***Official*** FFA iDating Thread (10 Viewers)

[Disco Stu]

Any experience with girls who will just be town for a week?Chick from Southern California sent a few messages. Apparently her dad lives in a town about 20 miles east of me (I'm already 20 miles east of Dallas, so we're talking BFE here). She's going to be making this trip fairly often (first trip a week from today) and is looking for people to hang out with while she's there.This sounds like a good "no strings" type of situation to me. I'm just not real clear on if she's simply looking for Texas friends to get her out of the house or if she wants to hook up.

Probably just looking for something, not someone, to do while she's in town, but worth going out once to see.

Depends on the girl, but if she was looking for a new friend to hang out with why not choose a girl? Since she chose a guy, what was it about Stu that helped her make that decision? I bet she asked herself if she would do him. I know guys work this way, so maybe women are different, but I don't think they are that much different.

hmmm... guy has a point. Curious if I should try to steer the messages in a date type of direction before she gets here.

 

[Disco Stu]

You might be getting around town too much. Got a PoF iRep

What means this?

 

[JAA]

Any experience with girls who will just be town for a week?Chick from Southern California sent a few messages. Apparently her dad lives in a town about 20 miles east of me (I'm already 20 miles east of Dallas, so we're talking BFE here). She's going to be making this trip fairly often (first trip a week from today) and is looking for people to hang out with while she's there.This sounds like a good "no strings" type of situation to me. I'm just not real clear on if she's simply looking for Texas friends to get her out of the house or if she wants to hook up.

sell the point you just want to go and hang out, have a couple drinks and a good time in a laid back atmosphere.It takes a lot of balls for a girl who is only in on some weekends to send mails to a guy she doesnt know who lives very far from herglll, we need some pics of this one

 

[JAA]

You might be getting around town too much. Got a PoF iRep

What means this?

joke: From "2.5 men" sitcom. CHarlie dates all the wimmens in town and one of them (neighbor) sets up a website talking about how evil he is. Charlie strikes out lots, hilarity ensues, he eventually gets laid.

 

[Disco Stu]

Any experience with girls who will just be town for a week?

Chick from Southern California sent a few messages. Apparently her dad lives in a town about 20 miles east of me (I'm already 20 miles east of Dallas, so we're talking BFE here). She's going to be making this trip fairly often (first trip a week from today) and is looking for people to hang out with while she's there.

This sounds like a good "no strings" type of situation to me. I'm just not real clear on if she's simply looking for Texas friends to get her out of the house or if she wants to hook up.

sell the point you just want to go and hang out, have a couple drinks and a good time in a laid back atmosphere.It takes a lot of balls for a girl who is only in on some weekends to send mails to a guy she doesnt know who lives very far from her

glll, we need some pics of this one

Now that would be a story. She wouldn't have really caught my eye but kinda cute.

 

[Disco Stu]

You might be getting around town too much. Got a PoF iRep

What means this?

joke: From "2.5 men" sitcom. CHarlie dates all the wimmens in town and one of them (neighbor) sets up a website talking about how evil he is. Charlie strikes out lots, hilarity ensues, he eventually gets laid.

Makes more sense now that I'm not reading it as "Get a PoF iRep".

 

[Alias]

Did this message suck?

I was kind of surprised I lost this girl. I don't think she's out of my league looks wise at all, but maybe she disagrees.

Subject: Just wanted you to know... Sent Date: 8/24/2007 11:02:44 AM

There's a man in a tie standing behind you. I'm not sure what he's doing, but he looks a little shady.

I also should tell you I really enjoyed reading your profile. You sound like a great girl, who definitely has her head on straight. I'd like to think I fit what you're looking for, but take a look at my profile and let me know.

Look forward to talking to you soon,

Stu

Read DeletedFigured I'd be right in her wheelhouse. Tall, 30s, intelligent, good career... Maybe it's the kid thing.

I'd bet that is the reason a lot, I typically do not bother with the women with kids - if they were as hot as some of the Milf's Otis has been posting I would change my tune

 

[krista4]

Any experience with girls who will just be town for a week?

Chick from Southern California sent a few messages. Apparently her dad lives in a town about 20 miles east of me (I'm already 20 miles east of Dallas, so we're talking BFE here). She's going to be making this trip fairly often (first trip a week from today) and is looking for people to hang out with while she's there.

This sounds like a good "no strings" type of situation to me. I'm just not real clear on if she's simply looking for Texas friends to get her out of the house or if she wants to hook up.

