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Please keep Chance in your thoughts and prayers (3 Viewers)

I've always thought that in the end all we have is the love we gave others and the love they showed us. It is of no consultation in this moment but you should know that you and your son's journey have made a bunch of people on the Internet stop and pause and realize that the world is about much more than jokes and busting each other's balls. You and your son have meant not just devastating heartbreak but also a time to reflect on what matters and hold our loved ones close. And for that we are even more in your dent. Stay strong and while ot has been said already please know that if there is anything any of us can do for you now or in the future you only need to ask. We are all better for having been "with" you through this, for what that's worth.

 
Very sorry to hear this, BB.

I was told once not to let anyone tell you how you should grieve, or how to behave in a time of loss. This has to be especially appropriate when losing a child, something none of us should ever have to experience.

Thank you for letting us into your life and getting to know Chance, even in a small way. I hope that you've been able to draw some comfort from all of us in the FFA in what has to be an unbelievable time of grief.

You and Chance and your family are in my thoughts. :sadbanana:

 
I am very sorry for your family's loss BB. Thank you for sharing Chance's courage and strength here, it was very meaningful and is something I will remember. I am so sorry.

 
I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.

 
Chance's spirit has touched us all and will continue for the rest of our lives.

My prayers to you and your family.

 
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I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.
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Please do. Anything that can provide any sort of comfort or emotional release for you. I'm sure it's the least that anyone here can do.

So heart-wrenching that you and your family have to go through this, GB. I can't even imagine. :(

 
My sincere condolences to you and your family. I can only hope that the pain will lessen and your memories of Chance will endure.

 
There are no words I think of to say right now but to say I'm so very sorry for your loss BB. May God bless you, Chance and the rest of the family.

 
Biggie - my fingers have been sitting on the home row of my keyboard for 20 minutes. Too numb to type. Can't imagine the loss of a child. My heart aches for you and your family. Chance was so lucky to have you as a Dad and is at peace now.

I've participated in Relay for Life events - they are awesome. In addition to giving to the Children's Hospital maybe my fellow FBG's can join me in honoring Chance's life and fight with a Lumenaria at a local event. Would be great to create a team and raise some serious funds to fight this horrific disease in Chance's name.

http://www.relayforlife.org/getinvolved/luminaria/index

 
I'm afraid to say the wrong thing.

Been on this site for a long time. Don't know BB personally, just as one of those respected posters that you get to know being on here a while.

I've been fortunate not to have something like this happen to my family. Following this is the closest it has ever touched me. I've just felt the need to tell people in my life about Chance.

Was driving my dad to my cousin's high school football game on Saturday. Had to tell him about Chance. Had to take a few deep breaths. What a beautiful and strong son. Had me appreciating my relationship with my own father and the time we were spending together.

I don't have kids. Have two nephews. Five and 10. They fight all the time. The oldest let's the little one beat him on him because he doesn't want to hurt the younger one.

Often the routine on Sundays, is my BIL and I watching football downstairs with the boys upstairs playing video games. This Sunday I rummaged through the 10-year-old's room and found one of those books I bought him for his birthday. Got him to read a few chapters to his brother and I. Appreciated the moment with BB, Chance and his family on my mind.

Thank you for your strength BB. It has long arms.

 
You are a good person BB, I am so saddened by your loss. My thoughts remain with you and your family.

 
Like so many others here, I feel like I don't have the right words at this time. I don't even know if there are any. As I face challenges in my life, which I can't imagine will be anywhere remotely close to what you have just experienced, I will endeavor to be filled with hope. My hope is that I can be as brave, vulnerable, honest, thoughtful, strong, gentle, and full of fortitude as you, Chance, and your family have been through this struggle. While I haven't shared this story with my wife (and I won't as I know it would make her hurt even though she never knew you), please know that I will work to remember it as often as I can. It will help me be more patient with my own young sons and work to help us enjoy every moment we have together.

I am so sorry for what you have been through, and I thank you for teaching me so much.

 
bigbottom said:
I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me
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Would absolutely love these. Awesome.

 
bigbottom said:
I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.
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thanks for making me cry yet again. Love you

 
Lutherman2112 said:
I cannot begin to understand what your family is going through. Tonights family dinner, you were in our prayers.
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Same here. I found a prayer for someone who has passed after a long illness and read it in lieu of our regular duinner prayer. I couldn't get through it without crying. My boys just watched me with sad looks on their faces.

At bedtime, my 6-year old usually says "God, thank you for this beautiful day." Last night, he said "God, please give Chance a beautiful first day in Heaven."

I've teared up way too many times because of this thread, but I'm glad for it.

 
bigbottom said:
I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.
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Just keep on pouring love into that hole in your heart, BB. It's the one thing that will definitely keep it soft. Mine goes out to you and yours yet again. :heart:

 
Thank you for sharing Chance's story with this community. It has been genuinely inspiring. I am very proud of the FFA family's response and have shed many tears reading about how Chance has inspired a sense of community in the lives of this board's members as shared in this thread. May Chance rest in peace.

 
bigbottom said:
I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.
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*cough* Got a little dusty in here.

Other men might make it through something like this without crying, but that doesn't make them stronger men. You've done the things you've needed to do, and you've been there for your family. If your family is strong, it is because you've helped to make it so.

