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Reinventing Yourself After 50 (1 Viewer)

im thinking of rejoining the professional disc golf tour.  at 50, i qualify for the grand masters division.

so, i could tour the west with some friends, sell some weed, and prolly cash and maybe win some tournies.

 
NCCommish said:
I would have to disagree. Yeah the parents can suck but it isn't about them. It's about the kids. Seeing them out there playing, having a great time, learning life lessons that will impact them forever always made me happy.
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My post was probably stated as a fact more than I intended.  I'll expand my thoughts a little:

I've served as a coach in football, baseball, and basketball.  I was on our football board as a member with a good group of guys who all stepped up and did their job.  I served as president for our basketball board, where not many people stepped up, and those who did needed their hands held.  Being president, where the "buck stops here" was a horrible experience for me.  Never again.

Coaching on the other hand is awesomely rewarding.  I have coached my seventh grader and a small group of his teammates since they were in 1st grade.  Looking at the pictures back then of them with their baby faces, and then looking at our last team pictures where a couple of them are now taller than me is incredible.  They've gone from little kids, where coaching was like herding cats, to "athletes" who can make in game adjustments from attacking a man, to a 2-3 zone defense without instruction.  They've always been good kids, so I don't have that experience where I felt like I made this great change in a kids life, but I will be moving on to coaching high school football in the fall at a school with plenty of kids who struggle.  I look forward to that challenge.  

The difference between coaching and administering an association is the direct link to the kids.  Fostering that relationship is what is rewarding to me.  Maybe some people can have the same relationship with the kids while not being exposed to them multiple times a week, but that's not me.  I'd much rather the majority of my interactions be with the kids vs the parents. 

 
Arizona Ron said:
The thought of retiring scares me.  I talk to the retired guys at the gym and at the bar sometimes; they struggle daily to feel relevant.  Not one has told me how awesome it is to be retired - none.
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I will happily tell you it is awesome.

I have said this a million times before but there is no better feeling waking up every morning saying "what do I want to do today?" instead of saying "what do I have to do today?"

If you want to expand the opinion search, go check out the forums and stories of retirement at Early Retirement Forums

 
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NewlyRetired said:
I will happily tell you it is awesome.

I have said this a million times before but there is no better feeling waking up every morning saying "who do I want to do today?" instead of saying "who do I have to do today?"

If you want to expand the opinion search, go check out the forums and stories of retirement at Early Retirement Forums
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FYP for AR.

 
Bull Dozier said:
My post was probably stated as a fact more than I intended.  I'll expand my thoughts a little:

I've served as a coach in football, baseball, and basketball.  I was on our football board as a member with a good group of guys who all stepped up and did their job.  I served as president for our basketball board, where not many people stepped up, and those who did needed their hands held.  Being president, where the "buck stops here" was a horrible experience for me.  Never again.

Coaching on the other hand is awesomely rewarding.  I have coached my seventh grader and a small group of his teammates since they were in 1st grade.  Looking at the pictures back then of them with their baby faces, and then looking at our last team pictures where a couple of them are now taller than me is incredible.  They've gone from little kids, where coaching was like herding cats, to "athletes" who can make in game adjustments from attacking a man, to a 2-3 zone defense without instruction.  They've always been good kids, so I don't have that experience where I felt like I made this great change in a kids life, but I will be moving on to coaching high school football in the fall at a school with plenty of kids who struggle.  I look forward to that challenge.  

The difference between coaching and administering an association is the direct link to the kids.  Fostering that relationship is what is rewarding to me.  Maybe some people can have the same relationship with the kids while not being exposed to them multiple times a week, but that's not me.  I'd much rather the majority of my interactions be with the kids vs the parents. 
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Understand completely. The best parts are being with the kids no doubt. But I also enjoyed knowing that my work provided them with the opportunity. That my fundraising kept the cost down so those less advantaged could also play. That my keeping it about the kids kept the worst of the parent behavior at bay.

Still nothing beats being out on the field or in the gym on a Saturday and enjoying the fruits of that labor.

Coaching is a great thing to do and good coaches who care about more than winning are hard to come by. Thanks for doing it.

 
Been thinking a lot about this lately.  I am 44, and although work is going really well overall, in the last year my travel has kicked up dramatically and it is taking a major toll on every other aspect of my life.  Lately been fantasizing about buying/starting a business of some sort, but the hours and stress will likely be more rather than less. Good topic.

