So hungover this morning I accidently wore two different shoes (3 Viewers)

[RokNRole]

You just say something like: "Just wasn't sure if I needed to follow up for my results or if it's done automatically."

THEN you abort the mission.

I didn't have time to think. I thought I had to call immediately. Then they got aggressive and I couldn't think.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

I said " thank you I'll call another time" and had to hang up

they got very aggressive

They probably thought you had some issue or complaint and were being intentionally vague.  Honesty was probably the play here once they had your name.  I thought you were just going to hang up if she didn't answer?

 

[Evilgrin 72]

If you end up married with kids with this woman in under 9 months, it might be the greatest shtick of all time. 

 

[RokNRole]

I think you need to forget this one.  Calling a third time has no tangible benefit.  You hung up on the doctor and the office manager. 

Editors note : If this was anyone but you, and this was any day but today, I'd be urging you to call again strictly for the entertainment value.  The fact that I am not should tell you I have your best interests in mind.

I could mail her a letter at the facility. I think under the circumstances she may not think it's creepy because I had no other option.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

How can I get in touch with her now?

Rappel down the side of the building from the roof and kick through the front window.  Drop your business card on her desk, wink, and haul ### out the front door.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

I could mail her a letter at the facility. I think under the circumstances she may not think it's creepy because I had no other option.

Don't do this.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Rappel down the side of the building from the roof and kick through the front window.  Drop your business card on her desk, wink, and haul ### out the front door.

This was just a joke, BTW.  Don't do this either.

 

[RokNRole]

Don't do this.

What other option do I have?

 

[Evilgrin 72]

What other option do I have?

Bail.  There are lots of fish in the sea.

 

[RokNRole]

Bail.  There are lots of fish in the sea.

A friend just suggested not to mail a letter but send flowers with a card explaining everything. He said its more of a romantic gesture

 

[msudaisy26]

Does this company only test for drugs? Would it be possible to let a racoon bite you and test for rabies, stab yourself with a rusty nail, or maybe pretend to get hurt on the job and have to go back for the mandatory drug screen after an injury? All in the name of love of course!

 

[Galileo]

EG = life coach, not just i-rehab.  This may be full time work.

 

[RokNRole]

She was physically perfect for my tastes and seemed really cool. I can't let this go

 

[RokNRole]

Does this company only test for drugs? Would it be possible to let a racoon bite you and test for rabies, stab yourself with a rusty nail, or maybe pretend to get hurt on the job and have to go back for the mandatory drug screen after an injury? All in the name of love of course!

Various pre employment and DOT medical services

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Literally your only option at this point is to call and tell whoever answers that you'd like to speak to Danielle for a personal, non-office business related reason.  The odds are good that they (or she, if you get her) will tell you to #### off at this point, but if you're not willing to let sleeping dogs lie, I really don't see any other way.  You're probably already going to look weird and desperate at this point, but maybe if she's REALLY interested, you can play it off with a laugh.  I think you should forget it, but if you're not going to let it go, I don't see what other choice you have besides this odious one.

 

[ShamrockPride]

How can I get in touch with her now?

You don't.

 

[DocHolliday]

This got strange quickly.  I enjoyed reading it. 

 

[Evilgrin 72]

A friend just suggested not to mail a letter but send flowers with a card explaining everything. He said its more of a romantic gesture

You should not only not listen to this friend, you should smack him.

 

[msudaisy26]

Various pre employment and DOT medical services

Perfect, first day on the job let a racoon bite you. 

 

[RokNRole]

You should not only not listen to this friend, you should smack him.

If I am unable to reach her with another call is it at least worth a shot?

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Does this company only test for drugs? Would it be possible to let a racoon bite you and test for rabies, stab yourself with a rusty nail, or maybe pretend to get hurt on the job and have to go back for the mandatory drug screen after an injury? All in the name of love of course!

I need to read more of your posts.

