***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (12 Viewers)

[Keys Myaths]

One more update...my first second date is tomorrow night (with the first girl I dated). Going out with her and some friends to mini-golfing...casual enough, I suppose. I'm still unsure about her...she was a lot of fun the first date, but something about it has me stepping back a tad.

Coincidentally, mini-golf was discussed tonight as part of our next date.

I wonder if I should be concerned that I'm meeting friends this early.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Possible that she had plans with friends that she didn't want to break, but that she also wanted to see you again.

After the last relationship, it seems I'm getting freaked out by anything that can be remotely interpreted wrong.

Just roll with it...no need to over-analyze stuff at this point.

I know. I just want the crazies weeded out WAY early.

 

[Disco Stu]

One more update...my first second date is tomorrow night (with the first girl I dated). Going out with her and some friends to mini-golfing...casual enough, I suppose. I'm still unsure about her...she was a lot of fun the first date, but something about it has me stepping back a tad.

Coincidentally, mini-golf was discussed tonight as part of our next date.

I wonder if I should be concerned that I'm meeting friends this early.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Possible that she had plans with friends that she didn't want to break, but that she also wanted to see you again.

After the last relationship, it seems I'm getting freaked out by anything that can be remotely interpreted wrong.

Just roll with it...no need to over-analyze stuff at this point.

I know. I just want the crazies weeded out WAY early.

So is this one shortie1? If so, you may be onto something here...

 

[Keys Myaths]

One more update...my first second date is tomorrow night (with the first girl I dated). Going out with her and some friends to mini-golfing...casual enough, I suppose. I'm still unsure about her...she was a lot of fun the first date, but something about it has me stepping back a tad.

Coincidentally, mini-golf was discussed tonight as part of our next date.

I wonder if I should be concerned that I'm meeting friends this early.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Possible that she had plans with friends that she didn't want to break, but that she also wanted to see you again.

After the last relationship, it seems I'm getting freaked out by anything that can be remotely interpreted wrong.

Just roll with it...no need to over-analyze stuff at this point.

I know. I just want the crazies weeded out WAY early.

So is this one shortie1? If so, you may be onto something here...

Nah, this is blonde girl. She's the most normal (well, with one date to analyze) of the group so far.

 

[Disco Stu]

Obviously you need to post more pics. And some sort of chart...

 

[krista4]

Obviously you need to post more pics. And some sort of chart...

I've already put in the demand (a couple of pages ago) for Woz to do a spreadsheet for everyone. He's a summer associate; he should have the time.

 

[Otis]

FIRST OTIS DATE

Met up with the blonde posted up above (the one without a body shot).

As was warned, she was chunkier (and far less attractive) than her one pic would suggest. I was tempted to slip out when she went to the bathroom.

The good news is I sandwiched her between drinks with friends (I was drunk when she got there) and a meeting with a girl I'm dating who I actually kinda like. We had a single drink and I was OUT. She looked older than she said she was and was much less attractive. I knew the second she walked in it wouldn't work. Seriously, why bother? I mean, why waste her time and mine? It's not like I'm not going to see you eventually.

Oh well

She was nuts to begin with. Glad to break the ice. I'll report on others as I squeeze them into my flight attendant-chasing schedule.

O

 

[Slinger]

I was tempted to slip out when she went to the bathroom.

You're a better man than me. Back in 2001 I had set up a meeting with a girl at the mall after I met her in an AOL chat room. Same situation. Just one photo, from the neck up. Thought she was cute and she told me she was average weight, so I agreed to meet up w/ her. We met and she was a freakin' bowling ball with a head. We walk into Macy's and I spot a restroom. I told her I had to go. She said she'd be over in the corner checking out some clothes. I started walking towards the restroom and the very second I knew she wasn't looking I literally ran to my car and hauled ###. She called 3 times and wasn't so happy, but what the hell, she lied about her weight.The lesson of the day: It's 2007. Women take pictures like crazy nowadays. If a chick only has a photo or two from her neck up red flags fly everywhere.