 
Bull Dozier said:
My post was probably stated as a fact more than I intended.  I'll expand my thoughts a little:

I've served as a coach in football, baseball, and basketball.  I was on our football board as a member with a good group of guys who all stepped up and did their job.  I served as president for our basketball board, where not many people stepped up, and those who did needed their hands held.  Being president, where the "buck stops here" was a horrible experience for me.  Never again.

Coaching on the other hand is awesomely rewarding.  I have coached my seventh grader and a small group of his teammates since they were in 1st grade.  Looking at the pictures back then of them with their baby faces, and then looking at our last team pictures where a couple of them are now taller than me is incredible.  They've gone from little kids, where coaching was like herding cats, to "athletes" who can make in game adjustments from attacking a man, to a 2-3 zone defense without instruction.  They've always been good kids, so I don't have that experience where I felt like I made this great change in a kids life, but I will be moving on to coaching high school football in the fall at a school with plenty of kids who struggle.  I look forward to that challenge.  

The difference between coaching and administering an association is the direct link to the kids.  Fostering that relationship is what is rewarding to me.  Maybe some people can have the same relationship with the kids while not being exposed to them multiple times a week, but that's not me.  I'd much rather the majority of my interactions be with the kids vs the parents. 
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I had the same experience in soccer.  Coaching was great, being on the Board was OK, and being President was sheer misery.  It seemed like every waking minute was putting out a fire, lining fields, putting nets on goals, or dealing with Little Jimmy Mom who's to busy to get him to practice but thinks he should start and wants #7.  Part of it was an unwillingness of others to accept or offer delegation.  I just felt like I was doing everything and has lost all connection from the kids.

 
Bumping.

Spoke to a friend that "retired" at 52 to do property management.  Bought a rental and runs a friends rental.

 
I've thought of different things I would like to do after I retire...but honestly, I don't see myself retiring until after 60-65.  I would like to own a rental property or two along the Gulf Shores.  I've talked to friends about opening up an indoor batting/practice facility here in Ohio.  There are a couple around, but hardly any of them are run very well.  I wouldn't mind doing something like that...just free and easy while on my own.

 
I started doing something like that at 40. 

Got back in shape, went back to school to get my Master's (paid for by my company, so the only investment on my part was time),  began playing hockey at the age of 43.   

My next thing is picking up the guitar and learning to play, something I've always wanted to do but felt intimidated by. 

After proving I could do it by getting my Master's with a 3.95 GPA, getting good enough at hockey to be asked to join two adult leagues this coming season, and still having time to raise two very active kids and keep the wife happy, I feel like I can do anything now. It's a good feeling. 

 
Arizona Ron said:
The thought of retiring scares me.  I talk to the retired guys at the gym and at the bar sometimes; they struggle daily to feel relevant.  Not one has told me how awesome it is to be retired - none.  I was talking to a guy that retired from one of the 3 letter agencies at 52.  When he retired he had offers from contractors interested to hire him on his terms, part-time or 1099 and he turned them all down.  Now he's almost 60 and can't get any of those companies to even return his phone call because he's been out of the game so long. 

I could see myself scaling back what I do or just move myself into an advisory role but not working at all doesn't seem logical for me.  

I'd feel like Brooks from Shawshank Redemption. 

ETA:  I'm saying this as a 40 year old.
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You workaholics are special breed. 

 
so turning 47 this year

its been on my mind for years and started planning for it a couple of years ago as I hate my current lifestyle and situation

the plan was to walk away from current life and just travel the world ay the age of 50

no kids ,never married , just family ,friends and a new business to leave behind 

dealing with lots of issues to make this plan work so been knocking them off my list

dealt with some legal issues : almost complete

finally dealing with my depression : this will be on going but progress

dealing with health issues : on going but lots of progress

been giving back to society ; helping homeless , giving blood , cleaning up parks

started swimming lessons this year

my business partner knows of my plan and we can make it work

with a little luck , ill probably be able to do this early next year and see where life takes me

 
A buddy of mine at work told me a story a few years ago about how Americans have got it backwards - they save all their money for retirement and travel, when the time they are best suited to enjoy life and travel is when they are younger and healthier.  Made sense to me, particularly since my Mom passed away 1 year after her retirement.  That is why I try to make it a point to enjoy the here and now as much as possible.  Remember people, these are the good old days.

 
Higgs said:
A buddy of mine at work told me a story a few years ago about how Americans have got it backwards - they save all their money for retirement and travel, when the time they are best suited to enjoy life and travel is when they are younger and healthier.  Made sense to me, particularly since my Mom passed away 1 year after her retirement.  That is why I try to make it a point to enjoy the here and now as much as possible.  Remember people, these are the good old days.
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Balance b/w both is important IMO.  

