***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (3 Viewers)

[Sarnoff]

Been slow the last few weeks, this one chick I'd been chatting up had to raincheck our first meeting last week. So now I'm seeing her tomorrow night. I still have to do some re-writing to my profile, so I haven't been starting up any new conversations in the meantime.

 

[OC Zed]

Been slow the last few weeks, this one chick I'd been chatting up had to raincheck our first meeting last week. So now I'm seeing her tomorrow night. I still have to do some re-writing to my profile, so I haven't been starting up any new conversations in the meantime.

Which site?

 

[Sarnoff]

Been slow the last few weeks, this one chick I'd been chatting up had to raincheck our first meeting last week. So now I'm seeing her tomorrow night. I still have to do some re-writing to my profile, so I haven't been starting up any new conversations in the meantime.

Which site?

I'm on OKCupid. I've been on it for years, so I've become pretty used to it.

 

[Disco Stu]

So many profiles are painfully dull and cookie cutter.

On this topic, if you have some variation of any of these cliches in your profile, delete them immediately. And punch yourself in the face."Sometimes I like to go out, and sometimes I like to stay in."Well, no ####. Sometimes I like to be awake, sometimes I like to sleep."Comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans or a suit (or evening gown for the FBGals)."EVERYONE says this!!"I like all kinds of music."Code for I have no taste in music and will listen to whatever garbage happens to be in my immediate area."I’m tired of drama / games."Too negative and implies baggage."Love to have fun."I hate fun. Fun is the worst. #### off."I can’t believe I’m doing this, my friend said I should try online dating, etc."We're all here. No reason to make excuses like you're my son's teacher I just ran into at the strip club."I work hard and play hard."Throat punch.

Bump for new readers. Review, delete, and facepunch as necessary.

 

[Joe T]

With PoF and OKCupid being free, you really have to work to sort through a ton of garbage, but there are some gems there. Like one date told me, "There are people on OKC that are 5 bucks away from being on the streets."

Pretty sure I found one of these once.It was such a deal-breaker that I only slept with her a half dozen or so times.

lolz

 

[Joe T]

just e-mailed "3"

Good. Now get more lines in the water.Edit: I figured you'd like that one and hadn't even noticed the "law" thing. She just looked "pure" or some horse####...

definitely my type Krista wanna go read what I sent to them to make sure i didn't #### up?

can you post them here? I'm new to this thread.

I guess.To 3:

Hey Shannon,

My name is Mike and I will be living in the Twin Cities to complete my third year of law school. I see you are a lawyer and while I haven't dated inside our profession yet, dating outside of it hasn't been working out so well either so I figured I'd give it a shot. I too am new to the area and don't want this cold to keep me down as well as the books, so maybe we can find some things to do to keep our mind off work. Let me know if you'd like to have a drink or get together sometime...

Take care,

Mike

To 8:

Hey Katie, my name is Mike and I'll be a third year law student in the Twin Cities so I'm fairly new to the area and thought I'd give this a shot. To be honest, you are perhaps one of the only normal looking people I've seen on here so figured I'd send you a message. Your profile suggests you have a friend who has had some success here and that's also why I'm here because I've heard good things about it, so who knows, we should meet for a drink sometime and see if it works for us too.

Take care,

Mike

To 10:

Hey, my name is Mike and I wanted to say I like your profile. I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles and other fun people... Anyways, if you'd like to have a drink sometime let me know.

Take care,

Mike

Oh my.

sorta off the cuff.... no good??

I've decided you're just shtick. You might be the best shtick of all time, very detailed, but shtick just the same. Better than when Nipsey called Capella and pretended to be someone named "Marcus" who was really GordonGekko (or was it Mr. Ham that called?)...in any case, #1, Grade-A shtick.On the <1% chance you are not, the problem with all of these is the negativity, which indicates again that you probably are just not ready for dating, which is fine.

The first one is the best, though the "dating outside of it hasn't been working out so well either" line was not good.

The second one seemed disastrous in telling a girl that she was one of the only "normal looking" girls you saw on the site. That doesn't make her feel special; that makes her feel like you're a jerk.

