***Official*** FFA iDating Thread

[Dr. Awesome 5]

We got a live one here! The girl that waited 12 days to write me just sent her must haves/can't stands within 30 minutes of me responding to her questions. Is this cause for concern?

:headexplode:Let it simmer. Don't respond right now. Come back in 2 days to bump and ask for more advice.

I'm not responding right now. Wait 2 days to return with mine?

You know I used to wait two days, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

I don't care how long a person waits. I would almost always respond the same day. It's less about the amount of time and more about the energy of the response. Looking forward to meeting the person because they seem cute and cool? Absolutely the right energy. Wanting to meet soon because you're that type of person? That's also fine. Thinking 'omgomgomgomgomg this is the woman of my dreams and I have to meet her right now and if I don't respond right away someone else will grab her away from me so hi, howdy, hey, what are you up to? Why aren't you responding to me it's been 5 minutes? Hello, hello, hello? Are you alive? Okay I guess you no longer are interested in me since it's been 2 days with no response.' is the wrong energy.Bucky is coming across as extremely anxious. Maybe that's just me. . But it feels like we're in an episode of Always Sunny trying to get Charlie into the dating game. Waiting a couple days is one way for him to cool his jets a tad. Either that or go masturbate furiously to pictures of your long distance non-girlfriend girlfriend who is saving her sexual energy for her knight in shining armor.

[Dr. Awesome 5]

Another thing - you have some chick you're really into moving to your area in 6 months. Have you dated this girl before? Slept with her? Does she know it's actually a relationship that goes past the friendship stage with you? And if she's really a great gal why are you so rushed to land dates? Are you just looking to get laid for a couple months? If so we'll need to seriously overhaul your approach.

ETA - there's nothing wrong with waiting for an awesome chick but from what you've posted it seems you're looking for a girlfriend.

Edited December 1, 2011 by Dr. Awesome

[Dr. Awesome 5]

Another thing - you have some chick you're really into moving to your area in 6 months. Have you dated this girl before? Slept with her? Does she know it's actually a relationship that goes past the friendship stage with you? And if she's really a great gal why are you so rushed to land dates? Are you just looking to get laid for a couple months? If so we'll need to seriously overhaul your approach.ETA - there's nothing wrong with waiting for an awesome chick but from what you've posted it seems you're looking for a girlfriend.

We've already hooked up. We don't want to move too fast as it's long distance and haven't spent a TON of time together. (We Skype a bunch for now and visit each other every other month) We decided that we should date other people until she moves out here,but we both agreed no with other people. I'm just trying to pass the time, go out on a few dates, and make sure I'm making a good decision as most likely we'll be exclusive soon after she moves out here. (She was moving out here regardless, NOT for me)

This is a weird situation to be in.You're not in a relationship with her...but you're not allowed to sleep with others? Sorry but that's b.s. Either you're in a relationship with her (and long distances are rough but can be done for 6 months) or you're not. If you're in a relationship then you shouldn't date others. If you are NOT in a relationship then you should date folks and sleep with them if it goes that direction. There's nothing wrong with dating casually to see if she's really the person you want to be with. Then you two could begin anew when she moves near you.Did she come up with the no sex rule or did you? If she came up with it then you're definitely in a relationship with her. If you came up with it she's probably getting plowed as we speak.But you two skype regularly. You fly out to see each other every other month. You're allowed to date others but not sleep with them? You've got yourself a girlfriend. Congratulations!If you're really bored and looking to meet new people I suggest you try meetup.com. It's a great way to make friends who share similar interests.

[Dr. Awesome 5]

Another thing - you have some chick you're really into moving to your area in 6 months. Have you dated this girl before? Slept with her? Does she know it's actually a relationship that goes past the friendship stage with you? And if she's really a great gal why are you so rushed to land dates? Are you just looking to get laid for a couple months? If so we'll need to seriously overhaul your approach.ETA - there's nothing wrong with waiting for an awesome chick but from what you've posted it seems you're looking for a girlfriend.