 

[Otis]

I was tempted to slip out when she went to the bathroom.

You're a better man than me. Back in 2001 I had set up a meeting with a girl at the mall after I met her in an AOL chat room. Same situation. Just one photo, from the neck up. Thought she was cute and she told me she was average weight, so I agreed to meet up w/ her. We met and she was a freakin' bowling ball with a head. We walk into Macy's and I spot a restroom. I told her I had to go. She said she'd be over in the corner checking out some clothes. I started walking towards the restroom and the very second I knew she was looking I literally ran to my car and hauled ###. She called 3 times and wasn't so happy, but what the hell, she lied about her weight.The lesson of the day: It's 2007. Women take pictures like crazy nowadays. If a chick only has a photo or two from her neck up red flags fly everywhere.

Yup. Learned my lesson. She wasn't horrible (a solid 5 I would say) but nothing I would be interested in.

 

[JAA]

Well, that was the worst date i've been on in a while. Details tomorrow.

Alright, kids.Well, to start out, this girl had the face of Lindsay Lohan (I'm serious...there were points last night that I couldn't tell the difference), and a nice, tiny, but tight little body. That was a nice surprise.So, I'm thinking...hey, this isn't going to be so bad!And then, she opened her mouth. This was the kind of girl that wasn't going to let you get a word in at ALL. Okay, so I've been on dates with these kinds of girls before. I position myself so I can look at her and listen to Sportscenter at the same time, and all was good.But, it wasn't.You see, every story this girl (who was 4'11", 89 pounds) told started out with, "Oh, I was so trashed..." and ended up with "Yeah, and then I threw up in..."So after about two drinks, I'm just staying for story value (to give you guys something to read). She lives in a smallish town, so there's only three bars open on Sunday night, and there's nobody in them. In every bar we went to, the bartenders looked at me with a certain degree of pity...because as small as this girl is, she's not quiet. Her stories are booming throughout every bar we were in, which is why I was particularly glad the town was pretty dead last night.Then, we figure out that we have the same birthday, and she goes off on that for about 30 minutes. After that, and the fact that she's now visibly drunk, I'm thinking it's time to leave, because I just can't take it anymore.I take her home, she gives me the whole "are you okay to drive? You can just stay here thing...", but I take the opening and tell her I'm just fine, and it won't be a big deal to drive the 20 minutes home. I was tempted to go up, but I don't even think sex was worth listening to this girl for what could've been hours on end afterward.It's too bad, too. She was really cute.

stories for the FFA >>>> leaving mad talker alone at bar >>>> sects with mad drunk talkeris that right?

 

[JAA]

I just don't know that I have the energy for it.

 

[Bankerguy]

Date tonight with "school girl". Will report back.

Update:Tonight went well. We had dinner and then decided to go play pool and have a couple beers. That place was only a couple places down, so we walked... in the rain, sharing an umbrella, which was kind of nice.

She's still extremely sweet. She also walks the line between innocent and "not so innocent" very well, which is pretty appealing to me. I mentioned that my court date to finalize the divorce is a week from Thursday, and she said we'll have to go out to celebrate and that she'll "get me drunk and take advantage of me." No arguments there.

End of date kissing was very nice. Definite chemistry... Made tentative plans for Friday.

Second date with this one, right? The one with the pic on the beach? I'm pulling for her, though I still like the redhead, too. Since bankerguy doesn't post in the thread any more, you're now winning.

I guess I need to start posting again.To regain my rightful title.

 

[krista4]

Date tonight with "school girl". Will report back.

Update:Tonight went well. We had dinner and then decided to go play pool and have a couple beers. That place was only a couple places down, so we walked... in the rain, sharing an umbrella, which was kind of nice.

She's still extremely sweet. She also walks the line between innocent and "not so innocent" very well, which is pretty appealing to me. I mentioned that my court date to finalize the divorce is a week from Thursday, and she said we'll have to go out to celebrate and that she'll "get me drunk and take advantage of me." No arguments there.

