Some of the advice given in this thread is from people who have a 12-24 month cushion in their bank account(s), and never have to worry about the concerns of check-to-check households. Auto-pay is awesome ... until that one time they take it out two days before your paycheck deposits, and you get a bunch of overdraft fees on other debits. That kind of stuff happens to real people every day, and it's not just happening to irresponsible eff-ups. Sorry, but it's not. I know, I know ... it'll never be you.
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Anyway, back to
Spin's OP. Wish I would've seen it earlier, but maybe this advice will help another reader.
First off,
inca911's advice in post #56 is good advice in general whenever extra fees are involved. Many bank employees (never the tellers) can even reverse overdraft fees if you go into the bank and speak to someone in person. Can't do it all the time, but one-offs are often forgiven.
More specifically to
Spin's situation (hopefully): by any chance is you suto loan through a credit union? Even if you don't belong to one, many dealers use credit unions to secure financing. If your loan is through a credit union, you can usually make a payment in person even if the credit union is in another part of the country. Look for the
Credit Union Service Center logo on the door of any local credit unions in your immediate area (can also Google their website or call them up to confirm that they are an affiliated Credit Union Service Center). Police, fire, military, and post-office-employee credit unions are almost invariably Credit Union Service Centers. If your auto-loan credit union is affiliated, you can pay in person at any Credit Union Service Center in the U.S. for no fee.
Even if your loan is not through a credit union, there may be private affiliations that allow you to make a payment in person at a local bank. Can't hurt to ask.
If you can make the payment this way in person before or on the day it's due, it will be considered on time and you will not be assessed a late fee. You may also have a grace period in which you can pay a few days late with no penalty. Again, can't hurt to ask.