Indians - What's your experience? (1 Viewer)

[Captain Cranks]

I live in a relatively affluent neighborhood in the Tampa area.  Many of my neighbors are either older, white empty-nesters or first or second generation immigrants from India that work in the medical field.  I try not to paint people with a broad brush, but based on my experience, I've noticed some reoccurring themes.

1.  They're generally not social people, at least outside of their own networks.   

2.  The women look miserable.  A lot of the time they walk alone with very stoic looks on their faces.  If you drive past them on their walks, there's a high likelihood they won't acknowledge your existence.

3.   A specific incident, and maybe this speaks to #1, but I have an 8 year old son who doesn't have playmates in the neighborhood.  Over Christmas, we realized that a girl in his class lives two houses down.  I encouraged my son to ride bikes with her and her brothers whenever I'd see them outside.  A few iterations of that went by before I told him to knock on their door to see if they could play.  The father told my son that he's not allowed to knock on their door, nor are his kids allowed to knock on our door.   Uhhhh, ok.     

I'm curious to know of other's experiences and if there's anything about our cultures that you think has led to my experiences.  

 

[Parrothead]

invite them over for a nice beef tenderloin

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Just keep trying to Indira yourself to them.

 

[Parrothead]

tell them you know Hillary.. I heard they love her

 

[Scoresman]

They're people, just like you and me.

 

[James Daulton]

Don't stare at their foreheads.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Don't stare at their foreheads.

Dots the ticket.

 

[TobiasFunke]

In fairness we should probably consider the likelihood that they're just anti-social, miserable and stoic because they're stuck in Tampa.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Sari for the bad puns.

 

[Limp Ditka]

They wake me up in the middle of the night with questions about work.

 

[Apple Jack]

Needy, nosey, judgemental white neighbors, what's your experience?

 

[NutterButter]

As a software developer, I work  and have worked with a lot of Indians.  Some of the nicest people I've ever met; almost to a fault.   

 

[shadyridr]

They don't know how to use deodorant

 

[Thorpe]

I also live in a neighborhood with a lot of Indian people.  #2 is right on the money.  There is 1 Indian family that tries to fit in with the white folk, but #1 applies in general.

 

[Apple Jack]

As a software developer, I work  and have worked with a lot of Indians.  Some of the nicest people I've ever met; almost to a fault.   

My experience as well.

Also, India call centers > US call centers. By a lot.

 

[Captain Cranks]

Needy, nosey, judgemental white neighbors, what's your experience?

I realize the insinuation is I'm needy, nosy, and judgmental, but I think you only have evidence for one of those items which just so happens to match the number of items you spelled correctly.  

 

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One of my best friends is indian.

You've not been in a wedding until you've been in a Sikh wedding   . 3-4 days of pure awesome, that video is only one day of it

 

[BigSteelThrill]

From my experiences over the past few years...

The FOB (fresh off the boat) male Indians at the clubs... horrible.  Just flatly horrible. The idiocy is unmatched. Young or old.

The Indian women often try anything possible to avoid them.  I have had the grouped up females state on several occasions "we hate our own kind" or something similar.

 

[Da Guru]

I have dealt with many people from India.  Of course there are exceptions but the culture in general is non-aggressive, kind and very laid back.

 

[Apple Jack]

From my experiences over the past few years...

The FOB (fresh off the boat) male Indians at the clubs... horrible.  Just flatly horrible. The idiocy is unmatched. Young or old.

The Indian women often try anything possible to avoid them.  I have had the grouped up females state on several occasions "we hate our own kind" or something similar.

Sounds like all men and women at "clubs", not just Indians.

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

I have known only three Indian people during my life beyond simple meetings in passing.  Proper to a fault, but friendly and quick.  The one female friend was, to my tastes, an extremely appealing woman. 

 

[BigSteelThrill]

Sounds like all men and women at "clubs", not just Indians.

NO! 

You dont have the grouped females making that distinction like they do.

 

[Brownsfan]

The Indians are my favorite baseball team

 

[Captain Cranks]

One of my best friends is indian.

