One more thing for you to think about... You come here to talk to guys. Do you understand, you come here seeking solace in the company of other men. That's gay! You can judge your gayness by how many posts you have. If there wasn't such a stigma, such an ingrained belief system that was instilled into you by whomever told you it was wrong this place would be called FBGGH. Let me give you an example, there's a poster here, and I'm not going to name any names, this guy has over 70,000 posts, he practically lives here. He has a "wife" and supposedly kids. He's not spending time with his wife, he's not talking to his wife about things. He sure as hell ain't putting work in because he's here looking to talk to/with a bunch of dudes all of the time! He's Norm from Cheers, gay as ####!
He's looking for someone to ride horses with up a mountainside and go camping together. It's ok, there's nothing wrong with it. But let's not pretend this place isn't chock full of closet queens.