We've already hooked up. We don't want to move too fast as it's long distance and haven't spent a TON of time together. (We Skype a bunch for now and visit each other every other month) We decided that we should date other people until she moves out here,but we both agreed no with other people. I'm just trying to pass the time, go out on a few dates, and make sure I'm making a good decision as most likely we'll be exclusive soon after she moves out here. (She was moving out here regardless, NOT for me)

This is a weird situation to be in.You're not in a relationship with her...but you're not allowed to sleep with others? Sorry but that's b.s. Either you're in a relationship with her (and long distances are rough but can be done for 6 months) or you're not. If you're in a relationship then you shouldn't date others. If you are NOT in a relationship then you should date folks and sleep with them if it goes that direction. There's nothing wrong with dating casually to see if she's really the person you want to be with. Then you two could begin anew when she moves near you.Did she come up with the no sex rule or did you? If she came up with it then you're definitely in a relationship with her. If you came up with it she's probably getting plowed as we speak.But you two skype regularly. You fly out to see each other every other month. You're allowed to date others but not sleep with them? You've got yourself a girlfriend. Congratulations!If you're really bored and looking to meet new people I suggest you try meetup.com. It's a great way to make friends who share similar interests.

It was her idea for the no sex rule. We both really want to be in a relationship, but it was unique in that she came out to visit for a week and we really hit it off. We started talking every day on the phone for a couple months. I hooked up with another girl. She found out...she was sad.(I felt guilty) We both decided we really cared about each other, but realized the distance was an issue. We agreed to see other people and not be exclusive, but also not sleep around. We also don't tell each other every time we go out on a date. (I only know of 2 dates she has been on.)

Definitely sounds like you're in a relationship. Or she's extremely insecure (as in a very unhealthy way). How long have you two been apart? She's been on 2 dates (and maybe she didn't actually have any dates if this came soon after you hooked up with the other chick) and made a point to tell you?If you are into this girl I'd stop chasing after others. If someone shoots you an email you should respond and go on a date if it gets to that point. If/when things don't work out with this one this will be a thread where we'll be more than happy to live vicariously through your exploits. But for now, go buy some lotion and enjoy your alone time while you can.

[EYLive 5,183]

I don't think a 25 y/o girl will go 6+ months with just dating other guys but not do sex with them.

Of course she's going to make the no sex rule. There's no down side. If she breaks it, what are you going to do? Sue her? If you break it, then you F'd up and she moves on.

[UniAlias 765]

Bucky = JBizzle?

Can't believe it took me that long to make the connection, but it makes a lot more sense now.

[EYLive 5,183]

Bucky = JBizzle? Can't believe it took me that long to make the connection, but it makes a lot more sense now.

[Disco Stu 476]

We got a live one here! The girl that waited 12 days to write me just sent her must haves/can't stands within 30 minutes of me responding to her questions. Is this cause for concern?

:headexplode:Let it simmer. Don't respond right now. Come back in 2 days to bump and ask for more advice.

I'm not responding right now. Wait 2 days to return with mine?

You know I used to wait two days, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.

[Disco Stu 476]

I don't think a 25 y/o girl will go 6+ months with just dating other guys but not do sex with them. Of course she's going to make the no sex rule. There's no down side. If she breaks it, what are you going to do? Sue her? If you break it, then you F'd up and she moves on.

We're having sex with each other when we are together. I trust that she's not sleeping around.

Yeah, what 25 year old would possibly want to have sex more than once every other month?

[Major 1,449]

We got a live one here! The girl that waited 12 days to write me just sent her must haves/can't stands within 30 minutes of me responding to her questions. Is this cause for concern?

:headexplode:

Let it simmer. Don't respond right now. Come back in 2 days to bump and ask for more advice.

I'm not responding right now. Wait 2 days to return with mine?

