Family member bringing internet stranger to our house (1 Viewer)

[dmac37]

It seems our niece (grown adult) is planning on bringing a guy she never met or even talked with to a family gathering at our house. She has communicated with this guy over the web for about 2 months but has not even spoke to him on the phone. He lives out of state and is flying in to move here she is picking him up at the airport and was planning to bring him over to the gathering right after.

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

 

[Dan Lambskin]

What's the worst that could happen

 

[bigbottom]

So she's a first time cornholer?

 

[Craig_MiamiFL]

Not a shot in hell I'd let him or niece at my house.

 

[Drifter]

What do you think is going to happen? At worst it's awkward and you might find you actually like the guy. What's the difference if he was a guy she ####ed from the bars last week?

 

[Abraham]

Id absolutely want him at my house. It you "forbid it" then your niece is going to be with him somewhere else.

 

[SacramentoBob]

Welcome to 2014.

 

[heckmanm]

What's the worst that could happen

?

 

[QuizGuy66]

So what's his FBG handle?

-QG

 

[mr roboto]

It's weird that she would want to bring him to a family event the first meeting IRL.

 

[RBM]

Why the hell haven't they had a phone conversation?

 

[Drifter]

Not only am I from the Internet but i work for the Internet. Don't judge.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

RIP dmac37

 

[RBM]

So what's his FBG handle?

-QG

Timscho something or other. Know him?

 

[sports_fan]

What's the worst that could happen

rape, murder, he eats all the cheetos

 

[fantasycurse42]

What's your niece like? Age/profession/other men she has dated? Is there a history of weirdness?

 

[Abraham]

Why the hell haven't they had a phone conversation?

Ask guster.

 

[bostonfred]

Don't forget to start a thread about little dmac38 next winter

 

[dmac37]

What do you think is going to happen? At worst it's awkward and you might find you actually like the guy. What's the difference if he was a guy she ####ed from the bars last week?

She has never even met or talked to the guy before and he is willing to move out of state and bring all of his belongings before meeting her-major red flags. If she met him even a few weeks ago and got to know him a little in person I could see it but he would be coming to our house with other family members here (some small children) an hour after landing and her meeting him for the first time.

 

[dmac37]

Why the hell haven't they had a phone conversation?

Not sure, my brother is perplexed by this

 

[danielmclark]

Is he willing to take his shoes off when he gets to the house? Priorities.

 

[Craig_MiamiFL]

Just odd. Just the fact first time meeting will be at a family gathering.

And trying to have a conversation with them? Would be enough for me not to attend.

 

[LinusMarr]

It seems our niece (grown adult) is planning on bringing a guy she never met or even talked with to a family gathering at our house. She has communicated with this guy over the web for about 2 months but has not even spoke to him on the phone. He lives out of state and is flying in to move here she is picking him up at the airport and was planning to bring him over to the gathering right after.

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Speaking as someone who has done the online dating thing for over 2 1/2 years I think this is a real bad idea lol

 

[Annyong]

It's weird that she would want to bring him to a family event the first meeting IRL.

really strange.

 

[Drifter]

What do you think is going to happen? At worst it's awkward and you might find you actually like the guy. What's the difference if he was a guy she ####ed from the bars last week?

She has never even met or talked to the guy before and he is willing to move out of state and bring all of his belongings before meeting her-major red flags. If she met him even a few weeks ago and got to know him a little in person I could see it but he would be coming to our house with other family members here (some small children) an hour after landing and her meeting him for the first time.

I get that it's weird. I just don't see anything worse than some awkwardness though and to Abe's point, at least you have the chance to evaluate him before she's alone with him if he's really off kilter

 

[dmac37]

What's your niece like? Age/profession/other men she has dated? Is there a history of weirdness?

She is a sweet girl and not totally weird but seems to be a little different than most of the family, not always a bad thing but as you can see by her choice here a little out of the box thinking. She is somewhat overweight and I don't think has dated much, hence why the out of town guy draws an interest and concern on our end.

 

[DiStefano]

Do you have a concealed carry permit?

 

[Frostillicus]

This sounds like my wife before TRE came over the for the first time.

 

[bostonfred]

It seems our niece (grown adult) is planning on bringing a guy she never met or even talked with to a family gathering at our house. She has communicated with this guy over the web for about 2 months but has not even spoke to him on the phone. He lives out of state and is flying in to move here she is picking him up at the airport and was planning to bring him over to the gathering right after.

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Speaking as someone who has done the online dating thing for over 2 1/2 years I think this is a real bad idea lol

Good point. Dmac, do you have indoor plumbing at your house?

 

[Joe Summer]

Would your wife be hysterical if the niece had brought a man home that she just met at the library?

 

[AAABatteries]

What time should I be there?

