***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (6 Viewers)

[Slinger]

I shouldnt have been ignoring this thread... or is it more hype than reality?

Cliff notes? Key posts? Im lazy but want to be entertained dammit.

Take your A.D.D. pills and read it.

 

[JAA]

I'm going to add my update here, even though it has nothing to do with iDating, because it came out in the context of this thread anyway. A reminder: I don't want to date anyone, but then met this seemingly perfect guy last Wednesday night. In classic Otisian fashion, we exchanged many, many text messages (in his defense, this is because I told him that I do not talk on the phone, which is true).We carried this on for a while (I had plans every evening but Thursday, when I was nursing a hangover), and then on Sunday he sent me this text:"When do we have time to hang out? U work during the day, i have my daughter at night, weekends i work at night and u try to stay busy. What time does that leave"So I texted back that that sounded really pessimistic, but we could figure something out.Then Sunday night I was at dinner in my neighborhood, steps from where he was working, and after dinner I texted to see if he was there, and he said yes, and I asked if I should stop by, and here's what went down from there:FPG (Formerly Perfect Guy): "what time? I have a friend stopping by for a while and wouldn't want u to feel ignored."Me: "That's OK. I just had dinner at bin 36 and thought maybe I'd stop by since I was right here."FPG: "Please, not the drama queen act. I dont think i can handle a breakdown." [Krista Note: ]FPG: "I would love to see u, but if honesty and reality isnt something your [sic] into, i'll pass."Me: "I hope you're not serious about that ####."FPG: "Let's talk another day."Me: "I've a better idea...let's not."FPG: "Perfect!"FPG (five minutes later): "For a Lawyer, u really are sensitive...What's the best day for me to buy u dinner next week?"I haven't responded. WTF? The guy freaked out and seems to be bipolar. I will no longer listen to any "chicks are crazy" talk here any more.

Wow! Sorry Krista, it seemed you had a little chemistry going with this guy. He does seem a little messed up though. That would be enough for me to wish them a good life too.Good decision, don't spend any more time thinking about it. When you are ready, you'll have no troubles finding a great guy.

Update on Formerly Perfect But Now Likely Insane Guy: After I didn't reply to his text about when he could take me out for dinner, I didn't hear from him again and figured that was it. Yesterday, after however many days had gone by, I got a text saying, "So how long are you going to stay mad at me?"

give me 1 reason to go out on a date with him?

For shtick?

 

[Bankerguy]

I shouldnt have been ignoring this thread... or is it more hype than reality?Cliff notes? Key posts? Im lazy but want to be entertained dammit.

There's some early trainwreck stuff from Woz...Bankerguy chasing a couger while a friend blocked...Stu quietly scoring...a few guys posting some interesting date updates...but we're definitely running out of steam...Oh, and if you're very well behaved you get invited to an off-board area where pics of iprospects get posted for reference...

Also, check out the "No Talking" story.....Page 5 or so I believe.

 

[JAA]

give me 1 reason to go out on a date with him?

You're gay and krista told you that he's cute.

 

[JAA]

Keys> Hi

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys> Hi

 

[Woz]

I shouldnt have been ignoring this thread... or is it more hype than reality?Cliff notes? Key posts? Im lazy but want to be entertained dammit.

My first ever idate turned out to be psycho and broke into my place when I was sleeping. That's entertaining. Also keep getting stood up. Bankerguy landed some older hotties. Keys somehow shotguns off like 5 days in his first 5 days in Madison. The underground is definitely worth it - some decent chicks either landed or whiffed on. The better stuff is earlier.

 

[Keys Myaths]

I shouldnt have been ignoring this thread... or is it more hype than reality?Cliff notes? Key posts? Im lazy but want to be entertained dammit.

My first ever idate turned out to be psycho and broke into my place when I was sleeping. That's entertaining. Also keep getting stood up. Bankerguy landed some older hotties. Keys somehow shotguns off like 5 days in his first 5 days in Madison. The underground is definitely worth it - some decent chicks either landed or whiffed on. The better stuff is earlier.

Oh, did I mention 4 dates in 5 days this weekend, starting yesterday?

