couldn't find any case I liked, so I just ordered
this one. Not as big and tank-like as the other otterboxes, has rubber on the outside, and has a PC skeleton with internal silicone bumpers. Will report back how I like it.
case finally came in...damn UPS and their ground shipping, taking forever.Anyways, it's nice. Feels robust. Silicone part is a little stiffer than I was expecting. It's tacky enough that it won't slide all over my dashboard, and smooth enough to fit easily into my pocket. It is a few millimeters thinner than my wife's full-scale Otterbox, which is nice, but not appreciably different in the width.
I feel like this is adequate protection, I'm pleased. Still think it's terribly expensive, but most of these things are.