RNR > This is a perfect opportunity to realize this isn't a personal attack at you and respond with rather than

 

[Evilgrin 72]

If I am unable to reach her with another call is it at least worth a shot?

I don't think so.  Desperation is the world's worst cologne and this is the equivalent of doing a cannonball into a pool of it.

 

[msudaisy26]

I need to read more of your posts.

RNR > This is a perfect opportunity to realize this isn't a personal attack at you and respond with rather than

I am just having a good day. Plus I actually like RnR. I want to see him win at something. 

 

[ShamrockPride]

If I am unable to reach her with another call is it at least worth a shot?

No. Sending a card and flowers or whatever to a chick you talked with for 15 minutes or something? Take a step back for a moment and look at that. That seems a little creepy doesn't it?

 

[Evilgrin 72]

I am just having a good day. Plus I actually like RnR. I want to see him win at something. 

Having a woman's perspective in here is worth its weight in gold.  Give him some sage guidance.  Right now, he's listening to a guy who's been married 9 years and with the same woman for 15.  I'm not the stickman I once was.

 

[Galileo]

How can I get in touch with her now?

You don't.

Daddy always said women were like buses.  If you miss one, another will be along in a few minutes...

 

[RokNRole]

She called me and I explained. She said she would think about it.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

She called me and I explained. She said she would think about it.

Wait, what?  She called you back before you called again?  Please tell me this is legit and you aren't just making #### up here.

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Go to Craigslist under "Missed Connections."

Post This:

Looking for my urine angel. You drew my sample, and I drew your heart. If you felt the same loin to heart connection, please send me an email.

 

[ChiefD]

I deleted when she called him back. Lol.

 

[RokNRole]

Wait, what?  She called you back before you called again?  Please tell me this is legit and you aren't just making #### up here.

She called to see what I wanted and I explained. It was a very uncomfortable conversation obviously. The gist of the convo (paraphrasing)

her- "well I don't mix my personal and professional life"

me-" I understand and I don't mean to put you on the spot. I just wanted to hang out as friends. If you don't want to I will understand completely"

her- " no it's not that. Let me think about it ok"

me- " sure. If you want to get together you can call or text me any time at this number"

 

[KCitons]

RnR will now be giving out relationship advice. Not the other way around. 

 

[Evilgrin 72]

She called to see what I wanted and I explained. It was a very uncomfortable conversation obviously. The gist of the convo (paraphrasing)

her- "well I don't mix my personal and professional life"

me-" I understand and I don't mean to put you on the spot. I just wanted to hang out as friends. If you don't want to I will understand completely"

her- " no it's not that. Let me think about it ok"

me- " sure. If you want to get together you can call or text me any time at this number"

That works.  You handled it as well as you could on your end given the circumstances.  Ball is in her court now, just do not try to contact her again, whatever you do. 

 

[ShamrockPride]

Idk man. In my experiences when a woman is waffling like that, the whole let me think about it thing...usually ends up not in your favor. Perhaps this will be an exception and she agrees, but I would not in the slightest get my hopes up.

 

[RokNRole]

That works.  You handled it as well as you could on your end given the circumstances.  Ball is in her court now, just do not try to contact her again, whatever you do. 

Told my friend what happened and he thinks I crashed and burned. What do you guys make of the conversation? Do I have a chance? Wouldn't she just have said no if there was no interest?

 

[msudaisy26]

Having a woman's perspective in here is worth its weight in gold.  Give him some sage guidance.  Right now, he's listening to a guy who's been married 9 years and with the same woman for 15.  I'm not the stickman I once was.

The fact that she called back and said let me think about it says that she did like him, but he set off a ton of red flags and she needs more time to reflect on what happened/ask friends what they think. In no particular order. 

1. You didn't ask right away

2. You called

3. You hung up, when you didn't get your way. 

4 through 9. You called again, didn't get your way again, and hung up again. (Huge flag)

Don't you dare contact this woman again unless she contacts you first. You look needy, passive, desperate and someone that gets mad to easily. If she gives you a chance you better take her on the best 1st date ever, you are already on your last chance. 