The third one was worse in mentioned "pedophiles and other fun people".

I know that I've mentioned the second and third problems in e-mails you've had me look at before. I'm talking to a brick wall.

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[General Malaise]

So many profiles are painfully dull and cookie cutter.

On this topic, if you have some variation of any of these cliches in your profile, delete them immediately. And punch yourself in the face."Sometimes I like to go out, and sometimes I like to stay in."Well, no ####. Sometimes I like to be awake, sometimes I like to sleep."Comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans or a suit (or evening gown for the FBGals)."EVERYONE says this!!"I like all kinds of music."Code for I have no taste in music and will listen to whatever garbage happens to be in my immediate area."I’m tired of drama / games."Too negative and implies baggage."Love to have fun."I hate fun. Fun is the worst. #### off."I can’t believe I’m doing this, my friend said I should try online dating, etc."We're all here. No reason to make excuses like you're my son's teacher I just ran into at the strip club."I work hard and play hard."Throat punch.

Bump for new readers. Review, delete, and facepunch as necessary.

 

[Sarnoff]

To 10:Hey, my name is Mike and I wanted to say I like your profile. I find it very cool that you're a nurse - it's a great profession where a lot of good is done. Not so much like mine where I on occassion defend pedophiles and other fun people... Anyways, if you'd like to have a drink sometime let me know.Take care,Mike

This is my favorite one ever. Guys like Woz sometimes make it seem easy for the rest of us.

 

[Sarnoff]

Had a great 'first meet' last night after work with the girl I mentioned before (we'd had some difficulty finding a time that worked for both of us). At least, I thought it was great. At the end of the night I brought up getting together on Sunday for mini-golf & drinks but got a bit of a non-committal response. Will follow up with her on Friday with a concrete time and see what happens.

:fingerscrossed:

 

[offdee]

Been single for a few weeks now and thinking about trying this out for the first time. Seem to meet women fine just through normal life, but why not expand and see what happens? No interest at all in a relationship right now, just fun and games :goggles:

I think I have a great profile written. I PM'd Early_10 to see if she was interested in reviewing, but no reply. Mrs BSR can't accept PMs. If there's any females out there that want to give it a once over and provide feedback let me know.

My biggest issue right now is coming up with a decent screen name for some reason. I think that's harder than writing the damn profile.

From reading through here consensus seems to try out OkCupid and Plentyoffish first to keep it free and get the online feet wet. Surprisingly enough I did a fake Match account to check out the talent pool and it wasn't too bad actually. Some offdee potential (aka: 7+'s).

 

[Major]

Been single for a few weeks now and thinking about trying this out for the first time. Seem to meet women fine just through normal life, but why not expand and see what happens? No interest at all in a relationship right now, just fun and games :goggles: I think I have a great profile written. I PM'd Early_10 to see if she was interested in reviewing, but no reply. Mrs BSR can't accept PMs. If there's any females out there that want to give it a once over and provide feedback let me know. My biggest issue right now is coming up with a decent screen name for some reason. I think that's harder than writing the damn profile. From reading through here consensus seems to try out OkCupid and Plentyoffish first to keep it free and get the online feet wet. Surprisingly enough I did a fake Match account to check out the talent pool and it wasn't too bad actually. Some offdee potential (aka: 7+'s).

I wouldn't bother with crafting a profile. Just post the offdee scale and tell potential suitors that only 8-10s need apply.

 

[Joe T]

I don't understand the mini-golf angle. Is that really considered a date place?

 

[Sarnoff]

I don't understand the mini-golf angle. Is that really considered a date place?

I get better results with various women when an early date (second, third) is spent doing something competitive (mini-golf, darts, pool) rather than static (movie, museum, dinner, anything sitting down). Mini-golf is good because there's a lot of standing around together waiting for the group ahead to finish, good for talking, jokes, making fun of the other people, etc. Darts and pool you often aren't standing as close together and it's a different conversational dynamic. It's a good way to judge how she is in a casual environment, sense of humor, etc. Take a drive to a bar after, nosh, seems to work for me. Women seem to respond to the challenge aspect. The only sit-down date that I will sometimes work into the rotation in place of mini-golf is a Bar Trivia night. All of those 'corporate team-building exercise' type things are good for dates... because, well, it's a team-building exercise. Once in a while I'll do a Roller Derby date where we watch a match, but it has to be made competitive, so I throw in gambling on the side. Pick a team, loser buys drinks, etc.