End of date kissing was very nice. Definite chemistry... Made tentative plans for Friday.

Second date with this one, right? The one with the pic on the beach? I'm pulling for her, though I still like the redhead, too. Since bankerguy doesn't post in the thread any more, you're now winning.

I guess I need to start posting again.To regain my rightful title.

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

Hey guys, quick update. got a couple of dates set up for this weekend. I figured out how to post pictures on here (still cant get into underground, but will look into more detail tonight) so I will just post some pictures in this thread when i get home tonight.

 

[pricklypete]

I gotta say I'm having fun following along on the conquests.

Not seeing the pics does make it a little harder to follow, but I don't blame you for not posting them in the general thread.

Good luck fellas.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Looks like I have quite a bit of catching up to do.

Milker hit the bricks?

I meant reading, GB. Still milking the milker.

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Update: Not sure if this counts for this thread, but I'm meeting the girl my mom went and got me a date with after work today for drinks at happy hour. I have a question, especially for Otis, what's the play here for dress? I normally wear the full blown suit and stuff at work, but how do I alter that garb for after work drinks? For one, it's over 90 degrees out already so I'll probably just leave my suit jacket in the office. The suit pants, shirt, and tie I have are all designer so I'm not so much worried about that. Would rolling up the sleeves be too much? Do I take the tie off? Leave it on but loosened with top button unbuttoned or what? This girl just graduated from college so I doubt she's used to guys dressed nicely and I'm thinking if I pull this off right she'll think I'm more mature than the guys she dated in college but still "cool" and stuff.

This is a no-brainer:1. Leave the jacket at the office.2. Roll up the sleeves just once (i.e., fold back the cuffs)3. Unbutton top button, loosen tie a lot but not so much that it looks sloppy. You want that "I'm a cool guy kickin back after work" look. Chicks absolutely love it.GL

Kinda struggling here... cuffs rolled back just once feels weird to me. Also not so sure how loose this tie is supposed to be. Oh well. If she's not into me I'm blaming Otis.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Looks like I have quite a bit of catching up to do.

Milker hit the bricks?

Still milking the milker.

You'r edoing the Lord's work here, Tre...

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

BTW, at a semi-critical moment last night, I got the weirdest question in the middle of making out of all time.

"So, are you married?"

Same situation for me last Friday. Me and the girl in the midst of a serious prom-style makeout session:

6footBlonde: Wait...you're not married, are you?

Homer: [chuckles] Nope.

6footBlonde: Gay?

Homer: [with a handful of boobie] What the hell have we been doing for the last 20 minutes?

6footBlonde: Just checking.

The second question is somewhat troubling though. Maybe you were moving too slowly...

BTW, I read "prom" as "porn".

Let's have sex right now! -Costanza

 

[Homer J Simpson]

Update: Not sure if this counts for this thread, but I'm meeting the girl my mom went and got me a date with after work today for drinks at happy hour. I have a question, especially for Otis, what's the play here for dress? I normally wear the full blown suit and stuff at work, but how do I alter that garb for after work drinks? For one, it's over 90 degrees out already so I'll probably just leave my suit jacket in the office. The suit pants, shirt, and tie I have are all designer so I'm not so much worried about that. Would rolling up the sleeves be too much? Do I take the tie off? Leave it on but loosened with top button unbuttoned or what? This girl just graduated from college so I doubt she's used to guys dressed nicely and I'm thinking if I pull this off right she'll think I'm more mature than the guys she dated in college but still "cool" and stuff.

This is a no-brainer:1. Leave the jacket at the office.2. Roll up the sleeves just once (i.e., fold back the cuffs)3. Unbutton top button, loosen tie a lot but not so much that it looks sloppy. You want that "I'm a cool guy kickin back after work" look. Chicks absolutely love it.GL

Kinda struggling here... cuffs rolled back just once feels weird to me. Also not so sure how loose this tie is supposed to be. Oh well. If she's not into me I'm blaming Otis.

I've been blaming my romantic failures on Otis for years.

