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So hungover this morning I accidently wore two different shoes (2 Viewers)

I have drank considerable amounts of beer every night for 2 weeks with the exception of 2-3 nights tops that I can remember.

2-3 of those nights I drank too much in my opinion with one blackout.

 
RokNRole said:
I have drank considerable amounts of beer every night for 2 weeks with the exception of 2-3 nights tops that I can remember.

2-3 of those nights I drank too much in my opinion with one blackout.
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I have probably met every clinical definition of an alcoholic since I was in my teens.  (Not that I would agree :) )

That being said, I've always felt that I could stop on a dime.  For the most part, this has been true.  I often stop for extended periods to get in better shape.   If I were giving advice to a younger person, I'd let them know that drinking is over-rated.  Have minimal limits if you're driving and avoid back to back days. 

I'd also have to mention the huge amount of calories and carbohydrates in beer - and the impact on blood sugar, etc.    Copious amounts of beer makes me cringe now.

 
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nobody can tell somebody they are an alcoholic. the person has to recognize they are one. 

seems like just another post where the OP asks for advice and then argues against the feedback given.

 
DropKick said:
I have probably met every clinical definition of an alcoholic since I was in my teens.  (Not that I would agree :) )

That being said, I've always felt that I could stop on a dime.  For the most part, this has been true.  I often stop for extended periods to get in better shape.   If I were giving advice to a younger person, I'd let them know that drinking is over-rated.  Have minimal limits if you're driving and avoid back to back days. 

I'd also have to mention the huge amount of calories and carbohydrates in beer - and the impact on blood sugar, etc.    Copious amounts of beer makes me cringe now.
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The weight gain is bothering me. I was thinking of switching to a spirit. I really like gin cocktails and that should be lower carb. I feel I don't regulate my consumption as well when I'm sucking down beer rather than sipping liquor

 
RokNRole said:
The weight gain is bothering me. I was thinking of switching to a spirit. I really like gin cocktails and that should be lower carb. I feel I don't regulate my consumption as well when I'm sucking down beer rather than sipping liquor
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work out 30 min a day and drink all the beer you want. just don't wash those tall-boys down with a large pie and you'll be fine. 

 
If you're wondering aloud whether or not you have an alcohol problem, there's a really good chance that you do. 

Switch to water, not gin. Then get some help with this before it eats you alive. 

 
I'm currently aggravated about this and could use some much appreciated advice. I'll try to be brief.

One other waiter has been busting my balls since I started. I'm not the only person he's had words with. Basically he bosses everyone around like he's a manager. Even worse he gets half his "requests" wrong and screws up our flow.

I expressed my frustration and he got ghetto rather audibly in the busy dining room. He got ghetto and was threatening me after work , close to raising his hands and again back in the kitchen.

As soon as he got defensive originally I walked away and he followed me for a bit to say what he had to say. This is a classy joint and nobody wants employees fighting at dinner service. It really burned me up and my concentration was broken for a couple of hours. After the initial spat he came back a few times....the last thing I said, and only thing since the original gripe was "act like an adult". He said "f you" and didn't talk to me again all night.

my first thought was to tell management but I don't know what this guy will do if he gets fired. I've got 40 pounds on him and it's Texas so I bet he has a gun.

What do I do?

 
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RokNRole said:
I'm currently aggravated about this and could use some much appreciated advice. I'll try to be brief.

One other waiter has been busting my balls since I started. I'm not the only person he's had words with. Basically he bosses everyone around like he's a manager. Even worse he gets half his "requests" wrong and screws up our flow.

I expressed my frustration and he got ghetto rather audibly in the busy dining room. He got ghetto and was threatening me after work , close to raising his hands and again back in the kitchen.

As soon as he got defensive originally I walked away and he followed me for a bit to say what he had to say. This is a classy joint and nobody wants employees fighting at dinner service. It really burned me up and my concentration was broken for a couple of hours. After the initial spat he came back a few times....the last thing I said, and only thing since the original gripe was "act like an adult". He said "f you" and didn't talk to me again all night.

my first thought was to tell management but I don't know what this guy will do if he gets fired. I've got 40 pounds on him and it's Texas so I bet he has a gun.

What do I do?
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Ask him for advice.

 
Fight him in the back during your 10 minute break. It is the only thing a strong safety build type of guy should do. Duh.

 
RokNRole said:
I'm currently aggravated about this and could use some much appreciated advice. I'll try to be brief.

One other waiter has been busting my balls since I started. I'm not the only person he's had words with. Basically he bosses everyone around like he's a manager. Even worse he gets half his "requests" wrong and screws up our flow.

I expressed my frustration and he got ghetto rather audibly in the busy dining room. He got ghetto and was threatening me after work , close to raising his hands and again back in the kitchen.

As soon as he got defensive originally I walked away and he followed me for a bit to say what he had to say. This is a classy joint and nobody wants employees fighting at dinner service. It really burned me up and my concentration was broken for a couple of hours. After the initial spat he came back a few times....the last thing I said, and only thing since the original gripe was "act like an adult". He said "f you" and didn't talk to me again all night.

my first thought was to tell management but I don't know what this guy will do if he gets fired. I've got 40 pounds on him and it's Texas so I bet he has a gun.

What do I do?
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I can speak to this, in the restaurant industry, with some authority. 

What do you do? Laugh.  And tell management (without mentioning his name) that you're having an issue, you're new, and you want to make sure that someone with his job isn't your supervisor. 

