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I think it's more they have so many dudes flooding them with iDate invitations they get a false sense of security and become overly selective.

I think it's more they have so many dudes flooding them with iDate invitations they get a false sense of security and become overly selective.
Man, I feel you on this. Was texting a chick a few weeks ago, all was going well, she agreed to go to lunch with me (and seemed excited about it), then completely ghosted me.She sent me a text the next night saying it wasn't going to work.. Have no idea why or what happen as date night she was already planning another get together. I'm convince girls at my age are so use to being independent that they're really not looking for a guy to complicate things. Case and point, I was texting/emailing several girls over the past 2-3 weeks then when I say lets get together soon they vanish/dead silence. So frustrating,,
WTF happened to Marisa rebound? Blondie, right?
No hugs? WTF? What chick could possibly resist you at full hug capability?good damn question. I think she didn't want a relationship, honestly. In-person vibe was good but she seems very timid. Like, I think she liked the attention I was giving her, but that's about all she wanted.
Oh there were hugs and they were decent.No hugs? WTF? What chick could possibly resist you at full hug capability?
What happened to dental assistant (I think it was)?Oh there were hugs and they were decent.I don't know. Just a bit confused as to why she looked me up again in the first place. But that was on my radar, so I knew it was a possibility she might flake.
haha good recall! That's who we were talking about there.CurlyNight said:What happened to dental assistant (I think it was)?
It went pretty awesome I thought. Dined and sipped beverages till the restaurant closed (we were the last ones left). I asked if she wanted to go somewhere else and she asked if I did and I said yep, I don't have a curfewNathan R. Jessep said:iDate set. Good/fun chat for about a week now. Dinner/drinks tonight. About a 6-6.5 from pics, funny, good job, kids every other week and she seems really fun. Only drawback (which could be a plus, actually) is she's a little over an hour away. Wish me luck, gents.![]()
No smooching? Keep us updatedIt went pretty awesome I thought. Dined and sipped beverages till the restaurant closed (we were the last ones left). I asked if she wanted to go somewhere else and she asked if I did and I said yep, I don't have a curfewso I drove and she navigated us to a little patio bar, and we had another drink and closed that one out. Lots of laughs and stories told. Had a great time. In talks for another date.
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No. Dammit. I think I had a small window of opportunity and I hesitated. After that I didn't want it to be awkward so I just deferred. Date 2, though, it's on!No smooching? Keep us updated![]()
So where is dental assistant in this group?nothing major to update, but got a few things working here
1) had an impromptu second date with the above chick when her friend backed out of a concert at the local (to her) casino. She hit me up that Friday morning and invited me and luckily I was free and found a sitter for the kids, so we went. It went great, until she got that look that some of you might recognize if you have children. It's that look they get right before they are about to spew. She didn't get sick, but the situation was looking pretty dicey while we were waiting for the elevatorsShe was trying to be nice and say she was OK, but I could tell she was feeling awful so I told her I'd take her back home. She reluctantly agreed and apologized profusely all the way home. She texted me a little while after I left, and for the rest of the night, and we ended up having a good laugh out of it. -- working on setting up another outing as I type this. She seems interested and I think she looks better in person than she did in the pics on her profile. Upgrading to a 7. Also her ####-talking game is
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2) Got a match on Tinder. Pre-ranking is 6.5-7 range from what I have seen, but need to see more. Got her number, but she's in the same city as #1.We'll see how that plays out.
3) A match from Match. She's in my city. Pre-rank is a 6. She's a practicing lawyer, and wants to meet me. She seems really busy from her correspondence so far, but we may meet for drinks or something soon just to see what's up. I normally don't engage multiple targets but since this one's in a different city than #1, WHAT COULD GO WRONG?!![]()
Stay tuned for breaking news....
I thought it was something she ate. But she also found out this week she has a massive kidney stone, and that's definitely a symptom. She said the doc asked her if she had had any nausea/vomiting and she just laughed bc she knew I was going to give her ####. She had joked with me that I made her eat too much. And I had joked with her that that was the first time I had made a date physically ill.The date got sick? Too much alcohol, or something else?
She gone.So where is dental assistant in this group?
I know hugging is your game... but all this seems like the perfect time to ask about and test out her gag reflexes...I thought it was something she ate. But she also found out this week she has a massive kidney stone, and that's definitely a symptom. She said the doc asked her if she had had any nausea/vomiting and she just laughed bc she knew I was going to give her ####. She had joked with me that I made her eat too much. And I had joked with her that that was the first time I had made a date physically ill.![]()
Ah. Yeah, dump the flakes. Look forward to reading about 1, 2 and 3. GL!She gone.She flaked out, which I knew was a good possibility given her history. Haven't heard a peep from her in a couple months.