You know I used to wait two days, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

I don't care how long a person waits. I would almost always respond the same day. It's less about the amount of time and more about the energy of the response. Looking forward to meeting the person because they seem cute and cool? Absolutely the right energy. Wanting to meet soon because you're that type of person? That's also fine. Thinking 'omgomgomgomgomg this is the woman of my dreams and I have to meet her right now and if I don't respond right away someone else will grab her away from me so hi, howdy, hey, what are you up to? Why aren't you responding to me it's been 5 minutes? Hello, hello, hello? Are you alive? Okay I guess you no longer are interested in me since it's been 2 days with no response.' is the wrong energy.

Bucky is coming across as extremely anxious. Maybe that's just me. . But it feels like we're in an episode of Always Sunny trying to get Charlie into the dating game. Waiting a couple days is one way for him to cool his jets a tad. Either that or go masturbate furiously to pictures of your long distance non-girlfriend girlfriend who is saving her sexual energy for her knight in shining armor.

Laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.

[Disco Stu 476]

I don't think a 25 y/o girl will go 6+ months with just dating other guys but not do sex with them. Of course she's going to make the no sex rule. There's no down side. If she breaks it, what are you going to do? Sue her? If you break it, then you F'd up and she moves on.

We're having sex with each other when we are together. I trust that she's not sleeping around.

Yeah, what 25 year old would possibly want to have sex more than once every other month?

I don't doubt that she WANTS to have more sex. So do I! However, I know this girl very well and she is NOT the type to hook up with guys when she is not in a relationship with them.

You're not in a relationship with her, but she hooked up with you. But I'm sure that's different...

[Early_10 0]

Ease up gentlemen. Clearly 25 yr old Bucky has all the answers on relationships..or non-relationships. I mean he knows this girl. The rest of us are just divorced-after-15-years-ofknowing-someone amateurs. I, for one, trust that the pro knows whats he's doing. I'm sure in 6 months he'll be here telling us how she has devoted herself to celibacy for him and wouldn't dream of f'ing someone, not even him, as he means so much to her. Those naughty pics were just for her gfs.

You go Buck.

[Early_10 0]

How many weeks have you known her again?

[Disco Stu 476]

I don't think a 25 y/o girl will go 6+ months with just dating other guys but not do sex with them.

Of course she's going to make the no sex rule. There's no down side. If she breaks it, what are you going to do? Sue her? If you break it, then you F'd up and she moves on.

We're having sex with each other when we are together. I trust that she's not sleeping around.

Yeah, what 25 year old would possibly want to have sex more than once every other month?

I don't doubt that she WANTS to have more sex. So do I! However, I know this girl very well and she is NOT the type to hook up with guys when she is not in a relationship with them.

You're not in a relationship with her, but she hooked up with you. But I'm sure that's different...

I'm sorry if you've been hurt in the past and have a hard time trusting women. This situation IS different. We're kind of in a relationship, but since it's long distance and will mostly likely escalate to exclusivity once she moves out here, we want to be sure and at least "see" other people until then. Not sleep around.

It always is. Good luck.

[UniAlias 765]

I missed JBizzle.

Such a bizarre yet awesome combination of naivety, insecurity, and stubbornness.

[skillz 243]

In personal relationships, I'd rather trust someone until proven otherwise. That said, you only get one chance with me. If you lie, or hurt me, it's over. I won't be walked all over and taken advantage of.

Please tell me you didn't write this in your eHarmony profile.

[Uruk-Hai 7,327]

Yes, and no. In personal relationships, I'd rather trust someone until proven otherwise. That said, you only get one chance with me. If you lie, or hurt me, it's over. I won't be walked all over and taken advantage of.

Was it different when you slept with the other chick? How did she find out?

[Major 1,449]

In personal relationships, I'd rather trust someone until proven otherwise. That said, you only get one chance with me. If you lie, or hurt me, it's over. I won't be walked all over and taken advantage of.