Off the record, after your discussion, someone will ask you what you're talking about.  Be polite, professional, nice, and absolutely certain that you are correct. 

 
Henry Ford said:
I can speak to this, in the restaurant industry, with some authority. 

What do you do? Laugh.  And tell management (without mentioning his name) that you're having an issue, you're new, and you want to make sure that someone with his job isn't your supervisor. 

Off the record, after your discussion, someone will ask you what you're talking about.  Be polite, professional, nice, and absolutely certain that you are correct. 
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I heard him very clearly

 
RokNRole said:
whoo

i thought I was the only one!
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I'm saying it's very easy to become the "problem employee" in a restaurant job, and that whether this guy's being a jerk or not I wouldn't make a lot of waves as a new guy. In fact, it will frustrate him more if you don't. 

 
The next time that Tex is giving you crap, ask him what his deal is.    Then tell him that you are there to earn money and don't need the drama.  If that doesn't work, you go to your supervisor and ask him to come with you when you confront the bully again.   If that doesn't work, I would beat him to a pulp away from the job.   

 
Ignore him. Don't rise to his bait. If it escalates in front of diners, you're both going to be held responsible, whether it's "your fault" or not. Do your best to avoid him. 

If it continues to be an issue, get management involved discreetly. Like Henry said, make sure you're right. If this guy can make a reasonable case that he's doing his job and you're not, you're going to end up with the short end of the stick. 

You're in your 30s and at work. Whether or not you can "take him" isn't germane. 

 
RokNRole said:
Did you read the synopsis?
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He's right. It's not always about who is right and wrong. Perception is often reality. You need to handle this with diplomacy and strive to find a way to co-exist. Whether or not you can kick his ### or he carries a firearm shouldn't be part of the equation. 

 
Cards on the table... You reference him "going ghetto" keepin' it real and the ruff ryders anthem. Does this other gentleman happen to be black? You seem to be insinuating that he is without actually saying it.

 
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RokNRole said:
he I'm currently aggravated about this and could use some much appreciated advice. I'll try to be brief.

One other waiter has been busting my balls since I started. I'm not the only person he's had words with. Basically he bosses everyone around like he's a manager. Even worse he gets half his "requests" wrong and screws up our flow.

I expressed my frustration and he got ghetto rather audibly in the busy dining room. He got ghetto and was threatening me after work , close to raising his hands and again back in the kitchen.

As soon as he got defensive originally I walked away and he followed me for a bit to say what he had to say. This is a classy joint and nobody wants employees fighting at dinner service. It really burned me up and my concentration was broken for a couple of hours. After the initial spat he came back a few times....the last thing I said, and only thing since the original gripe was "act like an adult". He said "f you" and didn't talk to me again all night.

my first thought was to tell management but I don't know what this guy will do if he gets fired. I've got 40 pounds on him and it's Texas so I bet he has a gun.

What do I do?
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Pick an idiom,  is ghetto or redneck with a gun?  Even if both you need to grab a theme. 

 
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Henry Ford said:
I'm saying it's very easy to become the "problem employee" in a restaurant job, and that whether this guy's being a jerk or not I wouldn't make a lot of waves as a new guy. In fact, it will frustrate him more if you don't. 
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I think he should bust out ironic nickname shtick.  Start calling the guy "Big Time".

 
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Try this.

"Dude, seriously?" and walk away. Allowing yourself to become provoked takes no effort, and is, in fact the coward's move.  Cowards think others will think less of them if they walk away or handle matters as a grownup.  Cowards and idiots get drawn into the drama of others.  Adults, they have the self confidence and maturity and awareness to not participate in such idiocy.  Walk away with confidence.  Don't ruin it after by explaining your actions to any witnesses no matter if they ask, other than the boss.  Be prepared to say that guy's drama simply does not register with me if the boss insists upon comment.  Be aware that the less you address the matter with fellow employees the more cred you will have.  They all know this guy's program without you setting forth your case.  This should be water off of a duck's back, not a life altering moment. 

 
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RokNRole said:
I'm currently aggravated about this and could use some much appreciated advice. I'll try to be brief.

One other waiter has been busting my balls since I started. I'm not the only person he's had words with. Basically he bosses everyone around like he's a manager. Even worse he gets half his "requests" wrong and screws up our flow.

I expressed my frustration and he got ghetto rather audibly in the busy dining room. He got ghetto and was threatening me after work , close to raising his hands and again back in the kitchen.

As soon as he got defensive originally I walked away and he followed me for a bit to say what he had to say. This is a classy joint and nobody wants employees fighting at dinner service. It really burned me up and my concentration was broken for a couple of hours. After the initial spat he came back a few times....the last thing I said, and only thing since the original gripe was "act like an adult". He said "f you" and didn't talk to me again all night.

my first thought was to tell management but I don't know what this guy will do if he gets fired. I've got 40 pounds on him and it's Texas so I bet he has a gun.

What do I do?
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You wrote beef, but it sounds like chicken. Bock, bock.

 
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TLEF316 said:
Cards on the table... You reference him "going ghetto" keepin' it real and the ruff ryders anthem. Does this other gentleman happen to be black? You seem to be insinuating that he is without actually saying it.
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He was ready to start a fist fight at work in the dining room of afine restaurant because he perceived to have been "disrespected" . He repeated several time " we can go any time you want dog"! I think you can figure it out.

 
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