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How many kids do you have? (1 Viewer)

How many kids do you have?

  • 0.... I shoot blanks

    Votes: 25 14.4%

  • 1

    Votes: 27 15.5%

  • 2

    Votes: 64 36.8%

  • 3

    Votes: 36 20.7%

  • 4

    Votes: 13 7.5%

  • 5.... The GM Award of Fertility

    Votes: 6 3.4%

  • 6

    Votes: 2 1.1%

  • 7

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 8

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 9

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 10 or more. I am Clown Car

    Votes: 1 0.6%
  • Total voters
    174
Clown Car said:
No. It looks like it we are quiverfreaks, but we aren't. We liked having sex, we preferred not using birth control, getting pregnant and having babies was super easy for me. You do what you're good at. One baby at a time, 20 years go by and I have my own little empire. 
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What do you tell them to expect from you in terms of financial support for college?

 
chet said:
What do you tell them to expect from you in terms of financial support for college?
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I tell them to expect nothing. My oldest is self supporting. She has great scholarships and enough financial aid that college and basic living is taken care of. She also works and has roommates. The next one down is going to live at home. 3&4 are working towards going out of state. They all know we don't have any extra cash. If they need food they can come here. But they have to make it on their own out there. 

 
Clown Car said:
No. It looks like it we are quiverfreaks, but we aren't. We liked having sex, we preferred not using birth control, getting pregnant and having babies was super easy for me. You do what you're good at. One baby at a time, 20 years go by and I have my own little empire. 
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You know, there was always the butt right? :shrug:

I keed I keed!!  Seriously, I'm a fan and I always enjoy your candor.  GB ya with your brood.  I have 3 and feel like the walls are bursting...and my sanity at times.

 
11 is a big number, but I think old age would be COMPLETE MISERY without a family to love.

We have 3, boys all, 15, 13 and 9.  The 9 yr old was my "ok, you're right, another one will be a lot of fun down the road" - and he's been the funniest of the 3.

Can't imagine life without them.  They went on our 25th anniversary trip with us.  Travelling with them has become the highlights of my years...

Yes, I need a day or 2 getaway once in a while, but I get those on business trips, or short getaways with wife or buddies.

 
Clown Car said:
My oldest knows the babies but they don't know her. She's been away at school for three years. They all have great relationships. Some better than others. Some not as good. But the older ones are an enormous help. I drive, plan, and cook dinner. They do everything else. 
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You and Mr. Car are quickly becoming my heroes.  We do pretty much the same but most of the burden falls, perhaps unfairly, on our 14yo.  He's going to make a great husband some day.  All of them do chores and help with each other, our oldest is just more useful right now. 

5 - 14, 12, 8, 6, all boys with one girl on the way who was made in China. 

 
Uwe Blab said:
You know, there was always the butt right? :shrug:

I keed I keed!!  Seriously, I'm a fan and I always enjoy your candor.  GB ya with your brood.  I have 3 and feel like the walls are bursting...and my sanity at times.
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No. That is a one way street. No brown dots ever. 

 
Clown Car said:
Splitting in sex lines only mattered later. My first five (3G, 2b) were together in one room because my husbands brother lived with us for about 8 years. If you only have two in a room regular twin beds should work fine. I'm not seeing a problem. What are you wanting to accomplish?
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We're just trying to arrange for three kids to sleep in two very small bedrooms (old urban rowhouse) now that the oldest is getting too big for her toddler-sized bed (converted crib).  Two regular standalone twins would probably take up almost all the space in the larger bedroom, thus the question about bunk beds and alternative.  We're also trying to figure out whether to keep the older two together or put the two girls together now that the youngest is no longer a baby.  Thanks for your help and insight!

 
5 kids here - 14, 12, 12, 10, 9.  We had three biological, I got the snip snip and we thought we were done, and then we adopted a brother and sister pair the same ages as our younger two.  

 
Clown Car said:
Splitting in sex lines only mattered later. My first five (3G, 2b) were together in one room because my husbands brother lived with us for about 8 years. If you only have two in a room regular twin beds should work fine. I'm not seeing a problem. What are you wanting to accomplish?
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my god, how was this not a TV show.  Your husband's brother lived there TOO?!??!!?

My wife would have watched for sure.  I'd have been in the basement, watching Seinfeld re-runs.