 

[RokNRole]

Idk man. In my experiences when a woman is waffling like that, the whole let me think about it thing...usually ends up not in your favor. Perhaps this will be an exception and she agrees, but I would not in the slightest get my hopes up.

Well she was at work and probably with coworkers within ear shot so it was very awkward

 

[RokNRole]

The fact that she called back and said let me think about it says that she did like him, but he set off a ton of red flags and she needs more time to reflect on what happened/ask friends what they think. In no particular order. 

1. You didn't ask right away

2. You called

3. You hung up, when you didn't get your way. 

4 through 9. You called again, didn't get your way again, and hung up again. (Huge flag)

Don't you dare contact this woman again unless she contacts you first. You look needy, passive, desperate and someone that gets mad to easily. If she gives you a chance you better take her on the best 1st date ever, you are already on your last chance. 

I'm not stupid enough to call again

 

[RokNRole]

I only called once. They called me back the second time and she called me the third time

 

[Evilgrin 72]

Told my friend what happened and he thinks I crashed and burned. What do you guys make of the conversation? Do I have a chance? Wouldn't she just have said no if there was no interest?

You probably do, but if you try to call her again, you will wipe out any chance you do have.  Sit back, wait, and manage expectations.

 

[msudaisy26]

I only called once. They called me back the second time and she called me the third time

That doesn't matter much. 

 

[Evilgrin 72]

The fact that she called back and said let me think about it says that she did like him, but he set off a ton of red flags and she needs more time to reflect on what happened/ask friends what they think. In no particular order. 

1. You didn't ask right away

2. You called

3. You hung up, when you didn't get your way. 

4 through 9. You called again, didn't get your way again, and hung up again. (Huge flag)

Don't you dare contact this woman again unless she contacts you first. You look needy, passive, desperate and someone that gets mad to easily. If she gives you a chance you better take her on the best 1st date ever, you are already on your last chance. 

 

[RokNRole]

That doesn't matter much. 

Wouldn't she have just turned me down right away if she wasn't interested?

 

[Evilgrin 72]

That doesn't matter much. 

It really doesn't.

RNR - I don't think there was a fart's chance in a duststorm that she would have even contacted you unless she was either interested in you or afraid you'd call 100 times and get her in hot water with her employer.  Hopefully, it's the former - you'll know if/when she calls or texts you again.  If she doesn't, just forget it and move on.  There's literally NOTHING you can do here to improve your outlook.

 

[RokNRole]

She's 25 if that means anything

 

[RokNRole]

It really doesn't.

RNR - I don't think there was a fart's chance in a duststorm that she would have even contacted you unless she was either interested in you or afraid you'd call 100 times and get her in hot water with her employer.  Hopefully, it's the former - you'll know if/she she calls or texts you again.  If she doesn't, just forget it and move on.  There's literally NOTHING you can do here to improve your outlook.

I realize that

 

[Evilgrin 72]

I realize that

OK, good.  Just hang out and hope for the best.  I'm sure as hell rooting for you.

 

[RokNRole]

OK, good.  Just hang out and hope for the best.  I'm sure as hell rooting for you.

I obviously know next to nothing about women but if she is thinking about it I would assume that means something

 

[msudaisy26]

Wouldn't she have just turned me down right away if she wasn't interested?

She is thinking about it. If you are hoping for an answer today, it won't happen. If you had asked right away you would already have her number.

She is asking her friends if they think you are a creep or psycho based on her side of what happened. This isn't a process that is going yo happen over a couple hours. You are at the mercy of her friends now. 

 

[Evilgrin 72]

I obviously know next to nothing about women but if she is thinking about it I would assume that means something

It's probably exactly what msudaisy spelled out.

The fact that she called back and said let me think about it says that she did like him, but he set off a ton of red flags and she needs more time to reflect on what happened/ask friends what they think.