 

[JAMES!]

If you need an ice breaker ask if they mated in the airport parking lot.

 

[dmac37]

Would your wife be hysterical if the niece had brought a man home that she just met at the library?

My wife maybe, she hates that I buy & sell things on Craigslist

 

[Jewell]

Don't let him in. He's going to walk around with his shirt off and try to rub down your wife.

 

[The Duff Man]

What do you think is going to happen? At worst it's awkward and you might find you actually like the guy. What's the difference if he was a guy she ####ed from the bars last week?

She has never even met or talked to the guy before and he is willing to move out of state and bring all of his belongings before meeting her-major red flags. If she met him even a few weeks ago and got to know him a little in person I could see it but he would be coming to our house with other family members here (some small children) an hour after landing and her meeting him for the first time.

My mom did this, some loser from Tennessee moved up to Canada to live with her despite never having met So yeah.....I would rather have it be my neice.

(It lasted about 9 months)

 

[Flying V]

I would have them over, but only communicate with them via text.

 

[fantasycurse42]

Is he by chance a store manager at Walgreens?

 

[Dan Lambskin]

This sounds like my wife before TRE came over the for the first time.

Was she worried he was going to ask her to empty the bucket?

 

[Sarnoff]

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Wait, what?

Niece: "I kinda know this guy and want to hang out with him. Is it OK if I do it in a safe environment with many adults (including my father) around who can chaperone and make sure this guy doesn't turn out to be a total creep?"

You and her father: "Absolutely not. Meet him alone in a dark bar where you don't know anyone else there."

 

[SacramentoBob]

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Wait, what?

Niece: "I kinda know this guy and want to hang out with him. Is it OK if I do it in a safe environment with many adults (including my father) around who can chaperone and make sure this guy doesn't turn out to be a total creep?"

You and her father: "Absolutely not. Meet him alone in a dark bar where you don't know anyone else there."

Unfortunately, I'm out of likes for the day.

 

[Mr. Pickles]

This sounds like my wife before TRE came over the for the first time.

TRE won her over I assume.

 

[Sarnoff]

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Wait, what?

Niece: "I kinda know this guy and want to hang out with him. Is it OK if I do it in a safe environment with many adults (including my father) around who can chaperone and make sure this guy doesn't turn out to be a total creep?"

You and her father: "Absolutely not. Meet him alone in a dark bar where you don't know anyone else there."

Unfortunately, I'm out of likes for the day.

Set an outlook reminder, I'll take an IOU for tomorrow.

 

[AK83NY]

Even in the world where internet dating is totally acceptable this sounds sketchy.

 

[DiStefano]

I would have them over, but only communicate with them via text.

He may be a deaf mute. How is your sign language?

 

[Frostillicus]

This sounds like my wife before TRE came over the for the first time.

Was she worried he was going to ask her to empty the bucket?

No, but he did fall in the bathtub.

 

[dmac37]

I do not like the idea and the wife is totally hysterical so we told her under the circumstance we do not want him at our house. My brother (her father) is not real happy about the situation and thinks the whole thing is crazy absurd of course but I get the vibe that he thinks we are being a little over the top by not wanting him in our house.

Are we being overly paranoid or doing the right thing?

Wait, what?

Niece: "I kinda know this guy and want to hang out with him. Is it OK if I do it in a safe environment with many adults (including my father) around who can chaperone and make sure this guy doesn't turn out to be a total creep?"

You and her father: "Absolutely not. Meet him alone in a dark bar where you don't know anyone else there."

If it were my daughter if I could not talk her out of this insanity I would insist on also being there to meet him at the airport but as she already told me she would never do this in a million years, shes like my wife in that regard.

The issue is we do not want to put our guests, other family members in harms way of some unknown nut that is willing to move cross country sight unseen.

 

[Frostillicus]

This sounds like my wife before TRE came over the for the first time.

TRE won her over I assume.

Everything seems ok.

 

[Abraham]

I think it's strange and definitely unorthodox, but I don't see it as necessarily problematic.

 

[Wilfredo Ledezma]

What do you think is going to happen? At worst it's awkward and you might find you actually like the guy. What's the difference if he was a guy she ####ed from the bars last week?

She has never even met or talked to the guy before and he is willing to move out of state and bring all of his belongings before meeting her-major red flags. If she met him even a few weeks ago and got to know him a little in person I could see it but he would be coming to our house with other family members here (some small children) an hour after landing and her meeting him for the first time.

I would have them over, but only communicate with them via text.

Just put him in the guest bed room and then they can talk online like usual...

 

[Apple Jack]

I think your niece might be weird. But it's actually a stealth win for the family so if his goal is to cut her up into pieces, you might be able to go all Batman and thwart that ####.