Probably just looking for something, not someone, to do while she's in town, but worth going out once to see.

Depends on the girl, but if she was looking for a new friend to hang out with why not choose a girl? Since she chose a guy, what was it about Stu that helped her make that decision? I bet she asked herself if she would do him. I know guys work this way, so maybe women are different, but I don't think they are that much different.

You've got to be ####ing kidding me.

 

[krista4]

If you're a big George W. Bush fan, we won't get along. Really.

did Krista say that if you are a dubya supporter you are pretty much off her radar?

Apparently. I guess she did not read my post about not talking politics.

I don't recall reading that, actually, but it would make no difference. I don't want to "talk" politics with anyone on there, but the fact is that if someone is not fairly liberal, we are likely not going to be a good match, and if someone is a GWB fan...NFW.

when you mention loving/hating any politician in your intro, it makes it seem you are very involved and care a lot about politics. it sounds like that wasnt your intent. I would recommend removing it and at least wait to pass judgement until date 2.

But I LOVE passing judgment!I realize it sounds contradictory, but what I'm saying is this: I am not one to spend a bunch of time debating politics with anyone (you won't see me in political threads here, for the most part), but I do have very strong views on political issues and could not date anyone whose views were not as least somewhat aligned with mine. Might as well blow the GWB lovers out of there up front, because they will not get anywhere.

i think your missing my point.Someone like myself who hates Bush would remove you from my potential list because your intro makes you come off like a crazy liberal. I dont want to date anyone who is so motivated by politics that in their intro they put "W lovers need not apply"

No, actually I got your point, but just didn't happen to agree with it. Happens.

 

[Alias]

Any experience with girls who will just be town for a week?

Chick from Southern California sent a few messages. Apparently her dad lives in a town about 20 miles east of me (I'm already 20 miles east of Dallas, so we're talking BFE here). She's going to be making this trip fairly often (first trip a week from today) and is looking for people to hang out with while she's there.

This sounds like a good "no strings" type of situation to me. I'm just not real clear on if she's simply looking for Texas friends to get her out of the house or if she wants to hook up.

Probably just looking for something, not someone, to do while she's in town, but worth going out once to see.

Depends on the girl, but if she was looking for a new friend to hang out with why not choose a girl? Since she chose a guy, what was it about Stu that helped her make that decision? I bet she asked herself if she would do him. I know guys work this way, so maybe women are different, but I don't think they are that much different.

You've got to be ####ing kidding me.

so you are saying she chose stu because she was not attracted to him but because he had a cool iPersonality? If she did choose him primarily because she was attracted to him then Stu has gotta think he has a shot if he plays his cards right. Out of curiosity have you ever perused a dating web site for a guy when you are going on vacation somewhere and if you were to do that, don't you think the guy is thinking exactly what stu is thinking?

 

[krista4]

Any experience with girls who will just be town for a week?

Chick from Southern California sent a few messages. Apparently her dad lives in a town about 20 miles east of me (I'm already 20 miles east of Dallas, so we're talking BFE here). She's going to be making this trip fairly often (first trip a week from today) and is looking for people to hang out with while she's there.

This sounds like a good "no strings" type of situation to me. I'm just not real clear on if she's simply looking for Texas friends to get her out of the house or if she wants to hook up.

Probably just looking for something, not someone, to do while she's in town, but worth going out once to see.

Depends on the girl, but if she was looking for a new friend to hang out with why not choose a girl? Since she chose a guy, what was it about Stu that helped her make that decision? I bet she asked herself if she would do him. I know guys work this way, so maybe women are different, but I don't think they are that much different.

You've got to be ####ing kidding me.

so you are saying she chose stu because she was not attracted to him but because he had a cool iPersonality? If she did choose him primarily because she was attracted to him then Stu has gotta think he has a shot if he plays his cards right. Out of curiosity have you ever perused a dating web site for a guy when you are going on vacation somewhere and if you were to do that, don't you think the guy is thinking exactly what stu is thinking?

Don't know where you jumped to those conclusions, given I didn't say any of that and in fact only commented that the idea that men and women aren't that different was completely laughable. If a girl is going to be in a town, several times over the course of months, where she doesn't know people, she might want people to hang out with, who might give her some attention and be fun. A guy who's better looking is also going to be given a better shot of being the person to hang with. Doesn't mean at all that she wants the secks. Most girls, without doubt, do not think that way. Also doesn't mean that she might not at some point dig him enough to want to have the secks with him, too, which is why I told him he'd might as well check it out. But your chances of the girl turning out to be just looking for some one-night stands are infinitely less than the chances that she is either (1) just looking to hang out, with more or less openness about where it might lead or (2) worse, open to starting a long-distance relationship.

