Married FBG - How Long Did You Wait? (1 Viewer)

[FUBAR]

Married 15 years.

I'd say we did the deed before our first date, but she'd tell you we had gone out before that a few times. We were friends for a few months, hung out a few times but I wouldn't consider those to be dates. We got serious quick. Had been together only a couple weeks over Christmas break (when we were in different states) when her mom dropped her off at my apartment on New Year's eve, and I had breakfast with her family the next day. That was slightly awkward "hi, we just met but I spent all night with your daughter". But I think it garnered some respect.

She didn't officially move in with me until a few months before marriage but basically lived with me before we were engaged.

 

[MAC_32]

Our first date kinda lasted about 44 hours and it happened around hour 40, is this still date number one or are we in between at this point?

I'm going to unilaterally rule that any period over 16 hours starts a new date. If it's a whole day minus a reasonable night's sleep, the date is over.

the way I was leaning too. We knew very quickly we were right for each other. Funny because both of us were in sleep around mode when we met. That changed very quickly. When you know you know. Married three years.

 

[MAC_32]

My wife moved in with me because her lease was up.

I moved in with her because she was a homeowner after dating for about six months. Why flush money away in rent when I stay there almost every night anyway?

 

[NCCommish]

We got engaged pretty close to when we moved into together but for the life of me I can't recall if we were engaged first. I am pretty sure we weren't but it wasn't very long after. Plus we had known each other for years by then. I distinctly remember her sweet 16 birthday. She had a pool, lots of girlfriends and tiny bikini's were quite popular. That's a day I wouldn't mind reliving.

 

[Henry Ford]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

 

[McGarnicle]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

Sounds nice, but you have to be careful too. Most guys are trying to get in her pants quickly. You don't want her to think you're not interested, or gay, or get put in the friend zone.

 

[FUBAR]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

Sounds nice, but you have to be careful too. Most guys are trying to get in her pants quickly. You don't want her to think you're not interested, or gay, or get put in the friend zone.

I realize my own experience may not line up with everyone's, but even among my friends, it seems the friend zone isn't a bad thing if the woman is your future wife. You're unlikely to have sex with her, but if you do you're more likely to have a long term relationship.

 

[KCitons]

I knew my wife for about 8 years before we married. I was 12, and had a crush on her for years. (She is 3 years older than me) We dated for a few months before I went to college, but we broke up before I left. (She knew a long distance relationship wouldn't work) We got back together the summer between my freshman and sophomore year. I bought the ring 3 months later, proposed in the spring.

We lived together for a year before marriage. I'm old and don't remember the exact number of dates before sex.

This year we celebrate our 24th anniversary. I guess we are the exception to the rule.

I would teach young people about the work required for a successful marriage, more than the pitfalls of having sex too early.

 

[James Daulton]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

How does having sex interfere with getting to know her? How long do you recommend people wait?

 

[NCCommish]

I knew my wife for about 8 years before we married. I was 12, and had a crush on her for years. (She is 3 years older than me) We dated for a few months before I went to college, but we broke up before I left. (She knew a long distance relationship wouldn't work) We got back together the summer between my freshman and sophomore year. I bought the ring 3 months later, proposed in the spring.

We lived together for a year before marriage. I'm old and don't remember the exact number of dates before sex.

This year we celebrate our 24th anniversary. I guess we are the exception to the rule.

I would teach young people about the work required for a successful marriage, more than the pitfalls of having sex too early.

 

[Henry Ford]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

How does having sex interfere with getting to know her? How long do you recommend people wait?

I don't know that it does. I don't recommend that people wait.

 

[James Daulton]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

How does having sex interfere with getting to know her? How long do you recommend people wait?

I don't know that it does. I don't recommend that people wait.

wasn't that the point of this entire post?

 

[Henry Ford]

Now that we are at 250 votes:

I have a theory that the woman you want to marry is so fascinating on many levels that the need to sleep with her is overshadowed by the desire to actually get to know her first.

My advice to the young is that when you meet someone worth sitting down and getting to know, who really holds your attention and makes you think, and who you enjoy just sitting and laughing and talking with, you should go with that and enjoy it for awhile. That's the kind of relationship you need to build, because its the kind you still can have in most situations for the longest.

Anyway, that's something we both want to chat with the kid about... bang all you want, but enjoy those relationships your build slowly, too, because they become really, really interesting date by date without the sex. It's not something he's really had much of, and I was wondering if those things still happen very often in the dating world.

How does having sex interfere with getting to know her? How long do you recommend people wait?

I don't know that it does. I don't recommend that people wait.

wasn't that the point of this entire post?

The point of this post was to gather information to have a discussion with a young adult about a topic he hasn't discussed with his father and which his father wants to chat about before he goes off to college. That's why it's a poll.

No one is going to tell this kid what he should it shouldn't do. The point of conversation is to stimulate thinking so the kid comes up with his own ideas and beliefs.