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How much do you love/hate your life? (1 Viewer)

How you actually FEEL?

  • Very sucky

    Votes: 11 6.1%

  • Sucky

    Votes: 24 13.3%

  • Neutral

    Votes: 41 22.8%

  • Good

    Votes: 60 33.3%

  • Very good

    Votes: 44 24.4%
  • Total voters
    180
xulf

xulf

Footballguy
Be honest.  Using likert scale for scientific purposes.

 
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I have young kids so like 95% of the time it sucks and the other 5% are the absolute best and happiest moments of my life. 

 
On paper: Good. Decent job, home and income, nothing to brag about.

Feels: Very Good. About to become a father, planning on moving back to Florida next year. Feels VERY good.

 
Very Good

Good

Don't have Chet money but I do fine, always can do better though I suppose.  I have great friends and a good network, job is good, personal life is solid and sometimes great.  I live for the great moments. 

 
Very good all the way around here. Youngest kid about to move out and head to college. Looking forward to the empty nest with a few bucks in the bank.

 
Retired at 35, great wife, great kids, great house in a great neighborhood , great beach all summer, fridge is full, and live in Cranston. What more could a guy want?

 
On paper very good, actually feeling neutral. A 3 month old and 3 year old are just wearing my wife and I down. We're both just exhausted with very little down time and sleep.

We got smashed at a wedding last night and were woken up at 545 this morning... This is the kinda stuff that makes me say FML.

 
PIK95 said:
Retired at 35, great wife, great kids, great house in a great neighborhood , great beach all summer, fridge is full, and live in Cranston. What more could a guy want?
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I'm sure I've missed you telling this story but how did you manage to retire at 35?

 
You know it ebbs and flows. 

Right now on both paper and in life I feel pretty sucky. 

My 16 year old daughter is just bankrupting my wife and I monetarily and emotionally. 

I am usually the "things are always going to get better" type person and that drives my wife crazy, but last night I think I shocked her when I told her I don't think things will.  :(

 
Very Good

Good

Positive: Good job, great wife and 4 healthy kids that are well-adjusted and do well in school.  Live in a nice community with really great amenities.  Have enough disposable income to vacation a couple times per year.  I'm in pretty good health.  Retirement savings is not where I want it to be but I'm sure I'm way ahead of the mean.

Negatives: job can be stressful at times.  I have a 2 hour commute 4 days a week (1 hour each way). I do get to ride public transportation so it's somewhat productive time.  I made some dumb financial decisions in my 20's that set me back but I've recovered now - only really impacts my retirement date now as I could be further ahead.  No anal and rare BJs.

Overall: I like to think globally when I consider this question.  The average person in the U.S. has a really good life compared with folks in 3rd world countries.  I've been lucky to be above the average in the U.S. So I'm doing pretty freaking good.

 
If lives had boners, mine would have to seek immediate medical treatment for an erection lasting more than four hours.

 
PIK95 said:
Retired at 35, great wife, great kids, great house in a great neighborhood , great beach all summer, fridge is full, and live in Cranston. What more could a guy want?
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If probably want you to pay your league dues in Serious Biz. ;)  

 
fantasycurse42 said:
On paper very good, actually feeling neutral. A 3 month old and 3 year old are just wearing my wife and I down. We're both just exhausted with very little down time and sleep.

We got smashed at a wedding last night and were woken up at 545 this morning... This is the kinda stuff that makes me say FML.
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This.

I have a 2y.o. and 1 y.o. and although on paper my life is great, especially in comparison to the masses, and definitely especially if you consider my situation globally.

Yet, for all the joy that the young children bring, that joy is mostly outweighed by all the excessive work, the exhaustion, the decreased relationship with the wife, etc.

Last 2 years of my life have been among the worst 4-5 years I can rate.

On the other hand, I'll never be 24-28 again and those years are going to be hard to top.

