Let’s talk about moving to a different state (1 Viewer)

[wazoo11]

What was your first experience like moving away from friends and family after college? What helped you with your transition?

 

[rockaction]

What was your first experience like moving away from friends and family after college? What helped you with your transition?

It was fun, good, and I moved in with a friend down in Maryland, outside of D.C. There was no real transition to make, as work was demanding and we had barely any time to go out on the weekends. Come to think of it, we had a lot of late nights and beer and weed. I dunno. I essentially worked my ### off four a year-plus then spent the next three and change in a fog. I moved back home at twenty-eight to get straightened out. I'm one of the lucky that could say that and had parental support to do so.

Then when I got straightened out and moved again, I stayed in-state where I'd already made my adulthood friends (who were younger than I by like ten years, so I went through the whole rigamarole again) and didn't have to transition as much.

The last time I moved, out to California, I have to be honest, there aren't too many friends out here that I've made. But I'm forty-five and living in suburbia where everyone is married with kids, or double income partner no kids, so making friends is kind of a tall order at this point.  So I keep to myself and enjoy virtual spaces and worlds now. Less meatspace. I guess I'm friends with the guys at record stores and definitely keep in touch with people I've met through group, but that only goes as far as customer/shopkeeper/reality/unreality stuff at this point, though I did apply for a job at a record store. Told the dude I would work for product, even.

(I'm used to that, but it used to be in a car, driving.)

 

[Foosball God]

What was your first experience like moving away from friends and family after college? What helped you with your transition?

The biggest transition for us was the lack of a support network.  We had two young kids, not in elementary school yet, there was no family around to help watch the kids if they were sick, or if we had a work trip.  If anything happened to anything we were on our own.  No brothers or dad to come over and help fix something at the house.  With the kids it was easier to meet people at least as they had activities and such, I don't know what your situation is.  I'd recommend meeting as many neighbors as you can and start forming some friendships with the people you seem to get along with.

 

[Mr. Ected]

What was your first experience like moving away from friends and family after college? What helped you with your transition?

I grew up near Boston, and went to school in DC (Go GW!) and just stayed after school. I already had a job lined up that was a continuation of work I had done while at school, so it was a very easy transition. I moved in to an apartment with my roommate from school, so it was almost seemless.

DC is still close enough to home so that getting back and forth was not that big of a deal, especially for holidays, especially once I got a car. My folks would come down a couple times a year, they like visiting down here.

 

[TheIronSheik]

I moved to a new city, but my parents moved there, as well.  So at least I had them.  Being an introvert, the hardest part was meeting new people and friends.  This was before the internet was big.  I hated it at first.  Luckily, I met some friends at my first job and started dating someone from the same company.  That helped.  If I had started working for a company where I didn't like any coworkers, it would have probably been much rougher.