Choose Stability (2 Viewers)

[Joe Bryant]

I love this message from Footballguys Godfather Seth Godin.

Stay close with people you know that also know you.

Peace.

From Seth's Blog: https://seths.blog/2024/11/i-cant-go-for-that-2/…

Culture has stability. “The way things are around here.”

When we are pushed too far from our norms, life gets stressful.

Some of the people in the systems that used to keep things stable have discovered that they can make a profit or gain an edge by embracing extremism instead.

You might not have thought you’d be spending seven hours a day reading the internet, or most of your free time posting and responding, but that’s what the social media companies have pushed us to do.

And you might not embrace some of the extreme views that we’re exposed to every single day, but the pressure can feel relentless. It feels like we come out just a bit ahead if we go along with the latest angry meme.

It’s worth checking in with ourselves and the people we care about. What are we signing on to and supporting? How are we choosing to spend our precious time? Is it riskier than we’re comfortable with? And mostly, what sort of new world are we endorsing?

It might make sense to choose stability when we can.

 

[rockaction]

This didn’t get a response but this is a solid posting and solid advice. It’s also imperative at this point that one familiarize himself with the lay of the land and the issues we’re facing along with the concepts and philosophies behind them. Good luck my dudes at FBG. Hug your families and keep your heads up.

-ra

 

[Gatorade]

Extremes are usually not the best direction. Strive for moderation. Rabbit holes are easy to follow but sometimes hard to get out of.




Unless you're talking FF. Then go all in.

 

[rockaction]

Extremes are usually not the best direction. Strive for moderation. Rabbit holes are easy to follow but sometimes hard to get out of.

Especially when those extremes aren’t your experience with the world. Be wary of anybody telling you the way it is because these days you have to be a master of information sorting.

I think we’ve fallen in a trap since about 2006 or so of letting ourselves believe that extremes are more prevalent than they are and we’re in a feedback loop that is out of control and makes us act in extreme ways to combat what we think we see.

Now that doesn’t mean we’re not living in extreme times; public pronouncements and official acts are what they are and should be taken seriously and at face value. To back up and get a bird’s eye view of it all is important; and 2006 onward has been extreme—but to go back to stability is to have close personal relationships where you can ask a trusted friend or neighbor, “Does that sound right? Do you feel that way? Is this the solution or problem? Why is this really happening, do you think?” That’s the only we’re going to normalize and be stable. Because no media (social or otherwise) is playing it straight, IMO.

 

[Hastur]

When Hurricane Helene hit us, we lost power for a week. It was hard to find and cook food, bathe, etc.

The unexpected silver lining was unplugging from the toxicity, stress, and uncertainty of social media. People were out walking around the neighborhood. A sense of community started fostering.

Then the power came back on, and community went away. I think we are doomed until we as a species learn how to handle this relatively new technology. As of now, we're not doing a good job.

 

[Sparky Polastri]

Social media isn't "pushing" us do anything. We are choosing. Social media in its current form is what we are telling them we want. This is illustrated pretty clearly in the post directly above mine.

 

[culdeus]

Social media isn't "pushing" us do anything. We are choosing. Social media in its current form is what we are telling them we want. This is illustrated pretty clearly in the post directly above mine.

Careful with that. There are a lot of behaviors people are accused of "choosing". Obesity, homosexuality, alcohol, and more. Our brains are pulled by genetic disposition to dopamine. That push is more a pull for some than others.

 

[Psychopav]

You might not have thought you’d be spending seven hours a day reading the internet, or most of your free time posting and responding, but that’s what the social media companies have pushed us to do.

Narrator: but before social media, there were the message boards...

 

[Sparky Polastri]

Social media isn't "pushing" us do anything. We are choosing. Social media in its current form is what we are telling them we want. This is illustrated pretty clearly in the post directly above mine.

Careful with that. There are a lot of behaviors people are accused of "choosing". Obesity, homosexuality, alcohol, and more. Our brains are pulled by genetic disposition to dopamine. That push is more a pull for some than others.