 
MarvinTScamper said:
11 is a big number, but I think old age would be COMPLETE MISERY without a family to love.

We have 3, boys all, 15, 13 and 9.  The 9 yr old was my "ok, you're right, another one will be a lot of fun down the road" - and he's been the funniest of the 3.

Can't imagine life without them.  They went on our 25th anniversary trip with us.  Travelling with them has become the highlights of my years...

Yes, I need a day or 2 getaway once in a while, but I get those on business trips, or short getaways with wife or buddies.
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This is a very important point.  I'm an only child.  It was great as a kid, but now that I'm older, it's a huge burden.  My parents live 4 hours away.  My Dad is Thai, and his whole family is in Thailand, and my Mom's family is fractured and not really around.  Neither of my parents have many really close friends.  So now, as they get older, all their concerns lie with me.

My wife asked me how many kids I wanted, and my only answer was  "more than one, because I don't want them to have to go at it alone."  Thank god I have an awesome wife who loves my parents as much as me, and great in-laws who care about them too.  It just helps knowing there's someone else around.

For those of you who only want/have 1 kid and don't have a large family network - please consider this.  That one kid will be the only one to deal with your estate when you pass.  The only one to grieve.  The only one for you to rely on when your health is failing.

 
Fat Nick said:
This is a very important point.  I'm an only child.  It was great as a kid, but now that I'm older, it's a huge burden.  My parents live 4 hours away.  My Dad is Thai, and his whole family is in Thailand, and my Mom's family is fractured and not really around.  Neither of my parents have many really close friends.  So now, as they get older, all their concerns lie with me.

My wife asked me how many kids I wanted, and my only answer was  "more than one, because I don't want them to have to go at it alone."  Thank god I have an awesome wife who loves my parents as much as me, and great in-laws who care about them too.  It just helps knowing there's someone else around.

For those of you who only want/have 1 kid and don't have a large family network - please consider this.  That one kid will be the only one to deal with your estate when you pass.  The only one to grieve.  The only one for you to rely on when your health is failing.
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Or multiple kids to fight over your estate...

 
TobiasFunke said:
You should run the numbers to estimate total diapers changed some time.
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Estimate about 8 per day (newborns require more than toddlers) on average...8 x x 365 = 2920.  Estimate the average kid in diapers for about 3 yrs: 2920 x 3 = 8760 diapers per kid.  11 x 8760 = 96360 diapers.  So around 96,000 diapers by the time her youngest gets out of them...

 
Galileo said:
Estimate about 8 per day (newborns require more than toddlers) on average...8 x x 365 = 2920.  Estimate the average kid in diapers for about 3 yrs: 2920 x 3 = 8760 diapers per kid.  11 x 8760 = 96360 diapers.  So around 96,000 diapers by the time her youngest gets out of them...
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So. Much. Crap.  You deserve a medal, @Clown Car.  Maybe one with a little picture of a turd on it.

 
TobiasFunke said:
We're just trying to arrange for three kids to sleep in two very small bedrooms (old urban rowhouse) now that the oldest is getting too big for her toddler-sized bed (converted crib).  Two regular standalone twins would probably take up almost all the space in the larger bedroom, thus the question about bunk beds and alternative.  We're also trying to figure out whether to keep the older two together or put the two girls together now that the youngest is no longer a baby.  Thanks for your help and insight!
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I had 3 in a 3 bedroom. The older two are only 2 years apart. Put them in bunks. They have rails all the way around except for where the ladder goes. There was no issues. The only problem was the ceiling fan. Had to take it down. It was too close to the top bunk. 

It was while we were living in that three bedroom that surprise #4 came along. Now we live in a much bigger house, but still only 4 bedrooms and the two oldest are in the same room although now their bunks are side by side because the room is bigger.

So 4. A boy who turned 9 four days ago. A boy who's six and will be 7 on May 28th. A boy 3 who will be 4 on May 29th (and their cousin will be six on May 30th), and a girl who turned 1 in March. 

My wife is still angling for #5. I'm done. I can't imagine my life without them and they are the best things that ever happened to me, but it's time to stop. We started late. She's 38 now. Lots more risks the closer to 40 and beyond. 