No, I have never perused a dating site for anywhere where I was going to be on a trip. And it seems to me that "exactly what Stu is thinking" is more in line with what I've described. He doesn't seem to think that she's likely to want NSA sex, though he is hopeful.

 

[Alias]

I dunno, maybe I am a sucker, but I believed section 2: http://gunwitch.fastseduction.com/

 

[Disco Stu]

And it seems to me that "exactly what Stu is thinking" is more in line with what I've described.

I think you've got it pretty well pegged here.

 

[Uruk-Hai]

Could be you just weren't her type physically.

Now that's just crazy talk. Speaking of, I really wish I was attracted to this chick. She sounds cool as hell.

'T'were it me, I'd answer it even if she didn't meet my ideal-looks-for-a-woman criteria. That is a fantastic profile, one of the best & most creative I've seen. Personally, though, I'd be more worried that she was holding back when she wrote it than the way she looks. She could be too over-the-top for most guys.

 

[Sister Havana]

So I was talking to this guy today. He lives nearby, he's pretty cute. He wanted to meet me tonight. I had some Jaycee stuff to do so I told him if that didn't go too long we could, and I would let him know. Well, it took longer than I thought (and I started getting a bad feeling about him - he was really kind of pressuring me for tonight and I think he had some expectations of what was going to happen that I do not share) so I told him that tonight wasn't going to work but I'd like a raincheck. He got all upset and started being all snippy and rude and like "Forget it, I don't think we're going to meet." Guess my intuition was correct there!

 

[BassNBrew]

So I was talking to this guy today. He lives nearby, he's pretty cute. He wanted to meet me tonight. I had some Jaycee stuff to do so I told him if that didn't go too long we could, and I would let him know. Well, it took longer than I thought (and I started getting a bad feeling about him - he was really kind of pressuring me for tonight and I think he had some expectations of what was going to happen that I do not share) so I told him that tonight wasn't going to work but I'd like a raincheck. He got all upset and started being all snippy and rude and like "Forget it, I don't think we're going to meet." Guess my intuition was correct there!

Bummer. Good call on your part.

 

[krista4]

So I was talking to this guy today. He lives nearby, he's pretty cute. He wanted to meet me tonight. I had some Jaycee stuff to do so I told him if that didn't go too long we could, and I would let him know. Well, it took longer than I thought (and I started getting a bad feeling about him - he was really kind of pressuring me for tonight and I think he had some expectations of what was going to happen that I do not share) so I told him that tonight wasn't going to work but I'd like a raincheck. He got all upset and started being all snippy and rude and like "Forget it, I don't think we're going to meet." Guess my intuition was correct there!

Wow. Sounds like a complete freak. Good you didn't waste any time meeting him.

 

[Disco Stu]

I felt like crap, so I took Nyquil and went to bed early. This is very bad timing for being sick. I've got dates lined up for the next three nights. Right now I'm leaning toward sucking it up and self-medicating.

Update: I had to stop and pick up some Sudafed on the way, but I fought through it for tonight's date. Had a good time with "Red Sox fan". Drinks and mini-golf. Nothing real exciting to report. She's pretty cute, easy to talk to, and no obvious red flags that I noticed. We had a fun night.I'm not sure what to do tomorrow night. "Blind date" girl asked me to dinner. I said I would if I felt better. Temptation to cancel/reschedule exists in the form of a hot blonde coworker, who wants me to take her to see another coworker's band play. This chick has an amazing body - partially due to being 24 and partially due to being 5'11". I assumed we were going to remain just friends, but things sometimes change...Both of these girls called during tonight's date. Obviously I didn't answer.For Sunday, I've had tentative plans to meet another blonde from POF (the first message I sent at POF was to her). We've been trying to get together for a couple of weeks now and haven't been able to make it happen. I'm not all that optimistic this time will be any different, but we'll see.

