Nathan R. Jessep
Footballguy
This lunch date went well. We are about an hour and a half away from each other. She has invited me to her place this weekend, potentially, pending finalizing child arrangements for her. Happy Easter to me!
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Hoping you don't find any eggs.This lunch date went well. We are about an hour and a half away from each other. She has invited me to her place this weekend, potentially, pending finalizing child arrangements for her. Happy Easter to me!
Poncho
Footballguy
I have been off the sites since late july. Starting to get that itch again...I'm a success story (so far).
I got married this past Saturday to my wife whom I met on Match.
Good for you guys by the way!
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sbonomo
Footballguy
To get married?I have been off the sites since late july. Starting to get that itch again...
Good for you guys by the way!
on't do it:
Poncho
Footballguy
No just getting restless being with one person this long lolTo get married?
McGarnicle
Footballguy
Nathan R. Jessep
Footballguy
No updates from me unfortunately. Plans fell through. She got the flu. Oof. Guess it was better than going and me catching the flu though. I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal President (and Hillary doesn't count).
boilerdave
Footballguy
I chatted a little with a lady who had initiated contact with me on pof and we met for a drink last Thursday evening.
I think the conversation went well. We're both in our fifties and both of us have one kid, daughters, both of which are in college.
When I walked her out after our drink I asked if she'd like to get together again, she said she was just starting the online dating and asked if it was ok if she contacted me?
I would really like to see her again but wonder if I just have to set back and wait for a message from her that may never come or could I drop her a note saying something about enjoying meeting her and hope we can meet again. I don't suppose a note from me would hurt my chances of a second date, or would it? Anyone have thoughts or advice?
I think the conversation went well. We're both in our fifties and both of us have one kid, daughters, both of which are in college.
When I walked her out after our drink I asked if she'd like to get together again, she said she was just starting the online dating and asked if it was ok if she contacted me?
I would really like to see her again but wonder if I just have to set back and wait for a message from her that may never come or could I drop her a note saying something about enjoying meeting her and hope we can meet again. I don't suppose a note from me would hurt my chances of a second date, or would it? Anyone have thoughts or advice?
mquinnjr
Footballguy
Just generally speaking, if I'm into pursuing a situation I just go for it. I have respect for myself though and don't push/harass with more than one message, because it's not mutual at that point. I'd absolutely send her a "Great meeting you, hope to hear from you soon" message if it was heartfelt. If she's into you and just churning dates for the sake of it/because she thinks that how it works, you might change her mind and separate yourself. If not, move on to the next one and don't feel bad.
boilerdave
Footballguy
James Daulton
Footballguy
Just mho but I'd bet she was trying to let you down easy, so don't get your hopes up. Nothing wrong with dropping her a note though, just in case.
Major
Footballguy
I dunno. She probably wants you to take control. Send her a few **** pics and then see if she wants to Netflix and chill.
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boilerdave
Footballguy
Good point. I know there's a strong possibility that I never hear from her again.
wilked
Footballguy
You can contact her again, but for gods sake don't let it be a 'I had a great time and want to see you again' note.
Maybe be she mentioned she knew a lot about fashion. A text of 'headed into Manhattan for some shopping later, any suggestions on where to start?' can get conversation started. And so on. Basically keep the conversation going from that night, don't send a plea for her to contact you again
McGarnicle
Footballguy
2:00AM text: "Can't sleep, been thinking about you nonstop. So horny."
2:05AM text: "You awake?"
Joe T
Footballguy
Update: well the love of my life only lasted a few weeks. I thought she was the one, but it didn't work out and now I'm back in the saddle. I have been on Bumble for the last few weeks and have been on about 4 to 5 dates per week. Sometimes 2 in one day. For those not on yet, Bumble is just like Tinder except the girls have to message first after a connection. The other big factor is the quality of women seems A LOT better. I've been enjoying it. 3 more dates scheduled this week. I could probably go out every night of the week with someone new, but honestly do not have the energy. I can't even get to all of them that I want to meet.
Also, tried a couple of "Meet Ups" as someone mentioned earlier in this thread. I love the format. It is so much better because I don't have to be "on" or talking the whole time. Part of the time I can relax and just throw in witty one-liners occasionally. And there is much less pressure because it is a group setting. Plus, some of the guys I've seen at these meet ups come off as a little desperate which only helps me.
3 more dates scheduled this week. I could probably go out every night of the week with someone new, but honestly do not have the energy. I can't even get to all of them that I want to meet.Also, tried a couple of "Meet Ups" as someone mentioned earlier in this thread. I love the format. It is so much better because I don't have to be "on" or talking the whole time. Part of the time I can relax and just throw in witty one-liners occasionally. And there is much less pressure because it is a group setting. Plus, some of the guys I've seen at these meet ups come off as a little desperate which only helps me.
Joe T
Footballguy
Wilked nailed this. You have to bring up something you already talked about on the text to her the next day preferably something funny that you both laughed at. When you are on the date (assuming you are interested), you should be making a mental note of 'Oh, this is perfect for my text tomorrow.'
How's it going with your boss today? Still wearing way too much perfume?
Did you get that deal closed with XYZ? .... wait for response... if closed: Well, we have to celebrate.
The more specific the better from what I've found.
