Should this bother me? (1 Viewer)

[Tom Skerritt]

My wife goes to a function with one of her colleagues and teammate. Teammate's husband also goes. After the function they all go back to their house to hang out and have some wine.

My wife asks what kind of wine it is, and the husband says "Menage a Trois".

1. I trust my wife completely. She would never do anything.

2. I know this couple too. We are not great friends, but we have socialized on a few occasions.

3. Husband is a known adulterer.

Wife came home and told me that he said this, and that it was harmless and a joke. But I must admit that it bothers me. Again, not worried about my wife, but I feel that it is an inappropriate comment. Although I am also bothered by the fact that my wife seems flippant to the comment.

I plan on speaking to my wife about it, but I am just curious if I am being overly sensitive. Should this bother me?

 

[Raider Nation]

He took a shot.

 

[Maurile Tremblay]

It's a pretty popular wine.

 

[seahawk 17]

No, easy opportunity to make a joke.

I am sure if anyone dude's wife should be offended.

 

[Sarnoff]

Was it really Menage a Trois? I've had it before, it's a good wine. One of my producers bought a bottle for everyone in our office.

 

[humpback]

 

[Sinn Fein]

If your wife told you, that just means she's feeling you out to see if you are up to it.

gl - keep us posted

 

[Hot Diggity Dog]

No but if it does take the wife out and give her a good rogering to remind her who her daddy is.

 

[Dan Lambskin]

It's a pretty popular wine.

 

[Tom Skerritt]

It's a pretty popular wine.

Yes, hadn't considered this. I still think it's inappropriate to make sexually suggestive remarks about someone else's wife. Particularly when wife's husband is not there. And even moreso when you are a cheating scumbag.

 

[matuski]

It's a pretty popular wine.

Yes, hadn't considered this. I still think it's inappropriate to make sexually suggestive remarks about someone else's wife. Particularly when wife's husband is not there. And even moreso when you are a cheating scumbag.

No seriously, that is the name of the wine...

 

[Raider Nation]

Was he supposed to lie about the name of the wine?

 

[McGarnicle]

You absolutely need to rape this guy.

 

[jon_mx]

Was he supposed to lie about the name of the wine?

Even if it was, it was obviously done with a suggestive purpose.

 

[Raider Nation]

Good thing it wasn't "I wanna bone my wife's friend" wine.

 

[Tom Skerritt]

It's a pretty popular wine.

Yes, hadn't considered this. I still think it's inappropriate to make sexually suggestive remarks about someone else's wife. Particularly when wife's husband is not there. And even moreso when you are a cheating scumbag.

No seriously, that is the name of the wine...

I understand this now. But no, it was not the wine they had.

 

[Insein]

Good thing it wasn't "I wanna bone my wife's friend" wine.

Amirite?

 

[fantasycurse42]

Like to know his wife's reaction.

 

[Tom Skerritt]

Even jokingly, I just don't think it's something you say to another man's wife. Especially when he is not there.

 

[shadyridr]

Lol its a joke. People need to get your permission before they make a joke? If anyone should be mad it should be his wife

 

[McGarnicle]

Somewhat see your point, somewhat feel you're overreacting, most important point is your 1. above.

 

[gianmarco]

Is this one of those threads that doesn't go the way the OP intended?

 

[shadyridr]

Its a name if a popular wine. Even if they didnt have it, its a pretty harmless joke to make sort of like a sex on the beach joke. Its dumb adult humor

 

[Christo]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=guv5LUT1AFw&t=0m7s

 

[Christo]

That being said, would you like to bang his wife?

 

[fantasycurse42]

You should sleep with his wife

 

[GTBilly]

Why weren't you there if spouses were welcome?

 

[D-Day]

Please post a pic of your wife so that we can collectively see if you should be outraged.

 

[fantasycurse42]

Please post a pic of your wife so that we can collectively see if you should be outraged.

Like to see his wife too

 

[avoiding injuries]

Wait for the right time to make a joke in front of him and his wife about him cheating.

Good times

 

[The General]

If it wasn't the wine that the guy was serving, which seems likely, it's just dumb joke. If you trust your wife who cares? Not a big deal.

The known adulterer comment is a bit interesting. Does his wife know this?

 

[Christo]

Wait for the right time to make a joke in front of him and his wife about him cheating.

Good times

If he's making jokes like that in front of his wife, it may not have quite the desired effect.

 

[johnnycakes]

It would sure as hell make me pistol-whip the guy right then and there. But you? No, it should not bother you in the slightest. Enjoy.

 

[Christo]

It would sure as hell make me pistol-whip the guy right then and there. But you? No, it should not bother you in the slightest. Enjoy.

So no Chinese finger cuffs for you?

 

[D-Day]

Call the guy and let him know that you are into it as long as you two don't make eye contact during the deed, and that you get to pick which wife.

 

[johnnycakes]

It would sure as hell make me pistol-whip the guy right then and there. But you? No, it should not bother you in the slightest. Enjoy.

So no Chinese finger cuffs for you?

 

[Fennis]

He took a shot.

 

[Fennis]

Although I am also bothered by the fact that my wife seems flippant to the comment.

your wife had a reason why she told you this comment

 

[Soulfly3]

Although I am also bothered by the fact that my wife seems flippant to the comment.

your wife had a reason why she told you this comment

potential husband swap?

 

[jon_mx]

Have sex with his wife and call it even.

 

[mr roboto]

Have sex with his wife's friend. That'll teach him.

 

[Tom Skerritt]

Why weren't you there if spouses were welcome?

Wife's parents and aunt were in from out of town. There was a family gathering planned at SIL's house. I had to take our two kids, aunt, and in laws to family gathering. Wife couldn't attend family gathering because she was attending the benefit.

 

[FreeBaGeL]

If anyone should be mad it should be his wife

Maybe she was into it.

Have her over for some wine and see if you can flip the table.

 

[humpback]

It's a pretty popular wine.

Yes, hadn't considered this. I still think it's inappropriate to make sexually suggestive remarks about someone else's wife. Particularly when wife's husband is not there. And even moreso when you are a cheating scumbag.

No seriously, that is the name of the wine...

I understand this now. But no, it was not the wine they had.

Are you sure?

 

[ClownCausedChaos2]

Why weren't you there if spouses were welcome?

Wife's parents and aunt were in from out of town. There was a family gathering planned at SIL's house. I had to take our two kids, aunt, and in laws to family gathering. Wife couldn't attend because of the family gathering.

So she goes out drinking while you cart her family around? I wouldn't worry. You're clearly the one she's ####in'.

 

[Jules Winnfield]

Somewhat see your point, somewhat feel you're overreacting, most important point is your 1. above.

Hmm...Interesting point. Come on, lets get into character

 

[xulf]

Did the three way happen and your wife is seeing how mad you will be if she tells the whole truth?

 

[wilked]

From what I can tell...

He answered her question honestly, that was the wine he was serving.

This apparently went clear over the wife's head, who took the response for a sexual innuendo. She was secretly excited by the invitation but is like 90% of the women out there who keep those fantasies in her head rather than act them out.

She did want to tease the story out a little more by telling you, hoping to keep that pang of excitement going a little through reminding you she is still wanted and making you a little jealous.

You took the bait, also failing to see the obvious situation that the guy was simply answering the question.

All due to a smart marketer somewhere

http://corkandspoon.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/menage-a-trois-red-table-wine.jpg

 

[Insein]

Did the three way happen and your wife is seeing how mad you will be if she tells the whole truth?

Now we're getting to the crux of the argument.

 

[comfortably numb]

how old are you?