See like I mentioned above I am a little shell shocked at some of this. My wife and I do okay (not FBG rich), but our debt to income is a little higher than I like at this point in my life and that is primarily because we have given our two kids too much--bottom line. I believe the families financial situation is considered on the FAFSA--at least I hope it is.
The school my daughter is set on is Colorado College, I don't quite think it is the best fit for her field of choice (mathematics), but it is close to home, is not a party school and like I said, my wife is an alumni. Her other choice is Colorado School of Mines. We have looked at it and it is an engineering/science school about 2 hours from here in Golden. She called it a nerd school and said it was boring--which may not be a bad thing as far as dad's perspective

. Her fallback is CU/Boulder--major party school, but it is like UCCS here in town--the acceptance rate is ridiculously high and I can't say I want my daughter going there and I honestly don't think she wants to leave her home town.
The plan is we will get our FAFSA done this weekend. We have some mutual friends that got us a one on one with the admissions director at CC next week. My girl is already working hard on scholarships. The Boettcher would be a dream (it is a full ride to a Colorado school of her choice) but it is only awarded to one child and that is it. We know two of the past winners and are working with them to help. We have a wonderful gifted and talented teacher at her high school, who also happens to be an AP English teacher, who is going to help her refine her college application essays. I have told her to apply for every scholarship under the sun, I don't care if it is KFC giving a $1,000 for an essay on chickens. You write the best damn Chicken essay every conceived.
I have always tried to be that laid back, let's just keep focusing on the forest thru the trees type parent, but I am now stressed beyond belief that I am going to let her down. Her school of choice unfortunately is a very elitist, highly liberal, rich person school--which in no way describes my wife and I. If she get accepted but can't go because of $$$ after all she has sacrificed because of us, I am going to feel like crap. But In the same vein, we have another daughter that is 12 (and already equally gifted) that we can't cripple ourselves financially and mortgage our/her future for this.