Captain Cranks
Footballguy
She probably noticed you lurking this thread and realized she needs to step up her game.
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Joe T
Footballguy
I have plans to go to a concert this Saturday with a girl I've gone out with a few times. The problem is that she wants to grab dinner first. I asked her to send me a list of a few places she likes because the ones I tried were booked on Saturday. Still waiting on the list... getting a reservation now will be about as easy as finding a Trump supporter at a gay wedding.
offdee
Footballguy
Bad move. This is going to be a turn off for her. Figure it out on your own and tell her what the plan is going to be. You finding a place on your own and it end up being terrible is better than her figuring it out for you and ends up being good. Women want someone that takes charge and makes a decision and doesn't defer back to them.
McGarnicle
Footballguy
Yeah neg her too bro
Joe T
Footballguy
I agree.
But there's no where decent to grab dinner on this short of notice. I wanted her to notice that before I picked a place. Also, she wanted to send a few ideas... All of which will be booked.
offdee
Footballguy
Why not just tell her that? "A nice dinner out together sounds great but we'll need to save that for the next date. Trust me when i say everything is booked. I'll just grab some things from the store with a nice bottle of wine and we can just cook something good together at my place."
McGarnicle
Footballguy
We will drink wine and you will listen to the things that I say and I will start a DVD but we will be making love before the opening credits are done.
wilked
Footballguy
Mix of good and bad advice being given here...
Joe, bad move ceding control of the eve to her. There is always a place to eat, even on short notice. The move is to let her know restaurants are booked (tease her about not being much of a planner) and suggest you grab a bar table at a good Gastropub (the ones with no reservations). Lots of pluses here - cheaper, lower key / less formal, and more emphasis on drinking.
Joe, bad move ceding control of the eve to her. There is always a place to eat, even on short notice. The move is to let her know restaurants are booked (tease her about not being much of a planner) and suggest you grab a bar table at a good Gastropub (the ones with no reservations). Lots of pluses here - cheaper, lower key / less formal, and more emphasis on drinking.
Buttonhook
Footballguy
We like long stories.McGarnicle said:
offdee
Footballguy
Having a reason to ger her comfortable being inside your place, will make it that much more probable she suggests to go back after the concert.
James Daulton
Footballguy
A top FBG poster and banging multiple chicks. You're my hero.McGarnicle said:
Buck Bradcanon
Footballguy
Reservations on a tinder date? Chili's down?
Joe T
Footballguy
GB, I get all this and I agree with you 100%. My point in letting her try is so that she knows she can't just say on Thursday let's grab dinner Saturday night in downtown thinking we'll be able to get into anywhere good at a decent time. Sometimes I think girls think everything magically just happens and they get whatever they want on a whim.
Anyway, it worked out.
Bogart
Footballguy
Where did you end up getting reservations?GB, I get all this and I agree with you 100%. My point in letting her try is so that she knows she can't just say on Thursday let's grab dinner Saturday night in downtown thinking we'll be able to get into anywhere good at a decent time. Sometimes I think girls think everything magically just happens and they get whatever they want on a whim.
Anyway, it worked out.
Joe T
Footballguy
Bogart
Footballguy
mr. furley
Footballguy
like showing up at a restaurant on mother's day Sunday at lunch expecting to get a table for 6. and man do they get upset when it doesn't work out their way.
Buttonhook
Footballguy
This probably deserves it's own thread, but why are women like this? My wife is not a very good planner, often over-books herself because she forgets half the stuff she has planned, and always makes last minute plans or changes. And a lot of her girlfriends are like this too. But I know very few men who have this fly-by-the-seat-of-their-pants mentality.
Clearly women are wired differently than men, but I also wonder if sometimes there's a bit of laziness and entitlement also going on. Like they want to be free to do what they want, when they want, and they expect us (the guy) to figure out how to make it work. Which we usually do, because let's face it, what man isn't willing to put in the extra effort to increase his chances of having sex?
Clearly women are wired differently than men, but I also wonder if sometimes there's a bit of laziness and entitlement also going on. Like they want to be free to do what they want, when they want, and they expect us (the guy) to figure out how to make it work. Which we usually do, because let's face it, what man isn't willing to put in the extra effort to increase his chances of having sex?
mr. furley
Footballguy
topic for an entirely different thread, i suppose
goes back to how children are raised + society's expectations of gender roles, etc.
Joe T
Footballguy
Was perfect. Spot at the bar was nice. Better than a table actually. Food was excellent and it is BYOB so you can bring your own wine. (They have alcohol too if you don't bring anything )
mr. furley
Footballguy
offdee
Footballguy
Always sit at the bar. Table too distant...you can get a ton of body language reads when sitting next to each other at the bar. I'm in a 2+ year relationship and we always choose the bar spots over a table still. Closer to touch and just be in a closer intimate vicinity.Joe T said:
Major
Footballguy
Yep. Pretty much the same here. I rarely even bother with reservations bc I know I'll be able to get a place at the bar without much hassle or wait plus it encourages more drinking and touching. This is always my move at a new restaurant with buzz. Nothing gets a woman more moist than dining at Dorsia.
Don't Noonan
Footballguy
I think we need Dentist opinion on this. I personally think that is a great quality a hot chick can have.