Last mini-golf date I worked in the gambling angle for the loser to buy drinks too, seemed to go over well. Plus the mini-golf place has an arcade so there was skee-ball to play afterwards, stupid trinkets to waste the tickets on, etc. Like making the skee-ball loser having to get one of those temporary tattoos of the winner's choosing, then making her put it on in the restroom right there at the arcade.

ETA: mini-golf routine I picked up somewhere in this thread. Here's an old post where it's endorsed by Keys & Disco Stu.

 

[Sarnoff]

Oh, update from this weekend, Sunday night went well. Looking forward to seeing her again this weekend. She's all sorts of cool. We get along great and have tons in common. Now I just have to not screw it up.

 

[offdee]

Been single for a few weeks now and thinking about trying this out for the first time. Seem to meet women fine just through normal life, but why not expand and see what happens? No interest at all in a relationship right now, just fun and games :goggles: I think I have a great profile written. I PM'd Early_10 to see if she was interested in reviewing, but no reply. Mrs BSR can't accept PMs. If there's any females out there that want to give it a once over and provide feedback let me know. My biggest issue right now is coming up with a decent screen name for some reason. I think that's harder than writing the damn profile. From reading through here consensus seems to try out OkCupid and Plentyoffish first to keep it free and get the online feet wet. Surprisingly enough I did a fake Match account to check out the talent pool and it wasn't too bad actually. Some offdee potential (aka: 7+'s).

I wouldn't bother with crafting a profile. Just post the offdee scale and tell potential suitors that only 8-10s need apply.

would be solid shtick right there.

 

[Keerock]

My biggest issue right now is coming up with a decent screen name for some reason. I think that's harder than writing the damn profile.

PostItNote

 

[zed2283]

Been exchanging messages with a girl for a week or so. It's been going well, progressing. I've been waiting to respond the same amount of time it took her to respond to my last message (e.g. she didn't respond for a day to my last message, so I waited a day to respond to hers).

So yesterday afternoon I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text. Just got my first text from her. Is the protocol the same on how long I should wait to respond?

 

[Sarnoff]

Been exchanging messages with a girl for a week or so. It's been going well, progressing. I've been waiting to respond the same amount of time it took her to respond to my last message (e.g. she didn't respond for a day to my last message, so I waited a day to respond to hers).

So yesterday afternoon I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text. Just got my first text from her. Is the protocol the same on how long I should wait to respond?

Hit her back at lunch.

 

[Major]

Been exchanging messages with a girl for a week or so. It's been going well, progressing. I've been waiting to respond the same amount of time it took her to respond to my last message (e.g. she didn't respond for a day to my last message, so I waited a day to respond to hers).

So yesterday afternoon I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text. Just got my first text from her. Is the protocol the same on how long I should wait to respond?

No. For a text, wait at least 3 weeks. If she asks, just tell her you were in St. Tropez on business.

 

[John Bender]

I don't understand the mini-golf angle. Is that really considered a date place?

Not a great first date spot. I had a bad experience taking a broad to mini golf for a first date so maybe I'm scarred.

I opened with my usual line "Thanks for meeting me here, I usually take all my first dates to a burn victim hospital because it makes me look more attractive when compared to the other talent there."

She didn't take it well and left after the 6th hole.

 

[Disco Stu]

I don't understand the mini-golf angle. Is that really considered a date place?

Not a great first date spot. I had a bad experience taking a broad to mini golf for a first date so maybe I'm scarred.

I opened with my usual line "Thanks for meeting me here, I usually take all my first dates to a burn victim hospital because it makes me look more attractive when compared to the other talent there."

She didn't take it well and left after the 6th hole.