 

[code]

Keys

 

[JAA]

Keys> Hi

eagerly waiting :trainwreck:

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys

Yeah, but I need to start looking for new talent. I've been slacking ever since I started work.Okay, details on last night while I have a few minutes here. Went out with the blonde again, just took her to dinner after work.Dinner was a tad bit creepy. She started rhyming our names like it was cute (yes, our real names rhyme), and making very relationshipy comments. Fair enough, I'll have to drop the bomb soon. Not a big deal.So, we go back to her apartment, and she offers me a glass of wine. Good enough, she has a 90-rated Merlot, so I'm not passing that up. We're watching TV, and her cat's in my lap. I'm petting the cat, it moves off, and I brush a piece of cat hair off my pants."Oh, don't worry, you'll definitely get used to that."So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

Keys

Yeah, but I need to start looking for new talent. I've been slacking ever since I started work.Okay, details on last night while I have a few minutes here. Went out with the blonde again, just took her to dinner after work.Dinner was a tad bit creepy. She started rhyming our names like it was cute (yes, our real names rhyme), and making very relationshipy comments. Fair enough, I'll have to drop the bomb soon. Not a big deal.So, we go back to her apartment, and she offers me a glass of wine. Good enough, she has a 90-rated Merlot, so I'm not passing that up. We're watching TV, and her cat's in my lap. I'm petting the cat, it moves off, and I brush a piece of cat hair off my pants."Oh, don't worry, you'll definitely get used to that."So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

Her: Keys:

 

[Kraft...]

Keys

Yeah, but I need to start looking for new talent. I've been slacking ever since I started work.Okay, details on last night while I have a few minutes here. Went out with the blonde again, just took her to dinner after work.Dinner was a tad bit creepy. She started rhyming our names like it was cute (yes, our real names rhyme), and making very relationshipy comments. Fair enough, I'll have to drop the bomb soon. Not a big deal.So, we go back to her apartment, and she offers me a glass of wine. Good enough, she has a 90-rated Merlot, so I'm not passing that up. We're watching TV, and her cat's in my lap. I'm petting the cat, it moves off, and I brush a piece of cat hair off my pants."Oh, don't worry, you'll definitely get used to that."So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

"Don't ever leave me, cause I'LL FIND YOU"

 

[mr. furley]

So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

creepy. you made the right call.

 

[Kraft...]

So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

creepy. you made the right call.

Her eyes do look a little crazy in the underground pic(she is cute though)

 

[krista4]

Keys

Yeah, but I need to start looking for new talent. I've been slacking ever since I started work.Okay, details on last night while I have a few minutes here. Went out with the blonde again, just took her to dinner after work.Dinner was a tad bit creepy. She started rhyming our names like it was cute (yes, our real names rhyme), and making very relationshipy comments. Fair enough, I'll have to drop the bomb soon. Not a big deal.So, we go back to her apartment, and she offers me a glass of wine. Good enough, she has a 90-rated Merlot, so I'm not passing that up. We're watching TV, and her cat's in my lap. I'm petting the cat, it moves off, and I brush a piece of cat hair off my pants."Oh, don't worry, you'll definitely get used to that."So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

:confetti:

 

[Keys Myaths]

So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

creepy. you made the right call.

Yeah, I think so.Luckily, she's never seen where I live. She knows where I work, but honestly, there's even two people with my name here. 4000 people work at the campus I do. I'm not too worried.But, I'm never talking to her again...probably just going to ignore calls/etc. until she gets the hint. Normally, I'd have the conversation, but not with this one.

 

[code]

Keys

Yeah, but I need to start looking for new talent. I've been slacking ever since I started work.Okay, details on last night while I have a few minutes here. Went out with the blonde again, just took her to dinner after work.Dinner was a tad bit creepy. She started rhyming our names like it was cute (yes, our real names rhyme), and making very relationshipy comments. Fair enough, I'll have to drop the bomb soon. Not a big deal.So, we go back to her apartment, and she offers me a glass of wine. Good enough, she has a 90-rated Merlot, so I'm not passing that up. We're watching TV, and her cat's in my lap. I'm petting the cat, it moves off, and I brush a piece of cat hair off my pants."Oh, don't worry, you'll definitely get used to that."So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

:confetti:

Is this the proper use of :confetti: Apparently I have no clue what that means...