 

[Disco Stu]

The POF forums look interesting, but I can't imagine posting there seeing as how your profile links to your last five posts. Was just looking at a profile that included a link to this post:

Hi, I'll be 31 in August and I'm still a virgin myself. It certainly isn't for lack of opportunity, I've had plenty. But I want to be in love and vice versa and I want it to feel right. So far I haven't been with a man that I feel is worthy enough to sleep with. I'd rather make love and not just #####.

 

[Sister Havana]

I post in a bunch of the forums, but I don't post in a lot of the really explicit sex threads (and I use a bit more self-censorship than I do, say, here) because of the last five posts being linked in my profile.

 

[Otis]

GOD BLESS THE INTERAWEB

Where else will an adorable, 5'11" hot blonde chick contact you out of the blue?

GMFB her living in Oregon

 

[Alias]

GB drunken plentyoffish emails...SUBJ: dang

don't be that way girl, match made in heaven, look me up - I will have you either rolling on the floor in laughter or moaning in no time - I promise!

That was sent to every chick that read my initial email but did not delete it nor did they respond.3 Responses...

can you please send some pics? the one in your profile I'd need glasses to see....It's only fair......

OK...tell me a little about yourself.

Yuck!

my first block! I tried emailing the chick that sent me Yuck! and it said I was blocked

 

[krista4]

GB drunken plentyoffish emails...

don't be that way girl, match made in heaven, look me up - I will have you either rolling on the floor in laughter or moaning in no time - I promise!

3 Responses...

can you please send some pics? the one in your profile I'd need glasses to see....It's only fair......

OK...tell me a little about yourself.

Yuck!

 

[Disco Stu]

GB drunken plentyoffish emails...

don't be that way girl, match made in heaven, look me up - I will have you either rolling on the floor in laughter or moaning in no time - I promise!

3 Responses...

can you please send some pics? the one in your profile I'd need glasses to see....It's only fair......

OK...tell me a little about yourself.

Yuck!

Two positive responses out of X is a better response rate than I would have guessed, regardless of what X equals.

 

[Alias]

yeah the way I looked at it was a crying call I had already emailed these girls and got nothing in return from them, but at the same token they didn't delete the emails so maybe there was still a chance and I might as well try something off the wall, I guess off the wall works sometimes. I have a convo going right now with the 2nd one.

 

[Alias]

GB drunken plentyoffish emails...

don't be that way girl, match made in heaven, look me up - I will have you either rolling on the floor in laughter or moaning in no time - I promise!

3 Responses...

can you please send some pics? the one in your profile I'd need glasses to see....It's only fair......

OK...tell me a little about yourself.

Yuck!

Two positive responses out of X is a better response rate than I would have guessed, regardless of what X equals.

X = 26, but out of the 26 only about half of them have been read - I would be shocked to get any other responses, but you never know.

 

[Sister Havana]

Wisconsin cutie came into town today.

A few more details to come in the underground, but suffice it to say we hit it off very well. Too bad he lives so far away!

 

[larry_boy_44]

no more contact with blonde2 since Thursday, for those wondering...

although she would not go on the site for a couple days at a time before, too (it took 10 days to get through thier 3 stages of controlled contact...)

 

[Keys Myaths]

Great, great time tonight. It's too bad she's from Milwaukee, because if she was from around here, I'd be much more excited about this.

Details later.

 

[OddibeMcD]

Well I just spent 12 hours living vicariously through this entire thread. I really, really wish there had been more emails threatening to "give teh gurl teh juice, llo" and fewer posts where certain people refuse to take advice. It was amazing to watch the Macbeth-like transformation of Woz, all through the span of three months; from having dates, to having a psycho stalker to flaming out completely. Still, if there are going to be ifishing expeditions in the future, they are going to come from Krista. I'd love to see a Studs and Duds type of site where the interests are all about Moobers and the books are all comics.

Stryker: I'm another Matt dating a Katie, there should be an official thread for us.

WTF does the acronym YMMV mean? All I can figure is Your Move Micheal Vick. That doesn't even make sense.

 

[Alias]

your mileage may vary

 

[krista4]

WTF does the acronym YMMV mean? All I can figure is Your Move Micheal Vick. That doesn't even make sense.

I've never known what this meant either, but I love your guess!

 

[Alias]

Match #3 made it to the last round at eHarmony. This one actually looks pretty good for me. I remember seeing her photo on Yahoo Personals and sending her a cheesey email and not getting a response. But she had no problem responding through eHarmony. We went through all of the stages yesterday and started open communication today. She is a 5'6" 33 year old brunette who is also from the Boston area originally. I don't know what it is but I always seem to have better luck with fellow Red Sox fans.