 

[krista4]

Update: Not sure if this counts for this thread, but I'm meeting the girl my mom went and got me a date with after work today for drinks at happy hour. I have a question, especially for Otis, what's the play here for dress? I normally wear the full blown suit and stuff at work, but how do I alter that garb for after work drinks? For one, it's over 90 degrees out already so I'll probably just leave my suit jacket in the office. The suit pants, shirt, and tie I have are all designer so I'm not so much worried about that. Would rolling up the sleeves be too much? Do I take the tie off? Leave it on but loosened with top button unbuttoned or what? This girl just graduated from college so I doubt she's used to guys dressed nicely and I'm thinking if I pull this off right she'll think I'm more mature than the guys she dated in college but still "cool" and stuff.

This is a no-brainer:1. Leave the jacket at the office.2. Roll up the sleeves just once (i.e., fold back the cuffs)3. Unbutton top button, loosen tie a lot but not so much that it looks sloppy. You want that "I'm a cool guy kickin back after work" look. Chicks absolutely love it.GL

Kinda struggling here... cuffs rolled back just once feels weird to me. Also not so sure how loose this tie is supposed to be. Oh well. If she's not into me I'm blaming Otis.

I've been blaming my romantic failures on Otis for years.

Me, too!

 

[Notorious T.R.E.]

Looks like I have quite a bit of catching up to do.

Milker hit the bricks?

Still milking the milker.

You'r edoing the Lord's work here, Tre...

Is that why she says "Oh God!" so much?:rimshot:

 

[MelvinTScupper]

still waiting for the "notable FBGs" to chime in.

 

[Pooch]

BTW, at a semi-critical moment last night, I got the weirdest question in the middle of making out of all time."So, are you married?"

Legitimate question.

Seriously, though, for the "guests" and other people reading this thread, come join us.Yeah, we're going on a lot of bad dates, but half the fun is coming back here and laughing about it. I'm having a blast.

As a married man of 13 years I'm enjoying the hell out of this thread. Some good stuff in here.

 

[zander_s]

Greatest morning reading material ever.

I gotta check this thread before i even open the sports page!

Keep 'em coming people!

 

[Homer J Simpson]

Update: Not sure if this counts for this thread, but I'm meeting the girl my mom went and got me a date with after work today for drinks at happy hour. I have a question, especially for Otis, what's the play here for dress? I normally wear the full blown suit and stuff at work, but how do I alter that garb for after work drinks? For one, it's over 90 degrees out already so I'll probably just leave my suit jacket in the office. The suit pants, shirt, and tie I have are all designer so I'm not so much worried about that. Would rolling up the sleeves be too much? Do I take the tie off? Leave it on but loosened with top button unbuttoned or what? This girl just graduated from college so I doubt she's used to guys dressed nicely and I'm thinking if I pull this off right she'll think I'm more mature than the guys she dated in college but still "cool" and stuff.

This is a no-brainer:1. Leave the jacket at the office.2. Roll up the sleeves just once (i.e., fold back the cuffs)3. Unbutton top button, loosen tie a lot but not so much that it looks sloppy. You want that "I'm a cool guy kickin back after work" look. Chicks absolutely love it.GL

Kinda struggling here... cuffs rolled back just once feels weird to me. Also not so sure how loose this tie is supposed to be. Oh well. If she's not into me I'm blaming Otis.

I've been blaming my romantic failures on Otis for years.

Me, too!

If it ain't broke...

 

[Disco Stu]

Ummm, yeah... we're going to need pics of Krista's hot, bisexual roommate ASAP.

Not sure if I have any...I'll look around when I have some time. Right now I should be working. Just remembered that tidbit from last night and thought I'd share, which apparently was a good idea.

Duh.......yeah guys hate hot bi-sexual wimmens who are into three-somes. Get the pics on the Underground stat.

:bump:

 

[Keys Myaths]

Sooo, it turns out I missed a call from Lindsay Lohan girl this morning.

Call her back and hit and run give her a second chance?

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Sooo, it turns out I missed a call from Lindsay Lohan girl this morning.