Sounds like she's the one scarred.

 

[Disco Stu]

Been exchanging messages with a girl for a week or so. It's been going well, progressing. I've been waiting to respond the same amount of time it took her to respond to my last message (e.g. she didn't respond for a day to my last message, so I waited a day to respond to hers).

So yesterday afternoon I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text. Just got my first text from her. Is the protocol the same on how long I should wait to respond?

Hit her back at lunch.

Yeah, this is fine. And I wouldn't play the waiting game. Don't "insta-respond" to messages, but don't wait too long.

Remember this is iDating... she's getting a bunch of messages every day. Wait too long and you'll be forgotten.

 

[Major]

John Bender, on 31 May 2013 - 10:28, said:

Joe T, on 28 May 2013 - 15:04, said:

I don't understand the mini-golf angle. Is that really considered a date place?

Not a great first date spot. I had a bad experience taking a broad to mini golf for a first date so maybe I'm scarred. I opened with my usual line "Thanks for meeting me here, I usually take all my first dates to a burn victim hospital because it makes me look more attractive when compared to the other talent there."

She didn't take it well and left after the 6th hole

I don't think I'd take a girl mini golfing unless we've been having the secks for a few months, it was 'date night' and I didn't have anything better to do.

 

[zed2283]

Been exchanging messages with a girl for a week or so. It's been going well, progressing. I've been waiting to respond the same amount of time it took her to respond to my last message (e.g. she didn't respond for a day to my last message, so I waited a day to respond to hers).

So yesterday afternoon I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text. Just got my first text from her. Is the protocol the same on how long I should wait to respond?

Hit her back at lunch.

Yeah, this is fine. And I wouldn't play the waiting game. Don't "insta-respond" to messages, but don't wait too long.

Remember this is iDating... she's getting a bunch of messages every day. Wait too long and you'll be forgotten.

Roger that.

 

[offdee]

Been exchanging messages with a girl for a week or so. It's been going well, progressing. I've been waiting to respond the same amount of time it took her to respond to my last message (e.g. she didn't respond for a day to my last message, so I waited a day to respond to hers).

So yesterday afternoon I gave her my number and told her to feel free to text. Just got my first text from her. Is the protocol the same on how long I should wait to respond?

No. For a text, wait at least 3 weeks. If she asks, just tell her you were in St. Tropez on business.

 

[Abraham]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

 

[offdee]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

This is right.

First initial contact message: Wait 24-48 hours

All messages after that: wait 1-2 hours or so (max. half a day)

Texts: wait between 20-60 minutes. Anything over an hour quickly say why took so long to respond. "Crazy day at work, yep, let's...."

 

[offdee]

Had a profile up at OKCupid for a few days now, and have some instant success with this opener with a few hotties.

Read through her profile and find some random obscure thing she makes a comment on. The dumber the better.....

You like (X). I like (X). I'd say that's a pretty stong foundation to build on.

Examples of a few of my messages:

- You like garlic salt on everything. I like pepper on everything (I call it Black Magic). I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

- You love house plants. I have two stalks of bamboo that I've kept alive for multiple years. I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

Every single time the response has been something like... LOL! Well it's something! I'm Emily.

It's simple, it's witty and shows the girl you took time to read through her profile.

 

[McGarnicle]

Had a profile up at OKCupid for a few days now, and have some instant success with this opener with a few hotties.

Read through her profile and find some random obscure thing she makes a comment on. The dumber the better.....

You like (X). I like (X). I'd say that's a pretty stong foundation to build on.

Examples of a few of my messages:

- You like garlic salt on everything. I like pepper on everything (I call it Black Magic). I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

- You love house plants. I have two stalks of bamboo that I've kept alive for multiple years. I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

Every single time the response has been something like... LOL! Well it's something! I'm Emily.

It's simple, it's witty and shows the girl you took time to read through her profile.

You don't wear the funny hats and goggles and throw out lots of "negs" do you?

 

[offdee]

Had a profile up at OKCupid for a few days now, and have some instant success with this opener with a few hotties.