Please tell me you didn't write this in your eHarmony profile.

I might have to use that line on a first date.

[Early_10 0]

There's nothing so common as the wish to be unique.

[stubby 51]

We got a live one here! The girl that waited 12 days to write me just sent her must haves/can't stands within 30 minutes of me responding to her questions. Is this cause for concern?

:headexplode:

Let it simmer. Don't respond right now. Come back in 2 days to bump and ask for more advice.

I'm not responding right now. Wait 2 days to return with mine?

You know I used to wait two days, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

I don't care how long a person waits. I would almost always respond the same day. It's less about the amount of time and more about the energy of the response. Looking forward to meeting the person because they seem cute and cool? Absolutely the right energy. Wanting to meet soon because you're that type of person? That's also fine. Thinking 'omgomgomgomgomg this is the woman of my dreams and I have to meet her right now and if I don't respond right away someone else will grab her away from me so hi, howdy, hey, what are you up to? Why aren't you responding to me it's been 5 minutes? Hello, hello, hello? Are you alive? Okay I guess you no longer are interested in me since it's been 2 days with no response.' is the wrong energy.

Bucky is coming across as extremely anxious. Maybe that's just me. . But it feels like we're in an episode of Always Sunny trying to get Charlie into the dating game. Waiting a couple days is one way for him to cool his jets a tad. Either that or go masturbate furiously to pictures of your long distance non-girlfriend girlfriend who is saving her sexual energy for her knight in shining armor.

Laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.

to Major's random Swingers references that no one else seems to notice....

[Disco Stu 476]

to Major's random Swingers references that no one else seems to notice....

:cough:

[John Bender 6,527]

What the hell is going on in here?

[Mister Martie 201]

I guess. To 3:Hey Shannon, My name is Mike and I will be living in the Twin Cities to complete my third year of law school. I see you are a lawyer and while I haven't dated inside our profession yet, dating outside of it hasn't been working out so well either so I figured I'd give it a shot. I too am new to the area and don't want this cold to keep me down as well as the books, so maybe we can find some things to do to keep our mind off work. Let me know if you'd like to have a drink or get together sometime...Take care,Mike To 8:Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too. Take care,MikeTo 10:Hey, my name is Mike and I wanted to say I like your profile. I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles and other fun people... Anyways, if you'd like to have a drink sometime let me know. Take care,Mike

:lmao:The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

[John Bender 6,527]

4 User(s) are reading this topic3 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous usersJohn Bender,Mister Martie,Zow

I imagine this circus animal has it synced so that as soon as his name is mentioned anywhere on FBG, he gets a phone call, text message, fax, and has a personal page hand deliver him the news.

[Dr. Awesome 5]

I'm going to take Bucky's side. There's plenty of reason to be skeptical and cynical but if he thinks this girl is being faithful and this is a girl he has a serious interest in then he should do what he has been - wait.

Is it going to blow up in his face? Quite possibly. But he's young enough to have plenty of time to nail some others if/when it comes to that. It's rather sweet to have a certain level of innocence. And if they both share that level of naivety it's something that can work out for them.

He is right about one thing - there's an awful lot of cynicism and bitterness coming through some of the recent posts. Might there be reason for your skepticism? Absolutely. But there's reason for optimism as well and it seems some of you don't acknowledge that.

[James Daulton 9,256]

I'm going to take Bucky's side. There's plenty of reason to be skeptical and cynical but if he thinks this girl is being faithful and this is a girl he has a serious interest in then he should do what he has been - wait. Is it going to blow up in his face? Quite possibly. But he's young enough to have plenty of time to nail some others if/when it comes to that. It's rather sweet to have a certain level of innocence. And if they both share that level of naivety it's something that can work out for them. He is right about one thing - there's an awful lot of cynicism and bitterness coming through some of the recent posts. Might there be reason for your skepticism? Absolutely. But there's reason for optimism as well and it seems some of you don't acknowledge that.