Call her back and hit and run give her a second chance?

This morning? WTF calls someone in the morning?

 

[Keys Myaths]

Sooo, it turns out I missed a call from Lindsay Lohan girl this morning.

Call her back and hit and run give her a second chance?

This morning? WTF calls someone in the morning?

Well, early this morning. She called at 2:16 AM.With no message. ####. Didn't realize it was an overnight call.

Well, now I'm just depressed.

 

[Otis]

Wow.

After completing my profile and finally putting up a "portrait" pic (the main pic that people see when they do a search), I'm getting bombarded with winks and messages. It's been 5-10 each day so far. Most of them are uninteresting, but one or two seem pretty good. Then there's the ones I have messaged and lined up. I've got a ton of numbers in my phone now and have to include descriptions of what they look like in my phone so I don't get them mixed up. I met up with one last night and that was a total bomb, but some of these others could have potential.

Now, if I could just make the time/effort to actually start doing these, it could get interesting.

I'll keep you posted.

O

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Wow.After completing my profile and finally putting up a "portrait" pic (the main pic that people see when they do a search), I'm getting bombarded with winks and messages.

Still waiting for you to post that pic of you here!

 

[Homer J Simpson]

Wow.After completing my profile and finally putting up a "portrait" pic (the main pic that people see when they do a search), I'm getting bombarded with winks and messages.

Still waiting for you to post that pic of you here!

Good luck. Otis is the shy type.

 

[Keys Myaths]

So apparently, since I made the "mistake" of not replying to yesterday's e-mail, she's pissed.

That girl e-mailed me again today, asking why I hadn't replied.

Ugh. Why have so many girls caught the crazy?

Woz--I need directions for Friday. I'd Facebook message you, but I'm too lazy.

 

[Woz]

Update on yesterdays date:

Met her for drinks and apps at pretty much the only upscale bar in town. She was on time which is great. I'd describe her as very cute, but not breathtaking. Body is definitely in shape, but wasn't as curvy as I ultimately prefer. We hung there and talked for two hours. I'm pretty sure the Otis suggestions were money because she seemed really relieved when she saw me and actually sped up her steps - I could tell she was super nervous. However, this nervousness seemed to remain with her throughout and she had a ton of nervous ticks which I jokingly called her out on but she more embarassed than anything even though I thought I did it in a playful way. Considering I'm generally a pretty shy guy there were some definite struggles because she was seemingly unbelievably shy. She sat completely across the table from me (i was at one of those high bar type tables where usually you sit next to one another), made no physical advances whatsoever, and while we joked about some sexual situations there was none of the lean-ins or arm touchings which are usually the obvious signs. So, with me being pretty shy too, I had no idea how to make an advance or if that was even a good idea. So no hug or kiss good-bye or whatever. I also kept joking with her that we'd have to get wasted since she couldn't tell me one fun thing to do in the area thinking she'd suggest something for later or another day but she never did. We left it with her telling me to call her some time soon but that she doesn't know when that would be (was trying to get her to say she had some friends for Keys' stay this weekend).

Oh well, I know I made it at least subtlely clear that I wasn't looking for a "friend" and physically I'm in her "league" so she could just very well be very shy. Or, of course, she could just not be very interested and think I'm an #######. Either way is fine - she's very nice but I won't be heartbroken if I have no contact with her again. After the date I did get a little frustrated because I felt I couldn't take ahold of the situation with her and got no signals so I got plowed back at the bar and proceeded to make some stupid drunk phone calls which I'm sure made me look like a moron. Which brings me to a great idea I have: a program for your phone which disables your ability to call members of the opposite six for at least an 8 hour time period after the consumption of your second alchololic beverage!

 

[Woz]

So apparently, since I made the "mistake" of not replying to yesterday's e-mail, she's pissed.That girl e-mailed me again today, asking why I hadn't replied. Ugh. Why have so many girls caught the crazy?Woz--I need directions for Friday. I'd Facebook message you, but I'm too lazy.