You've not been in a wedding until you've been in a Sikh wedding   . 3-4 days of pure awesome, that video is only one day of it

3-4 days?  What does that even mean?  

 

[eoMMan]

In fairness we should probably consider the likelihood that they're just anti-social, miserable and stoic because they're stuck in Tampa.

Stuck in Tampa? 

Try again, sir.

 

[Ditka Butkus]

They are cheap...

 

[TobiasFunke]

Stuck in Tampa? 

Try again, sir.

Yeah, you're probably right. I'm sure middle-aged Indian women can't get enough of football, dingy strip malls, Outback Steakhouse and leathery blondes with fake knockers.

 

[dickey moe]

One of my best friends is indian.

You've not been in a wedding until you've been in a Sikh wedding   . 3-4 days of pure awesome, that video is only one day of it

Looks as if Indian parents have to start saving at the age of 3 to pay for their future daughter's wedding.

 

[IC FBGCav]

It is a huge sign of respect to kiss or lick their left hand, you should try that.

 

[cockroach]

they do this head wobble thingy that I don't get.

 

[Officer Pete Malloy]

Female Indians are absolutely the best students to have in class.   100% true.

 

[eoMMan]

Yeah, you're probably right. I'm sure middle-aged Indian women can't get enough of football, dingy strip malls, Outback Steakhouse and leathery blondes with fake knockers.

So maybe we should pack them up and send them to the depressing, congested area of Washington DC/Virginia?

Maybe you're right and they can't enjoy or appreciate all the awesomeness that Tampa and the rest of Florida offers.

 

[Captain Cranks]

Female Indians are absolutely the best students to have in class.   100% true.

I wonder about this.  There's obviously a reason that a lot of the doctors in my area are Indian.  What is it about their upbringing that makes them such good students?  Are they forced to have their head in the books for hours after school each day?  

 

[Spin]

Looks as if Indian parents have to start saving at the age of 3 to pay for their future daughter's wedding.

Working in IT, my company uses plenty of contractors, the vast majority of which tend to be from India.  From talking to a few of my coworkers, they have crazy expensive weddings, that last multiple days, in which they pay for everything.  Including travel/hotel expenses for everyone invited.  It's pretty much what you stated above.

Pretty much everyone I've encountered from India is incredibly polite.  

 

[Joe Summer]

I'm not going to bother reading the thread when the title is so blatantly racist. Can we have the mods fix it please? The preferred nomenclature is "Native Americans".

 

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3-4 days?  What does that even mean?  

There is a very intimate family and wedding party only pre-rehearsal dinner (a Mehndi) where the bride and bridesmaids are painted up with henna on their arms/hands/feet and the men stand around and drink... followed by stories, dancing, etc. Then there is a rehearsal dinner type event (but much longer and more elaborate that rivals most wedding receptions) called a Sangeet where there is a huge meal, tons of dancing, skits, the bridesmaids mocking the groom a bit... and the men stand around and drink. Then there is the actual ceremony itself which is a day/night long affair and is a complete spectacle.  There are smaller gatherings leading up to all these events as well. 

 

[eoMMan]

I like the movie where the Indian guy is on a little boat with a tiger he named Richard Sherman.

 

[eoMMan]

I'm not going to bother reading the thread when the title is so blatantly racist. Can we have the mods fix it please? The preferred nomenclature is "Native Americans".

They're native to Tampa?

 

[Bob Loblaw]

You should watch Meet the Patels on Netflix.  Pretty good documentary about an Indian-American actor (Ravi Patel) and his search for a significant other.  Good insight into the whole arranged marriages thing. 

Many of the women are probably pissed and miserable because their marriages are arranged. 

 

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Looks as if Indian parents have to start saving at the age of 3 to pay for their future daughter's wedding.

In this case the family of the groom paid since the bride's family wasn't very well off (only her father remains)... they also paid for a similar event for their daughter to marry off. it was not cheap. It is also customary to fly family and other distinguished guests over from India and cover their accommodations. 

