Dez's Digital Nomad Thread: Colombia (3 Viewers)

[Dez89]

OOOOF!!!!! Just took a big gut punch. I've had plans with Delight for 6 weeks and am making a special 2-day stopover in Bogota to see her. And today, 4 days before I'm supposed to see her, she sends me a message saying that she's started a relationship with someone and that we can't see each other in the same way that we usually do. That we're friends, she loves and appreciates me, and that she hopes she sees me to hug and talk.

I've (somehow) remained calm, and have not replied. But I'm on big time tilt right now.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Did you already go to bed bath and beyond? Sorry dude. Couldn’t resist. Fire up the Rolodex

 

[Dez89]

Did you already go to bed bath and beyond? Sorry dude. Couldn’t resist. Fire up the Rolodex

You know I did! But that's ok, I can just put it away and it'll be less weight on this trip.

Trying to figure out my options. I may just see if I can go straight to Barranquilla after I land in Bogota.

 

[Dez89]

I finally replied and said we could see each other another time and good luck with the relationship. I was very dry in order to get my point across, but things won't last so I didn't want to burn any bridges (that's some fine colageno).

 

[Dez89]

She replied and basically just said "Of course. Thanks."

Good news is I was able to change my flight from MIA to go directly to Barranquilla instead of Bogota with no issues and even got a $75 credit. And the apartment I'm staying at (my usual one across from Buenavista) is available those two extra nights, Saturday and Sunday (someone is leaving Saturday morning), so that worked out also.

Just got a partial refund on the apartment in Bogota. If I'd have cancelled yesterday, I'd have gotten 100% back.

Went ahead and booked two nights next week in Cartagena on Wednesday and Thursday, and told Andrea when I'd be there and to let me know if she'll be around.

 

[Dez89]

Andrea has been wishy washy since I started trying to get more specific with the plans. Now she says that she might be traveling that week .

This is usually a little bit of a red flag, but it can go either way Easter week. Gringo coming to visit or traveling with family/friends. She told me she was traveling with friends this weekend to Santa Marta and that she'd probably see me next week if she doesn't go somewhere else. Well the other telltale thing is when they post lots of pictures of just themselves. That means a dude taking the pics. Anyway, she posted some pics and a couple videos, and indeed it looks to me like she and her friend are traveling with a gringo looking guy and maybe a friend of his. I mean, it's not a surprise and I'm not upset or anything, I know she sees other guys (she seems to post a lot of beach club type pics of just herself) but it is a bit of a turnoff when I'm getting ready to go and was hoping to get somewhere with her myself.

 

[Dez89]

So yesterday I was traveling and I posted the obligatory pic of the wing of the airplane with a caption of "finally traveling to Colombia" and 3-4 girls from Bogota wrote to me about getting together. But of course, after the Delight fiasco I had changed my flight to go straight to Barranquilla . Speaking of Delight, she posted something on Friday about TLOML (which I'm guessing means "the love of my life"), and I'm thinking I never even heard of this guy until three days ago and now he's the love of your life? 20-year olds .

Arrived yesterday afternoon and spent the afternoon and evening with "family." I was trying to work out seeing 21-year old Xilena but we couldn't work it out. She didn't want to come over to the bars that are right near Buenavista and I didn't want to go off at night to somewhere I was unfamiliar with to see a girl I've never met before. She left to go out of town this morning and will be back Tuesday, so we'll see.

Was supposed to have lunch with Carmen today, but last night she said she had something to do and wouldn't be able to, but that if she was free tonight she'd let me know.

Mary gave me a hard time about getting here yesterday without telling her, but I explained to her what time I got in and that I didn't get to the apartment until late. She said ok, so I asked if she still wanted to get together. Crickets.

Exchanged messages with 23-year old Estef, but not sure if/when we might get together.

I wrote to 33-year old Kelly (who I covered in the thread when I was here a year ago) about getting lunch and she said an amiga was picking her up for lunch but that she's free tonight for dinner. I told her that I was waiting to hear about some plans (thinking Carmen might come through?) and she said no problem, she'd be around and just to let her know. I forgot that she doesn't seem to mind that I'm off hunting young chicas (she calls me the lobo) as long as she gets hers.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

I’m exhausted already.