God these online chicks are insecure. You don't respond for a day or two, or in my case you make a freaking date and don't call the very next day to confirm, you're an #######. Whatever, helps weed out the crazies I guess. Keys: I'll send a pm with my address. I think interstate 94 runs by Madison so you'll take that pretty much all the way in. Otherwise mapquest should work.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

Update on yesterdays date:Met her for drinks and apps at pretty much the only upscale bar in town. She was on time which is great. I'd describe her as very cute, but not breathtaking. Body is definitely in shape, but wasn't as curvy as I ultimately prefer. We hung there and talked for two hours. I'm pretty sure the Otis suggestions were money because she seemed really relieved when she saw me and actually sped up her steps - I could tell she was super nervous. However, this nervousness seemed to remain with her throughout and she had a ton of nervous ticks which I jokingly called her out on but she more embarassed than anything even though I thought I did it in a playful way. Considering I'm generally a pretty shy guy there were some definite struggles because she was seemingly unbelievably shy. She sat completely across the table from me (i was at one of those high bar type tables where usually you sit next to one another), made no physical advances whatsoever, and while we joked about some sexual situations there was none of the lean-ins or arm touchings which are usually the obvious signs. So, with me being pretty shy too, I had no idea how to make an advance or if that was even a good idea. So no hug or kiss good-bye or whatever. I also kept joking with her that we'd have to get wasted since she couldn't tell me one fun thing to do in the area thinking she'd suggest something for later or another day but she never did. We left it with her telling me to call her some time soon but that she doesn't know when that would be (was trying to get her to say she had some friends for Keys' stay this weekend). Oh well, I know I made it at least subtlely clear that I wasn't looking for a "friend" and physically I'm in her "league" so she could just very well be very shy. Or, of course, she could just not be very interested and think I'm an #######. Either way is fine - she's very nice but I won't be heartbroken if I have no contact with her again. After the date I did get a little frustrated because I felt I couldn't take ahold of the situation with her and got no signals so I got plowed back at the bar and proceeded to make some stupid drunk phone calls which I'm sure made me look like a moron. Which brings me to a great idea I have: a program for your phone which disables your ability to call members of the opposite six for at least an 8 hour time period after the consumption of your second alchololic beverage!

Not your type. In that she's not psycho or needy.

 

[Otis]

I am getting slammed with winks and messages. This is awesome.

Some of these chicks aren't very bright:

I am a very giving person who just wants everyone to be happy. I love what I do and respects the people who are in my life. I have a very close family that mean the world to me. I am looking for someone who respects and loves there family and knows what love is.

This is a total dealbreaker for me.And lord, some of them are desperate. Look at this one -- looks like a freaking job pitch!!

After reading your profile, you seem like a really fun person!

I am surprised you are single to be honest, but better for me, I guess.

I am very new to this whole online thing (2 days to be exact). I have received some weird emails, playing into the whole skepticism of the online world. However, one of my best girlfriends just met this great guy from Match and now they are exclusively dating, so I figured what have I got to lose?

I just moved here from Boston about 2 months ago, and yes, I am a HUGE Red Sox FAN!! In fact, maybe I shouldnt get my hopes up, because if you are a Yanks fan, (which hopefully you are NOT) then we will surely get into arguments... And Trust me I ALWAYS WIN!

I am tall about 5'11, I played basketball in college, so I love being active.

I am independent and I take care of myself. I have been single now for about 2 years, I do not need a man in my life but I would like one, which is completely different.

I am a hard-worker, very ambitous and everything that I have received in my life, I have earned.

I really do not want to bore you anymore... theres much more to me.. if you are interested... I would love to hear from you! My direct email is ............................

Hope to hear from you soon!

L

 

[Otis]

Wow.After completing my profile and finally putting up a "portrait" pic (the main pic that people see when they do a search), I'm getting bombarded with winks and messages.

Still waiting for you to post that pic of you here!

It's posted in the :e: "who's hottest" thread here.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Woz, you made drunken phone calls to the woman you just went out with?

