Becoming a Hermit & Curmudgeon (1 Viewer)

[Al O'Pecia]

I'm in my mid-40s and though outwardly friendly and social when around people, I generally prefer to be left the hell alone.  I will text with friends, converse with people online, and chit-chat with coworkers, but I have absolutely no desire to go out with people on the weekends or in my free time.  I'm kind of a hermit.

I also find myself getting more impatient with people as I get older.  Stupidity and annoying idiosyncrasies get under my skin more than they use to.  I'll seldom if ever say anything to the person or even express dissatisfaction, but   I'm definitely more easily annoyed than I was when I was younger.  I'm becoming a curmudgeon.

Anybody else a burgeoning hermit or curmudgeon?

 

[ChiefD]

Go away.

 

[5-ish Finkle]

I also find myself getting more impatient with people as I get older.  Stupidity and annoying idiosyncrasies get under my skin more than they use to.  I'll seldom if ever say anything to the person or even express dissatisfaction, but   I'm definitely more easily annoyed than I was when I was younger.  I'm becoming a curmudgeon.

"Becoming?"  I'd say you're already residing in the downtown proper.  Welcome.

As to whether I think I'm a curmudgeon?   Not really.   It just seems that, generally, everybody else is stupid except for me.  We aren't required to be patience with, or suffer, fools....so why should we?

 

[jvdesigns2002]

I am 39 years old and I started becoming that way maybe 8-10 years ago. I'm a workaholic and the nature of my work is that I'm constantly interacting and communicating with people.  Whether it's face to face, email, texting--I'm interacting with people probably 60+ hours a week.   Whenever I had time off when I was younger--I'd go out with friends and socialize even more.  About 8-10 years ago-I stopped doing that.  Honestly--it became less and less fun for me--as the entire act of socializing started to feel like work to me.

Eight to 10 years ago--I started to manage my free time better and protected my free time to keep to myself.  I'll text friends and such--but it's very rare that I go out anymore.   Maybe once or twice a year--I'll set up a Vegas trip to where my close friends and I have an insanely fun weekend together--but that's about it.   

 

[wikkidpissah]

Outside of people helping me with my music, i have hosted humans twice in the five years i've lived in VT and have not gone out except for errands & taking my peeps where they need to go in over two years. I try to be warm and polite in public interaction (my oldest friend calls me "the world's most popular hermit") but i havent known a person i'm not screamingly bored by within a coupla days since my wife died 22 yrs ago.

 

[E Street Brat]

An internet  gamer/buddy of mine recently passed away. I was shocked at how much I missed him, then I realized,  this guy I never met nor seen a picture of had been my best friend for the last 6 or 7 years.  I guess I dont out of the house to much. 

 

[rockaction]

Wow. I don't consider myself a hermit when I have my efriends (who I consider to be very real IRL). It's just that I don't get out much. But I became a curmudgeon in my twenties, though not a hermit, that's for sure.  

 

[belljr]

i haven't talked to my friends n probably 3 years 

 

[Socrates11]

It's a natural evolution as most people suck. I include myself.

 

[Al O'Pecia]

Wow. I don't consider myself a hermit when I have my efriends (who I consider to be very real IRL). 

Nah, I think you need actual human contact or else you're a hermit.  

Based on your online rationale I've had a load of girlfriends who wear transparent, platform heels.

Anyone else want to weigh in on this?

 

[nirad3]

I'm not a hermit.  

I've definitely morphed into a curmudgeon though.  More so in my 40's, but probably started much earlier... like early 30's.  People are stupid.  I get irritated quite easily.

 

[rockaction]

Nah, I think you need actual human contact or else you're a hermit.  

Based on your online rationale I've had a load of girlfriends who wear transparent, platform heels.

Anyone else want to weigh in on this?

I get what you're saying, but I've made actual contact IRL with people and don't pay for friendship. It's strange, this world. When space melts down and earnestness among like-minded individuals takes its place, it's reaching out for contact, which is the opposite of a hermit. 

And then I'll let everyone else weigh in. Otherwise, I'm probably a hermit.  

 

[Leroy Hoard]

If I had a lawn I think you know what I would tell you.

 

[Maik Jeaunz]

you're not a curmudgeon, people really are idiots.

 

[-fish-]

I dream of being a hermit and curmudgeon.   I may grow a lawn just to yell at kids to get off it.

 

[Shutout]

I believe it was Tesla who said something to the effect that the more intelligent you are, the fewer number of friends you have because you are so selective and value your time so much. So the OP is probably just a really smart guy. 

I just don't have patience for much of anyone anymore.  The more I am around humans, the more i am disappointed.  

 

[Dan Lambskin]

I don’t go out a ton, but it’s more because it’s just hard to get away from the wife and kids on a regular basis.  I still enjoy going out when I can, but under the right circumstances.  Like I know some of the neighborhood dads will go watch a game at the bar, but i think meh, I’d rather just stay home and drink

definately getting Crumodgeony though, especially on this board.  Also turning into a cynical ####### (if you’ve seen south park) where I basically just hate everything 

 

[Statorama]

If I weren't married I'd probably never leave the house

 

[dickey moe]

Outside of people helping me with my music, i have hosted humans twice in the five years i've lived in VT and have not gone out except for errands & taking my peeps where they need to go in over two years. I try to be warm and polite in public interaction (my oldest friend calls me "the world's most popular hermit") but i havent known a person i'm not screamingly bored by within a coupla days since my wife died 22 yrs ago.

How old are you?

 

[Leroy Hoard]

88?

 

[Christo]

Always been both.

 

[wikkidpissah]

How old are you?

mid-60s

 

[msudaisy26]

I believe it was Tesla who said something to the effect that the more intelligent you are, the fewer number of friends you have because you are so selective and value your time so much. So the OP is probably just a really smart guy. 

I just don't have patience for much of anyone anymore.  The more I am around humans, the more i am disappointed.  

That is just what people say who can't make friends.