 

[Dez89]

I’m exhausted already.

LOL. I'm baaaaaaack! Here we go again (just for a week this time though)!

 

[Dez89]

Carmen wasn't free last night (Sunday) so I called Kelly and we met up at the mall. Got something to eat and caught up, then came back to the apartment. Put a movie on then started making out. Things started getting a little heavy and she started giggling saying she was nervous (my guess is she hasn't been with anyone since me a year ago), and then she said it was getting late and she should go. I didn't argue and just sent her on her way. She asked if we would see each other tonight (Monday) and said she wanted to see me all week, and I told her I wasn't sure yet.

Carmen and I touched base earlier today and decided to meet up around 5 or 6pm. It turns out the reason she couldn't see me yesterday was that, like any good Colombian woman living abroad when they come back to visit, she was getting her boobs done. She said she didn't tell me about it because she knows I don't like that. Anyway 4pm rolled around and she wrote and asked if we could cancel until tomorrow because she was in some pain. I said yeah sure, but whatever. I've been pretty much waiting around all day to see her.

Mary wrote earlier and said she was sorry she didn't respond yesterday and that she had been with her friends all day. Sure, whatever. I asked when we were going to see each other then and... crickets.

Exchanged messages with Estef and she said she'd be free to see me on Friday. Yeah, sure...

And then I got notified from Airbnb that my apartment in Cartagena got cancelled. I'm supposed to be there in two days. I wrote to the host and he said a previous guest broke some rules of the apartment complex (may had a "guest" that wasn't allowed?) and they were forced to de-list the property. This just keeps getting better. So Airbnb offered me a $25 coupon for my trouble, and I'm on the phone with them now explaining that I had already used a $25 coupon for this reservation that just got cancelled, because of a PREVIOUS reservation that got cancelled, so getting my $25 coupon back isn't going to cut it when everything is all booked up. -- SUCCESS!! They're giving me a $55 coupon.

Touched base with Taylor (also an old face from the thread) and it turns out she's in Mexico this week on vacation. Sigh.

Matched with a sweetheart 18-yo on Tinder. We chatted for a little while and it turns out she's looking for a sugar daddy. At this point...

 

[Dez89]

Last night some primas I hadn't seen yet were over at the mall and wrote to me to come see them. So I went over there and we got some food and visited. It definitely helped take the edge off a tough day.

Today Carmen came over to the mall. I was on a call for work and told her to wait for me to eat and she said ok, I'll wait for you and comemos los dos... which was very double meaning and got my attention. I got off the call as quick as I could and hurried over. She was in a considerable amount of pain from her operation, but I didn't have any sympathy as I was not happy about it. She was being very touchy feely with me. I asked her how things were going in Spain and if she'd married that guy yet. She said that she'd married and then divorced him back in November . Let's just say at that point it moved.

We kept talking then took a walk around the mall then came back to the apartment. She literally could hardly move, breath, laugh, etc. from the pain in her chest but offered to show me how they turned out. I took a look, of course they looked awful (two days post-op but I imagine it's not going to get any better). We kissed a little and she was enjoying it, but the pain kept her from doing anything. After a while she said she had to get home and take her meds, but that she'd come back on Saturday and would hopefully feel better enough for us to catch up on old times so to speak.

She left and I had to laugh at the comedy of it all. Not only did I hate she got the operation, but it cost me some fun with her.

 

[coyote5]

Good luck, love the updates Dez!

 

[Dez89]

Went to Cartagena yesterday. I haven't heard anything from Andrea since last week, and I didn't bother trying to write to her, so I spent yesterday afternoon and evening with my friends out in the barrio. Really great people and well worth the trip to see them. This morning I got up and went and met my friend's husband for breakfast. I thought I was going to see her and her kids, but they had to go out of town for a family issue, so it ended up being just me and him musing over the problems of Colombia and the rest of the world (he's German).