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys

Yeah, but I need to start looking for new talent. I've been slacking ever since I started work.Okay, details on last night while I have a few minutes here. Went out with the blonde again, just took her to dinner after work.Dinner was a tad bit creepy. She started rhyming our names like it was cute (yes, our real names rhyme), and making very relationshipy comments. Fair enough, I'll have to drop the bomb soon. Not a big deal.So, we go back to her apartment, and she offers me a glass of wine. Good enough, she has a 90-rated Merlot, so I'm not passing that up. We're watching TV, and her cat's in my lap. I'm petting the cat, it moves off, and I brush a piece of cat hair off my pants."Oh, don't worry, you'll definitely get used to that."So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

:confetti:

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[code]

:confetti:

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[krista4]

:confetti:

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[Woz]

Small update:

Psycho chick is back to texting me. Gotta thank my friends for that one after they texted her a bunch of crap at a party. If any of you want a chick who likes to have text-sex (?) let me know. In the meantime I got to find a way to get her off my back. Ignoring doesn't work as she continues to text.

Cute-Emilie: Was supposed to call me last night to make plans for this weekend for her to come up. I saw she didn't call and I had to call because I needed to let work know today - she didn't answer or call back. Saw she's been online like all day today and hasn't send me anything. Looks like I'm getting stood up again.

(Krista: can you check my hotornot and see where I blew this one?)

Otherwise nothing else to report. Some blonde chick wants to get together but I'm not too into her. I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about. Just sending some messages over lunch when I'm bored.

 

[Slinger]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

 

[Keys Myaths]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

 

[JAA]

So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

:whoosh:creepy. you made the right call.

 

[JAA]

So, I think I'm just being jumpy because I'm a committment-phobe. So, later on, we start making out. First long kiss, open my eyes, and her eyes are WIDE open, almost staring right through me.So, I figure I'm being overdramatic, and we do it again. I make sure to open my eyes halfway through, and she's STILL staring at me.Whoa.Immediate comment from her:"Yeah, that's my thing, I like to watch you."So, I left no more than 3 minutes later.WAY too many deal-breakers in one night.

creepy. you made the right call.

Her eyes do look a little crazy in the underground pic(she is cute though)

weird, I think her mouth is the creepiest. Like she wants to bite my head off and cackle as she swallows the rest of my body down her gullet

 

[JAA]

Small updatesycho chick is back to texting me. Gotta thank my friends for that one after they texted her a bunch of crap at a party. If any of you want a chick who likes to have text-sex (?) let me know. In the meantime I got to find a way to get her off my back. Ignoring doesn't work as she continues to text.

Text her that you are trying to work some things out with your ex and she is only making it worsebet that will do it

 

[Woz]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks. bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

 

[Alias]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks. bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

so the girl that likes girls is hot, but not super (model) hot? Do you have different standards for bi's? Weird is a good thing.

 

[Woz]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks. bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

so the girl that likes girls is hot, but not super (model) hot? Do you have different standards for bi's? Weird is a good thing.

5/10 at best and by weird meaning she sends me nonsensical messages and never stays on point.

 

[Alias]

someone send me an invite to pics

 

[code]

:confetti:

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:confetti:

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:reported:

 

[Alias]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks. bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

so the girl that likes girls is hot, but not super (model) hot? Do you have different standards for bi's? Weird is a good thing.

5/10 at best and by weird meaning she sends me nonsensical messages and never stays on point.

ah ok - so don't you screen these girls somehow? Anything below a 7 and I do not even bother responding to. A 5 to me is like less better looking then half the women in her bracket (age, etc..)

 

[Keys Myaths]

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:confetti:

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:reported:

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[code]

:confetti:

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:confetti:

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[strykerpks]

someone send me an invite to pics

 

[pricklypete]

someone send me an invite to pics

Hook a brotha up?It's hard following along without seeing the pics.And no, I usually don't read books without pictures.

 

[Disco Stu]

someone send me an invite to pics

Hook a brotha up?It's hard following along without seeing the pics.And no, I usually don't read books without pictures.