 

[Alias]

ok so I have been conversing with this 5'8" woman with short blond hair (off the bat not my type) at eHarmony and I already see a few red flags. She is a teacher from Long Island and does not seem intelligent, she really wants to start having a family soon, she listed smoking as a few times a year. Who only smokes a few times a year? Sounds like a blatant lie, and her answers were very meh. So rather then close it out I thought I would have a little fun with this one, she will most likely close me out which I am totally fine with...

Q1: Hi <prospect's name> - I notice you smoke a few times a year, are you trying to quit cigarettes or do you smoke weed? Bonus points for being honest.

Q2: I have a high libido. When you are in a monogamous relationship how many times a week would you prefer to have sex?

Q3. On a scale of 1-10 how spontaneous are you? Do you like to experiment and try new things* or are you pretty conservative?

* I was so tempted to put "in the bedroom" here but even I thought that was a little too much.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Who only smokes a few times a year?

Smoked about 7-8 nights last year. Probably 3-4 the year before, and about 2-3 so far this year.You're falling into Wozzitude. Just because YOU can't imagine it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

 

[BassNBrew]

she listed smoking as a few times a year. Who only smokes a few times a year?

I always thought that reply meant weed.

 

[Keys Myaths]

"Second Questions" to one of my latest matches:

1. What are some of your favorite songs, and why?

2. You're bored on a Sunday afternoon...let's say around 12:15. You're sitting in your apartment/house, and nothing looks interesting. What do you do?

3. Some friends and I that joined this site together are arguing over the answer to the smoking question, "a few times a year". What exactly does that mean?



ETA: She smokes "a few times a year".

 

[krista4]

I thought smoking a few times a year meant that you just smoked when you were out at a bar and very drunk. I know a lot of people that fit into that category.

ETA: Maybe she just lights up a stogie every time she knows someone who has a baby.

 

[krista4]

no more contact with blonde2 since Thursday, for those wondering... although she would not go on the site for a couple days at a time before, too (it took 10 days to get through thier 3 stages of controlled contact...)

larry, I wouldn't worry about it. When I was on there, I checked in extremely rarely. Just relax and let her respond in due course. Heading to the underground to read Sister Havana's update. Keys, we're waiting for yours.

 

[larry_boy_44]

no more contact with blonde2 since Thursday, for those wondering... although she would not go on the site for a couple days at a time before, too (it took 10 days to get through thier 3 stages of controlled contact...)

larry, I wouldn't worry about it. When I was on there, I checked in extremely rarely. Just relax and let her respond in due course. Heading to the underground to read Sister Havana's update. Keys, we're waiting for yours.

I know... I was just giving my public an update since it had been almost 2 days since you had one...

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys, we're waiting for yours.

Oh, yes. VERY traditional date.Fairly decent looking girl, but nothing to write home about. Met her and sat outside for a bit talking (at about 9:00 last night). Just ordered her drink, my diet coke.Started out slow enough...she's very soft-spoken, but as I talked to her, the fact that this girl is out of my league intelligence-wise struck me (and I'm not stupid by any stretch of the imagination). Very attractive quality to me. As we got going, we ended up sitting outside there for quite a while. The one drink ended, and it was 12:45.I had parked in the lot, but she lives downtown, so I walked her back. Nice kiss goodnight, and I went on my way, but even with that, left incredibly impressed with her. Sly sense of humor, incredibly easy to talk to and get along with when she opens up (which didn't take long), and was quite possibly the most "normal" girl I've been out with in a long, long time.It's really too bad she lives in Milwaukee. She would have long-term potential if she lived closer.

 

[krista4]

Keys, your date sounded great! Will you see her again despite the distance? OK, here are my two amusing (to me) experiences so far...First one, got to the longer Q&A portion, where they get to ask three questions, and this was the first of the three the guy sent:

I have a 3-year old boy who shares time with his mother and I. What are your views on being a meaningful parent to him? I know, serious question at an early point, but an important one that should be discussed early...