Read through her profile and find some random obscure thing she makes a comment on. The dumber the better.....

You like (X). I like (X). I'd say that's a pretty stong foundation to build on.

Examples of a few of my messages:

- You like garlic salt on everything. I like pepper on everything (I call it Black Magic). I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

- You love house plants. I have two stalks of bamboo that I've kept alive for multiple years. I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

Every single time the response has been something like... LOL! Well it's something! I'm Emily.

It's simple, it's witty and shows the girl you took time to read through her profile.

You don't wear the funny hats and goggles and throw out lots of "negs" do you?

only :goggles:

 

[coyote5]

Had a profile up at OKCupid for a few days now, and have some instant success with this opener with a few hotties.

Read through her profile and find some random obscure thing she makes a comment on. The dumber the better.....

You like (X). I like (X). I'd say that's a pretty stong foundation to build on.

Examples of a few of my messages:

- You like garlic salt on everything. I like pepper on everything (I call it Black Magic). I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

- You love house plants. I have two stalks of bamboo that I've kept alive for multiple years. I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on.

Every single time the response has been something like... LOL! Well it's something! I'm Emily.

It's simple, it's witty and shows the girl you took time to read through her profile.

You don't wear the funny hats and goggles and throw out lots of "negs" do you?

only :goggles:

Well that's only half the method...

 

[bosoxs45]

Is it a red flag if her friends tell you she's an impulse spender? ( but she hasn't...)

 

[dal_boys_phan]

:black dot:

 

[Joe T]

Had a profile up at OKCupid for a few days now, and have some instant success with this opener with a few hotties. Read through her profile and find some random obscure thing she makes a comment on. The dumber the better..... You like (X). I like (X). I'd say that's a pretty stong foundation to build on. Examples of a few of my messages: - You like garlic salt on everything. I like pepper on everything (I call it Black Magic). I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on. - You love house plants. I have two stalks of bamboo that I've kept alive for multiple years. I'd say that's a pretty strong foundation to build on. Every single time the response has been something like... LOL! Well it's something! I'm Emily. It's simple, it's witty and shows the girl you took time to read through her profile.

Genius.

 

[Sarnoff]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

"Let's take this to text" was pretty weak to begin with. She's already replied to several messages, he should just ask her out. Say "Let's meet after work Wednesday night. Here's my number, shoot me a text and we can work out details." 90% of the time I've gotten a text saying "I can make it, sounds good" right away.

 

[McGarnicle]

Is it a red flag if her friends tell you she's an impulse spender? ( but she hasn't...)

Take her to the mall just to walk around and browse, then just "happen" to stumble upon this amazing Tag Heuer watch you've had your eye on. "Damn, that's a nice watch. I could never spend that much though..."

 

[zed2283]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

"Let's take this to text" was pretty weak to begin with. She's already replied to several messages, he should just ask her out. Say "Let's meet after work Wednesday night. Here's my number, shoot me a text and we can work out details." 90% of the time I've gotten a text saying "I can make it, sounds good" right away.

Generally I would agree, but it was a case where we both had plans this weekend and I told her to shoot me a text if she got a chance. Plus, she lives an hour and a half away at the moment so there's no casually getting together without making plans.

Anyway, we ended up talking on the phone several times over the weekend. Seemed to go really well. Both have plans next weekend too, so we'll see what happens down the road.

Yes, I know an hour and a half away is far. But she goes to school in my area so she will be closer by the end of the summer, so I'm looking at it as an investment. Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

 

[jason12vb]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

I'm respectfully going to disagree here...but it depends on the type of person you are and I think you should treat it just as you would anyone else in your life.

If you are someone who does a lot of texting and it's your main way of communicating, then responding quickly is fine. However, if you're not someone who's got your phone on your 24x7, while golfing, are active, or aren't buried in your phone when you're spending time with a buddy or family or out to dinner...then responding quickly is going to set a very bad precedent. I've seen this happen time and time again and made the mistake more than once with girls I was excited about. Responding quickly because you're excited about her is going to tell her you're always going to respond fast, and if you don't, to her it will mean that you're no longer excited. If you check respond to her between holes on the course, she's always going to expect you to do that.