I get all that. The only thing I find fishy is that he and this chick are still "dating" other folks while they wait to get together in 6 months. What exactly is the point of dating anyone else now? Seems kind of weird to me. If Bucky likes her so much, he should lock her up and be exclusive since by letting her date he risks her finding some other dude.

[Dexter Manley 0]

Another thing - you have some chick you're really into moving to your area in 6 months. Have you dated this girl before? Slept with her? Does she know it's actually a relationship that goes past the friendship stage with you? And if she's really a great gal why are you so rushed to land dates? Are you just looking to get laid for a couple months? If so we'll need to seriously overhaul your approach.

ETA - there's nothing wrong with waiting for an awesome chick but from what you've posted it seems you're looking for a girlfriend.

We've already hooked up. We don't want to move too fast as it's long distance and haven't spent a TON of time together. (We Skype a bunch for now and visit each other every other month) We decided that we should date other people until she moves out here,but we both agreed no with other people. I'm just trying to pass the time, go out on a few dates, and make sure I'm making a good decision as most likely we'll be exclusive soon after she moves out here. (She was moving out here regardless, NOT for me)

This is a weird situation to be in.

You're not in a relationship with her...but you're not allowed to sleep with others? Sorry but that's b.s. Either you're in a relationship with her (and long distances are rough but can be done for 6 months) or you're not. If you're in a relationship then you shouldn't date others. If you are NOT in a relationship then you should date folks and sleep with them if it goes that direction.

There's nothing wrong with dating casually to see if she's really the person you want to be with. Then you two could begin anew when she moves near you.

Did she come up with the no sex rule or did you? If she came up with it then you're definitely in a relationship with her. If you came up with it she's probably getting plowed as we speak.

But you two skype regularly. You fly out to see each other every other month. You're allowed to date others but not sleep with them? You've got yourself a girlfriend. Congratulations!

If you're really bored and looking to meet new people I suggest you try meetup.com. It's a great way to make friends who share similar interests.

It was her idea for the no sex rule. We both really want to be in a relationship, but it was unique in that she came out to visit for a week and we really hit it off. We started talking every day on the phone for a couple months. I hooked up with another girl. She found out...she was sad.(I felt guilty) We both decided we really cared about each other, but realized the distance was an issue. We agreed to see other people and not be exclusive, but also not sleep around. We also don't tell each other every time we go out on a date. (I only know of 2 dates she has been on.)

Definitely sounds like you're in a relationship. Or she's extremely insecure (as in a very unhealthy way). How long have you two been apart? She's been on 2 dates (and maybe she didn't actually have any dates if this came soon after you hooked up with the other chick) and made a point to tell you?

If you are into this girl I'd stop chasing after others. If someone shoots you an email you should respond and go on a date if it gets to that point. If/when things don't work out with this one this will be a thread where we'll be more than happy to live vicariously through your exploits. But for now, go buy some lotion and enjoy your alone time while you can.

Bingo to the bolded. Either that or she's making a power play so she'll have a guy lined up (our hero) she can start dating right away when she gets into town.

I have a question Bucky. Is this girl originally from your town? Did she go to school there? If not, does she have relatives and/or friends (besides you) who live there? What I'm getting at, is does she already have a solid social network in the town you live in, or are you going to be one of the few (or only) people she knows when she moves into town in 6 months?

Also, you should of handled the dating/no sex thing differently. You should of simply agreed to casually date other people in the meantime and NOT tell each other any details about it. It serves no positive purpose. If she remained adamant about the no sex thing you should of told her that you weren't planning on having relations with any other girl as she was the only one you wanted, etc., but you couldn't make any promises. That's a straight forward honest answer that any secure girl will at least respect even if she doesn't like it. And if she is an insecure, crazy type, that would of all came out right there and you could of avoided a lot of wasted time and trouble down the road.