Sure. My comment fits easily into the 80/20 rule based on the research available. I do agree the people you describe exist.

 

[Joe Bryant]

When Hurricane Helene hit us, we lost power for a week. It was hard to find and cook food, bathe, etc.

The unexpected silver lining was unplugging from the toxicity, stress, and uncertainty of social media. People were out walking around the neighborhood. A sense of community started fostering.

Then the power came back on, and community went away. I think we are doomed until we as a species learn how to handle this relatively new technology. As of now, we're not doing a good job.

I've seen this repeatedly at a Summer Camp for high school age kids we've been to.

When kids get off the bus, they turn their phones in.

For some, it's like literally separating them from a life preserver.

The first day is wild. The setting is the mountains of Colorado and the list of "things to do" is amazing. Yet some of the kids almost seem in shock without their phones.

By the 2nd day, they start talking more to each other and engaging. By the end of the week, the change is incredible.

It's because everyone there is in the same situation - no phones or social and they can be present and enjoy where they are and the people they're with.

Then they get back on the bus. I haven't seen this part but kids have told me it feels like a heavy cloud settling down on them as the dive back into the world of all the things that have been happening and have to get "back into the game" of comparison and performance.

 

[Terminalxylem]

While I don’t think most people are extremists, I do question the value of some modern norms, like our relationship with social media, “news” consumption, and immersion in technology. Add those to the toxic American standards of consumerism, and “keeping up with the Jones”, it’s no surprise many feel society is trending down.

Order and stability are important, of course. That said, I’ve found value in NOT embracing many societal norms, being contrarian to the above behaviors. Some may think I’m a Luddite keeping my head in the sand, but I find the most peace when I’m unplugged and outdoors, embracing the uncertainty that nature provides.

 

[Long Ball Larry]

Social media isn't "pushing" us do anything. We are choosing. Social media in its current form is what we are telling them we want. This is illustrated pretty clearly in the post directly above mine.

Social media is giving us what we want but also ends up becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy by giving us what we want in the most distilled form and only giving us what we know, thereby reinforcing our biases and predispositions and continuing a vicious cycle. That’s not to say that people don’t have agency or a moral responsibility to do things differently, but we should be aware of the landscape that makes it exceedingly difficult to break out of the patterns that we’ve become accustomed to. I really don’t do that much social media and long for some kind of app that would actually show the opposite of the things that I have previously liked in order to maintain a steady influx of new ideas (to me anyway)

 

[Long Ball Larry]

I love this message from Footballguys Godfather Seth Godin.

Stay close with people you know that also know you.

Peace.

From Seth's Blog: https://seths.blog/2024/11/i-cant-go-for-that-2/…

Culture has stability. “The way things are around here.”

When we are pushed too far from our norms, life gets stressful.

Some of the people in the systems that used to keep things stable have discovered that they can make a profit or gain an edge by embracing extremism instead.

You might not have thought you’d be spending seven hours a day reading the internet, or most of your free time posting and responding, but that’s what the social media companies have pushed us to do.

And you might not embrace some of the extreme views that we’re exposed to every single day, but the pressure can feel relentless. It feels like we come out just a bit ahead if we go along with the latest angry meme.

It’s worth checking in with ourselves and the people we care about. What are we signing on to and supporting? How are we choosing to spend our precious time? Is it riskier than we’re comfortable with? And mostly, what sort of new world are we endorsing?

It might make sense to choose stability when we can.

Footballguys godfather?

 

[Todem]

Social media has quickly evolved into the armpit of the human race. And this was all by design to keep you on a screen for ultimately supporting “consumerism”.

The algorithms are fully intentional to accomplish this. What it also has bred is more hate without consequences than ever before, false narratives, false news and literally we are as a species crumbling and descending into a bleak future.

Sorry to be so depressing…..but it is literally destroying our world thread by thread.