Guys, it's not bad when women are shy. Sometimes you just don't know what to say to someone you just met, especially from the internet.

 

[Pip's Invitation]

God these online chicks are insecure. You don't respond for a day or two, or in my case you make a freaking date and don't call the very next day to confirm, you're an #######. Whatever, helps weed out the crazies I guess.

Of course they are. Think about it: Women usually hold all the cards when it comes to dating/secks. The ones who are hot and confident (especially those under 30) usually don't need to resort to going online. They can get whatever they want in their usual social situations. If a girl is under 30 and goes online, she may have some security/confidence issues. If she's over 30, she may be having biological clock issues. I'm not trying to be misogynistic here -- lots of guys dating online have issues too. I did (trust issues stemming from divorce.) In my iDating days, most of the women I saw were not good at communication and/or social interaction. If they were better at it, they wouldn't need to do the online thing.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Wow.After completing my profile and finally putting up a "portrait" pic (the main pic that people see when they do a search), I'm getting bombarded with winks and messages.

Still waiting for you to post that pic of you here!

It's posted in the :e: "who's hottest" thread here.

Maybe you could post it here for all of us to see so we don't have to go searching for it.

 

[Woz]

Woz, you made drunken phone calls to the woman you just went out with?Guys, it's not bad when women are shy. Sometimes you just don't know what to say to someone you just met, especially from the internet.

No no of course not. I'm not that dumb. Just a couple friends, exes, and my mom. And yeah, I understand what you're saying about shyness. It seems like she's the type who hasn't dated too much before as well. It's just from a guys perspective no signals gives you nothing to read so I wasn't certainly hesitant about trying anything past a smile.

 

[JAA]

Update on yesterdays date:Met her for drinks and apps at pretty much the only upscale bar in town. She was on time which is great. I'd describe her as very cute, but not breathtaking. Body is definitely in shape, but wasn't as curvy as I ultimately prefer. We hung there and talked for two hours. I'm pretty sure the Otis suggestions were money because she seemed really relieved when she saw me and actually sped up her steps - I could tell she was super nervous. However, this nervousness seemed to remain with her throughout and she had a ton of nervous ticks which I jokingly called her out on but she more embarassed than anything even though I thought I did it in a playful way. Considering I'm generally a pretty shy guy there were some definite struggles because she was seemingly unbelievably shy. She sat completely across the table from me (i was at one of those high bar type tables where usually you sit next to one another), made no physical advances whatsoever, and while we joked about some sexual situations there was none of the lean-ins or arm touchings which are usually the obvious signs. So, with me being pretty shy too, I had no idea how to make an advance or if that was even a good idea. So no hug or kiss good-bye or whatever. I also kept joking with her that we'd have to get wasted since she couldn't tell me one fun thing to do in the area thinking she'd suggest something for later or another day but she never did. We left it with her telling me to call her some time soon but that she doesn't know when that would be (was trying to get her to say she had some friends for Keys' stay this weekend). Oh well, I know I made it at least subtlely clear that I wasn't looking for a "friend" and physically I'm in her "league" so she could just very well be very shy. Or, of course, she could just not be very interested and think I'm an #######. Either way is fine - she's very nice but I won't be heartbroken if I have no contact with her again. After the date I did get a little frustrated because I felt I couldn't take ahold of the situation with her and got no signals so I got plowed back at the bar and proceeded to make some stupid drunk phone calls which I'm sure made me look like a moron. Which brings me to a great idea I have: a program for your phone which disables your ability to call members of the opposite six for at least an 8 hour time period after the consumption of your second alchololic beverage!

many of men wish their phones had an internal breathalizer

 

[Woz]

I am getting slammed with winks and messages. This is awesome.

Some of these chicks aren't very bright:

I am a very giving person who just wants everyone to be happy. I love what I do and respects the people who are in my life. I have a very close family that mean the world to me. I am looking for someone who respects and loves there family and knows what love is.

This is a total dealbreaker for me.And lord, some of them are desperate. Look at this one -- looks like a freaking job pitch!!