 
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fantasycurse42 said:
On paper very good, actually feeling neutral. A 3 month old and 3 year old are just wearing my wife and I down. We're both just exhausted with very little down time and sleep.

We got smashed at a wedding last night and were woken up at 545 this morning... This is the kinda stuff that makes me say FML.
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There's no room in your life for getting smashed anymore.

 
Doctor Detroit said:
Very Good

Good

Don't have Chet money but I do fine, always can do better though I suppose.  I have great friends and a good network, job is good, personal life is solid and sometimes great.  I live for the great moments. 
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You have a house in Italy, right?  You're doing more than 'fine'.

 
Dentist said:
This.

I have a 2y.o. and 1 y.o. and although on paper my life is great, especially in comparison to the masses, and definitely especially if you consider my situation globally.

Yet, for all the joy that the young children bring, that joy is mostly outweighed by all the excessive work, the exhaustion, the decreased relationship with the wife, etc.

Last 2 years of my life have been among the worst 4-5 years I can rate.

On the other hand, I'll never be 24-28 again and those years are going to be hard to top.
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First off great topic.  

Secondly, I share the same feelings.  On paper, our life is outstanding, mid 6 figure household, zero debts, beautiful house in a great neighbourhood and of course compared to the rest of the world there isn't a single thing to complain about and a million things to be grateful for.

But with young kids, I miss sleeping and relaxing and playing flag football etc...also, being an engineer i feel very ho hum about work and being in an office for the next 20 years etc...sure it pays well but it is so boring and uninspiring. 

 
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Went paper is neutral and I feel good.

My kids are healthy, happy and awesome. That is more than half way right there.

My relationship with the wife is ok. Could be better but could be a whole lot worse.

I really do not like work but it is not a horrible job either. Just boring clock in and clock out. Pay is decent for what I do but I am still underpaid from what I use to be. Still digging out of the hole from the Great Recession both career and personal finance. If I get the news I am hoping for this week- then both will take giant steps from being sucky factors to very good factors.

The other negative is my family other than my home (mother, siblings, etc) have a ton of issues and it stresses me. Most are financial so if I get that news, again, that will help there too. It will take me to paper good and I will be feeling very good. If I don't get the news.... yikes. I will feel trapped. :(

 
Don't love it, don't hate it.  There are good and bad parts, like most people have to deal with.

Wife got a decent promotion at work, so things will look up when that pay starts to kick in.  She and I normally only fight about money, so that should ease stuff up.  Most of everything else (outside of my job) is pretty good.

I wake up in the morning with a roof over my head, not worrying about where my next meal is coming from, all my bills are paid up to date, kids are happy, healthy, and get good grades.  I don't have a lot to complain about as long as I'm not trying to keep up with the Jones.

 
Bull Dozier said:
Don't love it, don't hate it.  There are good and bad parts, like most people have to deal with.

Wife got a decent promotion at work, so things will look up when that pay starts to kick in.  She and I normally only fight about money, so that should ease stuff up.  Most of everything else (outside of my job) is pretty good.

I wake up in the morning with a roof over my head, not worrying about where my next meal is coming from, all my bills are paid up to date, kids are happy, healthy, and get good grades.  I don't have a lot to complain about as long as I'm not trying to keep up with the Jones.
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Not to be a Debbie downer here but the tendency for most people is that more money means more spending and same financial problems. Not something you are doomed to if you are aware of it and plan accordingly so just a heads up.

 
AAABatteries said:
@PIK95

Agree - come on Pik, what's the scoop?  Independently wealthy, lottery, trophy husband???
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There is no one answer.  After I blew out my back at work, I didn't lawyer up but instead applied for a disability annuity (15k yr and kept my medical). They approved me of course.  I should have gone after them but the harassment would have been no fun.

 The main reason I was able to retire was that I was smart with my house purchase in 2001, and my wife works.  It suxor having this back injury, but not having to pay for day care was a big plus.  

Fwiw, I'm far from rich.

