What's new
Fantasy Football - Footballguys Forums

This is a sample guest message. Register a free account today to become a member! Once signed in, you'll be able to participate on this site by adding your own topics and posts, as well as connect with other members through your own private inbox!

RIP Riley (1 Viewer)

Fat Nick said:
Agree 100% - I think we "know" a lot about each other even if we haven't "met."  This place is unique in that way.
Click to expand...
I'll go a step further in that I think a lot of us (particularly those who can remain fairly anonymous) share even more in here than you would to people in real life. So in a lot of ways, many of us know each other even better than people IRL. Shady please feel free to lean on the community here for support. Bunch of ball busters 99% of the time, but we've seen how good a support system can be provided during life's toughest moments.

 
My heart  breaks for you, shady. Nothing I can add here that hasn't already been said, but know you've got hundreds of people praying for you and your family right now (and hundreds more you don't even know about). Lots of love to you guys.

 
shadyridr said:
I've never felt like this in my entire life. She's been in NICU since Friday after having a seizure. Cat scan determined she suffered a stroke. Haven't cried this much in my life. I went from being on cloud 9 to wanting to crawl in a hole and die. Doctors still aren't saying much. They still say everything is too early to tell. She's on anti seizure meds now and hasn't had any since Friday except for some non clinical seizures. She's basically been sleeping for three days now. I just looking for some hope. Internet seems to be full of positive stories. I wish the doctors gave us some hope rather than saying it's too early. When neurologist told me she suffered a stroke I asked is that as bad as it sounds? Her response was, well it's not good. I wanted to punch her in the throat.

No clue when she's getting out of nicu. I feel bad leaving her but have a six year old I have to take care of too. NICU nurses are amazing and I know she's in good hands. I have parental leave available at work but not sure if I should save it for when she comes home or just take it now to be with her in NICU.
Click to expand...
Only read post #1, I'm sorry this is happening to your family and especially the newest member.

Thoughts, Prayers, all of it going your way. 

 
shady, man, good luck. I'm having a hard time opening the thread or putting words to it so I can't imagine what it's like for you. Just know that thoughts and hope are being sent your way. 

 
Last edited by a moderator:
shadyridr said:
Doctor just spoke to us. She had multiple infarctions on both sides of her brain and her prognosis for survival is low. I'm so numb right now I can't even cry. How do I explain to my son. He was so happy last week holding her. He loves her so much already.
Click to expand...
So sorry brother.   Hoping for a miracle for you guys. 

 
God.  Sorry.  Hope all works out and you and your family are in my thoughts.

 
Last edited by a moderator:
Told my almost 7 year old son Justin that she might not make it because he was asking a ton of questions. HUGE mistake. The kid is devastated.

 
shadyridr said:
Told my almost 7 year old son Justin that she might not make it because he was asking a ton of questions. HUGE mistake. The kid is devastated.
Click to expand...
That's gotta be the hardest situation.  When my little one had a stroke and was in the NICU his older brother was only ~2 so didn't really understand.  So sorry man.  I wish there was someway I could help, if there is, please let me know.

 
Spin said:
That's gotta be the hardest situation.  When my little one had a stroke and was in the NICU his older brother was only ~2 so didn't really understand.  So sorry man.  I wish there was someway I could help, if there is, please let me know.
Click to expand...
Yeah, Shady.  Let us know what we can do to help.  Dinner?  Find you a sitter for Justin?  Name it, man.  So sorry buddy. :(

 
avoiding injuries said:
Can't 2nd guess yourself here. No correct way of doing things. Stay strong. 
Click to expand...
It was brutal. I immediately regretted it. Besides the crying he hit himself, sobbed uncontrollably about wanting a baby sister and said maybe another baby will grow in mommy's belly. I don't think he's old enough for the "mommy had her tubes tied during the c section" conversation. She's turning 39 and we were both happy with two.

 
shadyridr said:
It was brutal. I immediately regretted it. Besides the crying he hit himself, sobbed uncontrollably about wanting a baby sister and said maybe another baby will grow in mommy's belly. I don't think he's old enough for the "mommy had her tubes tied during the c section" conversation. She's turning 39 and we were both happy with two.
Click to expand...
####. Sorry

 
shadyridr said:
It was brutal. I immediately regretted it. Besides the crying he hit himself, sobbed uncontrollably about wanting a baby sister and said maybe another baby will grow in mommy's belly. I don't think he's old enough for the "mommy had her tubes tied during the c section" conversation. She's turning 39 and we were both happy with two.
Click to expand...
I'm a firm believer that honesty, even when difficult, is always the best policy.  Don't beat yourself up over it.  You respected your son enough to be honest and up front with him.  Good for you.

 
Sorry shady, its a terrible thing you're going through. Don't be hard on yourself about how you dealt with your son - there was no way of letting him know that wouldn't have been traumatic. He'll deal with it in time. Be good to your wife and yourself.

 
What heartbreaking news. I'm not a very religious dude but just said a prayer for you, your wife, your son, and Riley. I don't really have any words of wisdom or comfort, but know there are countless strangers around the country right now who care about you and are sending good thoughts and love your way.

 
My heart is breaking for you. May you, your wife and your precious son one day find peace.  I pray that whatever lies ahead, little Riley will always be surrounded by love and light. 

 
shadyridr said:
It was brutal. I immediately regretted it. Besides the crying he hit himself, sobbed uncontrollably about wanting a baby sister and said maybe another baby will grow in mommy's belly. I don't think he's old enough for the "mommy had her tubes tied during the c section" conversation. She's turning 39 and we were both happy with two.
Click to expand...
So terribly sorry and I'm still hoping for a miracle for your girl. My heart breaks for you and I can't imagine what you're feeling but for what it's worth, I don't think you did anything wrong telling him.  I think it was the right thing IMO. And maybe it would help you and him to stress to him that no matter what happens, he doesn't have to stop loving her.  

 
Last edited by a moderator:
shadyridr said:
Told my almost 7 year old son Justin that she might not make it because he was asking a ton of questions. HUGE mistake. The kid is devastated.
Click to expand...
Well you can't lie to him that she'll be fine or it will make it worse, I'm quite sure you did it in the gentlest way possible. And it was the right thing to do IMO.

 
Can you get some professional help, GB? Does the hospital have someone that you can talk to and help you with things like what to tell your son, how to support your wife, etc?

 
Gr00vus said:
Sorry shady, its a terrible thing you're going through. Don't be hard on yourself about how you dealt with your son - there was no way of letting him know that wouldn't have been traumatic. He'll deal with it in time. Be good to your wife and yourself.
Click to expand...
I second that.  Snuggle close with your family.  Will they let you hold little Riley?

 
I'm so sorry to hear this Shady.  I sincerely hope things turn around.

I also think you handled the situation with your son perfectly.  Such a sad situation and I'm truly sorry.

 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

scorchy
Any banking guys that can offer solutions to a vexing issue?
Replies
31
Views
544
Mrs. Rannous
Mrs. Rannous
odin33
Seeking medical and legal advice- Handling of daughter's outpatient surgery
Replies
15
Views
691
Terminalxylem
Terminalxylem
northern exposure
My Mom
Replies
17
Views
728
rzrback77
rzrback77

Users who are viewing this thread

Total: 1 (members: 0, guests: 1)
Back
Top