FYI, it's tough even with the pics. I'm still not sure which one is Key's crazy cat lady...

 

[pricklypete]

someone send me an invite to pics

Hook a brotha up?It's hard following along without seeing the pics.And no, I usually don't read books without pictures.

FYI, it's tough even with the pics. I'm still not sure which one is Key's crazy cat lady...

Well damnit, it can't hurt!

 

[mr. furley]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

sometimes, when you're shot isn't falling, you've gotta be aggressive to the hole.. try to make a couple layups. get that old feeling back.apparently Woz was coached by Paul Westhead. when the shots aren't falling - shoot from farther out.

 

[Disco Stu]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

sometimes, when you're shot isn't falling, you've gotta be aggressive to the hole.. try to make a couple layups. get that old feeling back.apparently Woz was coached by Paul Westhead. when the shots aren't falling - shoot from farther out.

:sendinganothermessagetoAMBO:

 

[Woz]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

sometimes, when you're shot isn't falling, you've gotta be aggressive to the hole.. try to make a couple layups. get that old feeling back.apparently Woz was coached by Paul Westhead. when the shots aren't falling - shoot from farther out.

It's more of a "if you're going to strike out in the big leages, may as well do so by swinging for the fences - never know of the off chance you may connect" type of approach.

 

[mr. furley]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks. bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

OF COURSE SHE'S WEIRD!! SHE'S BISEXUAL!!!! THE TWO GO HAND IN HAND!!!you're trying to get laid here man, meet new people, try new things. not to try and replicate your ex-girlfriend find your life partner.you're really starting to remind me of an old roommate of mine. it's almost eerie. guy fell in love with the only girl he ever slept with... this chick had a twin brother who my old roommate later became best friends with. the rumor always was that the two guys were ####ing. at any rate they had a strange obsession with each other that went past friendship.

 

[Bankerguy]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks.

bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

As an average maybe.......as a rule hell no. Some of the best craziest stuff you will ever do is with people you don't necessarily love. While it may not be for everyone's comfort level....taking a walk on the wild side once and a while is great for your face.

 

[pricklypete]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks.

bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

As an average maybe.......as a rule hell no. Some of the best craziest stuff you will ever do is with people you don't necessarily love. While it may not be for everyone's comfort level....taking a walk on the wild side once and a while is great for your face.

 

[mr. furley]

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't.

the problem here is that you're not cut out for dating. some people just aren't. you're trying to find a wife w/o any of the legwork. glllllll

 

[Woz]

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't.

the problem here is that you're not cut out for dating. some people just aren't. you're trying to find a wife w/o any of the legwork. glllllll

explain

 

[Disco Stu]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks.

bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

As an average maybe.......as a rule hell no. Some of the best craziest stuff you will ever do is with people you don't necessarily love. While it may not be for everyone's comfort level....taking a walk on the wild side once and a while is great for your face.

Yeah, and there are certain things you may not be comfortable doing to the mother of your children.

 

[Woz]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks.

bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

As an average maybe.......as a rule hell no. Some of the best craziest stuff you will ever do is with people you don't necessarily love. While it may not be for everyone's comfort level....taking a walk on the wild side once and a while is great for your face.

I know, but I've always been a believer that sex was reserved for love, or at least care. The few noncaring experiences I've had don't touch the caring ones.

 

[Woz]

I've been talking casually back in forth with sluttymom and some other chick who claims to be bisexual, but I'll never see other of them because that's not what I'm about.

What the hell?!?

I've learned just to move on when he says stuff like this.

Sex with someone you care about >>>>> sex with someone you don't. sluttymom = chubby with 4 kids. No thanks.

bisexual chick = not super hot and seems weird.

As an average maybe.......as a rule hell no. Some of the best craziest stuff you will ever do is with people you don't necessarily love. While it may not be for everyone's comfort level....taking a walk on the wild side once and a while is great for your face.

Yeah, and there are certain things you may not be comfortable doing to the mother of your children.

Eh, I disagree. I think if you are close enough to the person chances are you share the same types of sexual fantasies and crap and the comfort level is so high you can do it. Guess the only exception here would be 3somes because I'm not about to watch my SO be with someone else where as some random wouldn't bother me.