 
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On paper: Very good - Nice house, good paying job, great wife, four great kids

Reality: Good with a lot of upside - I really like my work organization, but have been bored and needing to move to a new role the last couple months. Just missed out on a promotion which didn't help. And I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. So I'm tired as hell all of the time. Bedtime, between those two and my older kids (11 and 9 years) is a giant draining pain in the ###. The kids will get easier to put to bed. I'm in the best shape I've been in 10 years. Work is only going to get better. I complain but have no good reason to.

 
PIK95 said:
There is no one answer.  After I blew out my back at work, I didn't lawyer up but instead applied for a disability annuity (15k yr and kept my medical). They approved me of course.  I should have gone after them but the harassment would have been no fun.

 The main reason I was able to retire was that I was smart with my house purchase in 2001, and my wife works.  It suxor having this back injury, but not having to pay for day care was a big plus.  

Fwiw, I'm far from rich.
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what do you do during the day?

 
kutta said:
Very good all the way around here. Youngest kid about to move out and head to college. Looking forward to the empty nest with a few bucks in the bank.
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I'm actually dreading the empty nest phase of life. Much of my happiness revolves around my kids, which I know isn't sustainable. 

Very good and somewhere between neutral/good for me. 

 
Chadstroma said:
Not to be a Debbie downer here but the tendency for most people is that more money means more spending and same financial problems. Not something you are doomed to if you are aware of it and plan accordingly so just a heads up.
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I get that.  The difference here is that things have been tight our entire time together.  I've gotten some decent raises the last few years, so we're finally out of that stage of worrying about being able to pay all the bills each month.  Credit cards aren't touches any more, we're paying down debt every month, saving for retirement is on the increase.  Things are trending in the right direction.  However, I'm still generally tighter with the money than she is.  Fights about money revolve around me wanting to keep the thermostat cooler in the winter or warmer in the summer than she prefers.  Being able to deal with a higher energy bill will reduce that battle to some degree.  Having some extra cash flow would allow me to be a little more loose there.

The other money topic that causes strife is vacations.  She always wants to go places, but I am firmly against putting trips on credit cards (that aren't going to be paid off right away).  Extra cash flow means more money to set aside for trips.

So, while I get what you are saying, I am optimistic we can avoid that pitfall.

 
Married for 17 years to a woman who is still attractive, four kids (with one on the way), two dogs, really good job, we just bought our house, I might retire (first retirement) next summer and I'm in pretty good shape.  We're looking to buy a beach house in the next few years. 

But I turn 40 this summer and have more aches and pains than ever.  Also, the "first retirement" (and looking for a new job) is very much real and combined with turning 40 will probably prompt a mid-life crisis. 

 
I'm pretty fortunate, my only issue is I work too much. That keeps my overall enjoyment down from very good to just good.

 
FUBAR said:
Married for 17 years to a woman who is still attractive, four kids (with one on the way), two dogs, really good job, we just bought our house, I might retire (first retirement) next summer and I'm in pretty good shape.  We're looking to buy a beach house in the next few years. 

But I turn 40 this summer and have more aches and pains than ever.  Also, the "first retirement" (and looking for a new job) is very much real and combined with turning 40 will probably prompt a mid-life crisis. 
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I just married this insanely hot deaf-mute 23yo boob model and she's got this huge boat and all 20 of our kids are chess grandmasters and/or they own software companies. But, sometimes my dumps are a little sloppy and I need to wipe several times. :shrug:

 
FUBAR said:
Married for 17 years to a woman who is still attractive, four kids (with one on the way), two dogs, really good job, we just bought our house, I might retire (first retirement) next summer and I'm in pretty good shape.  We're looking to buy a beach house in the next few years. 

But I turn 40 this summer and have more aches and pains than ever.  Also, the "first retirement" (and looking for a new job) is very much real and combined with turning 40 will probably prompt a mid-life crisis. 
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Generally mid life male crisis comes from hating your wife

 
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