 
Well after 22 years in the same company, I split, took an MBA and started my own business in Peru. Not quite 50 yet and not yet making any money either but I guess there is progress on both fronts ;)

Does that count?

 
My wife (the lovely Carolyn Burnham) is back in grad school because she has grown to hate her job. If all goes well she'll have her masters just about the time she hits the big 6 Zero and will start a new less than full time career. Retirement is not something either of us have planned until our 70s (or circumstances force it) so it's well worth the investment to maintain her sanity. Happy wife, happy life.

:D

 
NorvilleBarnes said:
I'm 52 and about to become a father so that's pretty close considering I've lived most my adult life like I was still in college.
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Same age. My youngest is heading off to college in the fall. No way I would have the energy for another but if you never had them this will be like a can of red bull for your energy level. Congratulations and enjoy !

 
Staying healthy is important, so I go to the gym 3 times a week when I'm not in the field. I do a lot of gardening in the spring and summer.

Having something mentally stimulating to do is important. Don't want the brain to rot. I still take consulting jobs, and I write. I still invest - my investments are up 10% the past three months, thanks to my investments in gold companies.

Still keep active - volunteer truck driving for a food bank, also on the Board of Directors.

Retirement? Never happen.

 
Paulymaggs said:
Congrats.  But where's the thread that chronicles all of it? :popcorn:
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Thanks!  She hacked into everything I ever did online.  I probably would have adressed it more if I was not concerned about it being used against me in the divorse process.  Been totally free for about 2 months now.  Someone had a thread about Walking on Eggshells, which i posted on just a little bit.  But that thread seems to have disappeared.

 
I thought retired people has a lot of free time to do the things they enjoy.  I talked to some seniors and they say time goes by very quickly whether you keep busy or not.  I just hope I stay healthy and motivated and not "waste" my golden years.

 
I just thought I'd bump this, there are some great posts here, so maybe I'm looking for some inspiration. I've been plugging away for some time now but an I would love to figure out something I love to do which will also bring in very good money. I'm sure we all would.

 
SaintsInDome2006 said:
I just thought I'd bump this, there are some great posts here, so maybe I'm looking for some inspiration. I've been plugging away for some time now but an I would love to figure out something I love to do which will also bring in very good money. I'm sure we all would.
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It took me almost three years to decide I wanted to go into business for myself. And I badly underestimated how much time it would take and how much money it would take. But I am loving it. It's not for everyone, though. You need to have a pretty well rounded knowledge about everything, from accounting to logistics, to sales, to customer service and how to handle people #####ing. And everything in between. Never a dull day, though

 
msommer said:
It took me almost three years to decide I wanted to go into business for myself. And I badly underestimated how much time it would take and how much money it would take. But I am loving it. It's not for everyone, though. You need to have a pretty well rounded knowledge about everything, from accounting to logistics, to sales, to customer service and how to handle people #####ing. And everything in between. Never a dull day, though
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What did you do before and what do you do now?

 
Tiger Fan said:
What did you do before and what do you do now?
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I was working with container shipping for a large carrier, been in business development (mainly on refrigerated cargo), agency manager and line manager.

Now I import ingredients to make beer, so far only by air, but once we land a malt contract we'll use sea transportation also. Then we sell it to craft brewers and home brewers in Peru.

So the logistics part I have fairly good knowledge about, as well as the financials and running an independent business (unit at least). The MBA broadened my knowledge base as well on that. I've done sales, set up customer service departments and procedures and dealt with a lot of #####ing people, both inhouse and externally.

So while I am now in a rather different field, not so much service as product, I feel relatively well qualified for the current and coming challenges

We'll see how much Murphy gets to smack me around...

 
msommer said:
I was working with container shipping for a large carrier, been in business development (mainly on refrigerated cargo), agency manager and line manager.

Now I import ingredients to make beer, so far only by air, but once we land a malt contract we'll use sea transportation also. Then we sell it to craft brewers and home brewers in Peru.

So the logistics part I have fairly good knowledge about, as well as the financials and running an independent business (unit at least). The MBA broadened my knowledge base as well on that. I've done sales, set up customer service departments and procedures and dealt with a lot of #####ing people, both inhouse and externally.

So while I am now in a rather different field, not so much service as product, I feel relatively well qualified for the current and coming challenges

We'll see how much Murphy gets to smack me around...
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:thumbup:

Glad you got to figure out what you wanted to do before it was too late

 
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