Youth suicide is alarmingly rising, self worth falling, communications skills eroding. The new generation is locked onto a screen (The Black Mirror), heads buried and being programmed harder than we were by television growing up in the 70’s and 80’s.

The pandoras box was opened and it won’t be shut.

I simply make sure I surround myself with only people that I truly love. My “circle of trust” is very small, and I am thankful for that. Our time is so limited on this planet and each passing day I realize that more and more.

My stress level is extremely low because I choose not to engage on social media save for this and another message board (Operation Sports) because the engagement actually is fun, insightful and entertaining without getting too serious. X, Instagram, FB yeah no thanks. Pure cesspools of misery.

Life is too short to bury your face into a phone.

The wonders of technology have been a blessing and a curse. From an efficiency standpoint….amazing. I love shopping on Amazon. Easily one of the best things to happen in the last 10-12 years in that regard. Not having to go out and buy every day staples and some of my lifes pleasures (for me that’s video games and blue ray movies lol) is awesome. Using You Tube for instructional videos for home projects and everyday hone maintinence a god send!!!

But then you get the social media aspect and things have gone horribly wrong from that stand point.

My community is my tiny circle of trust. Gone are the bigger senses of community…..it’s just really coming apart.

And I don’t want to even get political but “identity politics” has ripped our country and world apart too. Completely out of hand. And we can thank the media and social media for harboring that as well.

It’s just a giant mess.

So the message is true….culture is critical to stability and critical to happiness long term. I set my boundries and I live by them. Any inkling of someone toxic will not be part of my culture or circle.

Simple as that.

Life is just too short to have any energy vampires suck the life outta me. And that includes a lot of crap going on all around me. I simply stay laser focused on what is truly important to me. And yeah you need to be a little selfish to some degree to stay on track.

So be it.

 

[Joe Bryant]

I love this message from Footballguys Godfather Seth Godin.

Stay close with people you know that also know you.

Peace.

From Seth's Blog: https://seths.blog/2024/11/i-cant-go-for-that-2/…

Culture has stability. “The way things are around here.”

When we are pushed too far from our norms, life gets stressful.

Some of the people in the systems that used to keep things stable have discovered that they can make a profit or gain an edge by embracing extremism instead.

You might not have thought you’d be spending seven hours a day reading the internet, or most of your free time posting and responding, but that’s what the social media companies have pushed us to do.

And you might not embrace some of the extreme views that we’re exposed to every single day, but the pressure can feel relentless. It feels like we come out just a bit ahead if we go along with the latest angry meme.

It’s worth checking in with ourselves and the people we care about. What are we signing on to and supporting? How are we choosing to spend our precious time? Is it riskier than we’re comfortable with? And mostly, what sort of new world are we endorsing?

It might make sense to choose stability when we can.

Footballguys godfather?

Seth Godin is a business writer that's influenced me more than any other business author. I've learned a lot from him over the years and we joke about him being the Footballguys Godfather.

 

[Sparky Polastri]

Social media isn't "pushing" us do anything. We are choosing. Social media in its current form is what we are telling them we want. This is illustrated pretty clearly in the post directly above mine.

Social media is giving us what we want but also ends up becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy by giving us what we want in the most distilled form and only giving us what we know, thereby reinforcing our biases and predispositions and continuing a vicious cycle. That’s not to say that people don’t have agency or a moral responsibility to do things differently, but we should be aware of the landscape that makes it exceedingly difficult to break out of the patterns that we’ve become accustomed to. I really don’t do that much social media and long for some kind of app that would actually show the opposite of the things that I have previously liked in order to maintain a steady influx of new ideas (to me anyway)

agreed. Those silos are a net negative on society. I am a now 29 year old unicorn of sorts. I have no social media other than coming here. My parents didn't let me have a phone, tablet until I was 16. We watched several of the documentaries on social media, what it is, how it works, what the goal is. I've had no desire to participate in any of that. My younger siblings are on some of it, but not like their friends. Its just not worth it.