Sorry to hear about you trouble
@DadIssues. I'm with the others, and it sounds like you as well, in that he needs to speak to someone. I like Rand al Thor's thoughts in terms of an approach.
My situation is far less dire, but still feel meh and have been dealing with it for years off and on.
Backstory: TL DR- there's no reason I should be feeling like I am
From an objective standpoint, life right now is pretty good. Wife and 2 girls, all healthy for the most part. Good paying job albeit not very satisfying. Wife went back to professional work (daycare provider for past decade as kids grew up) and received some inheritance recently so we've got more money than we've ever had. Working off credit card debt that was strangling us for over a decade.
Diagnosed as a diabetic 1.5 years ago, but got on medication and have lost 60 pounds. Actually hit my wedding weight after 19 years. Still 40 away from my ideal goal weight, but I physically feel better than I have in a very very long time. Just had a checkup and bloodwork done, my A1c is now at a normal range, glucose looks good as well. On a number of meds to control glucose, HBP, and Cholesterol but numbers are coming down and should be able to start reducing/elimination if it continues.
/TL DR
Really no reason to complain but I still feel Meh way too often. The joy in life is lost. I get in my head far too often and my solution to getting my mind to STFU is to grab a drink. I know this is probably the worst choice, but that's my solution. I enjoy the numbness and the DGAF aspect, but the bill is coming due. It's a strain on my wife and kids which only makes me feel worse.. and downward spiral we go.
Talked to doc at the checkup about being depressed and we're going to try wellbutrin based on the meds I'm already on. I haven't read the entire thread yet, but seen it mentioned a few times. A little nervous to start taking them, but I know I need to do something as my current solution is hurting myself, family... well basically everything. Any insight or info on the med is greatly appreciated.
In the past I've blamed nearly everything else for my issues: Financial stress, marital stress, job stress. I've now got myself in a decent spot for all those and still have the issue. Only the man in the mirror left. I need to somehow find my mojo, and a way to tell myself to stop being a downer, and it will be ok.