I originally was supposed to stay tonight as well, but since nothing was going on with Andrea and I didn't really hit on Tinder with anything other than the working type, I decided to go ahead and head back to Barranquilla. On the way back I matched with Paula, who turned out to be a girl I matched and hooked up with a year ago when I was in Cartagena (posts #318 and 322). We chatted and caught up, but I was already on my way out of town and I'm not sure she was interested in seeing me anyway.

 

[Dez89]

Matched yesterday (Friday) morning with 22-year old Yireth. She's been single a few months and just looking for lo que fluya, which is always good. We chatted throughout the morning and I invited her to lunch. She asked if it was ok if her friend came, and I said yes. Then she said it's almost noon (it was actually only 11:15), so better we see each other tonight so I have time to get ready? I said ok sure, we can get some food and talk. She said can we get cocktails? I said ok, but was starting to feel a little uneasy. Then she asked if I dance, and I just replied no because this felt like it was turning into a fun night out for her and her friend at the gringo's expense.

We had agreed on 7pm, but they ended up showing up at 8:45pm. Yireth was little and cute, and her friend was cute too, though with a few extra pounds. We walked over to the cool food court in Buenavista 3 and they picked out what turned out to be a pretty good restaurant. We ate and talked and they had a couple of cocktails. They were actually pretty fun. Around 10pm they started kicking us out and we went walking back out into the food court. Since it was Good Friday the place was pretty dead, as was Plaza del Parque across the street where there are restaurants and bars. I asked the girls what they wanted to do and Yireth said let's go back to your apartment (I had told her earlier in the day that I had a bunch of Smirnoff's that I had bought the first day and hadn't had any of them). Earlier in the day I was a little worried about some of the potential red flags (we talked earlier in the thread about guys getting drugged, etc.) so I had already prepped the doorman. But after hanging out with them I knew they were cool so we came back and I gave the doorman the all clear sign and we headed up.

The rest of the evening was pretty much the two of them taking pics and videos of themselves to post to social media while drinking Smirnoff and listening to loud music. But it was fun considering how the rest of the week had gone. Could have used a wing man, as things went pretty well with Yireth and we had a couple quick makeout sessions when her friend went to the bathroom. They stayed until about 1:30am and then we called a car and sent them off. Got in bed at 2am, couldn't fall asleep right away, then woke up at my usual 7am .

 

[Dez89]

Was supposed to see Carmen on Saturday to follow up from the visit earlier in the week. But late in the morning she wrote and said that she couldn't see me because she had to see an amiga of hers that she wasn't going to be able to see again later and blah blah blah. Carmen was always one of the more solid chicas I could count on a few years ago, but I can't say I was surprised that she canceled on me. That was just the way the week had gone.

So I went ahead and said screw it and wrote to the sugar baby chica. I told her I had to go over to the mall to pick up some things to bring back home for people, and she said she could accompany me. She ended up showing up at 4pm, I met her out front and we walked to the mall. Super cute, but not too talkative and it was quickly apparent that she wasn't too interested. Honestly I'm not even sure why she came out. But we got something to eat, I bought my stuff, and we walked back to the building. She was absolutely not coming up to the apartment so I just called a car and sent her on her way.

Was my last night, so I wrote to Kelly around 6-7pm. She asked if she would see me before I left and I told her she could come over if she wanted. She was out with some girls and said it would be after 10pm. It was 11:15pm and I was ready to call it off when she wrote to say she was on her way. She showed up and we immediately started making out on the couch. Things escalated quickly, she was into it, and then sort of stopped things. I asked if she wanted to stop and she said yes, let's go to bed. Unbelievable.

The next morning we laid there a while snuggled up, etc. After a while I said I need to get up and shower and start packing for my flight. She wouldn't let me get up, started getting frisky, yadda yadda yadda...

It only took to the very last minute of vacation, but I went out with a bang.