I text quite a bit, and I respond to 99% of all texts instantly once I see them...but I don't check my phone every 5 minutes, I'm active, and I put it on silent when I'm with people or doing many things.

 

[jason12vb]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

I'm respectfully going to disagree here...but it depends on the type of person you are and I think you should treat it just as you would anyone else in your life.

If you are someone who does a lot of texting and it's your main way of communicating, then responding quickly is fine. However, if you're not someone who's got your phone on your 24x7, while golfing, are active, or aren't buried in your phone when you're spending time with a buddy or family or out to dinner...then responding quickly is going to set a very bad precedent. I've seen this happen time and time again and made the mistake more than once with girls I was excited about. Responding quickly because you're excited about her is going to tell her you're always going to respond fast, and if you don't, to her it will mean that you're no longer excited. If you check respond to her between holes on the course, she's always going to expect you to do that.

I text quite a bit, and I respond to 99% of all texts instantly once I see them...but I don't check my phone every 5 minutes, I'm active, and I put it on silent when I'm with people or doing many things.

That being said...in the initial phase of online dating, you also can't wait 1/2 a day let alone a day(s) to respond....we have too many options and, "if you hesitate you masterbate". Wait too long and she'll move on to the next guy.

Bottom line...don't play games and treat online people the way you would real life people.

 

[McGarnicle]

All kinds of awesome in here. Waiting to reply to a text message is weak. Everyone who texts at all reads the text message within a few minutes of getting it. If you have a smart phone you have to go out of your way to not notice you have a new text.

"Let's take this to text" was pretty weak to begin with. She's already replied to several messages, he should just ask her out. Say "Let's meet after work Wednesday night. Here's my number, shoot me a text and we can work out details." 90% of the time I've gotten a text saying "I can make it, sounds good" right away.

Generally I would agree, but it was a case where we both had plans this weekend and I told her to shoot me a text if she got a chance. Plus, she lives an hour and a half away at the moment so there's no casually getting together without making plans.

Anyway, we ended up talking on the phone several times over the weekend. Seemed to go really well. Both have plans next weekend too, so we'll see what happens down the road.

Yes, I know an hour and a half away is far. But she goes to school in my area so she will be closer by the end of the summer, so I'm looking at it as an investment. Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

See this is really perfect, because it raises the urgency to have sex. That's a long drive. Then after a few times and you're bored, gee, you're a great girl and everything but these long distance things never work. I care about you enough to let you go.

 

[offdee]

Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

There almost comes a point where this just turns weird.

I'm 37 and have been having some fun with a little 26 year old thing the past couple weeks and that's teetering on just living in different worlds. It's definitely fun for right now, but no way does this turn into something long term....just life experience alone makes conversations ridiculous at times.

 

[zed2283]

Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

There almost comes a point where this just turns weird.

I'm 37 and have been having some fun with a little 26 year old thing the past couple weeks and that's teetering on just living in different worlds. It's definitely fun for right now, but no way does this turn into something long term....just life experience alone makes conversations ridiculous at times.

I don't have any problem with it.

ETA: I'm definitely not looking for anything long term.

 

[Major]

Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

There almost comes a point where this just turns weird.

I'm 37 and have been having some fun with a little 26 year old thing the past couple weeks and that's teetering on just living in different worlds. It's definitely fun for right now, but no way does this turn into something long term....just life experience alone makes conversations ridiculous at times.

Conversation?

 

[Johnny Rock]

Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

There almost comes a point where this just turns weird. I'm 37 and have been having some fun with a little 26 year old thing the past couple weeks and that's teetering on just living in different worlds. It's definitely fun for right now, but no way does this turn into something long term....just life experience alone makes conversations ridiculous at times.

Different worlds? Really? 27 vs 16 yes, I see where you're coming from. But 37/26 seems like 2 adults to me.

 

[eurotrashman]

Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

There almost comes a point where this just turns weird.

I'm 37 and have been having some fun with a little 26 year old thing the past couple weeks and that's teetering on just living in different worlds. It's definitely fun for right now, but no way does this turn into something long term....just life experience alone makes conversations ridiculous at times.