Seems waaaaay too early to be talking about me becoming his baby mamma. Second one: the guy requested fast-track and I said fine; he sent me his e-mail address, and I told him I'd send a message when I had a chance. So I did (one day later, which is very fast for me), and then got three messages from him in succession. The first was inviting me to gmail chat. The second:

Krista,It would be a lie to not tell you that I have been waiting a bit for your email. When I read your profile, it was a bit comical, considering you were matched-up with your ex in your prior stinct with eHarmony. I am attracted to educated, professional and "worldy" women in general and it is no wonder, I reached out to you. Thank you for your compliments. I do believe in giving especially to my partner to be and loved ones in my family and people in general. I was not always like this. I have been selfish, arrogant and self-centered. Then my son came along, divorce happened, and I simply grew-up. If you want honesty, this is it. My job - I am an enterprise software sales manager for a software company based out of San Diego and I am here in Chicago. I work with a well known entrepreneur and my role is primarily to sell, plan and strategize our products and position our ecosystem vision and articulate it to fortune 500 companies. I many ways, I shape the market especially with complex web applications. I do complex deals and work with cios and coos of companies like ADP, reynolds, Sabre, JP Morgan, etc. I also deal with Software as a Service market companies who are in business to provide real time on demand solutions to other companies.My son is Tristan. Matter of fact, he is sitting and watching cartoons. He is a darling. I love my boy. We do a lot of thigns together. Might be worth talking about him on the phone. My Divine Mother ... She is my Mother and guiding light. Please visit this site below...www.sriaurobindosociety.org.inI just bought my first condo. Here are some sample pics. I invited you to join gmail and there is an instant chat there and we can communicate through.

The third:

Krista,Just to make sure we are on the same page...sharing information about you; just simply share openly whatever you want me to know and ask away any questions and I will answer them. I like to try open, honest and straightforward approach...Along the way, a touch of romance might add spice to the conversation - even emails.Cheers,

 

[Keys Myaths]

Um, wow.

Guys, no matter how much we Woz things up sometimes, Krista/Havana going through this prove what a HUGE advantage we have over the rest of the field.

 

[krista4]

BTW, can someone tell me if they see my avatar? For some reason it's not showing up for me today, though I haven't changed it.

 

[Keys Myaths]

Keys, your date sounded great! Will you see her again despite the distance?

Possibly. We'll see what happens.

 

[Keys Myaths]

BTW, can someone tell me if they see my avatar? For some reason it's not showing up for me today, though I haven't changed it.

No, I can't.

 

[Tremendous Upside]

BTW, can someone tell me if they see my avatar? For some reason it's not showing up for me today, though I haven't changed it.

 

[krista4]

BTW, can someone tell me if they see my avatar? For some reason it's not showing up for me today, though I haven't changed it.

Hmmmm...weird. I guess I'll try to reinstall it. Sorry to muck up the thread with this but certainly didn't want to start a new thread about it.

 

[larry_boy_44]

www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in

did you go to the site?? lolI can't figure out WTF they're talking about... seems very Eastern-ish as far as a religion goes, but I can't for the life of me figure out what it is or what they believe...and "The Mother" is some old Indian (as in India) chick who, I would guess, is probably married to the guy who founded whatever sect of whatever that is....oh yeah, sorry that you get the crazies, too, Krista...

 

[krista4]

Couple of eHarmony issues I wanted to hear people's opinions on...

1. "Wants to have kids": the truth is that I do not. But I put "maybe". Have you guys ever seen someone who answered "no"? What would be your reaction to that? If I were doing this more seriously, I think I'd be tempted to be completely honest and say "no", just to weed out the people looking for baby mammas. (I don't mind, and in some ways prefer, guys who already have kids, but just don't want any of my own.)

2. Closing out people to whom you're not physically attracted: I don't close someone out immediately even if I pull up their profile and know that there's not a snowball's chance in hell...I do this (or rather, don't) because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. My general rule of thumb is that I will advance two steps beyond the point where I find that someone is physically unappealing to me. In other words, if their picture is in their initial profile, I'll still do the short answers and the must haves/can't stands but then will close it, or if it shows up at a later point, I'll advance two steps from there. When I do close, I always just choose "I'm taking a break from dating" or "I have too much going on in my life at the moment". I've the feeling I'm overthinking this. I just hate the idea that people would know they're being closed based on their appearance. And I figure the first two stages take virtually no time anyway, so I'm not wasting much of their time or mine. Am I ?

3. Not really an issue but just an observation...I seem to be matched overwhelmingly with Asian men, and in particular Indian and Korean guys. I don't care about race one way or another, but I wonder what this says about how I answered the questions in the personality test. I also get a lot of Europeans. Proportionately few white guys born in the US, and probably a proportion of black guys that approximates their population percentage.