[Major 1,449]

to Major's random Swingers references that no one else seems to notice....

:cough:

Stu knows these women are just like little bunnies, just kinda cowering in the corner.

[Zow 8,164]

Ease up gentlemen. Clearly 25 yr old Bucky has all the answers on relationships..or non-relationships. I mean he knows this girl. The rest of us are just divorced-after-15-years-ofknowing-someone amateurs. I, for one, trust that the pro knows whats he's doing. I'm sure in 6 months he'll be here telling us how she has devoted herself to celibacy for him and wouldn't dream of f'ing someone, not even him, as he means so much to her. Those naughty pics were just for her gfs.

You go Buck.

Yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying. Like I said before...I'm sorry that you have been hurt in the past. (Haven't we all?) but, don't pretend that you know me, or my situation. You just come across as bitter. Hope you find whatever it is you're looking for!

I understand why you believe what you do. You have to.

I hope you're right, but you'd be a fool to avoid the advice of the people who are older, wiser, and know what they're talking about more than you do just because you don't like what they have to say and think they're bitter.

1. He's gotta learn it on his own. Same process for everyone.

2. Some people are old and bitter. Some of these people still give good advice.

[Zow 8,164]

4 User(s) are reading this topic3 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous usersJohn Bender,Mister Martie,Zow

I imagine this circus animal has it synced so that as soon as his name is mentioned anywhere on FBG, he gets a phone call, text message, fax, and has a personal page hand deliver him the news.

Or threads recently posted in show up in the first page and, like a lot of people, the circus animal randomly checks the website while at work or whatever for threads of interest and happens to like this one. Either is plausible.

[John Bender 6,527]

4 User(s) are reading this topic

3 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

John Bender,Mister Martie,Zow

I imagine this circus animal has it synced so that as soon as his name is mentioned anywhere on FBG, he gets a phone call, text message, fax, and has a personal page hand deliver him the news.

Or threads recently posted in show up in the first page and, like a lot of people, the circus animal randomly checks the website while at work or whatever for threads of interest and happens to like this one.

Either is plausible.

Absolutely

[Zow 8,164]

I guess. To 3:Hey Shannon, My name is Mike and I will be living in the Twin Cities to complete my third year of law school. I see you are a lawyer and while I haven't dated inside our profession yet, dating outside of it hasn't been working out so well either so I figured I'd give it a shot. I too am new to the area and don't want this cold to keep me down as well as the books, so maybe we can find some things to do to keep our mind off work. Let me know if you'd like to have a drink or get together sometime...Take care,Mike To 8:Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too. Take care,MikeTo 10:Hey, my name is Mike and I wanted to say I like your profile. I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles and other fun people... Anyways, if you'd like to have a drink sometime let me know. Take care,Mike

:lmao:The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

Yeah... clearly there's a learning curve. So learn from others' mistakes.

[Time Kibitzer 106]

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

The bolded slays me.

[Keys Myaths 2]

So I had my first date in years last night. (B&M chick) I didn't come away from it thinking it went great (definitely not on any sort of A-game, she really wasn't either) - but she was definitely interesting and better-looking than I remembered.

I'm sure I'll ask for a second date, but either way, I don't see this going anywhere (nor should it). But, it's definitely interesting to be doing this again.

[Time Kibitzer 106]

Generally I'm anti-long distance relationship but I saw this girl's profile and I'm now determined to give it a shot. Any tips?

[EYLive 5,183]

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

The bolded slays me.

I like this one.

I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles

[Mister Martie 201]

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

The bolded slays me.

I like this one.

I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles

well all right, i'm almost too embarassed to keep this #### open... thinking maybe a follow up apology e-mail to these girls is in order. maybe claim my drunk friend e-mailed them.

:lmao:

[Time Kibitzer 106]

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

The bolded slays me.

I like this one.

I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles

[skillz 243]

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

The bolded slays me.

I like this one.