I would love to hear more about your experience at whatever point you feel like sharing.

 
Bob Sacamano said:
bigbottom said:
I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.
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*cough* Got a little dusty in here.

Other men might make it through something like this without crying, but that doesn't make them stronger men. You've done the things you've needed to do, and you've been there for your family. If your family is strong, it is because you've helped to make it so.

I would love to hear more about your experience at whatever point you feel like sharing.
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I think there's certainly the case to be made that they would not be as strong.

It is a strong man who takes his family into his life, fully, including his heart. He does this in full knowledge of the potential effects down the road, even though unable to truly understand what those effects mean unless they happen. He shows his strength by sharing all of himself with his family, his friends, and his community. That's what strength is in this context, at least any strength that means anything in our world.

Understand that you are strong, and have been since you first made the decision to be that kind of man.

 
GB you BB, Chance, and family.

I have no words, but would echo the sentiments of Sinn, Guster, et al regarding Compassionate Friends.

 
My deepest condolences. I wish you and your family peace. As a father myself, this is an experience I fear most. You have shared much humor, advice, and debate with us over the years. Thank you for also sharing this very difficult and personal journey. I am a better father because of it.

 
I'm so sorry. The loss of a child is truly a special type of tragedy and loss that few can endure and for which we all as humans mourn. We feel the loss of what could have been and what now will never be. The empathy we have imagining what it would be like to lose that amazing relationship we have with our own kids creates hollow pits within us. The sharp reminder that tomorrow is not promised to any of us, no matter how young or innocent.

But please know that the grace, dignity and love you and your family have shown is truly inspiring. As Chance has enriched your lives in so many ways, so too has his/your story enriched so many others. Not only has the love and strength your family has shown for each other been a model we should all strive for, but there is no doubt that through this tragedy the world has also been brightened in so many ways. Though your sky has dark clouds, the light of your son's courage and your love for him has clearly affected dozens, or even hundreds, of people all over the world. If even for a short time, fathers have hugged their children a little more, people have spent more time with their family, we've been more patient with our loved ones and we've all been reminded just how precious each day is. And I'm sure there will be many kids' lives changed for the better thanks to the donations that will be made in Chance's name in the future.

I encourage you to mourn. Mourn for however long it takes. Your loss is great. The hole in your heart will likely always exist. It may shrink as the years go on and the pain may dull, but the loss will still exist. But one day the joy and appreciation for the gift of Chance's 13 years with you will be greater than the pain of his loss. The memories of the good times, family vacations, holidays, funny things said, accomplishments, etc. will win out and become more powerful than the bad. But for now, grieve as a family. We as an FBG family certainly grieve with you.

 
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bigbottom said:
I can't thank you all enough for the kind words. The thoughtfulness, insight and perspective are welcome and very much appreciated. I may spend some time over the coming days and weeks recounting a few of the more amazing moments of this journey. I hope you will indulge me. Suffice it to say that the last couple weeks have been soulcrushing and sorrowful at times, and tender, joyful and inspirational at others. And now, with Chance gone, I am left with a hole in my heart so big that I can't imagine that it will ever be repaired. But I also am so thankful that he is finally cancer-free and at peace. It is a nearly unbearable emotional conflict. And as for being strong, I feel anything but strong. I have wept more in the last two weeks than in all the years of my life. And my wife has held me while I sobbed every bit as much as I have held her. But as a family unit, we are strong. I know we are. And we will be able to face our lives ahead, because we know that Chance will live on in our hearts, and that he will be watching over us the rest of our days.
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*cough* Got a little dusty in here.

Other men might make it through something like this without crying, but that doesn't make them stronger men. You've done the things you've needed to do, and you've been there for your family. If your family is strong, it is because you've helped to make it so.

I would love to hear more about your experience at whatever point you feel like sharing.
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Wow BB - I am sitting here will tears streaming down my cheeks. So sorry.

 
My sincere condolences BB. There are no words other than I'm so, so very sorry.

I would like to thank you for allowing all of us into your life and sharing your experience with us. The effect that it has had on many of us is immeasurable. Although I do not know you personally, I have shared Chance's story with many of my friends and much of my family and have wept as I have told it. On many days since reading your original post, I have literally spent hours just staring at my two boys with teary eyes and thinking of your story. When my 6 year old would ask what was wrong, I would answer 'nothing' and then I would tell him a story about a little boy named Chance.

Thank you again for including us in Chance's life...and again I am so very sorry for your loss.

Edited to correct grammar.

 
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Obituary

Donation information:

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to:

Texas Children’s Cancer Center
In Memory of Chance Davidson
1919 S. Braeswood Blvd., Suite 5214
Houston, Texas 77030
Or call (832) 824-2945 to donate by credit card

 
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I am so deeply saddened that your son lost his battle, though he is certainly at peace now.

God bless you and your family during this very difficult time.

 
What a handsome young man he was, and he had such a beautiful outlook on life. I'm am so sorry BB, for your loss. My thoughts continue to be with you and your family.

 
BB:

You and your family have set a mighty fine example for the rest of us. I am terribly sorry for the loss and cannot fathom the unimaginably pain and suffering you all are going through. My best to you and your family.

 
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