At the Sangeet we actually drank through all the whiskey. The Groom's father (who ordered it) apologized profusely for running out and, well, let's just say we weren't capable of drinking all the whiskey he had on hand at the wedding.... 

I'll just say, if you ever have the chance to attend one or be a part of one... do it. I've been in some pretty high dollar socialite weddings in the past.... but nothing I've seen compares to a Sikh wedding process. 

Amazing family... have grown pretty close with a lot of the cousins and such too. love them all. Great people. My buddy's father has offered up keys to his 4BR Condo at the base of keystone free of charge (costing himself rental revenue) on multiple occasions just because I mentioned wanting to go boarding in passing conversation. 
 

 

[cstu]

From my experiences over the past few years...

The FOB (fresh off the boat) male Indians at the clubs... horrible.  Just flatly horrible. The idiocy is unmatched. Young or old.

The Indian women often try anything possible to avoid them.  I have had the grouped up females state on several occasions "we hate our own kind" or something similar.

Indian women love me and I get along very well with most Indians.

I have dealt with many people from India.  Of course there are exceptions but the culture in general is non-aggressive, kind and very laid back.

True.

 

[TobiasFunke]

So maybe we should pack them up and send them to the depressing, congested area of Washington DC/Virginia?

Maybe you're right and they can't enjoy or appreciate all the awesomeness that Tampa and the rest of Florida offers.

As a lifelong fan of both sports and breasts you don't have to sell me on the virtues of your town, but those things aren't necessarily for everyone. 

One thing about living in DC is that you develop pretty thick skin when it comes to jokes at the expense of your hometown.  Y'all should work on that ... especially in conversations that start with the stereotyping of area minorities

 

[Captain Cranks]

As a lifelong fan of both sports and breasts you don't have to sell me on the virtues of your town, but those things aren't necessarily for everyone. 

One thing about living in DC is that you develop pretty thick skin when it comes to jokes at the expense of your hometown.  Y'all should work on that ... especially in conversations that start with the stereotyping of area minorities

Having lived in the Baltimore area most of my life, I have a lot of experience with DC.  It's a cool city.  Extremely clean, tons to do, and nice overall vibe for tourists.  That said, your generalizations about Tampa are completely off.    

 

[Grace Under Pressure]

They haven't been the same since Manny Ramirez left.

 

[honky kong]

 2.  The women look miserable.  A lot of the time they walk alone with very stoic looks on their faces.  If you drive past them on their walks, there's a high likelihood they won't acknowledge your existence.

I see this fairly often where I live but it seems to be confined to the older ones.

I concur with everyone else about the politeness of Indians as a group. Even the ones I've dealt with that are a PITA are nice about it.

 

[Jobber]

Your typical Indian in the US is highly educated and hard working. They pass this onto their children, too. Chances are your neighbor doesn't want your boorish redneck family (in their eyes) dragging them down.

I have two cousins who married Indians. Great, great people but very serious about the education and hard work.

 

[Ditka Butkus]

Yeah, you're probably right. I'm sure middle-aged Indian women can't get enough of football, dingy strip malls, Outback Steakhouse and leathery blondes with fake knockers.

You really have been to Tampa.

 

[cstu]

Your typical Indian in the US is highly educated and hard working. They pass this onto their children, too. Chances are your neighbor doesn't want your boorish redneck family (in their eyes) dragging them down.

I have two cousins who married Indians. Great, great people but very serious about the education and hard work.

Correct.

 

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Your typical Indian in the US is highly educated and hard working. They pass this onto their children, too. Chances are your neighbor doesn't want your boorish redneck family (in their eyes) dragging them down.

I have two cousins who married Indians. Great, great people but very serious about the education and hard work.

 

 

[Amused to Death]

As a software developer, I work  and have worked with a lot of Indians.  Some of the nicest people I've ever met; almost to a fault.   

Many Indian people here in NJ in the civil engineering field.  Same experience. However I suspect like any race/nationality, you're likely to come across the occasional anti-social person or family.  Maybe they've faced an unfair amount of misplaced Muslim prejudice and have developed a dislike of white people.  With some of the stories I've heard, it wouldn't surprise me.