After reading your profile, you seem like a really fun person!

I am surprised you are single to be honest, but better for me, I guess.

I am very new to this whole online thing (2 days to be exact). I have received some weird emails, playing into the whole skepticism of the online world. However, one of my best girlfriends just met this great guy from Match and now they are exclusively dating, so I figured what have I got to lose?

I just moved here from Boston about 2 months ago, and yes, I am a HUGE Red Sox FAN!! In fact, maybe I shouldnt get my hopes up, because if you are a Yanks fan, (which hopefully you are NOT) then we will surely get into arguments... And Trust me I ALWAYS WIN!

I am tall about 5'11, I played basketball in college, so I love being active.

I am independent and I take care of myself. I have been single now for about 2 years, I do not need a man in my life but I would like one, which is completely different.

I am a hard-worker, very ambitous and everything that I have received in my life, I have earned.

I really do not want to bore you anymore... theres much more to me.. if you are interested... I would love to hear from you! My direct email is ............................

Hope to hear from you soon!

L

I've received similar ones, however I'm still waiting for this one to get beat:lol .. Parknicollet is a clinic/hospital well I work for both ... the Hospital is called Methodist but pretty much the same thing... lol But yeah any ways ... Let me tell you If you ever have time ... Like i work out at lifetime fitness ... and today ... I just got a half hour massage before my work out ... lol it made me not want to work out b/c I was so relaxed .. but I do recommend it ...lol it was wonderful ... you ever want to pamper yourself that is the way to go ... lol .. but yeah any ways that is what I did tonight and I just had to tell some one how wonderful it was ... So do you like your Job ? Hmm I am not sure what to say .. Oh do you have any brothers and sister and how close are you with your family ? any thing else you want to know just let me know ... lol

 

[Otis]

Mrs. BSR:

Linky

Thank you in advance for your support.

-O

 

[JAA]

Oh well, I know I made it at least subtlely clear that I wasn't looking for a "friend" and physically I'm in her "league" so she could just very well be very shy. Or, of course, she could just not be very interested and think I'm an #######. Either way is fine - she's very nice but I won't be heartbroken if I have no contact with her again. After the date I did get a little frustrated because I felt I couldn't take ahold of the situation with her and got no signals

Its been a long time for me, but after thinking about it all I can come up with is to push their envelope. This will obviously bee difficult for a self described shy guy like yourself, but its some advice, YMMV.Start asking her direct and probling questions to get her out of her shell and raise the sexual level of your meeting. Start with subtle "Damn, that guys a good dresser ... do you think he is hot? Would you date a guy like that?" Maybe move to "That girl is ok, I think if she worked out more like you do she would be better off". After some time, move to first date questions "So do you ever kiss on the first date? Im going to be pretty angry if I dont get a first date kiss. For me, its just about a given ... just wanted to let you know." Judge her responses, does she play it off, give into it, or abrubtly respond with "No!" Move to something a little more personal "Do you date a lot? What kind of guys do you go for? Im not sure I fit that mold, why exactly are you out with me?" and "Are you more of a short fling with guys or push into longer relationships? Whats the longest relationship you have been in? Wow, he put up with you that long ... just kidding".These questions are to elevate the sex level of your date. Take her out of shy shell and force her into either defensive or agressinve front. It will be pretty clear how she wants herself to be perceived. Remeber, most (sober) women care lots about how they are perceived through their answers. If she wants you to think she is a shy prude, you will know. If she wants you to know that while she is a bit shy, she is a muther####ing lynx ready to pounce on your bones ... she will let you know.Good luck

 

[Early_10]

Woz, heard from AMBO yet?

 

[Woz]

Woz, heard from AMBO yet?

No, has your heart completely iced over yet?

 

[Peyton Marino]

Woz, heard from AMBO yet?

No, has your heart completely iced over yet?

lol

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Mrs. BSR:

Linky

Thank you in advance for your support.

-O

Well hello! Dayam! I did see one of those pictures but didn't believe the guys when they said it was you. Great dimples!