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yep, certainly can't helpFrustration over getting texted at all hours of the night over fears of squirrels.
yep, certainly can't helpFrustration over getting texted at all hours of the night over fears of squirrels.
And LOTS of free food.Man, I never ever contemplated the benefits aspect, specifically housing/cars.
Looks like I was waaaaay off on this one.
Many people find they are cut out to be con men.The pay must not be worth it for most of them as 35-40% leave the ministry within 5 years. 60-80% leave within 10.
Planning His Exit
He is firm about his decision to leave religion entirely, stating that, “I took many years making my mind up on this issue; I don’t need to try another brand of it.” He is planning to leave the ministry as soon he finds another way to support his family. He would leave sooner, if he had enough money to pay off his debts:
If somebody said, “Here’s $200,000,” I’d be turning my notice in this week, saying, “A month from now is my last Sunday.” Because then I can pay off everything.
In the meantime, he is quietly pursuing another career. His wife is aware of his plan to switch careers, but he hasn’t told her yet of his reason for the change. He thinks she will be both upset and supportive of whatever he wants to do. Mutual support has been the pattern in their marriage:
I couldn’t ask for a better wife. I was very fortunate. We get along great. We support each other, and always give each other words of encouragement, and just support each other in every way we can think about. She doesn’t need to hear this right now. It’s not going to serve any of us. I feel like when the time’s right, I can talk to her about it. She won’t like it, but I will share it with her. And after I share it with her, I will start sharing itwith other people. But she’s going to be first. Because I know it’s going to be --- it’s going to turn her life upside-down … she’s a very dedicated Christian. Very devout.
He thinks she is aware that he has been changing, but she doesn’t press him about it and he has no intention of trying to change her beliefs:
I think she definitely sees me pulling away from it though. And we’ve talked about it, but in very superficial ways. I don’t get into details about it.
I’m not going to try to force her to change her mind. And if she wants to continue to live her life that way, I’ll be supportive of her. And I’m not going to try to demean her or belittle her or belittle her beliefs.
He thinks his children won’t have a problem with his change in beliefs. They haven’t seemed to notice or care that he no longer says prayers before meals. Recently, he was very open with his son who asked him about some Bible passages:
We were talking about some scriptures in Revelation and some other things. He said, “Dad, do you really believe?” Before I could think, I said, “Son, I don’t believe any of it. No way.” He just smiled.
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The fella that married my wife and I left the ministry. As soon as his mom passed away, he was out....and by out, I mean out of the closet.The pay must not be worth it for most of them as 35-40% leave the ministry within 5 years. 60-80% leave within 10.
And then there are a lot of people who think that as soon as they get bit by a squirrel that you should be at their immediate call and if you don't respond fast enough then you are a big jerk. It can be very rough and many burn out quickly.Some of you know I was in Seminary preparing for full time pastoral ministry and decided not to finish my MDiv or go into ministry. I now have a business development job.
There were many reasons for my decision but relevant to this thread was research showing that many pastors would take a job outside ministry but they feel stuck with the training/education they have.
Leading a church is tough on a family. You are constantly under scrutiny. Many churches assume that the pastors spouse/kids are essentially free employees. You deal with a lot of brokenness, tragedy, church politics etc.. And most aren't compensated that well although as mentioned already there are allowances that help.
Its definately a calling and if that doesn't motivate a pastor/clergy person then they will burn out.
Oh, and an MDiv is minimum 60 credits. So you have the equivalent course load and expense of 2 MBAs but won't see the salary commensurate with the educational expenditure (though not all churches require a Masters for their ministry staff).
Did you show up in that outfit in your avatar?Having been a Mormon bishop for 5 years while maintaining my vocation, I can tell you I earned exactly zero in terms of money. In fact, we pay tithing, so I paid 10% of my income for 5 years and served in that capacity, and I can say that my time involved and duties were identical to a paid clergy.
wait, this sounds familiar....I worked at a country club after college and there was a church next door. The two priests were regulars for golf, lunch and the bar pretty much every Monday through Friday. They didn't pay for an annual membership, greens fees or any of their food/drink. And they both drove Lincoln Town Cars. Tack things like that on top of their healthcare, housing and reported annual salary.
I graduated from a Jesuit Catholic high school. One of the English teachers was a priest; I never had him as a teacher. There were maybe 20 priests employed by the school in various capacities, teachers, chaplains, administrators, etc., and they mostly lived in an on-campus rectory that was like an apartment building.I worked at a country club after college and there was a church next door. The two priests were regulars for golf, lunch and the bar pretty much every Monday through Friday. They didn't pay for an annual membership, greens fees or any of their food/drink. And they both drove Lincoln Town Cars. Tack things like that on top of their healthcare, housing and reported annual salary.
Creflo Dollar and Joel Osteen skews the numbers, I think.Our new pastor just gave us his first financial update last Sunday. He makes $65K. He threw out a bunch of stats, and one was that the average pastor salary in the U.S. is $72K.
There's a local pastor here named Pastor Swindle.LOL, there really is a big time pastor named Pastor Dollar?
That's awesome.