 

[Dez89]

Leaving to head across the pond today. Things are still set up so far with 34-year old Ofelia, for the last leg of the trip. Had to come clean though, as we were chatting a couple of weeks ago and she told me where she worked. I said oh really, what a coincidence... She said she wasn't expecting that, but we sort of got a laugh out of it and so far the plan seems to remain intact.

 

[Hawks64]

Leaving to head across the pond today. Things are still set up so far with 34-year old Ofelia, for the last leg of the trip. Had to come clean though, as we were chatting a couple of weeks ago and she told me where she worked. I said oh really, what a coincidence... She said she wasn't expecting that, but we sort of got a laugh out of it and so far the plan seems to remain intact.

 

[The Z Machine]

Yeah, I'm shuked too.

 

[Dez89]

Just booked a 1-week vacation to Colombia for Easter week. Delight has been writing and calling a lot, and has been super sweet with me, so I made sure to include her on the itinerary. I don't remember if I mentioned it before, but she moved back to Bogota to work and study right after I left. So I'm going to start off there for two days with her then head to the coast. Still talking here and there with Andrea in Cartagena (the chica I finally met last time after 2+ years) and she seems open to things, and several of my chicas in Barranquilla keep asking when I'm coming back, so there are a few irons in the fire. Now if I can just make it two more months...

Potential multi-week work trip to Europe in mid-April, so after I get back from those two trips hopefully I'll have a plan in place to head south again for a month or so (still need to work out the details with the boss) in the May-June timeframe.

Getting ready to leave in a week for vacation. Everything seems all set with Delight, although Andrea has been wishy washy since I started trying to get more specific with the plans. Now she says that she might be traveling that week . I would be very disappointed if I didn't get to see her, she's so hot, but that's the way it goes sometimes. I should have plenty of other chicas lined up the days I'm in Barranquilla. Old faces from the thread include Mary, Taylor, and Kelly. New potential chicas are Xilena, Estef, and Carmen. I've known Carmen for 6 years, we hooked up a few times the first 3 years, but the last 3 years she's been living with a guy in Spain. She's going to be back home in Barranquilla next week for the first time since she left, and we're supposed to get together. I have no idea what she's thinking or what might happen, but I've flirted with her a little since she's had this boyfriend and she never shuts me down, she just says we should see each other again someday.

Two-week work trip to Europe is all set, leaving one week after I get back from vacation. I've had my Tinder set over there for a couple of months. It's been slow going but I did match with 34-year old Ofelia. She's separated after a 5-year relationship and is looking for fun, and says she's never been with an American and is curious. We exchanged numbers and I pulled her up on my WhatsApp. When I saw her profile pic, I noticed that she was wearing something with a company logo. Upon closer inspection I realized that it was my company's logo...

Leaving to head across the pond today. Things are still set up so far with 34-year old Ofelia, for the last leg of the trip. Had to come clean though, as we were chatting a couple of weeks ago and she told me where she worked. I said oh really, what a coincidence... She said she wasn't expecting that, but we sort of got a laugh out of it and so far the plan seems to remain intact.

Yeah, I'm shuked too.

 

[The Z Machine]

Ah. I missed that part.

 

[DA RAIDERS]

Leaving to head across the pond today. Things are still set up so far with 34-year old Ofelia, for the last leg of the trip. Had to come clean though, as we were chatting a couple of weeks ago and she told me where she worked. I said oh really, what a coincidence... She said she wasn't expecting that, but we sort of got a laugh out of it and so far the plan seems to remain intact.

What could go wrong…

 

[Hawks64]

Ah. I missed that part.

I did as well, it's a lot to keep track off

 

[Dez89]

I've been back almost a month... long story short, met up with Ofelia, yadda yadda yadda... . Saw her at work the one day, which we both laughed about.

Just booked my first remote trip with the new job, they're letting me go for a month. It took me a while to decide where to go but I finally settled on heading back to Bogota. I've got some new matches, as well as some long-time prospects that might finally come to fruition.

 

[Dez89]

Think I'll be taking July 4th week off while I'm there. Anyone up for a Colombia cornhole?