I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles

Did he really say that? Please don't ever compare me to Woz. TIA!

Yes - you need to spend time reading this thread not only to read other entertaining stuff like that but also to get some tips on the online dating scene. TONS of good information in here from a bunch of people.

Whatever happened to Stryker by the way? I still get a laugh out of the date he had where his date brought her kids along.

[Keys Myaths 2]

Whatever happened to Stryker by the way? I still get a laugh out of the date he had where his date brought her kids along.

Married.

[Zow 8,164]

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

The Woz stuff in the first half of this thread is pure gold.

The bolded slays me.

I like this one.

I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles

Did he really say that? Please don't ever compare me to Woz. TIA!

It's like riding a bike. You first fall a bunch and barely get anywhere. But with time, effort, and learning you can compete in the tour de france.

[stubby 51]

to Major's random Swingers references that no one else seems to notice....

:cough:

Stu knows these women are just like little bunnies, just kinda cowering in the corner.

Apologies to Stu....missed that one.

[John Bender 6,527]

So I had my first date in years last night. (B&M chick) I didn't come away from it thinking it went great (definitely not on any sort of A-game, she really wasn't either) - but she was definitely interesting and better-looking than I remembered.I'm sure I'll ask for a second date, but either way, I don't see this going anywhere (nor should it). But, it's definitely interesting to be doing this again.

:slapithigh:Since my divorce 3 years ago I've been doing nothing but dating (usually online). It's great. Make sure to cast a wide net at a lot of women if you are using an online service. Some will reply and now have the freedom to go on a date with a different woman every night of the week. There will be plenty of sex and plenty of fun in your future. Good luck man. Post your updates here please.

[Samuel L Bronkowitz 20]

Whatever happened to Stryker by the way? I still get a laugh out of the date he had where his date brought her kids along.

Married.

:hey:I'm checking in this thread from time to time, but as Keys mentioned, I'm married so it's not a daily destination for me anymore. Maybe it's just me but it seemed a lot more fun/funny early on. It seems to have taken a much more serious tone. Who knows, maybe its just because I'm not participating anymore :shrug:But yes, I married a woman this past July that I met on Yahoo Personals (which I believe merged with Match a few years ago). We've been together since a few months after that infamous "date". Incidentally, I thought about that date a few months ago when my GB went out with a woman who had a son. When he told me, he asked "So what do I do if she brings her kid? Is there a manual or something that your wrote?" :lmao:For anyone new to this thread in the past year or so, this one is a must read. I'll see if I can find it

[Samuel L Bronkowitz 20]

Ummmmm 1st date etiquette question...WTF takes their kids with them on a first date?? :penalty:Had a date with Jill tonight. We had agreed to have some dinner/drinks and watch the game as she is a big sports fan. I had emailed her and said "Hey lets get together at Applebees for dinner and a few drinks and watch the game". She emailed me back and said "Yah, I'm free, that sounds great!" No mention of kids...perhaps I should have clarified :unsure:I had a work function nearby so I was there a little early and had a beer at the bar. 7 comes and goes. I get a call from her saying she's running a bit late but would be there shortly. No big deal, I'm chatting it up with 2 girls who were out for happy hour drinks after work themselves. Next thing I know, I get a tap on my shoulder and hear "Matt?"I turn and see Jill and right behind her are her 2 kids . I honestly didnt know what to say. I said in my most uncomfortable voice "Uh, Jill? Heeeeyy...uh and they are??" She introduces me to "Little Johnny" and "Little Suzy". She then pulls up the chair next to me and the kids are just standing there looking at me like I just killed their dad. I get up and offer my chair to one of the kids and she says "No, they're ok". I hear the 2 other girls sort of giggle and then they got up and left shortly after that.Im completely dumbfounded at this piont. But I honestly couldn't bring myself to just get up and leave. We get a table, order dinner and I'm just squirming with discomfort as she works with the kids to figure out what they're gonna order. Finally once her attention is away from her kids, she begins to talk to me. The conversation was entirely about little Johnny and little Suzys first week at school. I ended up talking to the kids more than I talked to her I think. Not one mention from her of "I'm really sorry, I couldnt get a sitter" or "They had to come at the last minute because of <excuse>"...like this is standard operating procedure for her. Finally dinner comes, I've been paying most of my attention to the TV as the breaks in conversation were getting farther apart. I'm doing my best to ask her questions but I kept getting interuped by "Johnny stop it" and "Suzy, take 2 more bites". Luckily after dinner, she paid for her and her kids. It was the most awkward date I've ever been on in my life. After the bill was paid, I politely excused myself and said I had to get going. I shook her hand and said it was a pleasure to meet her and booked.Do people seriously do this???? I'm completely shuked.