 
Galileo said:
Estimate about 8 per day (newborns require more than toddlers) on average...8 x x 365 = 2920.  Estimate the average kid in diapers for about 3 yrs: 2920 x 3 = 8760 diapers per kid.  11 x 8760 = 96360 diapers.  So around 96,000 diapers by the time her youngest gets out of them...
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Eight per day? I have a 1 year old and can't remember ever changing her 8 times in a day. Maybe when she was first born and up every 2 hours. But now, she gets her diaper changed 3-4 times a day and that's been pretty consistent for most of her life. 

Think of it this way, if the kid sleeps 8 hours at night, AND has 2 naps that last about 4 hours, then that would be changing her every 90 minutes she's awake. 

 
Fat Nick said:
This is a very important point.  I'm an only child.  It was great as a kid, but now that I'm older, it's a huge burden.  My parents live 4 hours away.  My Dad is Thai, and his whole family is in Thailand, and my Mom's family is fractured and not really around.  Neither of my parents have many really close friends.  So now, as they get older, all their concerns lie with me.

My wife asked me how many kids I wanted, and my only answer was  "more than one, because I don't want them to have to go at it alone."  Thank god I have an awesome wife who loves my parents as much as me, and great in-laws who care about them too.  It just helps knowing there's someone else around.

For those of you who only want/have 1 kid and don't have a large family network - please consider this.  That one kid will be the only one to deal with your estate when you pass.  The only one to grieve.  The only one for you to rely on when your health is failing.
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I never thought of it that way. That's a great point. 

 
eoMMan said:
Or multiple kids to fight over your estate...
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I hear what you're saying, and have seen this go badly and ruin families...but for me at least, I don't care if I get $1 from my parents when they pass.  They've given me enough along the way.  If anything I'd like to see them spend MORE to make their lives easier.

 
I have five. Three biological, two step-kids. More than enough for me. 

Wife2.0 keeps lobbying to have a baby, but that ain't happening. 

 
TheFanatic said:
Eight per day? I have a 1 year old and can't remember ever changing her 8 times in a day. Maybe when she was first born and up every 2 hours. But now, she gets her diaper changed 3-4 times a day and that's been pretty consistent for most of her life. 

Think of it this way, if the kid sleeps 8 hours at night, AND has 2 naps that last about 4 hours, then that would be changing her every 90 minutes she's awake. 
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It's an estimate, guy.   But just because you like leaving your kids in dirty diapers don't poop on my estimate.  Here is a reference in close agreement with my numbers... http://www.newkidscenter.com/How-Many-Diapers-A-Day.html 

Revise it down to an average of 6 per day and you are still looking at at a ####load of diapers.

 
Clown Car said:
11: 21,18,16,14,13,10,8,6,5,2,1

5 girls, 6 boys. 

All biologically belong to my husband and I. No multiples, all ######l. Half breastfed. 6 natural deliveries, 5 epidurals. Smallest was 8 pounds five ounces. Biggest was 12 pounds even. 

Ama except why. 
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are you a strong practitioner of religion?  and if so, which version?

 
We've got 1 but I would have 1 more. She's one and done. We've got a great son, so we're good overall and he's fine being an only child.

 
DA RAIDERS said:
so no serious bible thumping?  thanks for answering, it could be a touchy subject for some.  i have 1 kid and can't fathom your experience.  
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No. I love God and I love people but I hate  religion, what the church is. My sister is gay and we are all screw ups in some way. I think most people are just doing the best they can to get through life. 

My experience is very relaxed. I think people with 1 kid try to make that 1 kids life perfect. With 2 kids you keep trying but it's hard and you feel bad because you can't keep it perfect but you're still trying. After 3 you know you can't, you can relax and stop trying. Start enjoying everything for what it is. 

We have been exceedingly blessed. Our kids are all perfect. Perfect health, good looking, smart, artistic, athletic, get along with others. I couldn't ask for anything more. 

 
Clown Car said:
No. I love God and I love people but I hate  religion, what the church is. My sister is gay and we are all screw ups in some way. I think most people are just doing the best they can to get through life. 

My experience is very relaxed. I think people with 1 kid try to make that 1 kids life perfect. With 2 kids you keep trying but it's hard and you feel bad because you can't keep it perfect but you're still trying. After 3 you know you can't, you can relax and stop trying. Start enjoying everything for what it is. 