I know hugging is your game... but all this seems like the perfect time to ask about and test out her gag reflexes...
She sounds like a fun person. If you don't feel well and can joke/laugh, that's a huge plus. I'm rooting for you and #1.I texted her later, in an itemized list of the night's events, that she looked really hot and I wanted to kiss her but I was afraid she was going to hurl on me. She said she enjoyed that text and I probably made the right call, but would've liked that if not for the nausea.
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Agreed, She's got a great sense of humor, that matches mine very well. And thanks!She sounds like a fun person. If you don't feel well and can joke/laugh, that's a huge plus. I'm rooting for you and #1.
One of the most important traits to have....sense of humour. Hope it works out for you. You seem like a really nice dude.Agreed, She's got a great sense of humor, that matches mine very well. And thanks!
Pro tip: when texting a 20-something girl, don't tell her you're going to make her climax "9 ways from Sunday."
Nathan R. Jessep: The Hugging Playa.Date #3 (with aforementioned chick #1) in the books. Picked her up about 9 and we head to a little hole in the wall place that has pool tables and darts. There are 2 other people there besides the bartender and they would leave shortly, so we had the whole place to ourselves. She loads up the jukebox and tries to stump me on Name that Tune while we are shooting pool and having some beverages. Scored pretty big points with her when I guessed Got You Where I Want You.We close the place down at midnight and head back to take her home (I still had to drive a little over an hour back home). She's fairly drunkish, but I had slowed down since I knew I had a long drive coming up. I walked her to the door and we talked for a bit, then (hugged, of course) kissed for a little while. Told her I had to hit the road soon, but she insisted I come in for a few minutes so she could fix me up with some snacks for the road (a running joke between us), just had to be quiet because her kids were asleep. We chatted for a bit. Then she walked me out and we kissed more and she started grinding on me, which made it extremely difficult to leave. I might still be there this morning if her kids hadn't been home. Said goodbye and told her we should do it again very soon, which she agreed with. Next week could be epic. I'm running on 3 hours of sleep, but it was well worth it. Laughed more than I have in a long time and it was much needed.
In other news:
Talks still ongoing with chick #2.
Tentative lunch meetup with chick #3 tomorrow.
Our Nathan R. Jessep is smart, for real.
" Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress. Research shows a proper deep hug, where the hearts are pressing together, can benefit you in these ways: 1. The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety...."
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-5756/10-Reasons-Why-We-Need-at-Least-8-Hugs-a-Day.html
Pssst.... it had nothing to do with snacks...Nathan R. Jessep said:She's fairly drunkish, but I had slowed down since I knew I had a long drive coming up. I walked her to the door and we talked for a bit, then (hugged, of course) kissed for a little while. Told her I had to hit the road soon, but she insisted I come in for a few minutes so she could fix me up with some snacks for the road (a running joke between us), just had to be quiet because her kids were asleep. We chatted for a bit. Then she walked me out and we kissed more and she started grinding on me, which made it extremely difficult to leave.
I'm aware that was a possibility, but I chose not to engage the target, as I didn't think it could be kept quiet given her current state and my current willingnessPssst.... it had nothing to do with snacks...
NRJ, don't waste your time on poor-hugging <7. Only poor-hugging 7+ are worthy of your time my friend. And by your time I mean OUR time, so get to work!Had lunch with #3 today. 6 rating was pretty accurate. Had a good time. She's pretty talkative, but cute enough. Weak hug game thus far though.Jury is still out on this one.
you don't have to have a phone to get on Match.com, but most iDating is done via smartphone apps these days it seemsDo you need a phone to idate? I have a computer in my kitchen, but I'm 63 so it might be a waste of time.
Were you still wearing your New Orleans Saints mesh shorts? I imagine they're great for grinding sessions #styleDate #3 (with aforementioned chick #1) in the books. Picked her up about 9 and we head to a little hole in the wall place that has pool tables and darts. There are 2 other people there besides the bartender and they would leave shortly, so we had the whole place to ourselves. She loads up the jukebox and tries to stump me on Name that Tune while we are shooting pool and having some beverages. Scored pretty big points with her when I guessed Got You Where I Want You.We close the place down at midnight and head back to take her home (I still had to drive a little over an hour back home). She's fairly drunkish, but I had slowed down since I knew I had a long drive coming up. I walked her to the door and we talked for a bit, then (hugged, of course) kissed for a little while. Told her I had to hit the road soon, but she insisted I come in for a few minutes so she could fix me up with some snacks for the road (a running joke between us), just had to be quiet because her kids were asleep. We chatted for a bit. Then she walked me out and we kissed more and she started grinding on me, which made it extremely difficult to leave. I might still be there this morning if her kids hadn't been home. Said goodbye and told her we should do it again very soon, which she agreed with. Next week could be epic. I'm running on 3 hours of sleep, but it was well worth it. Laughed more than I have in a long time and it was much needed.
