I talked with the PA on the phone Sunday and have a date with her set up for Thursday night so hopefully that goes better. Just a low key meeting where we eat some ice cream and go for a stroll. Looking forward to it...
This date was okay. She wasn't real talkative and when she did talk I found out she had just gotten out of her divorce and had been cheated on and I was her first date since. She was pretty messed up emotionally. I decided to stay far away from that mess so I didn't go out with her again.Meeting an attorney tonight for a quick beer before the Detroit Tigers game tonight. Set it up a week ago but she keeps sending me messages about it everyday so she seems real high maintenance. Should be interesting.
Trying to set up another date with a cute, blonde teacher that I am at the email stage with right now (seems like there are a ton of teachers and nurses on eharmony for some reason). Never dated a blonde before so I am intrigued. I will say though that she keeps talking about all the degrees she has and how she needs a man with intellect but she misspells a ton of words whenever she writes a message.
Good thing she is a teacher, huh?
Met with the high maintenance attorney before the Detroit Tigers game. She had her two kids with her which she never mentioned anything about to be beforehand. It was odd introducing myself to her and then have her 5 and 8 year old kids start blurting out questions like "who is he?" I did some quick chit chat over a beer and got the heck out of there in about 10 minutes. Just told her it looked like she was busy and didn't want to impose on her day, glad we were able to meet, enjoy the game, and then ran away. A day later she somehow figures out who I am and friend requests me on FB. I ignore the request. She then sends me a pissy email (somehow she found my work email online - probably from my profile on my law firm's website after figuring out my name) two days later making a big deal about why I didn't accept her request. Told her I just met her and that I don't just friend people I just met and don't take it personally. She still made a big deal out of it so I used that as an opening to just say she seemed to be real confrontational over non-issues and that it was best we don't talk anymore if she was going to have such an attitude with me. That ended that.
In the meantime, I went out on a date with a teacher. She is 32, good looking, and a blonde - which I have never dated before. Divorced with 3 kids though. In her hey day before she had kids I bet she was a complete knockout. She runs and is physically active with a nice rack and good body so I figured what the heck might as well meet up with her. Ended up doing mini golf, and then headed out for a dinner since things were going well. Talked a ton and got along very well. After dinner we hung out a local bar for a few more drinks. Drove her back to her car since it was still at the restaurant. Made out with her for a bit in the car before she left. Scheduled another date for this past Friday.
Picked her up at her place and took her to the driving range this time - she really likes golf so I told her we'd have some fun at the range and just talk some more. After that we went to dinner and drinks. Ended up dropping her off at her place and we made out some more in the car. She then asks if I want to go inside for some wine. Uh, sure no problem. End up talking to her for about 10 minutes on the couch before we start making out again. Put down our wine glasses at that point and start going at it on the couch. Everything comes off at that point except for our shorts. At that point I get the pleasant surprise of finding out that she had a boob job and is now sporting 36DDD's. I guess I can knock off being able to experience fun time with a gal who had a boob job off the bucket list now. Anyway, we go at it on the couch for a while and then she says she wants to stop for a bit so we get back to drinking the rest of the wine. I could tell she really wanted to have sex but was conflicted about giving it up on the second date. (From what she told me, she met her husband at 19, got married at 21 and was with him until about 2 years ago so she didn't really date around a ton previously and was just starting back up now). She says we should probably stop for the night and I should go home. I figure, no big deal, I'll leave and, by the next date, I'll be able to close the deal. I didn't have any condoms with me anyway (rookie move as I never expected I'd get that far with her on date 2) and there wasn't really a place nearby so I told her I'd go and we'd just figure out another time to meet up.
So we get to the front door and I kiss her goodbye. We start making out again and end up back on the couch. She says to me that if we go back on the couch that she won't be able to control herself and her pants are gonna have to come off. She says she wants to have sex real bad but doesn't have any condoms. I don't want to get some because a store is real far away and if I do that by the time I come back she could change her mind. I just tell her don't worry we can work around that and we keep making out. After a few minutes of that I tell her we should go to her room so we have more space than the couch to fool around. Get her upstairs, and the pants come off within one minute. She starts up with a ton of dirty talk about how she wants me to f her hard, be inside her, etc. So I oblige. End up having sex with her without a condom but obviously don't do anything stupid with my little guys. At that point, I wanted to leave her place and go home. She comes out of the bathroom though and says are you gonna sleep over now. Felt bad about leaving at that point so I stayed over. Not all bad though. Middle of the night she gets up and we start going at it again. Tried out a whole bunch of new positions the second time around and, for some reason, she is really into the dirty talk and likes things a bit rough. Never really been with a gal like that and, whenever she has been like that, it usually comes out a bit later not the first time we are messing around.
So, I must say this idating thing is pretty good. Yes, there are some crazies and people you meet that don't look anything like their pictures, but if you have any decent amount of game it doesn't take too long to get results. As far as eharmony goes, the line "even though we just met it seems like we've known each other a long time since we've already been communicating" seems to work very well. In the female's mind it lets her give you a pass for only being on date #1 or #2 and accelerate things without feeling like a slut. At least that's my take. Anyway, I've read so many stories in this thread over the years I figured I might as well share one of my own for once.
Surprised you go for a kiss on the first date.
ETA: In case this is of any importance, all of the chicks are mid-30s, no kids, professional job. It could be that they get scared of me having a kid, but they should have seen that from my initial e-mail as it's listed in my profile.
Between "few" and "extra" exists an implied "dozen".
I met my boyfriend on there. (Story is posted earlier in the thread) We've been together for three years and living together for two.
Anyway, I found in general that if I said "the ex" instead of using her name it seemed to be less awkward. I wouldn't sweat it too much. However, as long as you're not letting your ex dominate the conversation, it's probably a bit of a red flag if he's complaining about it.
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