Bump

[Keys Myaths 2]

So I had my first date in years last night. (B&M chick) I didn't come away from it thinking it went great (definitely not on any sort of A-game, she really wasn't either) - but she was definitely interesting and better-looking than I remembered.I'm sure I'll ask for a second date, but either way, I don't see this going anywhere (nor should it). But, it's definitely interesting to be doing this again.

:slapithigh:Since my divorce 3 years ago I've been doing nothing but dating (usually online). It's great. Make sure to cast a wide net at a lot of women if you are using an online service. Some will reply and now have the freedom to go on a date with a different woman every night of the week. There will be plenty of sex and plenty of fun in your future. Good luck man. Post your updates here please.

I obviously haven't done this in a while. I haven't had a date with a girl I met online yet since I've been single - what advice do you have? What site do you use?

[John Bender 6,527]

So I had my first date in years last night. (B&M chick) I didn't come away from it thinking it went great (definitely not on any sort of A-game, she really wasn't either) - but she was definitely interesting and better-looking than I remembered.I'm sure I'll ask for a second date, but either way, I don't see this going anywhere (nor should it). But, it's definitely interesting to be doing this again.

:slapithigh:Since my divorce 3 years ago I've been doing nothing but dating (usually online). It's great. Make sure to cast a wide net at a lot of women if you are using an online service. Some will reply and now have the freedom to go on a date with a different woman every night of the week. There will be plenty of sex and plenty of fun in your future. Good luck man. Post your updates here please.

I obviously haven't done this in a while. I haven't had a date with a girl I met online yet since I've been single - what advice do you have? What site do you use?

What are you looking for?For fun - I had the most luck with okcupid to be honest - and it's free and easy to use. Edited December 2, 2011 by John Bender

[Keys Myaths 2]

So I had my first date in years last night. (B&M chick) I didn't come away from it thinking it went great (definitely not on any sort of A-game, she really wasn't either) - but she was definitely interesting and better-looking than I remembered.I'm sure I'll ask for a second date, but either way, I don't see this going anywhere (nor should it). But, it's definitely interesting to be doing this again.

:slapithigh:Since my divorce 3 years ago I've been doing nothing but dating (usually online). It's great. Make sure to cast a wide net at a lot of women if you are using an online service. Some will reply and now have the freedom to go on a date with a different woman every night of the week. There will be plenty of sex and plenty of fun in your future. Good luck man. Post your updates here please.

I obviously haven't done this in a while. I haven't had a date with a girl I met online yet since I've been single - what advice do you have? What site do you use?

What are you looking for?For fun - I had the most luck with okcupid to be honest - and it's free and easy to use.

Obviously nothing serious. There's no way that's happening for a long time.

[Dr. Awesome 5]

Yeah, if you're just looking for fun you can easily haul in loads of tail from plentyoffish and okcupid. Assuming you live in a decent sized city.

[Major 1,449]

Yeah, if you're just looking for fun you can easily haul in loads of tail from plentyoffish and okcupid. Assuming you live in a decent sized city.

I've heard good things about these sites from my idating friends. They say it's like throwing chum.