We have been exceedingly blessed. Our kids are all perfect. Perfect health, good looking, smart, artistic, athletic, get along with others. I couldn't ask for anything more. 
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Do you feel like you can really know all of your children and have a real and deep relationship with them in the same way you could if you had 3 or even 6?

I also will respect your wishes that nobody ask you "why?", but can you explain why that question is off limits?

 
To each their own. Mr and Mrs Clown wanted way more than we did. I have 3. 27, 25, 23. All graduated from college and out on their own. Great kids Timing was good. It's our time now until we get grandkids. Needed a break.  Raising kids is hard work. So worth it, but still hard work

 
RedmondLonghorn said:
Do you feel like you can really know all of your children and have a real and deep relationship with them in the same way you could if you had 3 or even 6?

I also will respect your wishes that nobody ask you "why?", but can you explain why that question is off limits?
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I think I do have good and deep and real relationships with each of them. We homeschool so we are together a lot more than if we didn't. I'm involved in everything they do. There are times I think I'm missing out on the toddlers because I'm at a track meet with the teens. Or I'm missing out on the teens because I took the little ones to a thing for them. i worry more about my youngest ones not having my husband and I when they are 30+ but I have to hope they will be close to their older sibs. Each of the youngest are particularly close to one of the oldest. So instead of being jealous that the 1yo wants to sit with the 13yo during story time I encourage that relationship because they will be together longer than I will be around. 

I don't have a good answer to why. I think we have some good solid answers like we like sex, are in a solid relationship, have a very stable home. But there may be some that point to me being weird. Like I am replacing lost relationships of family that have abandoned me or died. Or I'm obstinate and the more our parents said we are stupid or should stop the more I was determined to have another. But I don't have any religious vow I'm trying to fulfill or obligation to keep western civilization alive or think I'm going to populate heaven with good white kids. So I'm not that weird. 

 
Clown Car said:
No. I love God and I love people but I hate  religion, what the church is. My sister is gay and we are all screw ups in some way. I think most people are just doing the best they can to get through life. 

My experience is very relaxed. I think people with 1 kid try to make that 1 kids life perfect. With 2 kids you keep trying but it's hard and you feel bad because you can't keep it perfect but you're still trying. After 3 you know you can't, you can relax and stop trying. Start enjoying everything for what it is. 

We have been exceedingly blessed. Our kids are all perfect. Perfect health, good looking, smart, artistic, athletic, get along with others. I couldn't ask for anything more. 
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This is a perfect summary of what we just went through having three in quick succession.  I remember how nervous and detail-obsessed we were just a couple years ago and it cracks me up. For a while we made sure that first kid was staying away from all TV, eating healthy, etc. At this point we just check to make sure they're not watching Saw VI and eating spare change they found between the couch cushions.

 
Clown Car said:
I think I do have good and deep and real relationships with each of them. We homeschool so we are together a lot more than if we didn't. I'm involved in everything they do. There are times I think I'm missing out on the toddlers because I'm at a track meet with the teens. Or I'm missing out on the teens because I took the little ones to a thing for them. i worry more about my youngest ones not having my husband and I when they are 30+ but I have to hope they will be close to their older sibs. Each of the youngest are particularly close to one of the oldest. So instead of being jealous that the 1yo wants to sit with the 13yo during story time I encourage that relationship because they will be together longer than I will be around. 

I don't have a good answer to why. I think we have some good solid answers like we like sex, are in a solid relationship, have a very stable home. But there may be some that point to me being weird. Like I am replacing lost relationships of family that have abandoned me or died. Or I'm obstinate and the more our parents said we are stupid or should stop the more I was determined to have another. But I don't have any religious vow I'm trying to fulfill or obligation to keep western civilization alive or think I'm going to populate heaven with good white kids. So I'm not that weird. 
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Thanks for the answers.

I have to admit that I can't possibly relate to the decisions that you have made and that makes me feel like you are a little weird (from my perspective anyway), but not necessarily in a bad way.

 
RedmondLonghorn said:
Thanks for the answers.

I have to admit that I can't possibly relate to the decisions that you have made and that makes me feel like you are a little weird (from my perspective anyway), but not necessarily in a bad way.
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I'm totally weird. As a group homeschoolers are and throw in a huge family, it is pretty weird. I'm neck deep in "what have we done?" some days. But most days it's pretty wonderful. 

 
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