I was 41 when I met my 29 year old honey. i'm close to being 45 and she just turned 33 and things are great.

 

[offdee]

Oh, and did I mention she's a 20-year old college student? Yes, I'm still 42.

There almost comes a point where this just turns weird. I'm 37 and have been having some fun with a little 26 year old thing the past couple weeks and that's teetering on just living in different worlds. It's definitely fun for right now, but no way does this turn into something long term....just life experience alone makes conversations ridiculous at times.

Different worlds? Really? 27 vs 16 yes, I see where you're coming from. But 37/26 seems like 2 adults to me.

Maybe I'm making it out to be more extreme than it really is...we get along great, and have fun together. My last gf was 4 yrs older than me so guess I'm just getting used to the swing. I'm far from complaining here, and the absolute last thing I want right now is something serious and long term so this fits that bill perfectly. Enjoying the ride (literallly and figuratively)

 

[offdee]

So, amidst this long thread there were a lot of good nuggets of info from past iDating veterans. One of the tips was that a guy who writes a lot in his profile and goes into great detail, descriptive words and witty lines is going to stand out amongst the crowd. Gives the women something to attach and react to and shows you're putting some thought and effort into it (which is attractive for the hot and smart ones).

I have a great profile writeup, but am actually worried that it may almost be too long (and no, I'm not posting it here for you vultures to attack it). I sent it to Early 10 last week for her female perspective and she hasn't responded yet....maybe she stil hasn't finished reading the diatribe??

Does there come a point where it's just too much? I just looked at my profile on my phone app and the scrolling needed to fully get through my info weirded me out a little bit.

 

[Disco Stu]

So, amidst this long thread there were a lot of good nuggets of info from past iDating veterans. One of the tips was that a guy who writes a lot in his profile and goes into great detail, descriptive words and witty lines is going to stand out amongst the crowd. Gives the women something to attach and react to and shows you're putting some thought and effort into it (which is attractive for the hot and smart ones).

I have a great profile writeup, but am actually worried that it may almost be too long (and no, I'm not posting it here for you vultures to attack it). I sent it to Early 10 last week for her female perspective and she hasn't responded yet....maybe she stil hasn't finished reading the diatribe??

Does there come a point where it's just too much? I just looked at my profile on my phone app and the scrolling needed to fully get through my info weirded me out a little bit.

tl;dr

 

[McGarnicle]

So, amidst this long thread there were a lot of good nuggets of info from past iDating veterans. One of the tips was that a guy who writes a lot in his profile and goes into great detail, descriptive words and witty lines is going to stand out amongst the crowd. Gives the women something to attach and react to and shows you're putting some thought and effort into it (which is attractive for the hot and smart ones).

I have a great profile writeup, but am actually worried that it may almost be too long (and no, I'm not posting it here for you vultures to attack it). I sent it to Early 10 last week for her female perspective and she hasn't responded yet....maybe she stil hasn't finished reading the diatribe??

Does there come a point where it's just too much? I just looked at my profile on my phone app and the scrolling needed to fully get through my info weirded me out a little bit.

Long, creative, funny profiles are best for dudes because women will actually read it and become intrigued. Opposite is true for women since anything more than a paragraph either won't get read or screams crazy, needy, too picky, etc.

 

[offdee]

So, amidst this long thread there were a lot of good nuggets of info from past iDating veterans. One of the tips was that a guy who writes a lot in his profile and goes into great detail, descriptive words and witty lines is going to stand out amongst the crowd. Gives the women something to attach and react to and shows you're putting some thought and effort into it (which is attractive for the hot and smart ones).

I have a great profile writeup, but am actually worried that it may almost be too long (and no, I'm not posting it here for you vultures to attack it). I sent it to Early 10 last week for her female perspective and she hasn't responded yet....maybe she stil hasn't finished reading the diatribe??

Does there come a point where it's just too much? I just looked at my profile on my phone app and the scrolling needed to fully get through my info weirded me out a little bit.

tl;dr