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Paying for Your Birthday Dinner (1 Viewer)

Do you pay for the entire bill, partial, or not at all?

  • Entire bill

    Votes: 111 60.7%

  • Partial

    Votes: 50 27.3%

  • Not at all

    Votes: 22 12.0%
  • Total voters
    183
fantasycurse42

fantasycurse42

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Hopefully this sounds insane to others like it does to me - I assume I'm in the overwhelming majority on this:

Hypothetically, you are having a birthday party for yourself. You invite friends/family out to dinner. When the bill arrives do you:

A) Pay for it

B) Pay only your portion

C) Ignore it, as your expectation is that others will cover for your birthday

This has not been discussed in advance with your guests.

 
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If I'm inviting in any situation, I'm also paying.

On the other end, if somebody's spouse, friend, girlfriend/boyfriend, or parents invite you to the celebration, I'd probably expect at least a split and maybe a little extra to cover the celebrant.

 
I would plan on paying for it if I was the one who invited everyone, but wouldn't be surprised when someone steps up and takes it.

 
I think it depends on how many people are there and how the invites took place. A huge group and option A seems crazy. I think the default is B and I, as a guest, would not expect my portion paid for.

 
Plorfu said:
A
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Nathan R. Jessep said:
If you organized the party, it's your bill. But you probably have good enough friends that will take care of it behind your back.
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Spin said:
I would plan on paying for it if I was the one who invited everyone, but wouldn't be surprised when someone steps up and takes it.
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fruity pebbles said:
You set this up, you offer to pay the entire bill. Depends what kinda friends you have as to where it goes from there.
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bigbottom said:
If it's a party you are throwing for yourself, it's on your dime.
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:goodposting:

 
Yes I pay but I pay 99% of the time anyway. Plus today is my birthday, really.

 
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Actually, if I were going to throw a birthday party for myself... I might as well expect everyone else to pay for it. Go all-out trailer trash.

 
HEY GUISE! IM TURNING 36 NEXT WEEK WHICH IS A HUGE DEAL SO SATURDAY EVERYBODY SHOULD MEET US AT TAHOE JOE'S AT 6:00!

 
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If we assume it is your spouse throwing the party for you, does that change any opinion?

Would you still assume that you (or your spouse) pay the entire bill, partial, nothing?

 
I don't see why B is that crazy to some people, assuming that in the original e-mail/text, you say that you wanted to go out for a few drinks or whatever and that it's your birthday. I would certainly never call it a birthday party.

 
Long Ball Larry said:
I don't see why B is that crazy to some people, assuming that in the original e-mail/text, you say that you wanted to go out for a few drinks or whatever and that it's your birthday. I would certainly never call it a birthday party.
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If a friend invited me to go out to dinner for his birthday, I'd certainly never expect the friend to be paying my bill. That seems a little nuts. It'd be different if he were throwing a catered party at his house or something.

 
fantasycurse42 said:
If we assume it is your spouse throwing the party for you, does that change any opinion?

Would you still assume that you (or your spouse) pay the entire bill, partial, nothing?
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If it's billed so clearly as "throwing a party", yes, I would expect to pay the entire bill. Just like I wouldn't expect guests to chip in on the food and drinks that are bought for a party at a house. That's what is entailed when you're "throwing" the party. It's on you as the host. If it's "let's go out to dinner for my spouse's birthday", as a guest, I'd expect to pay my own portion.

Still no chance the party thrower/organizer should expect to pay nothing. If it's my birthday and a few friends say "hey we want to take you to dinner for your birthday", I'd of course offer to pay my portion once the bill comes but would expect that they would refuse, and I'd be very grateful.

 
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Agree with the throw it, pay for it crowd

My wife has a good friend who invites people out for her husbands birthday and then expects others to pay their share. We dont get it. You invite, you pay

You dont expect every 7 year old to pay for the 2 games of bowling and pizza when you invite them to a party do you?

 
fantasycurse42 said:
If we assume it is your spouse throwing the party for you, does that change any opinion?

Would you still assume that you (or your spouse) pay the entire bill, partial, nothing?
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I think this can depend on your age, number of guests and where you are having the dinner. However, the pay nothing option should be excluded regardless of those factors I mention.

 
Im having a birthday party, why dont you come and hey, its my birthday, want to head out and do something are two totally different things imo

 
AcerFC said:
Agree with the throw it, pay for it crowd

My wife has a good friend who invites people out for her husbands birthday and then expects others to pay their share. We dont get it. You invite, you pay

You dont expect every 7 year old to pay for the 2 games of bowling and pizza when you invite them to a party do you?
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:hifive: :goodposting:

This was similar to the example I used.

 
A good buddy of mine throws a birthday dinner for himself every year. He and his wife invite 5-6 couples each year and treat us all to dinner at places I would never pay for myself. I look forward to his birthday more than my own.

 
AcerFC said:
Agree with the throw it, pay for it crowd

My wife has a good friend who invites people out for her husbands birthday and then expects others to pay their share. We dont get it. You invite, you pay

You dont expect every 7 year old to pay for the 2 games of bowling and pizza when you invite them to a party do you?
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I expect them to bring a gift though

 
Dan Lambskin said:
AcerFC said:
Agree with the throw it, pay for it crowd

My wife has a good friend who invites people out for her husbands birthday and then expects others to pay their share. We dont get it. You invite, you pay

You dont expect every 7 year old to pay for the 2 games of bowling and pizza when you invite them to a party do you?
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I expect them to bring a gift though
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This is a good point, to follow-up:

sublimeone said:
A good buddy of mine throws a birthday dinner for himself every year. He and his wife invite 5-6 couples each year and treat us all to dinner at places I would never pay for myself. I look forward to his birthday more than my own.
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Do you bring a gift for your friend who you know is treating you to a nice expensive dinner?

 
I'd feel awkward bringing a birthday present to a restaurant for a male friend. Bottle of booze brought to his place next time I'm there.

 
fantasycurse42 said:
Hopefully this sounds insane to others like it does to me - I assume I'm in the overwhelming majority on this:

Hypothetically, you are having a birthday party for yourself. You invite friends/family out to dinner. When the bill arrives do you:

A) Pay for it

B) Pay only your portion

C) Ignore it, as your expectation is that others will cover for your birthday

This has not been discussed in advance with your guests.
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A. You're hosting the party. You look like a piker if you ask people to go out and then expect people to pay for it.

 
Birthdays...

everyone acts a little differently around their birthday, don't they?

You ever have that friend that gives you that birthday alert?

"Hey, Just want to let you know, next Tuesday is my birthday."

"Just want to let you know I'm not getting you anything"
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This happened last weekend. It was my brother-in-laws birthday. Him and his wife invited 5 other people to come celebrate with them. During the dinner, a text message went around that said "hey, we're all splitting the bill for them, you ok with that?". It was relayed to the waiter and when the time for the bill to be dropped came. My BIL told the waiter to bring it all to him, but apparently that got trumped because we already told him we had it.

He said thanks to everyone, bought another round of drinks and gave the waiter his card for that round. It's about how I expected it to go.

 
I paid for my own surprise 40th bday party. 40 something friends and family in a private room at a local restaurant, food and open bar. Festivities come to an end and the tab comes. 5 minutes later, the waitress comes back with Mrs Limp's expired CC.

 
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