you would if you were standing right in front of them. I've personally tried to do better with that myself over the years here.
And I get that I only see a fraction of what gets moderated or sent and there's probably some bad things that have been directed toward those in charge, but I still think speaking with respect to those that have done wrong would go a long way instead of talking down to them like children.
With all that said, this is a great place with some great people with whom I've made some true friendships and had life changing impacts as a result, so I'll always be thankful for that here.