In other news:
Talks still ongoing with chick #2.
Tentative lunch meetup with chick #3 tomorrow.
There's a tragic beauty to this post.Good God.
I've noticed a strong dip in the level of girl I've been dating, but there's been a pretty massive upswing in quantity. I'm not 100% sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. They're basically all one-and-dones which is not my usual fare.
A couple of weeks ago, I met up with "Hay" (I call her that because every couple of nights at 3 AM, I get a--what I'm assuming is a booty call text from her--saying only "Hay"). We met at a bar where I take a lot my first dates. It's a couple of blocks from my apartment and has a good vibe. It's also around a bunch of trashy bars. She can't meet up until relatively late, so we've only got an hour or so before the bar closes. It's a Monday or Tuesday and I live in a relatively very small town, so it's typical for bars to close earlier. No big deal.
Hay's pictures showed a clear 8, and she was a major #### talker from the beginning. When Hay shows up she is much, much less attractive than her pictures but I've been pre-gaming pretty heavily and she's funny in person. I'm planning having a couple of drinks and heading home. If only...
She gets some fruity abomination and I'm working on my second beer when this Englishman walks in. The place is about to close in 10 minutes, but he places a huge food order. Naturally, we begin to make fun of that and I'm already planning the pole I'll post about it when I get home. Englishman turns out to be pretty cool. It turns out he's solo traveling his way across the US. I'm instantly more interested in him than Hay. Eventually, Hay and I finish our drinks and I get the check. She turns to me and says the exact words that are drunk Rirruto's greatest weakness, "let's hop over to [trashy bar] and get a couple more drinks." Damn. I'm in. She tells Englishman the name of a different bar hoping it will throw him off our scent.
This is where the night starts to get hazy. Englishman finds us and challenges us to a game of pool upstairs. I'm awful at pool, but I'm drunk enough to have forgotten that. Englishman starts pumping beers into us and dropping subtle 3some innuendos. I don't think much of it at first, but it starts getting over the top. By the time I really catch on, I give him a ton of encouragement because I think it's hilarious. Englishman goes to the loo, and Hay and I are the only ones left in the upstairs part of the bar. Yadda yadda my #### is out and we're publicly sexing. I'm a grown man. It hits me like a ton of bricks that this is not good. I tell Hay that we've got to leave, and she quickly agrees saying that Englishman is super creepy. I pay for a few of his drinks and Hay and I head back to my place. It's like 3:30 AM.
I tell you that story to tell you this story, the next night I had a date with one of the best girls I've dated in a looooong time. She's in the top 2 or 3 most attractive girls I've ever been out with. Usually people are less attractive than their pics but she was WAY more attractive. She's a local morning TV anchor, smart, funny, and seems like a legit good person. This is the kind of girl I should be dating, but I've got to be on my A game to pull it off. Unfortunately, I look haggard after 3 hours of sleep and a full days work. I did okay on the date, but I could tell a second date was a long shot. I'm normally pretty close to 100% conversion to a second date if I want one even with girls who are probably objectively out of my league. We texted a little for a few days after, but she eventually shaded out on date #2. I saw it coming and it was all my fault for being an idiot the night before and not coming into the date with my game face on.
Let that be a lesson. Or yadda yadda smashing a girl on a pool table is worth two in the bush. Or something. I'm going to Vegas in a few weeks, and I'm going to get my act together when I get back.
"Hay" (I call her that because every couple of nights at 3 AM, I get a--what I'm assuming is a booty call text from her--saying only "Hay").
Update(s)?you don't have to have a phone to get on Match.com, but most iDating is done via smartphone apps these days it seems
Nothing noteworthy. Had a few more dates with that same chick. We are still talking. We have a great connection, I am just not sure she is the relationship type, but damn we have a blast together. Got home at 6AM after our last dateUpdate(s)?
Marriage. That's a keeper.Thoughts on a woman who tosses salad on the first date? I love a good freak but damn let me get to know you a little better![]()
Did she have it with syrup or jelly?Thoughts on a woman who tosses salad on the first date? I love a good freak but damn let me get to know you a little better![]()
Hepatitis test, ASAP. You have no idea how many balloon knots that tongue has bathed.Thoughts on a woman who tosses salad on the first date? I love a good freak but damn let me get to know you a little better![]()
Chances are pretty low, unless he has bleeding hemorrhoid or she has bleeding gums. Not saying zero chance, but still, pretty low.Hepatitis test, ASAP. You have no idea how many balloon knots that tongue has bathed.
I'm not down with that even after 25 years of marriage.Thoughts on a woman who tosses salad on the first date? I love a good freak but damn let me get to know you a little better![]()